 Ladies and gentlemen popping on here Different time today now normally we at night time but uh Y'all gotta forgive him. I'm not on my my iPhone camera. So this camera here a little Little different. Let me Get this here phone Situated but one to pop on and just chat with you and then also do a little Q&A and the reason why I try to do this is at random times Is because people in different parts of the world and got different work schedules and So I'm wanting to be able to Come on here. Let's see here Do a little Q&A answer some questions because we've lately been having just talks without the Q&A So I want to be able to answer some questions now, you know Regular questions now, you know, you know I don't like to get too deep in the questions of Too too specific to where nobody else can relate to it or You know learn from it. We want to be able to have some Little regular. I was just on live on instagram. So today. I'm just you know in a little grime schedule got rolled off and had to move a coaching session around And but still still at it and Trying to one of them try to do is get some videos up Because I'll be with my son with his soccer in our Germany Not sure what my internet service will be like in Germany And how if I be able to upload videos over there, I figured out I'm mad if I have Wi-Fi Make stat hotel not anybody any y'all Know anybody now you happen to see this video and you know somebody in I'm being on Dusseldorf And Dewisburg if y'all got some family over there in the in the service or something they close by that I might need to hire me a Driver, you know and I came riding no clunker and I need to be in decent condition But what I'm thinking about doing is staying at a hotel Instead of staying at the facility where my son training but have a car Take me from the hotel to the facility every day Hang out at the facility watch the training then go back to the hotel That way I could film with videos and be a little comfortable because they might be in a situation. It's like a dorm room and It's like when the Lord bring you a certain place in your life it'd be hard to Be hard or that you y'all have heard about when you stretch your mind It's like when you stretch your mind and you start eating kale And then you might not want know Romain or whatever it is, you know, you when you taste some Quality sometimes, you know, that's the benefit of stretching your mind So me and my son we flying over there and we're not flying first class now I wanted to but that bank count said So I said no and then I talked to a billionaire Talking to a billionaire about going over and I said man, I think that's fly first class or fly like You know premium economy and he was like do not Put your son in first class Going over to an international flight. I don't know why he said that maybe he said just spoil them too much but um I'll struggle, you know being on the plane 10 hours sitting next to somebody on no Somebody on this side somebody on this side Whereas when you in first class you in that little thing by yourself and you could kick back lay back you know Stomach go to move and you ain't got the word about nobody Being besides your hand growling, but it's just like boy, look here Look here anybody being humble now me being me being on he'll talking to you with humble But when you when you experience a certain level of living and you stretch your mind You're not finna go from state back to spam You know anybody being humble is just Like all of a window home say when you stretch your mind to a new dimension It never returns to its original form That's why steve harbour got that video telling y'all to fly first class. I actually teach the same lesson and um but he said uh Fly first class and then When you do that you see this new level and then it you know Inspire you to start dreaming more. That's a lesson in itself that we got to get Joy say you can't go back to regular ubers I feel you you mess around and you have you are You riding that uber blight Over luxury and you like whoa, this hill car clean Y'all will give my mr. Question in here got a new member alex brown god bless you Sister jump right on in there now. I say we going to question sister jump Right on in there child father been avoiding picking up son Four year Four year ever since I got a job in my own place now not contributing money but friends see him at restaurant and concert Well says he could be going through his own thing You know one one thing i'm i'm gonna help y'all remind y'all love and we all know this Control what you can control Do not lose sleep trying to figure somebody else out trying to figure things out that you can't control You got to control what you can control So it's no telling what are you going through? What are you thinking about? About five mama god bless you So control what you can control The guy has been consistent Since march and just became distant He spoke face to face and he admitted all plans have failed and he's trying to sort his life out How do I approach this? well you can Keep talking to him when he reaches out when he talks to you He's distant So it could be life situation. It could be another woman You want to think the best you don't want to speculate. You don't want to assume. You don't want to accuse but If you're free and you're not doing nothing and he reaches out to you answer the phone If he texts you you when you get free text them back If you ask hey, let's go on a date and you free go on the date But do not Wait unless you know within your heart and God has shown you that that's The love of your life Peace mr. Gaston. What do you do when you have devoted yourself 100 percent while consciously remaining authentic to a vision That is processing. Yes But not at pace. You believe it should i'm 20 years and focus Well, the thing is this is you got to look at life in the grand scheme And so what you have to understand is You 20 years old so Your generation y'all Used to the mark y'all live with the microwave The generation before you pretty much had the oven the stove So y'all live with social media internet email microwave So that has conditioned you to get things overnight You see stuff you get online and you see people moving real fast real fast You don't know how they got to that fast though. Sometimes it's alone Sometimes somebody giving them some somebody somebody put them on sometimes they slept away to the top it's all kind of stuff that go into that and You just don't see it and so at 20 years old you should You really shouldn't be expecting anything You shouldn't be expecting anything to be happening. No type of nothing. It should be Embrace the moment embrace the grind Because you're 20 years old in the grand scheme of thing. You're a baby And so that's how you got to you got to reset on that Kate Nicole. God bless you God bless you Now if y'all put that hashtag cue in front of your question And it'll Help y'all What can I do as a mom to help my five-year-old son cope with his dad abandoning him? What you can do as a mom Is be 100% as a mom That's all you can do. You can't really coach and counsel But and you can't replace his dad Mother can't really celebrate father's day It's like, yeah, you could say on the mother and father you could say that at your mouth But you'll never be a father And so but what you can do is be 100 of mother The issue is right here What happens in these cases Is the mom stops being 100 mom And she starts being 80 mom or 70 mom because that other part of her is going to anger At the dad competition with the dad trying to change the dad Pain frustration anger Stress and so now you go from being 100 as a mom to being 70 But she has a child. Yes. He's gonna miss his daddy But on your day off if y'all going to chuck your cheese y'all going to walk did in the world Y'all going to the state park y'all going bird watching y'all going to the basketball court football game Y'all living y'all life Every day that you off you got him in activities. You exposing him to new things music robotics dance sports He's gonna be so enthralled with living and learning and experiencing that It's a lot of days he's gonna forget A lot of days he's gonna forget he got a daddy And then when the daddy come around His mentality is gonna be okay. Get in where you fit in like what do you bring to this situation? Come on mama doing everything she could do So what's your side of this over here daddy? And if your daddy ain't whole and if daddy ain't healthy He ain't gonna want to daddy around him He's gonna be like you ain't teaching me about how to be a man and like what a man could teach me Because he may be like Well mama don't throw the football that good Or you might throw it good, but daddy might throw it better So now he could see that like oh, well daddy's stronger in this area He could lift this or he could move this or he could do that So I could learn this from a daddy Or daddy talked like this he talked fast or he talked slow or high or low I get this from a daddy So if he can't see where he can benefit from his dad when his dad come back around He really ain't gonna be want to be around If you being you Now if you stressing them out because if you stress then You know So yeah, yeah, it's old five hours now Our travel our trip 15 hours total I think about 11 on the actual plane 11 12 something like that If I get to go if my passport get back in time Taylor post the same question But she she probably was trying to make sure it gets seen We ain't got that many people on here Taylor But why do men who haven't settled down say it's because they're picky are they actually picky? Yeah, they picky. Yeah, they picky They picky now And some I'm gay Some I'm gay and they just they can't come out the closet You know, they're just a mama ain't gonna accept it. They The daddy ain't gonna accept it at the church that they they race the nationality not gonna accept it So some I'm gay Some of them is fearful. They don't know how to deal with a woman They don't know how to live with a woman They don't know how to treat a woman is because they never saw it They never saw it up close and personal by a man that they know love and respect So I noticed a lot of men who It's it's men who didn't have a father who get married That don't mean they good at it. That don't mean they're a good husband They don't mean that they kind and caring and it's those of us who had a father in the home And that don't make us good at marriage either Because we if our dad weren't good at marriage or the you're best at it We're not gonna be the best at it So all men flaw when it comes to marriage and it's a lot of fear around that It's a lot of fear and and here's the thing about it. It's like A man Get so scared to settle down because a man will cheat on God But a man care more about a woman than he do about God Now they're gonna tell you online But when you put that but when you look at that behind the scenes You know tell you the truth and what I mean by this is A man will fall in the fornication And he's sinning against God But yet he'll be scared to get married Because he afraid to cheat on that one And so I see it all the time So it's kind of like this right here. I'm a married man And I was just at a football game. I'm not a football game a charity basketball game And while I'm at this charity basketball game, it's women all around me at this game So as a man If I was single And this young lady right here Got it all going for herself. I'll finish you the shot immediately But as a married man, I can't do that I'm not blind. I could see that she's pretty. I could see that she'd take care of herself. Got a nice body. What else? But I'm married so I can't shoot now. I could shoot a shot and cheat But now I'm Disrupted in my favor now. Now I'm playing with the Lord I'm not willing to do that. I ain't willing to do that. And it ain't no behind in the world worth losing this favor Once once you experience the favor from God and you ain't trying to play with God And so me I'm gonna be faithful not just because I love my wife, but because I love God And it's actually my love for God that go deeper than my love for my wife Because as humans we cheat on humans all the time. We don't care about no human life We we lie to humans. We steal from humans. We mistreat humans But when it comes to God When you really have that relationship That's who you know, hold the heaven and the hell for you. That's who you know, hold your grace and mercy That's who you know, hold your favor. That's who you know, hold your blessing So you try and do right by that because that's who could see you 24 hours a day and so While a lot of these men are afraid to get The sell down it ain't just about being picky. It's like they they fear themselves. They can't trust themselves So they get used to being able to shoot that shot Date that woman court that woman and when they board with a move on to the next And it's kind of like You know, if I say I'm going to get one car and I'm going to keep that car for the rest of my life You know, I say I trade cars. I change cars like every two years No matter how nice the car is I Get out the car two three years And and right now I'm me itching to trade the trade the car, but I'm like, let me just Keep a car for five years for one time in your life Tony That's the same way men like variety men like change men like this, you know Upgrade and that's why a lot of men are afraid to get married because They are afraid That they're not going to be able to be faithful In that after a few years They're gonna know everything about this woman and be bored of this woman and want a new woman and not be able to start nothing new Because in it all of us who have been in relationship. We know that beginning We know that getting in no phase. It just feels so good And then once you get to know somebody it could get boring if you let So we don't think about that Uh, k. Nicole, thank you for your blessing Do you think you will ever make a video telling women maybe top three realities women are too sensitive to hear about men or relationships Well, you kind of unheard them, you know, you kind of unheard them throughout the videos and To be honest with you It's it's really You can't really tell human stuff Because it's probably top three reality three realities about women that men can't excel And so the top three realities about men if for one If god got something for you it's not going to apply to you. So if you believe it then You stuck and you struggle it because you don't believe this and so One thing I can guarantee you Is that no matter what man you get with He's going to get on your nerves And he's going to make you want to leave him at some time or another You're gonna wonder what life will be like If you would have married differently or if you leave that marriage It might last a day. It might last a week But every man gonna push you to that point And if a man don't push you to that point Who he is in the dark The skeleton that he hiding will kill you Because it's some women who they praise praise praise. They man. He the most perfect man. I'm gonna tell you one thing The brighter the light the darker the darkness And that's why I too, you know, my wife No matter what I say no matter what I show online. She has always kept a humility about me She's never you never see my wife go online every day And flaunt me And show me off the way you see some women show they man off Because she always keep a humility And remind herself that I am not god And that I am not perfect and at any day I could take a stupid pill So she's gonna enjoy my love and be with me behind closed doors But she's not fixing to pedestalize and glorify me as the perfect man God sin can do no wrong She ain't gonna do that Because she knows she dealing with a human And so and it's been a long time. And so that's one the one thing that What I noticed that's most frustrating for me When I come on here is that it's a remnant of women who believe they're gonna meet a perfect man It's a remnant of women who believe they're going to meet a man Who will never look at another woman booty who will never Recognize the beauty of another woman Who will never lust in his heart Who will never raise his voice? Or you know, whatever it may be there are women who are waiting on The reincarnation of jesus christ To be available as a husband And that's the biggest Fallacy of the world Is you got to be ready when you get in a relationship you got to be ready to roll up your sleeves Put your gardening gloves on And go to work You got to be ready to read books together watch videos go to seminars Go to sermons Pray together pray for each other if you don't pray together, but you got to be ready To get down in the trenches and to deal with your pain with your trauma with your all of this And and the thing about it is is I hear a lot of women say Listen, I ain't doing nothing. I ain't doing no building. I ain't doing no nothing none of that But we miss We hear it. We listen into a hot girl summer go viral And say hey, I ain't doing no build a man And and what women are called in building a man is working through his childhood preconceived notions What the man got to do the same thing for a woman It ain't no perfect woman There's no such thing as a 100 healed man or woman We call ourselves that because we can't see ourselves But when somebody on the outside looking in and listening to your mindset and listen, we all flow We all need help But nobody really recognized that so what I what I always tell people If it ain't physical Of you verbal emotional like if it's not a form of of you Then do the work Stay and do the work But now when it becomes of you then that's when It's time to go It's time to you can even address that and even that can be changed now It's people that have addressed it and changed it, but it the person got to want to grow and change For the work, but if person want to grow and change, okay, you got to go but People don't even want people don't even want to headache In a relationship and that's what we're going wrong People don't even