 The respected brothers and sisters, Allah SWT, has said in his mighty book that he sent to us, that he sent to mankind for our benefit, not for his. O you who have believed, O people of Iman, people about whom it is almost a past and done and dusted fact that you are believers, fear Allah, ward off Allah's punishment. Brothers and sisters, part of our Iman and part of our relationship with Allah SWT is that we love Allah and that we fear Allah. And part of our relationship with Allah SWT is that we have hope in Allah and part of our relationship with Allah SWT is that we take precaution. Allah SWT is saying, fear Allah, take practical means to ward off Allah's punishment. And say a straight and direct and truth word, say something that is true, do not lie. You will make all of your deeds go right, you will make your life go correct. Turn to Allah, fear Allah and all aspects of your life and everything will go right. And whoever obeys Allah SWT and his messenger has already saved himself, has already succeeded. You don't need to die, you have already succeeded. By being here today you have already succeeded. The success that is to come is something even greater. Allah SWT tells us countless times in the Qur'an that we have to obey him and that we have to obey his messenger. In fact, we don't actually find any examples in the Qur'an where Allah tells us to obey him except that it says, and his messenger. Certain people today, they make a claim that they only want to follow the Qur'an. They say the Qur'an is enough. Hadiths can be صحيح, can be ضعيد, can be clear, not clear, etc. So we're not really interested. That's completely false. There's absolutely false. Nobody of the believers has ever said anything like that. Despite all the various different opinions that people have and the different scholars that they have and ideas, nobody has these ideas. This is not Qatab-e-A'iman. A'iman is that we follow the Prophet SAW and his messenger. Allah SWT says in the Qur'an, Allah SWT said, Just after, just after it's been made. You speak to somebody and then they change their mind afterwards. That's Ba'ad in Arabic. That's called Ba'ad, that's called after. But you speak to them and they change their mind. That's straight after. We just agreed and you're changing your mind. Just after this methaq, just after you took this tremendous weighty covenant with Allah SWT, you change your mind. And And they break that which Allah SWT ordered to be connected. And they spread corruption on the earth. There's a connection. You break that which Allah SWT told you to keep together. And what's the result? And if sad, for sad corruption. Here we are as believers on the face of the earth. And we're not just believers on the face of the earth, we're also a minority. A group of minority Muslims in a country. For the believers in general and especially for us here as a minority group, the sense of community, the sense of identity, the feeling that you're part of something is extremely important. Unbelievably important. If you don't feel like you're part of this mosque, why would you turn up? If every day someone kicks you out of the mosque, you're not going to turn up. If they kick you out of another mosque, you're not going to go there either. Which mosque are you going to go to then? If our children and our brothers and our sisters and our parents do not feel that they are part of our families because of the way that we speak to them, because the way that we deal with them and because we cut ties with them, I'm a good person but I don't talk to him because he's a bad person. I'm a mashallah, I'm a good person but so and so they did this and this in the past so we don't talk to them. Our family doesn't talk to that family. This is not an Islamic system. Our children look at us in the face and say, Daddy, you're Islam. You are Islam. If you cut ties with other people, I understand that Islam is not a system that works. Islam is a tribal thing about my plan and your plan. That's what I understand. You can say whatever you want. You can teach him the whole Qur'an. You can send him to whatever university to study Islam. But he's going to come back and say, Daddy, the Islam that you taught me was we don't like so and so because they said this. They didn't invite us to this wedding so we don't go. They didn't invite us so we don't invite them. This kind of tit for tat and mentality is not Islamic. It's not Islamic. And if we keep this kind of mentality in our families, we cannot hope for a future for Islam in this country because our children will look at us and say, now Islam doesn't work. I'll go somewhere else. I saw how my parents spoke to each other. I saw how my father spoke with his brother. I saw how my father spoke with his mother. I see how he deals with this whole mess. I'll take something else. I'll find another path. So this is critically important. When we are trying to think about the future of Islam, don't go and spend