 them to have a way out and someone to help them and answer questions they have about why you know maybe drinking your own pee isn't as healthy as you think it is or why maybe NASA isn't lying to you in the earth like every other planet in the universe is a globe. In this video we're going to talk about the wonderful topic of beliefs and how it's affecting your mental health. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and I try to pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you lessons on how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if I need that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So I'm happy. I'm in a great mood like this morning I was thinking I'm like man I've touched on some like I don't know different topics like my last video was about like anger management and I talked about Bobby Burns the other day and toxic friends and I'm like I want more of like an uplifting type video and my girl Rachel Oates came through today and she is literally one of my favorite YouTubers and this video that she just made about changing the way people think or their beliefs or whatever is now my new favorite video of hers so like I will link to her video down in the description like if you don't know about her channel like it's it's a very interesting channel it's a great channel like she she seems like really cool like she like I get like the way she thinks and like this video like solidified that but anyway she's like really in the books she talks about things like atheism on there science she's very smart intelligent young woman like she talks about a lot of really interesting topics she also does some like makeup stuff on there different book reviews and and yeah I joke with her the other day because she got some backlash from the community that drinks their own pee and yeah she was just laying down some science but I'm gonna talk about that a little bit in this video anyways go check her channel out she's awesome like even if you're not an atheist like I think it's good to just kind of get more of a view on things and actually I'm gonna shut up because that's actually some stuff I'm maybe talking about in this video so yeah basically in her video which you need to go watch she just read a book and it's interesting I might actually go check that book out I'm not really into fiction books but I trust Rachel's recommendations I actually need to finish one of the books she recommended a while ago which is by hold on let me pull it up in my phone it is how to be human the manual by Ruby wax so yeah in the middle of that book I need to finish it anyways anyways this book it had some interesting topics that Rachel you know was inspired by and it's about like beliefs the book kind of talks about cults and things like that so I want to touch on some things that Rachel talked about because you guys beliefs are a huge part of mental health today as I'm recording this is actually November 6th it's the midterm elections and I saw people like telling me they have anxiety today and all that stuff so like when it comes to beliefs whether it's religious or political or your morals or whatever it is like our beliefs affect our mental health so we need to talk about it you know they're not the sorts of things that I talk about on a daily basis on my channel but I do talk about people like the pearls who give these really like harmful bits of marriage advice and you know harmful advice for hurting your children essentially and I talk about people like Gloria Alexander the transformed wife who is just very judgmental of everyone who isn't her basically girl defined a kind of the same they're very judgmental of people who aren't living this perfect Christian life like so when I first started watching like Rachel's video like I've seen the videos in the commentary she does on like those those sisters what are the name like girl defined or something like that those of you don't know that I like these two young Christian women and stuff and when Rachel was talking like at first I was sitting there I'm like who cares I'm like like if you believe in something like who cares so I grew up here in Las Vegas ton a ton of Mormons here in Las Vegas and I remember like looking at them and they were like they were they were happier than I was like there was no denying that they were happier than I was but then Rachel talks about the point that I just showed you in that clip like believe whatever you want like if you if your kid wants to believe in Santa Claus cool right but if like believing in Santa Claus might do harm to others that's when we started guys start looking at this stuff and saying okay are my beliefs inflicting harm on other people and something that Rachel talks about throughout this video which is something that we need to ask is that a lot of our beliefs come from when we're kids right like let me just throw an example for you real quick all right so like my dad taught me how to be a man right and you know as I grew up I'm doing things that are affecting me and then when I sat back and got quiet and asked about my beliefs about being a man a real man does this a real man does that a real man does this I question I'm like wait this was taught to me as a kid is it is there even a is there even a chance that this might be wrong and throughout this video like if you're somebody who's religious I'm not asking you to like you know deny your faith or whatever but I just love how Rachel like kind of gets your wheels turning because this is a huge part of what I'm talking about with meditation and mindfulness just to kind of just question your own ways of thinking because our beliefs