want to headache people don't want to cry at all ever People don't want to have to go to a therapy session People don't want to have to read a book People want to get into a relationship and think it's fitting to be A storybook a fairytale and that's why so many divorces happen is because People don't understand how hard it is to live with another human and get along for the rest of your life And it ain't even got to be about trauma It ain't got to be about past pain. It could be just personality differences You see the way they break down everybody's zodiac sign And when you read that stuff Half of it might be true for you. Some people a hundred percent of it might be true So just personality differences, which is they saying They telling you that this is based on the day you were born that why your personality is like this And almost everybody under the sun read that stuff And believe that stuff and the way the mind works is You could read a horoscope or a zodiac And it not be true, but it becomes true because you read And you internalize it and now it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy That's why I tell my wife all the time. I said, listen, let me read that stuff I said you get online because you're gonna read something about me that ain't true And then you're gonna be believing it or you're gonna read something about you And then you're gonna be trying to be that because now it's memes and it's reels and it's whole pages of zodiac And so people become trapped in a box and your zodiac sign could have negative real negative dark toxic things about your sign that With your creator you can have liberty from But if you reading this stuff and studying this stuff, you're going to manifest it You're going to become exactly that and you're gonna be in a situation where you need to be bigger and you need to be better You need to be stronger. You need to be wiser. You need to be more emotionally intelligent and you're going to say I'm facing to act a donkey because I am such and such sign and this what we do and this how we are And you will limit yourself and not grow because of your zodiac sign And just because of that alone make relationships hard it may relationship hard and That's what people don't understand Is we got to get out that fairy tale. We got to stop thinking stuff gonna be peeping and cream What are your thoughts on women yelling and talking big about what they're going to do about a trifling boyfriend? Yet find a reason to stay Yeah, that's the thing right there and see one of the lessons I learned with that is never ever judge somebody to un nations Never judge somebody to un nations Because you wherever you loud at wherever you bragging at wherever you talking about that's where you're going to be tested at That's where you're going to be tested at and it ain't going to be easy So you got to be able to say you know what? Okay This is what I would think to do. This is what I will hope to do But I got to be realistic about this here Let me be realistic about this Man, I think I might want to go to move to have one of them burger Let me see if my wife on the track coming on tonight 400 meters tonight. I think It will say she's gonna go on get her coaching question off now All right, Tony is there a certain way Form to start a coaching call. I know you mentioned a type of questionnaire such as name age medicine What is your advice on this? There's not a certain way But even if your mind wants to know those things And your mind formulates things like that then you should create that form And what I want to encourage everybody to do on here is to be the blueprint be the blueprint be Write the blueprint So anyway, you might get on a call and you may say, okay I'm gonna help this person on this coaching call But what I want to know is what city were you born in? Because that demographic gonna say something about you I want to know how old you are. I want to know what's your race or your nationality I want to know your age. I want to know. Do you have kids? So when I get on the call, I ask the person what's your name? Where you from? What's your relationship status? What's your parental status? Do you have kids? What is your occupation and what is your race and nationality? And I've had one or two people that get offended and they're like, why are you asking that? Why why does that matter? Why does that matter? Why does it matter? And for me? I made that up. Nobody gave me that form Nobody gave me that protocol for coaching. I made that up for myself other people may do that in their sessions And if somebody teaches somewhere, okay, good. I ain't learned from nobody. I made it up because I said If you married a married single divorce that affects your mindset If you have kids or not that affects your mindset How how you view the world if your child is one years old is different than your child being 18 If you black that's different than being white how you see the world If you live in houston, that's different than living in jackson, mississippi If you are from another country And you in america or you live in another country if you african, that's different than america If you from the uk that's different than america And so I asked these questions to help me understand Where a person is coming from where they operate from what their experiences are and then that helped me Help them because I don't want to say something to somebody and they got four kids and I'm giving them hot girl summer advice As far as their business is concerned Felt like I met my husband. We were talking. However, both of us ghosted each other and went back to our exes Both Which we left multiple times before he's still with his ex. What's your advice? Keep moving about your life Keep keep on going about your life going about your business Because it's the situation is not for you And if it's meant to be it'll be he'll leave his ex and y'all to get back together but That speaks to the tie that y'all had with your exes and sometimes you got to go back just to realize It's not real but a lot of time when a man go back It's harder for a man to start over than it is for a woman and women don't actually believe that women actually believe that it's harder for that it's harder for them to start over but that's why 90% of men go back to the ex Women it might be 60% 70% Based on my studies and women are naturally stronger than men mentally emotionally And things of that nature mentally emotionally for sure And the reason why women are stronger than men mentally and emotionally on average Not all the time now But on average is because of what god prepared the one's body to do So for your body to do something your brain gonna have to be in sync with it to a certain degree So for you to carry a whole another human in your body and push that human out Or if you can't have kids even if you having a cycle or if your body got to prepare for menopause The things a woman body go through The mind just got a higher threshold of pain and so The strength and the mentality women will go back to a man Time and time and time again, but when it's time to let go and move on it's hard for a man to let go and move on It's hard. It's hard to do It's hard to do Cold welcome to the last try T young T young Welcome to the last try Why does a man go back talking to his ex-girlfriends and now in relationship with baby mama After our relationship ended always used to bad talk about them when we were together Uh, just explain that one didn't even know it Been on nine days, but he don't contact me every day But he don't contact me every day He do most days a lot of times he texts instead of call I ask him why you don't call He said he didn't think I cared if he did do I wait three months Do I wait three months then leave? Such union go on about your business. It ain't been three months and he already give me that go on about your business Go on about your business. Now see this right here This question right here This question now Is a question that I get all the time. This is the type of question I get all the time. Oh, let me let me see What this is stuff he'll say for it disappear Trenisha, what does it mean when a guy says he has commitment issues after a month of talking and I said he wasn't the one So that don't mean nothing that shouldn't mean nothing to you because you told him he ain't the one so After that nothing else don't make sense if he ain't the one There's no explanation for anything. He said if he not the one now And you should be worried about that because you'll be the when he said so now you reject him then when he reject you back Saying he got commitment issues You kind of go to thinking oh, so you want to commit with me. Oh, so I ain't good enough for you Oh And then that's gonna make you want to win that battle and then this right here is where you starting to entertain that The fact that you asked that question and you spent 20 dollars. He'd cost you 20 dollars You asked him a question about something that it Come in a many different things. There ain't gonna be one answer Did see how he got your mind going? Just off of saying I got commitment issues. He might have said that because you told him he's not the one So he might have told you that's why I ain't the one Because I got commitment issues, but Like I explained earlier, y'all have to go back if y'all come on here late. Y'all have to go back and watch this over again About men and commitment And y'all need y'all got to watch these whole videos now It might be an hour or two hour play it. Why are you on the drive play it? Why you at work getting your spirit because it's gonna be about 50 different lessons in the video now Now listen, this is what I want to tell y'all this question right here I got on the screen been on nine days, but he doesn't but he don't contact me every day He do most days a lot of times he texts instead of call. I ask him why he don't call He said he didn't think I cared if he did do I wait three months didn't leave Listen, and I try to tell y'all this now I'm gonna try to tell you now Now this ain't about her Because this question here These the type of questions That make me want to retire These type of question right here And I get the question every day all day If I go into my dm on instagram all day every day Women is asking Tony He Kicked me in the eye Stepped on my foot spit on my mouth Do he love me Tony he done slept with another woman got up pregnant. He talked to her every day. Do he love me Tony He done left me four times. Do he love me Like I get these questions Tony. He cuts me out. He cuts my mama out. He cuts my dog out Stole my purse. Do he love me? All I get these questions all day every day And I just do not understand for the life of me. I do not understand for the life of me Why women Do not believe the obvious. I do not understand. I don't know if y'all You may be y'all the ones who supposed to be walking by faith because y'all will believe in a facade y'all will believe in a mirage And like they say like like roma used to say if it was a snake It would have bit you It's like y'all have got to see the signs not listen Every man gonna be flawed every man gonna make mistakes. But one thing about it whether he talks it Whether he Abusive or whether he loving if he won't you You gonna know he won't you Here's some men that's toxic and they want you more than anything in this world And you have to let him know if you want me you can't be toxic But one thing you gonna know is that he won't you When a man show you he don't want you believe him believe him Because because I'm getting tired now y'all have me tired So listen, I'm gonna tell you something When a man want a woman When a man want a woman It is going to annoy you It is going to annoy you when a man want you it is going to creep you out That's what I'm trying to tell you when a man want you When a man want you he ain't got no ego He ain't got no pride He ain't got no alpha male strategies He ain't got no red peel When a man want you everything got to wonder When a man want you He'll disrespect his mama. He'll disrespect his daddy He'll turn it back on God sometimes when a man want you It ain't nothing in the world Gonna stand in his way That man will kill a thousand men to have you that's what Helen and Troy Probably got in the Helen of Troy. I mean probably got into it. I don't know the story of Helen of Troy But that's probably why they got into it over that woman Listen to what i'm telling you When they met a lady wrote a quote. I don't know her name So old school quote I seen years ago. It say love is Or it isn't There is no thin love listen Y'all today y'all today The Arab woman on this on this thing when I finished this how long we've been on here 41 minutes I've been talking about this from about minute 40 when this video upload youtube got a thing called clips You go to this video you bring it up to minute 39 minute 40 and you click clip and you put it about Minim 42 43 and you type You will know or whatever you want to title it and you hit save and it's going to just clip out that little piece of this video for you And you hit that share button and you send it to every woman in your text log And say watch this Listen what i'm telling you if a man Won't you you will not have to wonder If a man won't you somebody clip this for me and send it to me for my tiktok If a man won't you you will not have to wonder If you have to ask anybody Does this man love me That man don't want you He might love you But that don't mean he won't you Because see love different now you could love somebody not want them You could care for somebody not want them But if a man won't you You are not going to have to ask a question. You ain't gonna be confused. Y'all can put me out of business today If women just listen to that one thing I wouldn't have I wouldn't have a job to do I wouldn't have to show up on here If women listen to that one thing And that's what be blowing me That's what be blowing me. I i'm not a perfect man I'd have been toxic of many days But one thing my wife know for sure Is that I love With all my heart and that I go to the end of the world and back and it ain't nothing that I would not do for her If I give my life in the instant I'll take a life in the instant it ain't nothing I would not do for her It don't matter how i'm feeling how down I am how upset I am no matter what's going on I'm finna grab that booty And i'm and i'm gonna shout no we married 15 years now We married 15 years i'm gonna shout something with y'all now I'm gonna shout something with you and this cuz I want my wife now i'm gonna shout it's not Because now when I go to shine stuff You should have said that Tony i've got to get out the bless try Because you should have said that because that you're christian But then y'all go watch the nasty toxic podcast People who don't know what they talk about talking about they at the table somebody Some amount of people at four people at the table or eight people at the table Y'all be sending me the clips from that stuff. I'd be wanting to stand on my head Y'all be sending me because I'd be wanting to stand on my head I'd be wanting to eat a shoe Y'all send me that clip and I just be feeling like Just eating a shoe. I'd be wanting to drink a bottle of salt Y'all be hearing the dumbest stuff on the e-podcast But let me tell you now when I tell you when a man won't you you won't have to wonder 15 years in the marriage my wife text me today She ain't gonna like that But i'm gonna tell you what this looked like because see a lot of time we'd be in this and we don't show it Don't nobody show it And this question brought it out of here Um, I was writing them. They wrote me that they received a package and working on it. I'm talking about a podcast I'm not a podcast passport You say okay great. I just got out the shower I wrote her back. Oh really you want an eight? Now that's nasty now I said oh really you want an eight now what time is it 227 p.m. now? She put lol you're a trip I gotta take t to get the stuff notarized and then drop him off now. That's my wife She know her husband My wife is not my wife. She conserved So now it's a lot of turnips now. It's a lot of women who turn up. Oh, yeah, come on daddy. What you want to do Yeah, come on rush on in here. My wife not like that. She real conservative She put lol you're a trip now. She didn't say ill. That's disgusting Leave me alone. Oh why you say stuff like that? Oh that's 230 But that's how bad I want my wife when my wife walking around Her body is not where she want her body to be She got she still got a little baby weight from My son her hormones change from being a bodybuilder when she was doing the bodybuilder Not the real muscular one, but the bikini division it mess up her adrenal glands and Hormones and so she can't burn like she used to burn her body don't respond the way it used to So she's not where she want to be in her body But to me I'll swap up with a biscuit. You hit me I want her from head to toe Because I'm in love and I want my wife That don't mean I'm blind. That don't mean I can't see another beautiful woman That don't mean I can't see another booty. I can't tell that somebody look good, but I want my wife 15 years in the marriage now So When y'all talking to me about oh, he acting like this and it's three months. It's one year It's two years. It's three years That right there drive me crazy because because men we are go getters men are hunters men are assertive men are Aggressive men are Overbaring when we want something I'm gonna tell you even like with the sales industry With this sales industry It's a lot of men. It's women in it now But it's a lot of men. Most of the people right now is two women In my inbox who in sales one is with a private jet company and one Is with a yacht company But in them same industries, it's all the rest of them is men And when I tell you the men get on my nerves When I tell you the men is so aggressive the men write you every day. They call you every day. They And this is a job I ain't got nothing to give them I