 I have to work at relational safety all the time and I just want to say there's never going to be a point where we're going to be the type of parent that never explodes or never says things that we wish we hadn't or never does things we wish we hadn't because underneath being a parent we're a human being first. I still yell I still have meltdowns I still place demands on my children I still get frustrated and cross with my children for not doing things I ask them to do and I say things to them that I wish I didn't. Relational safety is not about being perfect it's about the recovery of that coming back and having conversations being transparent and honest about our own challenges and apologising making amends that's what is incorporated into relational safety. It begins with us.