can kill us I'm not saying that they're like just this lost cold and we should just completely give up talking to them or trying to get through to them and just let them harm themselves that's not what I'm saying and that's not what I mean I think I just realized that a lot of these people they don't want to be saved or fixed or whatever but also they don't think they need to be they're very content living the life that they're living and and it's not that they don't see a way out it's that they don't want a way out they don't think they need it right here Rachel's talking about like all these people who believe in these things are they lost causes right and Rachel also mentioned that you know she doesn't know the exact science behind it and stuff and I DM Rachel waiting for a reply back but I recommended a book to her called The Moral Landscape by Sam Harris so I think Rachel would love Sam Harris he has a book called The Moral Landscape and one of the reasons that Sam Harris gets so much pushback is his views on Islam which I will not touch with a 10-foot pole but basically in the book The Moral Landscape he talks about various religions he talks about himself but basically all what he's saying when I got from this book is just kind of what Rachel was saying like it it's an issue when your beliefs can hurt somebody right like for example for example like let's look at you know September 11th right these beliefs you know killed a ton of people right like that's an issue when you see what happens with you know certain religions being against like homosexuality or whatever like that can harm people all right so that's kind of what Sam Harris talks about in The Moral Landscape but anyways Sam Harris is a neuroscientist as well and he's one of the only people who has actually done neurological studies on like the science of belief like what happens to our brains when we have a belief so what they did was I hope people up to FMRI brain scans to get like a real-time view of what their brains are doing so what they found is when a person is thinking about something that they believe in it affects the medial prefrontal cortex okay we know that that part of the brain is responsible for like ownership right this is ours this is our thing right so what happens if someone steals something that you have you get a little upset you get a little angry right you might even get anxious think about all the emotions so the fact that it affects that part of the brain what Sam Harris figured out was when you have somebody question their beliefs or you have somebody talking to them and question their beliefs you see that they're fight-fight-or-free's response starts to go off right so this is why it's so difficult to change people's minds so like Rachel's asking like are these people lost causes unfortunately in a lot of cases a lot of cases people are this is why I don't argue with people someone made a comment earlier like Chris I noticed that you only reply once then you don't get back to people one of the reasons is I don't get notifications but the other thing is most of time I will only reply once you know why I don't got time to argue with people like understanding how the brain works I know that I can't change other people's beliefs like I know it I know like it is a scientific fact that it is almost impossible to change somebody's belief because a lot of people don't even know why they are responding the way that they are responding so I this is important about mental health like ask yourself this question real quick how much anger or frustration have you had because someone in your life doesn't believe what you believe right maybe this is right this is wrong maybe you believe you women should have equal rights you know somebody who doesn't think that or you know maybe there's things about immigration that you believe in somebody else believe something else right like think about these debates and arguments and like how do you get through to that person how do you change are you wasting time are you wasting effort like me personally like believe whatever you want it's only an issue like I said when it begins to harm other people you remember when one of them I'm sorry I can never remember which was which but remember one of them set the line about how and she just wishes there was this like specific rulebook saying do this don't do this do this don't do this and to give her these like exact specific rules I feel like if she had that she would be very certain about her life there would be no uncertainty there'd be no like worries or please not as many worries and stuff like that this part of the video is gonna get super interesting so Rachel is talking about girl to find wishes like there was a specific rulebook and and yeah so a lot of you are newer to my channel but I made a video about Tristan and I are moving together and I do something every day and it's you know my biggest secret that Tristan didn't even know about and it's about my spirituality and it's about how every single day I quote unquote prayed in the shower which is really more of a meditation so just a little story about that like Rachel's exactly right like people want this like defined rulebook right they want to have answers because when we don't know that fear of the unknown it makes us anxious it can make us depressed like think about like nihilism and what's the meaning of all this right and when I started working on my mental health like I had to believe in something okay so for me my spirituality it's not a religious spirituality but I just believe that things are gonna work out the way they're supposed to work out that's all that I