can't get on my bite form. They don't want me They is bothering me like this over a sale How you think a man gonna act over a woman he won't That man finna be annoying And that's what I tell women all the time I say listen If this man don't kind of low key like I'm gonna creep you out. I'm gonna kind of make you think. Oh my goodness man clingy As long as it ain't toxic Like he still have his time. He still go out. He you know, he he do his thing He golfing and he playing ball. He you know, he got a life But when he with you or he around you he around you I mean, listen, my wife barely can walk past me without grabbing me a handful I got grab me a handful And then if we standing there, I'm just grabbing and just just jiggling just bouncing up and down Anytime if I if she changing clothes and something go to come off. I got to get over you know a couple of love and 15 years in america And you know why I'm gonna tell you why why it's like that Because I'm a hundred percent faithful So because I'm a hundred percent faithful to her it's like Um consume and I want to like the bible say ravish In your wife's bustle see a lot of times your man not into you because he's a porn baby And what I mean by that is he more into that onscreen that app that app that he owned That website that he owned So what what the way a man body work Is that when we get a release we done So when that's when your man is not calling you and facetiming you And this ain't just to this question. This just in general. I just got a question on here for a reference This ain't even to her. This could be two years into a three years five years into a relationship When your man is into other women And he taking care of himself With the five finger Hands a little That's why I mean That's why he ain't licking all on your neck grabbing all on your booty That's why he's not doing that because He didn't got his release. He didn't got on here. He's looking at bumblebee triple x and he does Yeah, he good. So when he see you he'll need the kids. He'll need to grab a booty He'll need a hug because his body doesn't have this release So that's hot. That's the telltale sign that you got you a man. That's a porn baby That he enters some other some other stimulation And so you have to realize and understand this But what I what I noticed by me not watching the nazi movies By me not watching nazi movie ain't watch ain't watching nazi movie Since The r kelly take came out in college That's how long ain't watch nazi movie And I really don't know what I was watching on that now I'm hoping that was not who we think it was And that she was 18 But y'all remember that tape came out We was in college we supposed to be on our laptop studying in study hall the football team And we are on that laptop watching this brainy video And That's the last time what I have found Is that by being married And not having the influence of the nazi the nazi movies in my life It made me desire my wife In any season her body is in Now if anything anybody know anything about women And women know women they know that a body could fluctuate and it could go through Seasons and hormones and even just a monthly every month could affect just whatever And it's a lot that come with the inner workings of a woman And it don't matter what season her body in Because I don't have the nazi in my life I'm desiring my wife And want to swap up with a biscuit from head to toe And that's what you have to understand that that's gonna happen And that's across the board with any man. It ain't oh, he was raised like a thug And he from the scree said You know, he don't express himself Listen, he don't have to express himself one thing about a man Is that right that that I know got a mind of his own If this thing ain't getting worked out and stimulated it's gonna be work It's gonna be stimulated by you Now if it's getting took care of It ain't gonna need nothing from you And that's why the nasty movies are destroying marriages today Because it's removing the intimacy between the man and the woman and now the intimacy is between a man and a computer screen And then that's why women is now so many women going to they battery operated stuff and this what we got to realize is You got to remember mating season You got to remember mating And so you got to remember That when a man want you it's going to be on a timeline It's going to be on a timeline and he's not trying to waste time When he truly truly want you and he's sure about you Everything's going to be moving forward. It might not be the same as your friend Your friend they might get married at 12 months, which is rushed in my opinion 18 months to 24 months That's a sweet spot. Really 24 months should be the marriage that really should be the marriage the proposal should be 12 months 36 months If you over the age of 25 at the 36 month mark, y'all need to have a talk Me to understand the circumstance and situation and and and what's going on here There are situations in circumstance that 36 month is not the time for marriage It may be 48 months or it may be 60 month mark now at the 60 month mark That's that that's the last month that I could possibly justify under any circumstances Meaning if even if he on a submarine in the navy Six months out of year If he in another country you in another country the last month I could justify a couple being together without marriage is that 60 month mark After that, it's a lot. There's some stuff going on. There's some belief systems. There's some Some childhood It's a lot going on that need to be expressed and talked about For that to be considered an exception to the rule that they need to extend Their relationship beyond five years Without getting married That's a tough part But when a man is into a woman, he's going to be very intentional He's going to be productive and he's going to be moving along So three month mark right at three month mark. It's going to be will you be my girlfriend? Right at 12 month mark. It's going to be will you marry me? 13 month wedding or whatever start to get the plan get plan and then after that 18 to 24 months is marriage 24 months to 36 months if the job situation work is having the kid or adopting the kid or getting a dog Whatever it may be and you just move you going on like that It's going to be productive when a man is for you and he all the way into you When the man ain't really for you See quick. God bless you And did I did I miss her? Oh Did I miss her? Oh, yeah, I did. Sorry about that Could be Vishal god bless you now See that was a whole sermon right there. Sometimes you have that right there. That's a sermon I'm about to hang out with some young adults from my church So I'm going to sign off and get freshened up for it. Thanks for all you do I look forward to the single Saturday call tomorrow. God bless you. God bless you um, let's say marion marion for um Appreciate that blessing with a singles class is tomorrow. Let me see if it's full though Make sure it ain't full. Hey, if it's full y'all gonna have to miss out. I don't know when the next one gonna be People like procrastinate it's called Saturday school. It's a concept that I'm doing I like Saturday Saturday school better than master class because master class just sound a little too Masterish we don't like masters so we're gonna do a Saturday school into march for the singles. It's on tonigassenacademy.com. So make sure You get on over there Grab your spot. But let me see now if it's full. I got to go and close it. Hey, well sight My sight may acting up too. Some people were trying to sign up and they want to let them sign up They probably trying to do me like apple because they that The course creator They didn't add it in They own payment system so they could get a piece of your transactions But I don't go through them So class got a little bit of space in it probably by what that is probably by Hand full of people there. I'm a mouth feeling it but um It's gonna it's either gonna fill up with people or time gonna run out. So I close I close the registration tonight At midnight eastern So if you're new here, and you've never been to tonigassenacademy.com But tomorrow it's always a good time with the singles And if any men see this and you single hop on on there now, you might see your wife on there Hop on on there sometimes men be scared to do that kind of stuff Or they sign on under their sister name and how to camera off to be scared It's like fellas. We got to grow up. We got mature. We got to grow up So this is called all the men if you single get on the singles class tomorrow because the men need to Be getting ready too. That's the problem in the world today Is women doing all the work women getting ready and men just worrying about money And just focus on money and just focus on crypto and stocks and real estate No, get your butt some relationship knowledge So that you could heal and grow too like come on now fellas. We got to do better now We got to do better because if you go to these seminars, it's all women You go to these virtual classes all women Me personally, I'm a married man. I get tired of seeing all these women I'd be like my goodness the men I hear doing any work. It's like, yeah, I ain't got number five percent but five percent of 300,000 is 15,000 men. So Okay, out of 15,000 men, we got one man on the class my goodness. What do that state? What do that say about the state of manhood? if you if if if we as men Can only listen to another man when he talking about money And we can't hear the opinion or perspective or the insight and experience of another man when he talking about Matters of the heart. What do that say about the state of man? They say we're in a bad state of man. And so what good is it if women are doing all the work and getting ready For what? So a woman becoming wife ready for a grown boy Because men not doing the work and it's the thing is women Use your influence Use your influence and make your brother get on the class your brother 18 or older Make him get on the class and say listen brother You need to get on this hill class and if you if you ain't get on the class Listen don't even talk to me like when you need money when you need help with your bed and when you need Listen, I look I can't help nobody. They ain't helping themselves. You single You ain't got no one you need to be on this class. I'm gonna be on the class and I'm gonna be looking for you You ain't on the class. Hey, don't call me by nothing because you ain't helping yourself Tell your daddy to get on the class Tell your brother to get on the class. Tell your son to get on the class It's like men need to start doing the work In the areas of the heart because the problem is The problem is Is that it's just women Doing the fake work And the reason why I say not a fake work because a lot of women who'll be on here and be in every class And then get into a relationship and lose a mind Get into a relationship forget everything A lot of my coaching calls And I ain't mad at it because you know, it's my opportunity to help But a lot of my coaching calls is women who say Tony, I've been following you for years And now I'm going through this this this this and it's all the opposite of what you've been teaching And then women will say Oh, Tony shows us where the men Who listen and have grown Why meet those men? But if I rarely hear a man say, hey, man, I've been following you and I'm doing everything wrong I met a man at the basketball game last night. He said, look, man, let me show you I'm gonna go ahead and show you. I ain't any captain And he opened his phone. He opened his youtube and he showed me my videos In a row with the red line where he watched him. He said man, they helping me They help him and I appreciate the work you're doing. This is a young man now. He probably looked at 23 20 between 20 and 25 So young man, you know, and so men it's some men that's doing the work is just they do it more quiet A lot of men don't do all this And so I'm guessing um, Marion is a guy and uh marquis to say Me and quanta are one in the same that her husband to add to what You are saying right now. Hey, we're on a marathon right now because um, my computer plug there Loan the internet don't go to acting up on Well, you two don't shut them off. That's why I got on computer because they're shutting my phone off come a phone with memory low I need a new phone memory low so um We're on a marathon right now because my wife she got working out. She working out She's lifting right now. So I got my little free time when she come home watching track tonight Y'all the track is on on cbs. I think start at 8 p.m. tonight We're interested to watch that for my 40th birthday. I think last night I'm gonna do some at the so y'all let your Brothers and cousins and husbands know women be in it too though Be activity physical activity To add what you're saying right now talking about you will know how soon will you know When just getting to know a man Now you've heard this before but a lot of times you don't believe it A lot of time women don't believe this but When a man won't you He first men choose based off of looks unfortunately He choose based off his taste The exception to the rule is when a man is not really physically attracted to a woman all that much But he happens to be around her a lot and then he gets to see her for who she is clear. Oh god bless But initially a man choose off of his looks and I believe a lot of women do the same But it may be less attractive men than there are attractive women I don't know I can't judge a man, but Even when I look at women, it's not like I'm walking around and every single woman You know, I feel is attractive to me You know, everybody beautiful in their own right They mama think they're beautiful. God think they're beautiful. But beauty's in the eye to be holder So we're not gonna like everybody we see Of course, but when a man wants you he wants you now And it's gonna be it's gonna be rather quick It's gonna be typically within that first 30 days. He gonna know He gonna know and he gonna be on you. So you got to realize that and be ready for that Okay, somebody say That shows that you're honest and authentic It was like it was only you want to share a fraction of that past Hey, you write about that now. There's a lot of people them riding in on that on that uh Riding in on that horse and don't want to tell about nothing No, tell us about what you used to do to these women out here That looks a tell us now Don't don't let let your ex wife talk It's it's girlfriend talk I'm looking for a question on young uh that chat was saucy I don't even see all the chat because they don't keep scrolling up scrolling up. I gotta hit to scroll down What do you think about men who never approach women in person and meet women? to date online Slash social media Exclusively, you know, I don't want to be offensive On that but to me, I don't really see that as a man in a sense I don't really see that as a man. I see that's kind of to me. I see there's like a grown boy That's what I call a grown boy And so I don't see that as a man and I don't see that as an authentic and genuine person because It's easy to hide behind a keyboard But it takes something different to walk up to muster up the courage to walk up to a woman and talk to her And so I really don't understand men who only approach women digitally Because even and and it's also a gamble on the man part too because that woman Could be tore up from the floor You know that woman feet could be out the out the front of her shoes Flapping Toe touching the ground, but you won't know that based on her picture You know, the woman could be just really Her energy just how she Maneuver her body language and just how she dressed and how she smelled all of that could be wrong And the man won't know that You know a woman could be a man, you know, she might have an apple And that's the way the pictures turn. You can't see that apple And so me I just wouldn't even trust the internet, but that could be just because I'm a country and you know Come from a different situation, but I I can't trust the internet I wouldn't be trying to just sit online how that no woman. No, I need to see You know I need I need to be able to read somebody It's so calm especially with men. How can women have a normal relationship with a man these days? So But I won't allow it. Do you meet men who don't? It's not a conversation that I have with a man But I'm always bragging about not watching it And not being into that kind of stuff that I feel like if the men who I'm talking to Did not do that They would be bragging about it too But I've never heard a man say, oh, yeah, I don't want that either. I don't want oh one or two, but they married But like single men. No, I don't really don't Hear a man say he don't and that is kind of sad. That's kind of sad to think about One thing about the he called now, it'll it'll get you sad. It'll have you It'll have you looking at the reality of the world. I remember I had a assistant and he came to one of my Seminars and I said listen 99% of men cheat or have cheated And after the seminar, he was like, man, you know, isn't it your goal to give women hope? I said no, it's my goal to tell women the truth He my goal to sell a dream And I'm just speaking on my personal experience now This woman might live somewhere else than men. But for me personally I never met a faithful man who had never cheated and I met men who have become faithful Once they fell in love and they had kids or they started to build a family with a woman I've met many many men can become faithful Just but just being faithful just off the strength just out the blue Regardless of race So for those of y'all who think Black women who think the white man is your savior? And y'all talking about an exodus the white man cheating just as much Just as much if not more Because I just with some and you know what the white man do The white man cheat what they rang on I was like, well, how do this work? I was with some guy White men and they were I say whoa Cheating on the white You