money in the mosque. Don't go and spend money on teaching your kids children Qur'an. Fix your family. Make your family spell Islam. Your family, the way that you deal with things, immediately in the household and with your, in the greater family. It spells out Islam. Otherwise what are they going to read? They're going to read something else. It doesn't spell out Islam. It speaks to something else. So this is, you've seen it all up. They're making corruption. They're making it impossible for me as a child to look up to this and say, I want to be a Muslim. You give me an impossible task. And Allah swt said, The person who keeps family ties is not the person who simply does what others do to me. Well, they invited me to a wedding. I go to the wedding. They invited me last week. I invited them this week. They didn't invite me last week. Why would I invite them? They didn't support me while I was studying. Why would I support them? They didn't help my mum when she needed help. I'm not going to help them. Right? That's a common mentality. And the normal human being who defends their themselves has an animalistic defence. That's how they work. You didn't help me, I don't help you. That's not Islam though. Islam is, you didn't help me, I'll help you. You cut me off, I'll connect you. Allah said, When people cut him off, he doesn't cut them off. Yeah, you said very bad things about my mum. And you cast my mum and my dad out of the family. And you never helped us when we needed you. But I will help you. You didn't even mention to us that we're getting married. Let alone invite us. But I'll invite you. In fact, I'll put you on the chair right next to me. That's Islam. Otherwise, what message are we giving? What is good about Islam when you sit on a mat? Aladdin sits on a mat. What's the big deal? What is it? That's impressive. This beautiful, perfect system that creates hearts that love each other. People who grow up in a household and they love each other and they want to be a part of this thing. And they're able to grow spiritually because they have been fed emotionally. They're not able to grow spiritually and connect with Allah SWT when they are coming out of the Hades the hell of a completely chaotic family system where everybody hates everybody and nobody figures anybody and it goes on for generation after generation after generation. Allah SWT says in the Qur'an and may it well be that if you turn away and go to some other kind of system that your mind wants or whatever it is you want to do that you should spread corruption on the land and you should viciously and violently and mercilessly break. Qataq means to cut. Taqtiq means to cut into pieces. Dicing. You're not cutting family ties, you are dicing family ties. You're doing haram yourself and what are you doing to the community? How can you look your child in the eye and say Beta, I want you to be a good Muslim. How? We have to make sure that we are living examples of Islam and that's the message. The details, the letter of the law can be spelled out easily but if there's no spirit in the household where is it going to be learned? You are Islam. You are Islam. The message that you give to your children, that is Islam. There's no other Islam, what is said in the mosques or something else. But you are Islam. I will say Astaghfirullah. Astaghfirullah. Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen Wa-salaatu ala Rasoolillahi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Muhammad Wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah SWT, Allah SWT said in the Qur'an Ya yuhalladina amu attaqullah wa altamrood nafsumma qaddamat ligad Wattaqullah Inna Allah khabeerun bima ta'amadun Allah SWT said in the Qur'an O you who have believed surpassed hence to show tahakkuk You are mutahattatin You are realized in your iman It actually applies in your house. Fear Allah, ward off Allah and let every single one of you look very carefully to what He puts forward for tomorrow the next generation What are we looking for tomorrow? Your death? Your willkiyama? Where is the Muslim community tomorrow if we don't correct things ourselves? It doesn't happen anywhere else Wattaqullah And fear Allah Allah is fully aware of all the little things you keep doing Ta'amalun In the Arabic language they say this is for al-mudari' al-istimrar These little things you keep doing the way that you treat other people the way you talk to other people Allah is fully aware of all those little intricacies He knows every single thing that you're doing and He's going to ask you What about this? What about this? What about this? How you talk to your child? How you talk to your wife? How you talk to your family? How we do business? Allah SWT is fully aware of all of these things In the Prophet SAW He told us that Allah SWT and Hadid created Allah SWT He created every single thing When Farah Qamat-ul-Rahim said that the womb got up and stood before Allah SWT He said This is the place