 So one of our members recently posted about a man whom she met who seems like a really great guy except he has some issues with his hygiene and his and his car is filthy so I wanted to lean into this conversation because I once had a therapist tell me that That behaviors can be modified Personality can't be changed so in this particular case a man who has weak hygiene and a dirty car is a Behavior and that is certainly something that can be changed over time The real challenge is are they really going to change those behaviors because quite frankly? I think cleanliness both in one's hygiene and certainly the way they present their home the way they present their car Gives you an indication of how cluttered their life might be or how un-clean their life might be