 marriage. You ask any young man or woman why don't you get married they'll say well I'm 18 years old I'm just a kid or at least that's what my parents keep telling me that's what the people around me keep telling me that's what society keeps telling me someone who is fresh out of cop fresh out of high school right getting married is without a doubt something that's abnormal in this society not just in this society in other words non-muslim societies it's abnormal in Muslim societies unfortunately if you got married at the age of 18 in Iran which is a country of predominantly Shi'a inhabitants and a population that are mostly Shi'a right it's abnormal if you got married at the age of 18 in Iraq it's rather abnormal right so society dictates to us what's right and what's wrong and when we disregard our religious instruction and fall prey to the phobia that society plants in our head the hadith of Imam Sadaq takes shape when you start fearing everything else when you refuse to fear Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you're fear everything else so what if you're 18 why don't you get married say it how am I gonna get married what are you talking about I don't have an income I don't have a place of my own right I could barely afford to pay my phone bill how do we get married at that age you see what I'm talking about all of these are phobias how what am I gonna subhanallah I remember saying to a group of brothers and sisters I said when someone says I refuse to get married because I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide for my wife you know what that's like saying that's like saying God I love you you're a great God you've looked after after me since I was born you've provided for me right and you've done a splendid job right I love you but now when there is going to be two of me it's me and my wife or me and my husband I kind of feel like you won't be able to deliver because I mean you could probably get away with just one person but two people you know that's kind of much I mean no offense your God and everything you see how pathetic and absurd this is what am I gonna do when I get married well what are you doing now how are you surviving now are you begging on the street are you starving today are you going through a famine what's wrong with you right now who's feeding you right now who's giving your livelihood right now who's making your blood course through your veins and your heartbeat nonstop even when you're asleep right now who's doing all those things you see how irrational this fear is you see why this is a phobia I can't do it well nobody expected you to do it that is why the hadith says mantarakat tazweed Imam Zayn al-Abedin salawatullahi a'lam are we not Shia Muslims who are we seriously ask yourself this do we not believe the imams when it comes to matters of the metaphysical world do we not believe them when it comes to things like heaven and hell if we believe them on those critical and impossible to access topics then why don't we believe them when it comes to simple things like these the Imam says whoever refuses to get married based on economic justifications based on the phobia that I won't be able to provide for myself or for my family it is because you do not trust God not only don't you trust God you actually expect the worst for God that's what it's out of them these are phobias brothers and sisters and a phobia is as absurd the phobia or fear of marriage is as absurd and pathetic as the fear of having a duck somewhere on the other end of the world staring at you it's irrational don't believe the shaytan do not fall prey to his deception no Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the Quran it's a famous verse that's recited in every niqaah ceremony right Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says yirzukuhum Allah yughnihim Allah yughnihim Allahummin fadli that's the actual verse if they happen to be poor when they get married in other words get married when you're poor get married when you have no livelihood don't wait until the livelihood somehow creeps up on you don't wait for the money to be raised and saved up in the bank before you get married get married when you have nothing and God says I will not only provide for you but I will make you self-sufficient yughnihim Allah I know I know there might be some people out there not here Alhamdulillah but some people out there thinking what is this guy talking about he's so naive back in the day maybe back in the day you think I'm from the dinosaur age I'm serious your parents when they got married like how much money did they have how much was their dowry that they have like a big house that they have a great job for example that made them feel secure you see that that that word in itself I want to feel secure I want a good paying job secure meaning I don't want to trust God I want to trust the paycheck I can't trust God I have to trust some random guy telling me that at the end of each week or month you're gonna get a set amount of money that's the only way we're gonna feel secure how pathetic is that God's promise in the Quran fails to deliver security for me but if someone says I'll give you a little bit of money so that's one phobia phobia against marriage