believe okay that is the extent of my belief and that helps me because I am my anxious brain my generalized anxiety disorder makes me want to have control over everything I have control over little to nothing so yeah Rachel's absolutely right like you got to understand that you know even though I'm not religious I can see how having you know a certain path or a certain set of rules or guidelines for certain people and you know having having answers for themselves and their belief that what happens after they die it helps them live a happier life so at the end of the day like I do not care what people believe if that makes them happy you do you baby you do you again I'll go back to what I've said throughout this video the only time I'm worried about someone's belief is when it brings harm to other people and something that Rachel talks about throughout this video is that there are some people not all people but there are some people with religious beliefs where they like feel sorry for you right they think that you're suffering because you don't have their same beliefs and like that is not that's that could be harmful you know like I know when I was growing up in Las Vegas with you know Mormons all over the place like they were always trying to get me to convert to be a Mormon and stuff because like they felt like if I believe like the way they did like my life will get better and it's like no like even today I'm not religious I'm spiritual not religious I know some people hate when people say that but I'm spiritual not religious and I'm happy as hell you know so I just want you guys to think about that like when it comes to you know your anxiety and you not knowing about the future and all of that like like I don't know it's just a tip and if you want me to make a more in-depth video let me know but just a tip is just just believe that things are gonna happen the way they're supposed to I was actually thinking about making a video about karma I mentioned in one of my other videos like if karma is the extent of your spirituality go for it if you only believe in the like believe in the the idea that doing good things will bring good things and doing bad things will bring bad things that's cool you know that gives you some kind of guiding force all right so then this kind of leads me back to this whole big question of if I don't think I can get through to a lot of these people and I know they're not even gonna want to hear what I'm saying why do I make certain videos about you know debunking urine therapy talking about why flat earthers are wrong why do I make videos saying how harmful certain Christian books are they're not gonna be listening to me I guess it's not for the people who are deep into it and want to keep believing that stuff and it's definitely not to try and insult them or make them feel uncomfortable I guess the reason I make those videos and point out how certain actions are harmful and stuff is because I don't want other people especially vulnerable people to see what they're putting out and think that's the only option for them does that make sense I want them to have information out there saying no wait maybe this isn't the best thing to do and this last clip right here this last clip right here Rachel like asking like who do I make these videos for who do I make these videos for and then she says it she's like maybe there's one person maybe there's one person who comes across this video and maybe they they feel accepted or maybe they question something so Rachel if you watch this you make videos for me right like my life was so dark right like think about think about how our depression fuels our beliefs my depression tells me my depression gives me the belief that I'm a piece of garbage right that I I shouldn't be around like I'm a terrible father I'm a terrible boyfriend you know my brain is telling filling my my head up with just all these lies and nonsense so I need people like Rachel that just gets something to click in my head even just for a moment that has me question that belief and that is one of the reasons why I love meditation so much when you're able to sit and one of the biggest misconceptions about meditation is that it's about stopping your thoughts no no no it's about watching your thoughts so when I can sit and watch my thoughts now I can say do I believe that thought or do I not believe that thought and that's something that helps me get out of my depressive funks that helps me quit being anxious so thank you thank god for Rachel Oates because like I know for a fact she's probably helped people and like that's one of the reasons I do this channel I know I'm not going to be able to help everybody with their mental or emotional well-being but if I can just help one person one person maybe you're watching this and maybe you're questioning wait maybe I'm not a bad person boom my job's done you know so Rachel if you're watching this keep doing your thing girl and reply to my dm anyways anyways let me know down in the comments below like how do your beliefs affect your mental health or does it affect your mental health when you think you can change somebody else's beliefs like how often do you run into that brick wall alright so anyways let's have a conversation down in the comments below okay but that's all I got for you with this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton a ton of videos and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon you are all amazing and don't forget to go check out Rachel Oates channel I'm actually gonna link her video right over here I think alright thanks again for watching question your beliefs I'll see you next time