 I'd like to introduce our last speaker of the 21 Convention, DJ Fuji. He is a dear friend of mine. He was one of my very first wings. Back in San Diego, I don't know, six, seven years ago, we used to run around and get blown out together and have a lot of fun. So I've known this guy forever. He's an amazing speaker, amazing coach, four-time returning speaker to the 21 Convention. He's been featured in the 21 Convention documentary. He's been on VH1 on Dr. Phil, New York Times. He's the founder of the Tau of DJ Fuji. And you can find more about him on his site at TauofDJFuji.com. So help me welcome DJ Fuji. Austin, what's up? Outstanding, I'd like you all to join me on your feet and join me in a round of applause to your host, Robby. Robby Kramer, to your architects, Anthony Johnson, and to your staff. Thank you. Take your seats. Gentlemen, my name is DJ Fuji and I'm here for one reason and one reason only. And that is to give you the tools, the tactics, and the mindsets to achieve more success in your dating life, in your social life, in your personal life, in your career, and in your life as a whole. And I know that's not an easy thing to do. And we're going to do that by applying a few simple principles, but we have to implement. We have to take action. I'm going to give you guys a few things that I want you guys to focus on and I want you guys to pay attention. So the first thing we're going to do is I actually want you guys to do something different than we normally do. I want you guys to take your notes and I want you to put it down. And I want you to take your laptops and I want you to close them. Because all the notes that you guys need, I already have on the website because I want you guys to actually listen. I want you to focus. Most people, when they listen or when they hear, what they're actually doing is thinking of how they can relate to it or thinking of what the next thing for them to say is or they're making movies in their mind. Most people aren't actually listening. Most people aren't observing, which is why any study or any, whenever they look at any kind of learning, what they find is that the most ineffective way to learn is what? Lecture. It's always, always, always the most ineffective way to learn because most people aren't really listening. So gentlemen, today I want you to actually listen. Let's get started. All right. First things first. I want everyone to sit up straight. If you're eyes on me. The training starts now and I want you guys to realize that your posture and your body language indicate your level of confidence. And maybe some of you aren't necessarily self-confident right now, but I want you to act as if, because the more you act as if you're confident, the more you will be confident. Second thing is when you go to that link later on, you're going to have to enter in a special code because there's going to be a special bonus for all of you guys. Okay. And that special code is going to be embedded in this speech somewhere. So pay attention and you'll find that. So the first thing everyone wants to know is who am I? And I say more importantly than that. It's not who am I, but who was I? Everyone here knows who am I right now, but very few people know who was I. Where did I come from? I know it's very common for speakers to go backwards and to go and say, you know, I wasn't always this guy. A lot of times before I was this guy. Well, I wish I had the pictures to show you what that guy looked like, but I was a smart that guy and I deleted all of them so there was no evidence. But what that guy, I'll give you guys a general idea. That guy was bad with women. That guy lacked confidence. That guy didn't know how to make friends. That guy didn't have any friends. That guy lived a life permeated by a single emotion and that was loneliness. And we can all say, okay, so I was lonely too in fifth grade and sixth grade. But I was lonely at 19 and 20. At 20 years old, I had never held the girl's hand. And I was in the Marine Corps at that point and I had never held a girl's hand. At 23, I started learning to meet women with Robbie. And at one point, I had reached over 300 consecutive rejections. When Robbie says we used to get blown up together, that's no underestimation. 300 consecutive and that was just the consecutive part. That wasn't the, I got one hook set and then the rest of it's good. And I spent a very long time, almost four years of continuous practice to overcome that obstacle. And I then dedicated the next four years of my life up to this point, giving back. Because if there's one thing that this industry and this idea of getting help with dating or this idea of self-improvement. If there's one thing that taught me, it was that whenever you feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel and you keep pushing, it's usually around that next corner. It's usually at that next bend. And that's what I found. I found hope in this industry. I found hope that there was something I could do about this. Because every other avenue, every other advisor, every other person in my life said hey, you either have it or you don't. And I knew what that meant. It meant that I didn't have it. I didn't have it, so just accept your circumstances. Accept where you're at and accept it and move on and try to do something else. Get good grades, go play sports, go do something else because you didn't have it. And so when I found this and when I used this to change my life, I then realized my calling was to give back and to do exactly the same thing for other people that were in my situation. I look out at the audience there and I see a lot of guys at all different skill levels and all different points in their developments. And at each point, I remember exactly what that was like. I remember where you are right now because it wasn't that long ago that I was there. It seems long chronologically, but I look back and it seems like yesterday. Every one of those sticking points seems so familiar to me. Because I wake up, gentlemen, every single day. And I wake up and I look in the mirror and I think my lucky stars that all this is possible. I appreciate every day of my life. It's like waking up one day and realizing you don't have cancer. I appreciate everything because I worked so hard for it and because it was so bad before all this. So no matter where you're at, no matter where you are in your skill level, I want you to understand that no matter how bad it seems, it always has the potential to get better. There's always that light at the end of tunnel whether you see that or not. And a little bit about that is what we're gonna talk about. So a lot of people talk about success. A lot of people talk about success as a generic concept. Well, I want to define success, especially within the confines of dating and getting better and succeeding at dating. And a lot of people have very unrealistic ideas of success in dating. And a lot of people have very vague ideas and that's why it's so hard to accomplish that. Now I'll give you my personal idea of success when dating in my social life. Success in dating means never having to worry about being alone. That is the first and foremost. And you can say, well, I'm not alone so it's okay. I may be in a relationship so it's okay. But the moment that relationship ends, what do we all feel? God, we feel despair. We feel sadness, we feel loneliness, we feel despair. Why? Because somewhere in the back of all of our heads, there's that voice that says maybe you can't get something else.