 My name is Selvaknin, and I am the author of Maliglantsek Lavov, Narcissism Revisited. The narcissist is goal-orientated. Like a sophisticated cruise missile, the narcissist hones in on sources of narcissistic supply. He then proceeds to conquer them, condition and mold them, and extract from them attention, adulation, admiration and affirmation. This process demands the persistent investment of inordinate amounts of energy and time. The narcissist appears to be hell-bent, obsessed, smitten and addicted to the pursuit of his sources of supply. Yet a curious transformation occurs once he has secured and chained his sources. Once he has shackled them, domesticated them, conditioned them. The narcissist, often abruptly, suddenly loses all interest. It is as though having acquired his sources of supply, the narcissist takes them for granted. He treats them as he would in animate objects, devoid of will and unable to free themselves from his mesmerizing mental grip. Many sources of supply weighed down by the attiring relationship with the narcissist. Many of these sources break loose and escape his venomous influence. The delusion that the narcissist harbors that he is in total control crumbles as the narcissist is abandoned time and again by spouses, maids, friends and colleagues, but he does not learn a lesson from it. It is then, when the loss is tangible, that the narcissist regains his former zeal and erstwhile fervor. He courts a long-neglected life, invests himself in a hated job, befriends spurned colleagues and gulfs with a natural warmth and empathy of ended friends. It is very common, for instance, for the narcissist to rediscover the joy of sex with an adulterous partner. It is as though being cheated by his wife or husband rekindles in the narcissist a competitive urge, a possessive streak and a perverted carnal pleasure. The narcissist professes to be shocked by the untoward behavior of a hitherto faithful spouse, a loyal friend or a patient neighbor. He says, whatever happened to them, he wonders, what brought this on? Why did his wife cheat on him? Why did his colleagues demand his resignation? Why did his neighbor turn violent all of a sudden? The narcissist is genuinely puzzled, very much as you would if your personal computer refused to obey your instructions for no good reason. Aware of impending loss and doom, the narcissist embarks on a charm offensive, upgrading the most irresistible, brilliant, captivating, titillating, promising and thrilling aspects of his false self. The aim is to re-acquire that which has been forfeited to neglect any difference, to rebuild relationships ruined by contempt and abuse, and thus to regain the mislead found of narcissistic supply. Needless to add that once these targets are re-acquired or achieved, the narcissist reverts to old form and goes back to being impatient, abusive, negligent, emotionally absent, indifferent, until another round of narcissists' looms reanimates the narcissist. And this is what the narcissist is, a said, repetitive automaton, forever imprisoned by his own non-existence, by his need for others and his hatred and loathing of them. Torn apart by these conflicting emotions, the narcissist appears to be a deranged automatic machine.