of punishment from cutting Here stands somebody seeking protection from you or Allah from being cut off The womb itself family ties themselves I stood up before Allah SWT and said Oh Allah I'm seeking protection from you right now that I'll be cut off I'm seeking something sacred in your eyes I seek protection from you from being cut off Allah SWT responded Saying Allah SWT responded saying Would you not be content? Or womb? Or family ties? I should bring close to me anybody who brings you close and that I should cut off sever detach abandon anybody that detaches and abandons you and turns you back on you Of course That wasn't even what I was expecting I was thinking that you're going to punish them not you're going to cut them off You give me this rank that I am you If they cut me off you cut them off Of course What did Allah SWT say? Fadak That is what I'm going to do So this has been a Qa'idah a universal principle of this world that whoever breaks family ties Allah cuts them off If you are being physically harmed by somebody of course If the person tries to kill you every single time you see them tries to hurt you physically but you don't cut them off If they let you down you can't that doesn't mean you can break somebody's family ties Keep boundaries Keep boundaries That doesn't mean that you can't help them Listen In the past I helped you out and I told you certain things and you shared it with other people I'm not going to by the way share my secrets with you anymore That's fine Last time I lent you some money and you said you're going to pay me back within six months It didn't happen The second time The third time I'm sorry I'm not going to lend you any money I can't do that That's fine But that doesn't mean Hi how are you doing I heard you had a baby Masha'Allah Do you need any help And they say Yeah can you lend me a million dollars Yeah sorry You were at least kind to them It doesn't mean all or nothing Either I'm really your buddy Or I hate you No I protect myself from you Because you're trying to harm me I know that But I'm still going to help you This is Islam This is Islam This is what the Prophet Some taught us And the Prophet Someone might ask What is the best type of charity What is the best type of charity And the Prophet And various hadiths Responded in various different ways And in this particular hadith This is in Tabarani And it's a kind of hadith That is authentic according to Amam al-Mundali He said What is the best type of charity The Prophet said Giving charity To your family member That hates you That guy He's spreading rumours against you Give him charity The guy who intentionally Ruin your marriage Give him charity The person who Whenever you've got to ask for help He's always telling other people Not to help you And makes rumours against you Give him He's now asking you Yeah, I'm in Afghanistan now And I can't afford medical bills Too bad As they say in Arabic In the summer In the summer when things were good You lost the opportunity Tell us Sure now this is Allah is punishing you now No, Allah is not punishing you now Allah is punishing you For not helping him Give him money You got the money He's wrong I know he's wrong That doesn't mean you can't help him I know he's a liar That doesn't mean you shouldn't Give him money Giving charity You are not obliged to give charity Giving out of your pocket Even though you don't have to do that To somebody who has no right over you He's your family member And he is asking for help And he has showed He has done nothing but wrong to you You do good to him This is Islam This is Islam Put it in your pocket Send him some money He needs some money for medical bills He needs help He needs all these things Charity Al-Qashih Al-Qashih Al-Rahim Al-Qashih Al-Rahim Al-Qashih The one who is He's your part of your family tie And he himself He's got all sorts of things against you He has a gender to ruin your life But yet you help him out This is Islam Let alone somebody who is trying to repair things And you're not trying to repair things with them So this is what we need to do In order to be a successful community We cannot be a successful community If we have bad marriages If we have bad family ties Because there is no message we are giving to our To the youth whatsoever May Allah give us that tawfiq Allahumma la tu salita alayna Bi dhunubina man la yakhafuna Wa la yahrhamuna Allahumma rhamna fa innaka bina rahrim Wa la tu'adzibna fa innaka alayna qadir Wa al-tufbina fee ma jarabdihi al maqadir Allahumma innaka nesalaka shifaa la yughadir saqman Allahumma innaka nesalaka shifaa la yughadir saqman Allahumma innaka nesalaka shifaa la yughadir saqman Ya Rabbi al-Nas Ya Rabbi al-Nas Ya Rabbi al-Nas Adhheb al-Bas Allahumma ghfirul il-mu'minin Wal-mu'minaat Wal-muslinin Wal-muslimaat Wa al-ahya'in minhum wal-amwad Wa rham mutana wa shf marzana Wa sallallahu ala Siddina Muhammadin Wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam Wa akimasala