know hollering at women flirting with women hugging women kissing women At little outings and functions and with the ring on and So out so for those y'all who think that oh, let me go to another race I'm gonna be praised and loved and treat like no man is a man A man is a man until he know God The only man that different is a man who has surrendered to God It don't matter what his race is and see the same thing about it And this is what I try to tell people now This is what we're gonna touch on race now and this is where this is where it get a little sensitive What you got to realize Is that when you is in an interracial situation when you go to another race That race don't necessarily Understand your race So they may fear you To a certain degree because they didn't grow up In that household and understanding you so what happens in those situations When you go to your exodus and you think that it's going to be all peaches and cream What happens is you get it in your back See when you with somebody who know you they used to you you get it in your chest You get it in your nose What let me explain that Because see youtube, they don't like you to talk real on here now if you talking about money and all that They don't care about you talking about you talking about life and talking about love talking about relationship Which is actually taking people life. They don't want to talk real about that See when you in this situation and you go to over here. Oh, let me go over here because they're gonna treat me amazing No, they just cheat differently It's like Who you was with You found it in a phone. You caught them it came out But when you go over there They don't and and the reason why they were messy the person when you with your same race The reason why they the person get messy sometime is because they know you they don't fear you But when you go to another race, they don't know you They know you based on how the media portrays your race. So they might thank you crazy So now when they cheat on you You never know you never you never catch them because they're doing it with a computer screen Phone screen or they doing it in a way that you're never gonna find out. So that's what I mean You get stabbed in the back But humans go on human until they know God until somebody come into the knowledge of God and they heart is renewed and they made a new creature They go on human humans are going to human It's they quit God bless you not don't think you're going in depth about the whole If he wants you this is what it looks like. I thought that I was supposed to be The cool girl and not trip if he's not consistent in contact and contacting me every day I'm glad you said that now I'm glad you said that and that's what see this the thing Which I got to realize Like the man I seen on that at the table uh The people be at the That podcast That guy on there He says something that one of y'all sent me about Something that a woman need to if a woman proposed she need to be on both knees Well, she need to be sitting down And that because he's been to prepare a life and he finna be paying bills that the woman need to do that grand gesture Of sitting down and proposing to him I about throw it up in my mouth I about throw it up in my mouth I said boy y'all like him making these kind of men. I said, oh my goodness I said, oh my good with these men they they when they say cut from a different cloth It's a lot of men that they cut from pop from silk See We were made from cotton cut from cotton meaning Come out the yard you hit me the struggle He meant the day Oh, yeah, I want my woman to propose to me If a woman proposed to me I'll be the I step over her head like Allen Iverson did Tyron Lou In that basketball game. I stepped right on over her Woman if you don't get out of here Get off your dog or back and knees to proposing Like listen, if the man don't want you Don't about your business A woman said never proposed to no man He he ain't proposed to you for a reason He that's why he proposed If a woman got to beat the man to proposing you got to realize that because you want the marriage and he don't But see the thing about it is is this where men go wrong? I'd rather a man I respect a man who say no I don't want to be married right now So listen get on up off your knee No But see these men They'll say yeah, because they don't want to embarrass the woman. She's already embarrassed herself getting out now on their knee Listen y'all have to keep your righteous mind Start letting society Brainwash you into turning society upside down Flipping their life upside down And this is the problem to that boy that was sitting on that podcast With all that hell in his head and trimmed all up and all that trying to look Like something And how about he won't want him to get on two knees to propose to Come on Come on Y'all know y'all know the people on the show tell them people send me an email And bring me on that show and let's have a discussion Because that'd be some foolishness man It's a lot of you podcast when you see them with their foolishness On the relationship Dm them and say a Tony gas and say he want to come on your show so y'all can have a conversation Because I just I want to ask some questions. I want to hear them out I want to hear my I was as curious like, huh? I'll be scratching my head And so listen to me just the problem These it's a lot of men today And this is why you got to raise your sons the right way Because we did all make mistakes on this but it's a lot of men that they cut from silk and just soft as all lot though and Want a woman To do what the man's supposed to do Want a woman to chase them The man is the hunter the man's supposed to pursue when we when people eat meat And they had to hunt for it who went to hunt with the bow and arrow Who went to hunt the man or the woman? Why did the man go hunt? Because his muscles are stronger. He could carry the deer home His legs is faster His spatial reasoning is better That's why you see No That's when you see snipers and you see shooters and you see stealth curry It's a man's spatial reasoning is different from a woman's spatial reason We created equal but we not created the same And see that's what people people say. Oh, we created equal. No, we equal. We not the same It's a difference We equal we not the same We got our own set of gifts God love us on the same level now But we got our own set of gifts and that's what people don't understand So a man want a woman to pursue if you want a woman to propose and that mean you want a woman to provide And if you want a woman to provide then that mean you want her to have a also Have a very you you want her to tell you what to do Because when you provide you think you get to tell her what to do So how you want her to propose But then you want to tell her what to do When we should be working together, we shouldn't be telling anybody what to do We ought to be coming together, but this what we equating money with so often as men and I've been guilty of this too We think that because we make money That we get to call all the shots And that what I found out what I realized is a weak state of mind It's a weak state of mind Because you don't understand your true strength And your strength and your leadership is not dictatorship It should not be dictatorship It should be leadership But it's too painful for us to hear because it uproots things it uproots things And this where we going wrong in our relationships And so we got to get to the place to where we understand and the thing is to Men got to know our place Women got to know their place And both of us have to know our work as well. We got to know our place and our work and so if a man is the hunter physically Then the man should be the hunter spiritually and emotionally mentally meaning to go get her So the man should go Approach a woman that he feels Looks like his wife Get to know her If she's not his wife the man should tell her You're not my wife And let her go. She might cry for a day. She might cry for a month, but that's between her and god He should let her go. He should not ghost her He should not lead her own He should not use her for what he can get from her and then go find another woman to try to feel That space he should be man enough to approach her Ask her can he get to know her get to know her be moving intentionally? Ask her to be his girlfriend to be his girlfriend Ask her to be his wife Ask her to be the mother of his children or adopt or have a dog or parakeet And ask her about the house That they want to build or buy Ask her about the moves in the life and work with her as teammates And whenever he don't feel something is right. He should voice that to her Express himself not do it behind her back Not be a tyrant put his foot down and say this what we're gonna do He should express what he feels and then hear her side of it And if she is willing to express herself then they come to terms on it And they weigh the pros and the cons And then they make a decision as a team Not a dictatorship and this what we got to realize Now suddenly she say I'm tired of you talking to her. Let me get the question off now Some of these questions is a sermon. So we have to you know, it go a little deeper We get on down here The son at least Oh, yeah Going on in that chat now Haven't spoken in a week But texted me yesterday to inform me that he has c 19 I didn't respond to avoid interruption of my healing process because we weren't on the same page Was I wrong? No, you weren't wrong. You weren't wrong. You protected your peace. You ain't spoke to him in a week And it's like what do it matter to you if he got that you ain't his nurse You ain't his doctor. You ain't in mama. Y'all ain't talked in a week. So it's like What you sending that for what you want to plant and what he sent it for so you want some sympathy He want to see oh, you want me to sit a bowl of soup at your door with some crackers No, no playboy. You ain't want to talk for a whole week And or this could be the excuse of why y'all ain't talking why he reached out to you in a week It could be the excuse. Oh, I got that but your text message work Even when you got that your phone worked too And so yeah, you ain't wrong for you know, not Interrupting your p Let me see. Hey Tony. What's the probability of someone signing up for coaching with me If I get on my mentor doc life, I've already gotten my certificate from you. I don't know Can't say exactly but You know the people on there getting booked. That's why somebody on there, you know, you you know people stand you about their money now So the people who don't get booked they get off of there after a while and I tell them to get off of there Because I don't want you to be on there You just you know, your page ain't ain't speaking at that time to the people. So let me see If we still got some coaches on there Yeah, we got some coaches on there three six seven see Yep, we got five hundred coaches on there So, um, but at the same time what you have to realize is We got five hundred coaches on there But a million people a month see this hill right here million plus people a month see that so If everybody wanted one session with a different coach, we would need a million coaches now But if if a thousand people go We still ain't got enough coaches Five hundred You might not ain't got enough coaches because everybody ain't gonna pick separate coaches Some coaches are gonna get two or three based on a picture How good a picture is how good a bio is so If you're a coach or a consultant you welcome to join my mentor doc life If you don't have a certificate you can upload a degree Or you know a picture of your degree or training now if you have not Had a one-on-one session with a coach then do not sign up Go hire a coach Even the $25 hour coach go hire a coach And then after doing a session then sign up so you at least see how a coach do a session What y'all y'all That's what y'all that's what you're gonna spell that thing out Yeah That's just ain't lying now Andrea she telling the truth now Andrea telling you now She she telling you Because I'm trying to tell you It's me and Tom out there Want to be the head of a household and around here twitching in the helps Round here switching they helps Tom out they want to be the head of a household Well Round here dressing better than their wife talking about they the head of the household Well, not with that vein. I see in your thigh Wow And the way they're making these shorts and this one I'm trying to tell these men See the thing about it is a lot of men who like men are designed in the clothes And so now these shorts men walking around with scrotum hanging out the bottom like my goodness brother You ain't they have no shorts longer than that I got down I don't want to man love Walk around with all that hanging night All right got married 14 years never really seen heard My opinions never really matter about anything. No time spent together. Should I leave? Since you need to sign up for coaching now Don't try to come on here and get me shot No, no, sister. No because she listen. I'll tell you something and the bible talk about this The bible talk about this the bible tell men Do not mess with another man's wife Because when that man find you he is not gonna have mercy on you So that's what I always tell married women Do not ask me no question About your husband on this right here. You need to do a full session You need to have a session where you talk for an hour because this marriage this god union This holy matrimony this sanctity So you need to have a whole session So that you could talk through this thing and you may need three or four sessions With a coach or a counselor or therapist before you make a decision because you don't just walk out on marriage like that And then two the reason why I have security a lot of times because if another man If i'm not a good man if i'm a grown boy And a man give my wife some advice to leave me And she leave me i'm coming for that man if i'm a grown boy Now if i'm a man another realize My wife didn't leave me because of a man online talking My wife left me because i'm trash and i treat her like trash If i'm man enough to realize that ain't going for that man ain't going after that man that that's on me I dropped the ball i didn't do what i was supposed to be doing and that's how another man even had my wife here But if my wife Taking leave and but if i'm a grown boy So that's why i have security Because we'll have to lay somebody down We have to go and lay a man down and it didn't come close now men them come to a seminar looking for a woman And because she is now getting a word And he realized that if she hit his word it might be the end of Men have put hands on they women After the after women to listen to one of my youtube videos or come to a seminar Trying to beat it out It not happen It's real. It's a lot of women That cannot Follow me online When they're in a relationship Because they man don't want them to hear nothing that might Convict him And that's just how we are as men we territory We territory i can't blame them i mean i get it because i'm a man i understand But that's why i won't be speaking on married couples And i speak in generalities i only in public that oh, yeah, you need to leave him You know i say there are nine in if it's just real crazy, but if it's in a little gray area I understand sometimes things work a little different. You might need both sides need to be heard My homegirl says that men wear The dangling cross earring on one side aren't straight. I never thought about it that way. What do you think? um No I think it's just it's the sign of just the world today It's just everybody trying to look the best they can and look stylish and look fashionable and It could be something in that but you know, I know guys who wear that Me personally, I would not be able to wear it personally But I know guys who wear it that I don't really think that they you know Go another way, but I can't say for sure because it's guys that I have thought Like women turn out that they like men and I had no clue and so I realized I can't read Everything and everybody Man has trust issues accuses me and holds back That's a tough one says you need to sign up for coaching get your coaching session That's a tough one now. You got to talk through that one because um That's real they don't know them trust issues. That's the hardest thing to get over and you don't have a trust. You don't have a relationship So a lot of times in that situation you have to express yourself and you got to find a way to express the words to let a person know listen And you guys got to be very really direct with them over and over and say listen listen If I don't want you I am not afraid to tell you if I don't want to be with you I'm not afraid to tell you but one thing I'm gonna ever do is I ain't gonna ever cheat Because I'm not fitting to lower my standards and go against my morals and values Out of spite for you and then hinder myself with God You got to really spell that out to somebody so that they understand you ain't that special You will get left if I don't want to be with you. I'm not gonna Put smud on my name and be trying to duck and hide because I'm in an affair I'm gonna let you go And when you let somebody know that like that and see that's the time that's the problem to see me. I'm direct So I hurt people feelings that I'll be direct But a lot of people like to beat around the bush and when you like to beat around the bush Now, that's how you set yourself up for failure because you just with that And people don't believe you so he can't believe you so you say why would I do that? I would never do that. I would never cheat But when you change that word sometimes you got to speak the language that a person speak see Pablo espanol travel hard escu chart me and me go see the ace bonus deals not see If you don't speak that with me You don't know what I just said You don't know what I just said But see just us who speaks Spanish Know what I just said so travel hard escu chart