 Lisa writes question when is it too soon to jump the gun for discussing future plans with each other? When is it too soon? I Think by the time you start to have sex with someone and you're having regular sex with someone I think it's really important to establish. Are you and an exclusive monogamous and exclusive relationship? I would certainly have that conversation before the penis goes inside the vagina And certainly afterwards I'd want to get some clarity on what does commitment look like to each other I believe asking these questions very early on and being intentional So once you've established that you both decided what commitment looks like for you then you start being Intentional about creating that Ladies it's listen. We don't have time to fuck around You don't have time to fuck around waiting years for a guy to make up his mind now I'm not suggesting that you have to move in together or give each other money or you know Be there for each other when you're sick right from the first week of meeting someone But I would certainly be more intentional in the process by expressing yourself by saying look This is what I want if you don't want the same thing. That's okay I'm not saying you have to want it with me But I would certainly say that by the time you get to three months into a Relationship you should have an idea of whether or not you're genuinely boyfriend and girlfriend with one another and whether or not you want Long-term partnership now here's where it gets really fucking tricky Most of you don't know what partnership looks like for one another you ladies are suckling on the Fantasy nipple hair you are sucking on the fantasy nipple You're not thinking of the mechanics coming back to the book eight dates look at there's a the things that talk about on this book Is what does trust and commitment look like? addressing conflicts Being you know sex and intimacy the cost of money in other words work and money in relationship Room to grow family fun and adventure Growth and spirituality and then what you want in a relationship ladies stop fucking around Expecting the men to know this If you want listen the right guy is going to appreciate this and let me tell you I get so many emails on a regular basis from women reaching out to me thanking me because they purchased two copies of this book with Boyfriends that they've been together with three months six months a year and they start reading and the boyfriend Actually appreciates it. We men need instructions So make it simple for us the right guy is gonna lean in and the wrong guy is gonna run away He's gonna run away. He's gonna run away. He's gonna run away The wrong guy will run away You want the wrong guy to run away because the right guy is going to lean in but Jonathan all the other dating coaches Tell me never never never ever do this fuck that shit If that advice works so great, why are people so fucking miserable out there? I'm here to say it like I said earlier Be radically honest ask better questions and if you need some support with that check out the link to a free discovery Call with me my area of expertise. I mean I just a client just hired me today It's because I teach you how to determine true compatibility coming back to my relationship iceberg How to determine true compatibility? compatibility Number two how to ask the right questions even on the first phone call how to ask better questions Number three how to vet for emotional maturity. Yeah, you got a vet for this shit because most human beings are rather dysfunctional dysfunctional yourself included and number four this helps in heighten your Intuition and when your intuition is running on all cylinders look out You'll be able to spot the right guys and the wrong guys very quickly. So that's my invitation for all of you So coming back to that question Well, anyway, thanks so much for that I forgot who asked that question Lisa thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it