 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the holy book وما أصوابكم من مصيبة فَبِما كَسَبَتْ أَيْدِيْكُمْ And no trouble, no calamity befalls you, but it is because of your own deeds. Okay, my own deeds? Hmm Why? Still why? The verse continues, the verse says And he pardons a lot He is merciful, he says you have done things that you should not have done But I have made mercy obligatory upon me كتب ربكم على نفسه الرحمة Your Lord has made mercy obligatory upon himself. So he says I will send a moseeba. I will send troubles And then as a result of that وَيَعْفُواْ عَنْ كَثِيرْ I'll wash away your sins It is better to go through some calamities in this life than to pay for our deeds in the After life and so he tests us He says I'm going to test you. I will send the moseeba. I will send the troubles and test you Does he say that? Yes, he says that in the holy book He says Normally we are going to test you with hope, with fear, with hunger, with loss of wealth, with loss of lives, and with loss of crops and fruit These are the example of griefs we have Hope we will discuss in the next section of this lecture وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُمْ بِشَيْئِمْ مِنَ الْخَوْفِ We will discuss after this And after that Hunger Some people he tests with real hunger But people like you and me What does hunger mean for us? Maybe losing our job Maybe one of the two spouses loses His or her job نَقْصَمْ مِنَ الْأَمْوَالْ لَسْفْ وَالْفْ What happens when the house prices go down? The equity loss For example, you have invested in stocks, you lost a lot of money After that Loss of lives God forbid Sometimes may Allah protect all of you All the believers and their families But sometimes people do lose Loved ones Source of grief A reason for grieving And then with Samarat, crops and fruit That can also be linked to the financial situation So our worries can be about our finances Or the loss of our loved ones Or sometimes we also have grieves about Having married someone we should not have married Like my friend has, the story I told you in the beginning All these things How can we deal with them? The basic principle Everything happens for a reason Number one It does Initially we will just recognize it rationally here It takes a long time to imprint it on our souls It will just be a mental exercise initially But we have to keep reminding ourselves Everything happens for a reason Everything happens for a reason Day in and day out The second principle That every moussiba comes To wash away our sins Therefore the Holy Prophet peace be upon him says That a believer has twitch of a vein Or a scratch of a thorn But it washes away some of his sins We also have a hadith that fever Having fever for one night Washes away 70 sins This is all mercy of Allah SWT I know there are people That when they are walking around in the house And they hurt their pinky And it hurts badly They do not say Or utter some silly or vulgar words Which is very common sadly nowadays They say Alhamdulillah That Allah has surely washed away some of my sins Through that little pinky So this was the principle number two And the third thing The verse in which Allah SWT says That surely we are going to test you With hunger and loss of wealth and so on It continues Fabashir Swabireen And give glad tidings to the patient ones The third principle is coming now Fabashir Swabireen Al-Ladina If they are in trouble Say Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'un So give glad tidings to the patient ones That when a calamity or trouble befalls them They say Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'un The Amirul-Mu'mineen said this for the first time When he heard the news of the martyrdom of Jathar Qayyar He said Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'un That we often recite When we hear the news of death But this has the whole faith hidden in it It has beauties of our faith It has depth If we look into it Inna Lillahi This Lih Laam Means Property Possession Lahu Maafis Samawati Wa Maafil Ard In the Arabic language when they use this Laam Lih It means something is a possession of someone Inna Lillahi We are the property of Allah He owns us He is our master He is the owner of everything And to him shall we return So when he owns everything And he is always He is all knowledgeable Then he can give anything to anyone anytime And he can take it back From anyone anytime That is the third principle So remember it Number one Everything happens for a reason It's a cliche statement But true True statement That we have to remind ourselves Day in and day out Number two Allah SWT sends problems and troubles So that he washes away our sins Number three We have to be patient Because everything is owned By Allah SWT There is a wisdom behind Everything that happens to us But it is easier said than done It's very easy for me to tell you all these stories And tell you all these principles And then you would say to me Maulana, give me a break This is all theory How to deal with griefs and pains