Buona deal Buona notice see My wife she be saying, why didn't you put a country accent on everything? We was in Mexico. She was like, why you say ola like that? Ola So you don't speak that you don't know what I'm saying But when I say this right here and I'm speaking your English, you know what I'm saying So when you're talking to a man and he does not understand I would not cheat on you Why would I do that? Why are you doing this to me? Why are you keep questioning me like this? Why are you treating me like this when he don't understand that then that mean that man understand? Listen here for one You cool and I like you But if I felt like cheating Please believe I'll let you know and I'll let you go You don't have to worry about me T. You ain't got to have the code on my phone You ain't got to do gonna sometimes you got to change the language because if this man was raised by a mama Who called him M. Alpha Get in there clean and wash them dishes Sorry M. Alpha He's not going to understand that don't mean you got to curse him out But he need a little more stern direct language. He's not going to understand you crying He's not going to understand you pouting and complaining And nagging and and and like that if his mama was a g And so you got to talk to him different like my son my oldest son He do not feel you and cannot hear you if you ain't direct with him Because me and his mama so direct if you He'll run right over you hit school teacher coach You got to be direct and you got to be stern because that's what he responded to my youngest son. He real sensitive If you stern him, he'll hear A bag of water. Why that how I was I was like that bag of water. So you got to understand that What can you offer a famous person that you want to meet Work with or desire mentorship from how do you find out what they could use from you in return? Um I'm gonna tell you now the bob say your gift will make room for you So what and bring you before great men. So what that mean is a lot of time people They'll just say, you know, hey, I want to be mentored by you I'm gonna tell you what happened when I wanted to meet with a billion now Saw his company had a media company similar to like what I could build And they say he worth two billion says company worth 20 billion I DMed him on instagram and I said, hey, you know, I would love to come meet you blase blase I said, I'll pay you anything that you want Nah, I ain't have it for him But by me offering to pay It's sad to him that I do not take your time for granted Because you make $5,000 an hour I want to come talk to you for a couple hours. Actually some questions I don't take your time for granted now some some I'm gonna charge you Some some I'm gonna charge you some But you know what that that payment is it's a rite of passage It let them know that you willing to put your money where your mouth is because anybody'll just use your time Anybody take your time if you willing to get to him, but somebody that's willing to that value your time And whether it's money whether it's a original painting whether it's a A ghost written e-book like wherever you want to add value You add that value upfront initially for free And you show them that you willing to add that kind of value then they see that then they're like, oh, okay You ain't coming to my table with a fork and an appetite You come into my table and now you turn it into a potluck dinner Because you bring in gifts and skills and talents. You bring a dish You come into the table with a dish so now You ain't just eating off of me now You eating with me Because they you able to show them something and that's what you got to realize And that's what a lot of people don't don't understand Let me see what this I can't wait for this man purse. Oops. I mean man bad trying to go away I have an old soul whatever happened to a nice wallet or money Hey, now listen I got a lot of homeboy a lot of a lot of clients and colleagues with that man bag So I try to move delicately on that because some of them is killers Some of them is is og some of them is, you know They they they solid individuals Me personally I can't get into the man bag Gucci sent me wine Gucci sent me wine Not the rapper but the brand the clothing brand they sent me they sent my love little man pouch As a thank you for the money I spent with them and It match a hat that my wife bought me But the hat is almost a little too But man look too Blue bright blue. So I told my wife. I said, baby, you can have that I said you can have that look that little pouch because it was still in the bag in the dust bag And she said you don't want this she like it's like $800 or $1,000 that they gave you for free I said I can't wear that I cannot wear that I'm not finished scrapping around my chest and be hanging off my hip Because that's just traditionally for a woman. I if people say, oh, I'm securing my masculine. I'm securing my masculinity too But I also understand energy I understand energy and I want y'all to test this out a lot of people don't test this out Go put on Go put on high heels Put on high heels and see how you feel Put on flats and see how you feel Put on you what they call nut huggers or coochie cutters. Y'all forgive my French. That's what they call them now. Y'all forgive me Put on you some of those and see how you feel it changed your demeanor So if I as a man put a purse on That's gonna make me feel a kind of way It don't matter if it's called a man bad If it looked like my mama pocketbook It do not matter if that is that's what my mama. Well If that's what my grandma. Well, if that's what my wife. Well, I can't I can't have a farce of I will wear a bike pike And the same thing you got in that man purse I put in my bike pack But I had a um, I was going somewhere And I needed to have cash on me And I was like, we got like a fanny pack I was looking for like a fanny pack, but like the you know the masculine kind And my wife was like, well, we got this right here. You could take this and I'm like, no, that's yours She looked it up on the website. It's actually a man's bag. I say it's nothing in me That could see that as a man's bag. I say, it don't matter what angle I look at it from and now you done told me this a man bag I say it's nothing in me that could see that as a man's bag So I took it with me. I just I never wore it. I didn't wear it. I kept it in my backpack And I just take it I don't even know why I took it because I didn't wear it, but I just like I came And why if you know, she was cool with it. She was flexible with it because You know, I think sometimes when you're in a fashion, you start to make exception for the way to eat me and dressing out here But me personally I can't I can't get into it. I ain't I ain't knocking nobody that they could do it. I just can't do it I can't meet her like I can't do it. What if he doesn't look like the woman? He doesn't look like the woman he wants but thinks he's more Than what he is Well, sister Reality Well, teach him Reality will teach him But this is the sad thing. This is the sad thing and this is part of what's messing the world up to and I'm sure it's women out here speaking on it I'm sure it's women speaking on it, but here's the thing that's messing The the dating world up in a lot of ways Is women Are okay With unattractive men who have money That's what's throwing everything off And one of the things that throwing things ain't a sole problem, but that is a huge problem That when a man get money Women don't seem to care that he's shorter or that he Are less unattractive That's what and so what happens is Is it make men mad? So men know The men see sometimes when a man get money and fame He forget How he was treated before he had money and fame And so now the women he gets he think he on that level looks wise look it looks compatibility He don't understand that she that he still is a little ugly to that woman But he got a pretty bag Might be literally ad figuratively So he don't realize that now the men who are not him We could see it clearly And as men we're gonna be like boy you look a man, but you whoo, but you Look like you got step on And and that's your girl And let me tell you something that's crazy now Let me tell you something that's crazy my oldest son Since he been about 12 or 13 He will see a man a certain type of man with a woman And he'll say oh, she's there for the money Because it Ray Charles could see it's not looks compatible It just do not make no sense. It do not go together Now yes, that can be an exception to the rule But as humans we don't know the back story So we just gonna judge the situation and we're gonna be like uh that couple don't go together And then when you look within and you see the lesser tractor one got money And a tractor one don't got money or don't come from money, then it's like It just sent a bad message And so what happens is it make other people say, you know what? I can't trust These people non-clarity god bless you now Canada X of more than two years reached back I answered and now I can't stop thinking about how to repair from this Well, you're gonna have to start all over sis You're gonna have to start all over it's not rocket science. It ain't gonna be a special trick to it, but Um, jenny god bless you. You're gonna have to start all over Tia Tom That's how the mind work and that's what The author was talking about when they talked about a soul tie Even though that actual word they say is not in the bible But really it's just emotional time. It's just your brain had and found new patterns your brain had and found, you know a new way And then now you introduce it now you don't put it back in the loop Like little baby say I've been on a loop. I've been in a loop You were back in the loop That was what he said. I don't know if you actually said that Y'all can give him a wife ask me do I want something to eat? What are your thoughts about 34 year old woman talking to 28 year old man? Man has girl best friend who has a man but says she says she likes to be around the best friend This has been going on for years Hmm that right there all kind of messy right there now. That's all kind of messy Now for one what you got to realize a 28 year old man is equivalent to about a 24 25 year old woman so and a 34 year old woman is Equivalent to like a 40 year old man Sometimes it's even greater women mature faster than men emotionally Mentally spiritually typically women mature faster than men so a woman on average average A woman should not date a man more than three years younger than her Unless there's an exception to the rules and do just super mature and all of that in the above but Other than that women need to date their age or a little bit older You really want to be in about five years no more than five years older if you can help it There will be exceptions to the rule sometimes But if you can help it you want to be within five years And I would say five years up or down but down it's going to be risky Okay, and a man with a girl best friend Is not ever really a good thing It's not ever a good thing because men are not wired and built to be a woman friend So a man with a girl best friend is typically a gay man A low man bisexual man or a man who is waiting to sleep with that friend And so that's that's what that typically is so I as a man don't trust myself with a woman friend And therefore I and I know how I live my life for God. I know how I love God Therefore I don't trust any other man with a woman best friend Now he's oh, I ain't him I ain't him But I guarantee you If we compare our life 24 hours a day our little cleaner I guarantee you and because of a man who's living clean too, you know, he won't know a woman best friend He'd have a woman colleague meaning You know, what's the play what's the business move? But my woman is in on that or can see those messages or could go out to lunch or whatever but any woman that texts me She is a client She have paid me for my services She have paid me for my professional services. That's where I keep it at And some women because they text you a lot or they'll talk to your due sessions They'll say, oh, you know, you're my friend and I always correct them. Say, no, I'm not your friend I'm your coach And I keep that boundary I keep that boundary because I know how to mind work See you got people who didn't listen to all this stuff Oh, Tony, a sex dream is demonic Listen, stop listening to everything your pastor say. That's how the brain work The brain is on a loop You mean your subconscious is what show up in your dreams So if you've been thinking about sleeping with somebody Or your body been feigning The person you've been talking to that day could show up in your dream And so this is stuff we don't talk about being real about But what's on your mind and what's been out there could show up in your dream That's why you got to make sure your mind is pure Because it's gonna play back And so that's why I don't even deal with friend situations. I keep it. This is a business transaction You mean I do that friend for me That's that's that's gang gang. You hit me friend that blood in and blood out Like I I can't call you a friend now unless I know I slide for you And if I don't slide for you you you you're an associate you a colleague And so you can't ever I do not trust a woman With a man best friend And I do not trust a man With a woman best friend and people out here doing it. I do not trust it y'all could trust it if you want to trust I don't trust it and the reason why I don't trust it because I do this too much I'm in the trenches. I see what it turned into Down the line. I see what I see here's his name See, I know too much because this is what I do so When you at work And you doing what you doing at work I'm in people business Helping them work through that business So when I'm on the phone And a man telling me yeah, I got a best friend For 20 years, but she don't know I like her See there. That's what I know Oh mama tell me yeah, I got a best friend And I really kind of think he liked me but my husband don't know Or I kind of feel like he would be perfect if this and this and this Uh-huh. That's what I know That's my own deal with it But see this world right here the world will try to prepare you for failure The world will try to get you to just be open to in and everything because that's the work of the adversary trying to set you up Trying to set you up But I thought a real good question So I'm just getting to know this man that I like and I'm a Christian So I intend to wait until marriage Now that's a long time You know, that's a long time for a man to not um, well, this is the thing Marriage could be in 12 months So it might not be a long time you know and That is the case, but see this is the thing if a man gonna wait for you He either finna enter into And see and now if he read books or he do anything If a man gonna wait for you He either finna enter into sexual transmutation That napoleon hill talk about meaning he finna take that army hammer box that's in their pants And he finna channel it into business energy and business ideas And he's gonna challenge himself and he's gonna turn this into like a challenge And he might even start a youtube on it Talking about the no-fap or whatever which I don't really know what that means, but it sounds like they'd be talking about That no-fap is a growing online movement devoted to giving up masturbation and even sex for extended periods Typically around 90 days. So if he's smart now He's gonna start him a youtube on it while he with you and he's waiting on it And he's gonna go on brag on it And make him a little money on it On that journey because that's what youtube is gonna pay you for what you know You get monetized you're gonna get paid what you know shout what you know They're gonna push it out there and you're gonna be able to help people So that's what he'll do now a man a good man of character He's gonna get something out of it if he got to go through it He's gonna get something out of he finna get closer to God He finna get richer He finna get wiser he finna get stronger and he finna master himself So yes a long time, but a man don't see this the thing what what we fail to realize is You don't need you don't need it. You want it It's a plus not a priority. You don't die Now all of us on here could not have another release From that body part for the rest of our life and you're not gonna die early because of it That's not a that's not a need. That's a that's a won't That ain't it ain't and yeah science gonna say oh it's healthy for you and all this Your people gonna them people don't care nothing about you Some people don't care nothing about you. That's why they got steroids in them chickens And all that beef and there's a burglar finna tell The cow probably got shot up with all kind of steroids So when them people write you new articles telling you that Tension on yourself is good for you and all of that and what it do the people don't care about you The people won't you have feeling good? So you're going in that store and spend all your money So you start saving Because see listen to be on that man playing Where you got them envelopes with that cash in it and you all cash with no debt you can't be out there Getting releases because you're gonna be too free So that's why they want you on that so you could get into that credit card debt So you could get into this frivolousness so you could be easily controlled because you don't have control over yourself Because you need to release out your body To feel normal That ain't that ain't that ain't healthy Your mind ought to be able to calm you down your mind ought to be able to You ought to be able to do a breathing exercise and get the way you need to be but the world don't want you to hear that though The world wants you out there And then hands a lot don't want to hear that though. I don't want to hear that let me see this till the time my father Abandoned our family for his becky And now that i'm an adult I won't date any brothers who have a becky as a baby mom am I wrong for this