 the question to ask yourself is who taught you that their needs were more important than yours? Being a people pleaser. I'd love to unpack this and give some advice to those in our audience who are struggling with this pattern that they've now recognized of putting others' wants and needs ahead of their own of not even recognizing your own wants and needs in your relationships. Because I think it's so common that what people are doing when they're people pleasing is I always say the question to ask yourself is who taught you that their needs were more important than yours because that's exactly what people pleasing is. It's that you were taught early on that somebody else's comfort was more important than your comfort and then you go into adulthood and you are always wanting to take care of somebody else's comfort over your own. That's what people pleasing is. It's not like I'm really altruistic and I like to help people. I have this pattern of being terrified of not taking care of somebody else's comfort because I was taught that their comfort is so much more important than mine.