Well, they just speak to your childhood from that's all that is They just speak to that in it because it really ain't Got nothing to do with that man and here's the thing You by by that you could let your daddy cost you your husband So that is the importance of healing Because now what your daddy did Caught your mama a husband and not it'll cost you a husband too Because a man could be in an environment that that's his only option That that's all he know that his whole school is that That his whole neighborhood is that and so he with that woman out of this is just his environment It don't mean that he hates himself All the time sometimes it do mean that it don't mean that he hates itself all the time It also could mean that that's part of him It's some men who have it's a lot of men who got a white wife Which we shouldn't call her becky, but this just you know, this real there was somebody said I ain't say it not We don't tell rush and limbaugh and joe rogan whatnot to put on this show But we shouldn't be calling people that but it's some men who they got a white wife, but they have white But they might identify as a black man or people might see them like a black man But they have white So being with a white woman that's half of them So now if you if this man come up to you and and he got a white baby mama But he got some white in them and that's why he don't see it like that Or if he all the way black but he just Dated a white woman don't necessarily define him and then sometimes he could have been on the space to where He was operating from a place and now he's changed the place he operated from And speaking of that now, let's talk about that now because that's that's that's that's that's a tough thing now That's a tough thing What you have to realize is it different reasons why black men date white women It different reasons the same way with black women not being with a lot of white men Okay, same thing with white men being with black women So what you want to do is you want to do your own analysis and you want to find you You want to find you three to ten couples? interracial couples And you want to analyze those couples Look at their history And look at their biography individually look at their history. Look at their biography Find out where they grew up Find out what city what neighborhood what schools they went to Find out their history and their biography and analyze that situation What we won't what you want to see is that it was an organic chemistry I don't know I don't know about the class not but you want you want to see that it was an organic chemistry That they fell in love and The love was blind it was color blind. That's what you want to see the organic chemistry Sometimes you're going to see it's based on environment I know a white man Who he taught like me It's not a lot of white men who got a draw like I got or accent like I got So he taught like me he played sports he athletic and He he his look is it his look look like he got more than just White or it might not be white. He got white skin, but it got like a tint to it So he got a black wife I saw this another thing another white guy like that And so sometimes it's they grew up in a neighborhood with all black boys And they played on teams with all black boys like Travis Kelsey. You see how Travis Kelsey looked. He don't look like Nick Lachey if that's his name And so when you look at Travis Kelsey, he got a black woman But he wears goatee Like a black man a lot of times or a chin scrap, you know, like a black man, you know Got a little swag with diamond cubans. A lot of white boys don't wear that kind of stuff The other tight ends. That's why don't dress like that and talk like he do and You know how to his style. So he might be more Diverse and so sometimes you see that So you so we have to take this and we have to analyze it The one thing that you don't want to see when it comes to interracial dating The one the red flag is when one of them people hate themselves When one of them people despise their own race and they go into the other race out of self-hate That's the worst case and that's what you don't want to see. So when it's that That's when you don't want to be with the brother because he don't even like himself But if it's other reasons then You don't look at it like that Do you think your parents spoke to their sons and daughters heading into To the 1215 about relationship sexuality that it would have a real impact in their adulthood for abstinence Yeah, I do Yeah, I do because I meet people who virgins and I say, well, why are you a virgin? They say just because that's how I was raised So I was raised as a christian or I was raised to save myself I was told from a you know from a young age like save myself from a teenager save myself And so I'm doing it not just for my parents, but also because I love God for myself And I just want to save myself. I want to be pure until marriage And when they understand the the pros and cons, you know the benefits of it and and that doesn't make everything perfect I saw a virgin get married and get divorced in less than a year I saw another virgin get married and Go through a divorce and it was three to five years Sometimes a virgin makes their virginity their god And their virginity Is becomes their idol and they idolize it And then when they get married and now that they're allowed that they're supposed to Have sex when they do that they feel like they've lost their identity Because that was their claim to fame. That was their notoriety. That's what made them different They were the only person in the group in the circle in the church in the school in the grade in the class in the club That was a virgin So it made them special and made them different and made them stand out Or it made them ostracize and overlook and mistreated But it still became their calling card. So then they get married and now you post a You know bust it wide open And they do that then it's like wow, who am I? Because that was my identity and so I've seen people go through divorces because of that as well So it's pros and cons to it But we want to teach them the right thing to do and but also teach them about those other things like teach them like listen Just because you saving yourself and you waiting on somebody that's going You waiting on somebody that's going to wait on you until marriage You still got to pay attention to their characters and pay attention to the red flags because just because somebody wait on you Don't mean they love you don't mean they write for you You also got to teach them like okay, just because you saving yourself Don't mean that you're special Don't mean that you're better than anybody and don't mean that you should hold this as like a calling card or idolize this like Be ready and wish and hope for the day that you get married So you can lose that virginity and be ready to part with it and usher into that next season of life You know versus Sitting there and holding on to it and worshiping it So understand that right done now This guy told me that women killed chivalry and courtship He said that's why men don't pursue women like they used to Are we as women the blame for the way men are today? Sister came in here and said she's been All right good. Let's say she's shaking the table today now My god Sister came in here with that heat in here. Nah, nah, you in the last try I breathe and I recognize your name. Um, I'm gonna tell you Can't nobody kill nothing in you if you wanted to live So this is the thing And this and this my and I'm gonna keep this up and we're gonna ride out on this I don't know if I'm gonna ask no other question itself with somebody getting the vip line now But we're gonna ride out on this this so we've been on here to Two hour ten minute, but we just not getting started now But this is the heathen came in here asked the quay Chum You hear me So tell your friend tell your cousin we finna get started now Shout it he'll be 80 yo Not not not literally But listen The man said that because women are Becoming extremely strong And now women been strong, but women now got the flex they muscle So before a woman was strong but she didn't have to flex her muscle Because the man was taught to marry And to provide and to Be there for his family But when we went into this pandering microwave society men then Started to leave the family and have this excuse of oh i'm done. I'm ready to go Next woman second third fourth wife And so when men started abandoning the family A woman got to Put them big britches on So now if a man abandoned his family Because he wants some new booty like um Where that paul wall Because he wants a new booty Then no that bubble sparks then Now this woman got to provide So she could have been working her job and in her passion Maybe not making what she wanted or all that much money or not working or working seasonally Or working from home or just doing something but she there with the kids and then when the man boom He up and gone not his woman got to come up with a full-time income So now when his woman come up with a full-time income she opened her own though She pulling her own chairs out. She paying her own rent or her own mortgage. She paying her own car note so Rightfully so she get accustomed to doing for herself So now when a man come around She used to doing for herself So I remember having a coaching call in the woman say, you know, I really made a mistake She like me and my god that I'm talking to that I really like and I feel like he my husband She like we went to the store and um She like I got a son son eight years old It was probably like a decade ago. I was coaching a white woman from Another country She said we went to the store and I just shared that just love y'all. No, ain't boss then y'all just think I only coach black people No, I call white people I got coach of persian. I call persian people indian people Chinese All different vietnamese Y'all thought I just only talk to black people So she said we went to the store and she said I bought a new vacuum cleaner and I bought a CD She said after I paid for I picked up the vacuum cleaner and I hand him the CD and She said he was so upset and he was like when she said when we got in the car He said why did you do stuff like that? And she said tonic. I didn't even realize I didn't even realize I picked up the vacuum And let him pick up the CD. She said I'm just so used to me and my eight-year-old son Trucking along and being out and me being the stronger of the two of us And me having to carry the vacuum because I'm with an eight-year-old boy who can't carry heavier things I'm stronger than him. So she said I'm so used to that that I just did not realize what I did And I felt so bad because he took it as it emasculated him And see now the thing is what I had to do and it's hard to do now But I had to stop Letting a woman's strength make me feel less as a man Screen record is nice screen record is nice I'm gonna give you a couple seconds put this on my tit top Put this on your tit top put house tag tonic gas in on them now I had to stop letting a woman's strength Make me feel less as a man The problem with a lot of men today is they feel like if a woman can pay her own bills carry her own Furniture do for herself that that makes him insignificant and less of a man when The issue is in the way we view a woman we view a woman as weak and Lazy and less than and all of this So when she can lift something or buy something or do something Then it's natural for men to say oh, I'm not needed. I'm not a man No, we have to shift that and I feel the same way I feel it I feel the feelings fella because I'm I'm raised here. I'm raised in the world too I'm programmed by society too So I feel it too, but I have to confront that and say why am I feeling like less of a man just because She's a strong woman because my wife don't need me for nothing And I had to get over myself because my wife she changed all the dough knobs in the house She changed dough. She take dough off the hinges put it back on the hinges She she she do anything and everything because she's real resourceful And that's how her family is like her daddy. He's not a her daddy is a patent attorney But if this man need to as a Jamaican man You know anything about Jamaicans or anybody who come from any kind of struggle they resourceful They're gonna use Google because it's available now But they're gonna ask somebody and how you do this and they're gonna get it done So me when I'm in here on this with y'all because I don't feed my family This is my purpose My wife not finished just sit and and wait till I get off of here to change that door knob She gonna change that door knob So I had to grow in my masculinity as a man to say if I can do it I'ma do it or she asked me to do it or if I see it need done I'ma do it But if she do it That means she wanted done a certain way at a certain time And I was doing something else or I wasn't uh wasn't there so I can't be offended by And that's the problem right now is that and then the the bishop Uh best tdj got a message that's going viral some of y'all sent it to me and he's and he's saying You know, we is raising our women To be men we raising our women to be men and you're not praised for your femininity You're praised for how rude and nasty and strong and all of this you could be And attend up the family Listen One thing about me One thing about me One thing about me and this something that that that god this something that god taught me Screen record this now Tell somebody now Send it to the bishop This something god taught me Ain't nothing nobody else fault Look yourself in a mirror So the question is why do you think we raising our daughters? To be strong Because men ain't dependable We raising our daughter to be men because we raising our son to be women We all want to hear that Your son is twitching at the helps switching this helps Your son got on leggings Your son got on lipstick Your son come on Come on Your son want to be proposed to your son sitting on a podcast talking about he want a woman to get on two knees and propose to him So if I got a daughter I'm not finna raise my daughter to depend on no man If I see the men being raised To be lovers of themselves That's why they being raised like that. That's not That's that is not a choice. That's out of necessity So when you see a woman With a chip on her shoulder Her daddy put it there For either being there and knowing the state of men or not being there And her feeling like she can't depend on a man. So this is what the lord told me to do And this is why men don't like me. This is why men get upset with me Because what I believe about manhood is that you have to Accept 100 percent responsibility for your life If you want to be a man, you got to accept 100 percent ain't nothing a woman fault Ain't nothing the government fault ain't nothing the white man fault You got to look yourself in the mirror and say I got 24 hours in a day. What I'm finna do with And if you came man up in your 24 Then you don't deserve to have no seat at the table or have no say so I'm gonna be by my and I'm gonna take care of me and I'm not finna blame no woman for what she's doing And how she's doing it. It's on me It's on me So if I step in and I'm a man and that woman won't let me be a man meaning She's spinning my face. She's disrespecting me. She's talking down to me. Guess what I'm finna do I'm finna leave I'm not finna sit there crying complain. I'm not finna tuck my thing between my legs I'm not finna live like no hermit crowd If she can't understand the difference between independence and interdependence Then I'm finna leave But one thing I'm gonna realize is I'm gonna seek to understand Then be understood. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna say, okay Why is she being raised to be? Tough why is she being raised to be independent? She being raised that way Because men are proving today that we can't be counted on So the bishop That and see this why this why honestly y'all this why I have to work for god This is why only my supporters take care of me. This is why I can't really sign no deal Because you will get counsel when you telling the truth You will get counsel when you telling the truth so The bishop say hey we y'all raising y'all daughter to be men And then break it down the household What bishop your son-in-law? Left his wife who had three kids from him Under the age of 18 Two of them is girls So What is that mama gonna do? if this mama The stood by her man To help him build a church And then he wake up and he say I wanted the force And she got three kids And she did not cheat on Did not lie to him ain't ain't none of that but then He go and quote-unquote upgrade Because now you got a woman With millions of followers When your when your other woman didn't have millions of followers now you got one with millions of followers See listen when you serve god you got draw a line in the sand I ain't perfect But I got to deal with my mess with my marriage in my marriage with my wife I got to work through that I got to do the work and if we can't work through it then we have to answer the god But we're gonna do the work But one thing i'm not gonna do is i'm not gonna walk out on my wife or let my wife go out here and physically Cheat on me I ain't gonna leave my wife for talking to another guy's as a friend I ain't gonna leave her for that now i'ma i'ma shut it down And that had to happen because friends gonna pop up from facebook and all of that Male and female they're gonna pop up now. I'm a a what we got going on We're gonna deal with it now my wife go out here and physically cheat and she in a whole a family And and didn't communicate with me That a you ain't loving me right you ain't doing me right or you were doing me right And I just wanted me some other angle ain't I'm gone I'm gone. I'm out of here. You hear me? So listen So let's talk about it It's like this we can't come out here and talk to these single mothers and talk to these single fathers and talk to these parents Who raise and daughters and we see in the state of men today and that men out here Acting and looking like trash and then we get we get mad at the parents for raising their daughter to be independent and self-sufficient If I got a daughter I got two boys. So I got to raise kings I got to tell them a be better than me and I got to keep being better So they see me get better so they could see and believe in growth and change But if I'm raising a daughter, I'm not finna raise my daughter to depend on no man Or to shrink to no man if the state of men is raggedy And if and especially if I got a son-in-law Who left his wife? With three kids not not I could even make an exception if If you ain't got no kids If you ain't got no kid y'all wrong But when you leave and the kid they they gonna say oh, we don't care We understand this stuff like that happened and all that but it'll it'll show up later in the book and so listen Here go the so So here go the thing is like And then The bishop daughter if I ain't mistaken. They said was pregnant at 13 So come on now. We all doing something wrong Like we all like we we can't we can't just take no message And just share no message Without the full context and say well, listen Hey, but I should have read maybe I could have raised my child This way so she wouldn't have got pregnant at 16 if I were raised to be stronger or something like we all could find fault If we want to find fault But see what I do is I say Tony what what what do you need to do? What do you need to do because I could say oh man, you can't trust these women man You will you will provide you will take care of a woman. You'll do all of that and that thing You know, she's talking to her s-boyfriend. She's talking to her friend You know, or she's talking to another man, but then I had to look and say well, how was I talking to her? How was I treating her? What kind of quality time was I giving her? What was I doing? Now if I look at myself and I was doing everything right and I could accept full responsibility And she still did wrong. Okay. She was in the wrong. That's on her But see me I'm like this right here Raise your raise your daughters To be mature and to be in the sense teach your daughter the difference between Dependence independence and interdependence so that they understand dependent is when you a child Independent is when you an adult and you on your own and interdependent is when you get married When you with somebody you let them operate in their strengths and you operating your strengths But guess what a woman may be able to lay Laminate floors better than that man because her daddy Did construction and her daddy brought her on the job All summer every summer since the age of eight years old So if this woman's supposed to go and give up her gift Or knowing how to lay Floors or knowing how to fix a roof or knowing how to change a tire Or knowing how to change the oil on a car if she supposed to suppress herself And to make a man feel better. No that man got the man up And if you want to feel like such of a man then learn how to do what she knows how to do and then you do that But if she could do that and you can't do that don't get mad at her for it And I had to check myself because I used to get in my feeling because my wife was around here while I'm working While I'm talking to y'all my wife around here doing everything And yes, she like it is a lot of days. She's probably looking down on me like And and I had to you know have a conversation with her one time to say listen That just ain't that just ain't me like I work hard To make millions of dollars so that I can afford a man who only making fifty thousand to bless him to do what he do Because I'm not finna go lay no flows When it cost me five thousand dollars to get that done if I make five thousand dollars an hour and that's been to take me three days I'm not so I'm don't I don't feel bad about that I don't tie my manhood up in changing a tire No, I'm finna sit there and I could just And call roads out of system because I'm paying twenty five hundred dollars a month for the car And I'm paying three hundred dollars a month for insurance Rolls out finna come over here I'm not finna get out there And and and I've never had a flat tire But if I did I know how to change if I need to But if somebody else do that job and they know how to do it I'm not finna tie that up in my manhood And the same and this and this is what women need to understand Stop tying a man manhood up In fixing stuff around the house if you don't want to tie if you don't want him to tie your womanhood up In how good you is in bed or how you cook or how you clean Because a lot of women can't cook It is a lot of women can't cook now Just because you cut the stove on and you put food in that don't mean you could cook now And so that's what we got to understand too now It's a lot of women can't cook. So the same way if your man can't can't change no tire But he can afford somebody to change the tire He's still a man He can't change it or afford nobody Now we got to have a conversation now You got to be do you got to do one or the other So listen We had to have that conversation And I had to get out of my feelings because I I would walk around here power. Why are you doing everything? Why don't let me do nothing? That's a man. Let me do nothing But then I had to realize like, okay, Tony you gone three five days out a week in that season of my life I changed my life. So I'm home now You're going three to five days out of week. So what the one of the posts do you hear you out making a living? So don't not need change You coming in tired. You need you walking right past you change. So she changed it Okay So my wife when her daddy come down, he do all kind of stuff around the house. Listen He's 65 He drew making Jew making and american is different and you making His his father-in-law was an electrician. He did electrician work with his father-in-law So i'm not going to get mad that my wife dad came in our house and changed our lights in our garage Because I didn't know how to tell like how to figure it out, but he got electrician in his history So I can't let that reflect me as a man because he know how to do something. I don't know how to do So the thing is we got to get to the place to where We have to be in a place that we are Responsible for ourselves And so just the thing a woman can't ruin shivery because if oh if A man may have to show a woman three times that he shivers So If this man go to open the door and she not already hopped out the car And he said hey don't do that. I got your door The next time she gonna let him open the door But she's been opening the doors for herself for years So it's just It's most of memory at that point But when that man taking show her he's shivering. Hey, I got the date she offered to pay her half Because she don't want to look like the women who trying to come up off a man So she offered to pay her half and then he said no, I got it Oh, hey, listen, we go out. I take you out. Don't offer to pay your half After that boom she ain't finna offer no more so A woman can't ruin shivery if a man is shivers And that's who we got to understand. And so this is what I this is what I try to tell y'all to You know, it don't really matter. See me I'm worse of people I respect the bishop But I showed it to my wife too and she's like, yeah, that's a kind of dangerous message right there she that's a dangerous message because You basically telling you basically saying that A woman is is weak and she need a man and she nothing without a man in that So if she's strong or if she tough and then she this then she's not a woman and I was like, I wanted to hear from a woman because that's how I was thinking as a man, but You know, I want to hear but I and I respect, you know, bishop, but at the same time I know everybody house got issues And so like the bible tell we got a sweep around that front door So me personally if I'm a man And I got a daughter And my daughter coming to me and she got this man. I'm feeling what did man come from And then the man say I come from a wife with three kids under 18 No, I play boy No, I play boy. I ain't I don't get down like that, bro I don't get down like that. Listen, you're gonna have to go go to your wife You're gonna have to figure that out You're gonna have to figure that out. You got three kids with your wife under 18 And you got a church. So you lead in the church You lead in the church and you finna get a divorce for what did she cheat on you? No, she ain't cheat on me. I just feel like she don't respect my oh She don't respect you But do she not talk to you a certain way? Like is you a man? Can you communicate with her? No playboy, I ain't gonna be able to do it. I'm not finna approve my daughter Marrying you if you leaving you abandoning a woman So what that tell me you gonna do when times get inconvenient and uncomfortable with you and my daughter What that tell me you gonna do if you meet somebody Who is On a higher level than my daughter like my daughter is on a higher level financially and socially and Status wise then they your ex didn't want me you leaving. No playboy Ain't gonna be able to do it And baby girl, this who you want to be with This this who you want to be with God bless you Don't don't call me ask me for nothing You have to depend on your father in heaven Because if you want to get in the way of a man divorcing his wife Outside of biblical principle without biblical Approval of that right there if you want to get in the way of that go right ahead baby girl I ain't gonna be able to hey god bless you god bless you wrong Do you but I'm gonna be real about that situation with my daughter I'm not finna I ain't finna sugarcoated and I told my son that because they around all white girls at school So I explained to them about how the world is and how what they're gonna have to go through If they decide to go that route if you decide to date outside your race listening It was it was gonna happen and and I'm gonna tell you I don't have a lot of concussion son. So listen Don't be mad with me if you come around here You know and I'll be the said something now Because when I'm 75 years old and I'll be the said something now So I just let my son know just be very real with him just like okay, what you gonna do if you want to do Hey, I'm a lawyer now now he brought that to me But I talked to him about that because I understand that's when it typically happened when you in a predominantly white institution You typically gonna be looking that way or they're gonna be looking at you And so I have to tell him this what you're gonna this was finna come from that This what this gonna be And we break that on down now Is it worth trying to have a relationship with a man and see not this what y'all are to understand this why Ain't no friends in the industry That why you really don't see me charming with people Because I can't really be buddy buddy and be linking up because if I got the filet I got the filet If you're wrong and you're sending a message that's wrong I got to speak out against it because I can't just be buddy buddy And that's what a lot of these guys do You know, they'd rather be friends with a pastor But then this pastor divorces his wife for no real reason But they but they so cool and they friends. I can't do that I can't do that. I can't condone that now. I ain't and now Yeah, I'll shake your hand. How you doing? Hey god blessing all that but brown crew or what you did Now that ain't they ain't what you did because you sent the wrong message on that You sent the wrong message on that And so you have to you know Get what they say well, um Maggie that right there show you the The contradiction in it then because if if if they if they raise like that Then that's what it is. I didn't get to look at that kimber rail video. I heard about it though I need to go back and look at that Is it worth trying to have a relationship with a man who seems to lack the ability To be gentle playful relaxed due to them being raised without affection A stern slash drunk father and blunt mother Uh It could be not worth it, but you got to talk to that man You got to talk to that man and you got to you know Express With that man what you need And how you need to be loved and you need to Figure out how he needs to be loved And then when you do that Then if he won't grow if he won't change because really if a man can talk If a man can talk Then he could grow If a man can't talk he could grow America here he could grow if a man can't hear he could grow So and no man stuck in no rut stuck in where he only stuck there if he want to be stuck there So all of us come from that Like especially if he up cover We all come from some type of something like my daddy wasn't drunk or he was stern He was really raw and You know It is what it is and my mama was real stern But then when I got grown and I'm playing football the coach would cuss you out And then when I'm in when I got in the streets my cousin cussing me out If I made a wrong move out there in the streets my cousin cussed me out And so I come from that same thing but And and then when you in the streets It's kill or be killed. So you out there you ready for whatever coming with it It's it's a zero song game. So you ready for what come with it in your mind Because you know, okay, I'm playing and even though I'm playing small I could lose big and If I lose big That could be my life or my freedom So you put on this shell and you become this person But then even after coming out of that a man still can grow and learn and change his life So you just have to articulate communicate with that man. What do you need and when you do that then Then change um, I had scroll way down to that question because it was uh But yeah, you know, I Undress, you know, she and she get it now. This is the thing for me I just like to call a spade a spade. I'm never mad at nobody hating on nobody I like to call a spade a spade and For me, I just my thing is I call it straight down the middle. So when y'all listen to me enough, you'll hear me say This what we need to do as men and this what women need to Consider and do as women Because I get to sit on the sideline and coach people every day and get to see what's going wrong And doing this all the time. I really I gotta call it down the middle So I can't be on just the woman side and I can't be on just the man side But what's right is right And so that's how I go about this thing, you know, that's how I look at it. And so for me I just what was upsetting me is is I don't I don't like to play with God Like if I if I find out I'm playing with God If I find out I'm playing with God I got to correct. I got to get myself situated quick and One thing I'm just upsetting me about these pastors is the pastors are the voice Of God to the to the people So if a pastor is Miss voicing God or misrepresenting God getting divorced Getting remarried Getting divorced and not talking about the infidelity if it wasn't infidelity is why you got a divorce If what if your reason for divorce don't fall inside of that Bible that you're preaching out of every week Then you send the wrong message and you're in the wrong And you need to shut down and sit up Shut up and sit down Or shut down and sit up that go to and so That's what I don't like It's like no not yeah, I understand you human and all that but if you human then sit in the pew When you stand up there on that stage you taking another caller when you take that call God is sufficient To give you what you need to walk in right standing to be Who you need to be in front of them people? God ain't gonna let you down. God ain't gonna fail you if you leaning on God Now when you leaning on your own understanding And you trying to be he man and you trying to be the man you want to be him Then you're gonna fail But if you getting up there on that pulpit before man and you talking to these people and you leaning on God God ain't gonna let you fall Because if you fall that Mean the idea and the imagery and the belief in God gonna fall in a lot of these babies That's sending the e-pues on milk So the thing is what the adversary do is the adversary is sending all these pastors and preachers sending them all through divorce One by one send them through infidelity and divorce Trying to destroy the home So while we focusing on while we focusing on how Parents raising their daughter in this cruel and cold world We need to be focusing on Why is these men wise? Why is your pastors? divorcing their wives And abandoning their family That's what's breaking up the home That's what's destroying the home because now when pastor divorced his wife And we don't get to hear why pastor divorced his wife Now This gives a license to every man in the pews to divorce their wife Oh pastor upgraded Oh pastor them glowed up Pastor had a wife who was Just a first lady now pastor got a wife that produced tv show Pastor got a wife now they do worldwide tours Pastor got a wife now they got a book deal that got a podcast. Oh pastor them pastor them glowed up. So Uh, baby I know you've been taking care of these kids and everything but uh, I'm at a nurse practitioner Uh, excuse my neck need a look. I'm in a cop right? and uh So, yeah, I don't think we really gonna be able to work out anymore because I don't really like the way you've been talking to me Sometimes and you know, I feel disrespected or masculated and this nurse practitioner You know, she talks to me with respect So that's what pastor giving a license To the members So while we're focusing on how this single mama this single dad or the but this couple raising their daughter time I'm raising them to be me and we need to be focusing on pastor y'all brain y'all but in here for the conference And let's talk about making these marriages work And let's remind you of what the bible say that just because your thing hard in your past And just because you want your piece of new booty But just because you to met this woman this woman to come to you for some coaching and some counseling And you find out that she touching millions That this ain't a reason for you to not start all of a sudden finding fault in your wife like you perfect And for you to walk out on this here relationship and then every man in your church looking up to you Because when I because when when one pastor left his wife I happened to bump into one of the young men from the church Because I had spoke at the church and the young man say man. I lost all respect for pastor He said I lost all respect for pastor He said man, I'd have been around that man and man. I've seen some stuff that you don't even want to know about Man and man ain't who you think he is He said man, and I know his wife. He said I love his wife man. So sweet. So amazing Pastor the voice is white For a come up I said wow Now Who god gonna talk to About that Now god gonna talk to that young man. Hey fix your heart. Don't put your faith in man That's why your faith supposed to be in god. So when man fail you you still got something to believe in but god also gonna Talk to that pastor You accept this calling you got up there on that pool pit You up there preaching my word and then you fall in the sin and then you go and do this right here Come on now Come on now And so this the thing we got to understand that more than him. So should I pay During days um, if y'all married then y'all won But if y'all not married the cost of a man courting a woman and dating a woman again The normal woman is paying for dates. So that's on him because That's the cost of getting to know a woman now when y'all get married y'all want so y'all money go in the same In the same pot basically like a joint He may have a separate you have a separate so y'all can buy y'all stuff for friends and family and each other And it not be known ahead of time or whatever And so, you know That or anonymous Anonymous 1126 popped in here Now see we don't speak names on this here chat now y'all because see This ain't so who y'all talking about now Now we know the bishop because that message but This ain't the only these ain't the only pastors that's doing this, you know This all this like this hundreds of pastors might be thousand nine nine. So Because then people be coming for me and listen One thing y'all want to do it come from me because boy, I come when I'm called and when I come Boy, I'm coming correct. You hit me. I'm ripping to shreds. You hit me Because one thing about the truth that my daddy told me he say son when the truth read down to the ground it's gonna rise again But see one that's why I tell my truth That's why I share all my business. That's why I tell all my mistakes I tell about being a toxic abuse or controlling boyfriend in college when I'm playing football I tell about being a drug dealer. I tell about being a thief I tell about being less than a man in my marriage being toxic jealous controlling I talk about those things to teach about it to teach from the lessons that I learn as I grow because what I believe in Is you got to take your skeletons out of the closet And put clothes on and send them into the field to work for you What I mean by that is you got to turn your message into your message You got to use your story for God's glory your test got to become your testimony And see a lot of time we want to hide skeletons Ride off into the sunset like a knight in shining armor Build all this life get all the accolade look all beautiful and then right before we die Somebody come tell all our business And ruin your legacy No, tell about your struggles. Tell about your flaw Tell about your mistake And and I and I don't put nobody above God I don't put nobody above God So we talked about that I have to lose him Husband the kovat not look we're gonna go and hit this 10 minute mark We're gonna hit the three hour mark I ain't gonna go long enough to start and get a headache and why bring me some to eat from home where thirsty I've been on here two hours great I have to lose my husband and co with my My cousin introduced me to a toxic guy Listen to your advice. I let him go. Do you think she was genuine or working from bad intentions? She probably know no better She probably know no better Because one thing I realized is we don't understand each other men don't understand women and women don't understand men And that's why we go against each other so much because You try to conquer What you don't understand or you hate what you don't understand the same reason why we see the race relations When one race try to control another because they fear that race they don't understand that race They don't they they could recognize the power they could recognize the genes they could recognize the skill Talent the god given ability but they fear them and they fear if that if I just let you soar You're gonna end up soaring above me. So let me keep you under me. Let me control and so you know You got to realize that sometimes we just don't understand each other make six figure make six figure lots of savings and the coaching business workout Dress well and 100 natural Men often ask for my number in public, but don't call or inconsistent How can I stay hopeful about dating? You don't need to be hopeful about dating You need to be real about your present. So what that mean is you make six figures You got a lot of savings and you got a coaching business You need to focus 100 on that and realize that any man that gets your numb and fall through That's because You in a place of building And getting legs up under what you're doing and you get these legs up under what you're doing and that's what you focus on And see this is the thing like she said right here Then the men are trophies for their trans get Transgressions while the wife is put away quietly. That's a whole problem. That's what she's saying and see this is the thing right here This is the thing As men, we have to accept more 100 percent responsibility for our life So if I make my wife leave me She deserves half Alamona and spouse support all of that She deserves half because I asked her to sign a commitment with me till death do us part if I leave my wife Because I'm just ready to go. I feel like this or that I didn't pay attention to her Who she was before I married her that's on me I need to pay a price for that Because that's a part of life how I'm gonna learn otherwise. I'm gonna go through a second and third and fourth divorce And so that's what you got to realize and um And so that's why I tell that why I tell these men I say listen, you know I say I I can't respect it man Like when my wife come to me and say listen, this what you doing to me and this how it's making me feel Boy, I'll follow my needs before God And I cry And I do everything I got to do to grow and change Because if I because if I say, you know what that she ain't making that up. I'm feeling valid I got to grow and I got to change Because I got to make this whole thing work because I made a covenant before God I ain't been to say why I say that's how you feel. I don't care Leave it. I'm stressed out. I got stressed. I'm paying all these bills I'm doing that. No, I don't take that approach. I could take that approach Flipping on them make her feel bad. You know, I don't try that too But then when you really walk them with the Lord God gonna say listen, I put this on your shoulders Your shoulders is broader for a reason You call yourself and I call you the head of the household for a reason The leader accept responsibility Leadership is service leadership is servant hood It is not dictatorship My son died on a cross for you To show you what leadership looked like Crucify your ego Crucify your arrogance die out to yourself Love your wife The right way and when God say that I say man listen Man listen I got to do right I got to do right and so That's why I try to tell these men and I'm gonna tell you listen. They don't talk to me The God don't talk to me. They know me now I was just telling to see if you home. I got a four more minutes. They're hanging up They know me now, but see that and one thing I know about us as men is we all flawed We all wrong, but who willing to grow? Who willing to grow? What did you know? Why are you standing there listening? Huh? Okay, go on Throw it off the message now I like them shorts. Yeah, I don't know You and I like they paint Yeah, they they pass the finger test from school Oh, they cotton Okay Hey, you put that burger put that burger for 10 seconds for me 10 second microwave I got three minutes left All right, we're going ahead now late So why is he? And so now listen to him lost my whole train of thought Now see sometimes apocera can you people you know? And so listen, I had come to play I say listen, I'm finna do the work Because wherever you lie out at that what the devil gonna test you at you don't think the devil tests me and my wife my marriage You don't think people out here speculating and got rumors and spreading rumors and oh, they did this and oh They did that he said this she said that I think this I did don't nobody know nothing But one thing you're gonna know is if we together we not And so this what the thing is these men all the the pastors i'm talking about they all know me I don't spoke at they church So see y'all a lot of y'all think that Oh, Tony just talking because he hate because he not on they level and he's not on tv He's not this and that no i'm talking about pastor. I spoke at they church Sat down with them had lunch had dinner. I know these men But one thing about me. I'm not in no boys club. I'm in god's club I'm in god's club. Anybody could get it. Yeah, I'm gonna have grace. Yeah, I'm gonna have that but but for me to Be okay with it. I need to The sermon of what happened about your marriage need to go viral just like the sermon of You giving advice If you is a pastor A christian man Not even a pastor and you go through a divorce and you know that we is not supposed to be divorcing but for a certain situation It need to be explained what happened Because the people need to know Otherwise men sit not down. You're gonna be leaving. They why? uh britney now um britney I went through the through the website like timefakebus.com and they have on there like you know Get a suite or get luxury box or something like that But I had mine for some years now And they said they sold out because you got tom brady. They said they sold out But um, I'm gonna tell you now. It's not a smart expense. I did it I got me a box box now for those not for the people in my year coaching program. I got a year pro They invited actually to the box the watch tom brady play them in a gas Them tickets per ticket if you had to buy it offline that ticket of course you five thousand So I'm giving my clients $10,000 value That's really what I got it for just to be a blessing to people Because I only got a family of four and a lot of games only I could go So I got nine other tickets that I could give away So I'm in there with other families other people that I invite just to let people taste You know just something different let people see something different I do it too for the kids for my son's friends and other kids my homeboys friends I mean kids just so they could see like man this man country Ain't got a college degree Ain't got this ain't got that and this man On the hill level Up here got him a suite at the nfl stadium. That's why I do that Really just to be a blessing But you got to sign a contract like you buy in a house But then after that I think I'm gonna get on up out of that and the money I'm spending on that suite I'm spending that on traveling In the world it's like seen it done it. I ain't got to have it forever. It ain't no legacy thing Teen go back down get trash again in five ten years. I'll buy back in if I want to but you know Joy you might get to come on in there one time because you're in the bless tribe one of these day I'm gonna do a bless tribe meet up in there Gang that my family can't come Be first come first third or I'm gonna bless tribe now it'll be it got it might be the patreon first and uh That because of patreon, you know, there's some patrons on patreon that's helping me produce the the shows y'all watching and stuff It's we got some patrons. I think I've seen a day 19 people It's supporting on patreon at $50 a month. That is insane. That is insane. Stacey. God bless you Bless the t-west god bless you now. Hey, I got to go. It's three out one minute Told my wife I was gonna go and get going get on off of him Let me uh, uh-oh I ain't see this one. Kathleen. I apologize. Let me scroll through here. Make sure you miss Kathleen I apologize Hey, y'all don't put no more paid questions in the night If I miss you, please forgive me that that that That chat went crazy. I'm just scrolling through here real quick. Make sure Kathleen they're the only one I miss I got I don't we now don't know what to do He is being distant Like all these women picks on ig hurry First thing you need to do is you need to set responsibility But what you did That wasn't an alcohol don't be out here acting like jaymond fox. Let me go in the After after after hall That's why he said that why he made that song because that's what the women out there in hollywood be doing blaming on alcohol First you need to set responsibility. That's your first step one or alcohol You were hiding the bridges Plopped on down Did what you did We won't mend except responsibility Women got to set responsibility to You want me and the zip they pants up women got to keep their pants zipped up too I got my shirt on the um tonic gas can store Close your legs Y'all gonna get that shirt. Oh, I forgot to tell y'all a bunch of new merchandise on the New shirts. I totally forgot. I totally forgot. It's been about a week now I think that's the website So since you got to understand that And now with the man getting bested i'ma tell you it could be one of a million reasons. I don't even want to speculate The number one reason is it's another woman. It's a new woman or back to his ex The number two reason the experience was not what he Was hoping it was going to be That one right there could make you feel a little down about yourself But that's why I didn't want to say that one, but I want to be real with you But that's also The reason why I tell y'all do not sleep with no man Because when a man don't love you You y'all got to realize Any little thing as a woman you can have an ingrown right there between your thigh And that there you can have a little ingrown and it just could look like cookie monster And if it looked like cookie monster That man will leave you it just He got a he got a weak stomach You could just your ph could be off a little bit and that ph off and just got Just a look just a little quick hint In in any two, you know, it ain't too bad, but it just He'll leave you he done Oh, the new merchandise you got to scroll down They probably We need to probably upgrade and get the new up to the top But you got to scroll down got my don't cheat the grind shirts on there be bold love yourself Count your blessings. Oh got my separation before elevation shirt on there Got the pillars on there got the mugs on there. Shout out to my assistant, don't you? I don't know where she at. I ain't been able to reach it She might have quit on because I'd be talking about on here But um, listen to me That's the thing A man will leave you for anything He's seen some saw a birthmark because he don't love you the benefit of waiting is that you fall in love Because the largest sexual organ is the mind. So when you fall in love and you come together I know a man left for one because she had a black line on the thumb From like a jam finger. He left her for that Men can be very very picky Very picky. It's almost like if a man got a uh Tooth growing in and he got you know, the shark tooth right there and he go to smile you might First day it might catch up on you say, well, I don't like a smile. I don't like a tea That's why some women say oh, he got to have a good smile It's picky as a woman could be a man could be just as picky if not more picky And so it could be one little thing and The man say, you know what? It also could be a test Because he could say if a woman sleep with me inside of three months She's not my wife. If a woman sleep with me inside of six months. She's not my wife We you never know what's kind of stipulations and stuff that man got in his mind Hey, this Tony gasses god bless you if you have not signed up for the singles class. It is tomorrow Lord will and we'll get to have some q&a on there But we're going to have a deep dive message if you already took one of the singles thing you might not need it But you know me. I don't use no card So the lord going to give me some each time and it might be different in the last time. So That's on Tony gassing academy.com and it is called Saturday school and every free Saturday I get I'm going to do a Saturday school and they're going to be on Different topics one on might be on cryptocurrency Not really well, it might be if I meet a crypto expert or it might be on taxes. It might be on Relationships. It might be on LLCs. I'm just going to be doing Saturday school And because I'm saying this live not everybody's going to be doing Saturday school And so we're going to have a bunch of Saturday school But it's not the tension you learning it growing And so y'all will be ready Saturday school is $25 Because for one, I don't want no bunch of people on there Two, I want people on there to be the made of investment and then three It's also a part of what I do as virtual learning. So instead of me traveling for seminars These are my virtual seminars the way I'm home the way I could work with y'all for two hours and then Walk out my office and be with my family. So this is my new business model that I have changed that I started before COVID hit actually and then COVID hit that's let me know that was what God showed me Because he saw what was coming and I didn't know it was coming Hey, God bless y'all. I'll see y'all tomorrow on the singles for the singles Sing along there. God bless you. We'll talk soon