 I used to wear hijab. I don't anymore due to past trauma. I've been contemplating where I can get again But I have dealt with the past sexual assaults and other trauma It's difficult to reconcile the trauma with my Dean and hijab Things within the Dean can be triggering while I try while I try to work past it Your advice subhan Allah This is something I always say to myself and we all have to do this May Allah make us always keys for khayr and not keys for the opposite obviously, I mean I think Allahu ala is that this person The trauma came from a religious person Or quote-unquote practicing person Allah knows and this is where the trauma is. This is very difficult situation There's no answer will be given in a one minute for this We need to talk that this person needs definitely counseling professional counseling um to get over the trauma and of course rania is way more Professional than me and knowledgeable in this case, but you need to have counseling to get over the trauma itself first Yes, the trauma is related to religion, but also that you have the trauma in there So this needs to be taken care of and then the second thing is The hijab related to that and we need to dig into it. Why is that? But if I want to just give a general answer and it's probably not going to be enough for that person But for everybody This is what I will say always when you have a hard time forgiving someone Which we all have I always remind myself of this how many times I have disobeyed Allah How many majors since I have committed major I'm not talking about minor my son And everybody say the same question But he still feed me And he still give me a roof and he's still waiting for me to say astaghfirullah And he still wants me to go to jannah Why I can't do it if you think this way It will the the road for forgiveness will be much easier And there is a dua in the quran actually which happened as a Sayed na'umar used it later on in his khilafah is rabbana la ta'a fae quloobina ghillal lathina aminu You know Allah, don't put in our hearts Any ill-feeling grudges hate to any of the believers Any time you look at someone and that's someone she or he have hurted you. Allah knows what they did Say that dua It works wonder Because who is going to clear your heart? It's only Allah subhanata But that person definitely needs way more than what I just said may Allah subhanata make a lot of dua to everybody And you make dua for yourself that Allah subhanata heal you healing is is is not easy Subhanallah unless you're really connected with Allah subhanata You're really at that level where you don't see anything, but you see Allah subhanata may Allah make it easy for them So I just It's in surat al-hasher So it's a half of a ayah It's for lathina ja'umin baadihi mea quloona It's rabbana la taa ja'al fae quloobina ghillal lathina aminu Rabbana inna ka raoof al raheem. Ya Allah don't put in our hearts ill-feeling Ghill is is hatred with anger Both lathina aminu towards the believers. So that tells you a believer can hurt you and can lead to a Hatred in your heart and then you say rabbana inna ka raoof al raheem You are all merciful And so I want him to forgive me then I need to do it with other people. It's in I will check the number I'll give it to you. I'm sorry I attend It's the du'a is in the middle of the verse. It's not the beginning of the verse So we're Actually trying dealing with the case where it's it's not from a Muslim person at all So there's a different there's there's two points in the quran or Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talks about hijab One of it in surat al-noor where it's talking about modesty and in surat al-hazab It actually talks about identity and I think it's important to distinguish the two because if they're like i'm just gonna Actually, Dania Mugat had did research about this the the spikes in islamophobia are actually during presidential elections It's not actually related to Terrorist attacks or anything like this because it is more about the rhetoric and my my sister at the time when The election was going on back in 2015 2016. She lived in kansas. She has four kids The answer to her I think is different from an answer to me. I don't have any kids. This is my job I live on a college campus like you you do have to use some judgment if the idea is fear And if that is the case because you would do have you do have responsibility to protect your own life like this is This is part of our sharia But even within that because I I feel like there's a fear because hijab affects our identity Make sure that if like like you can tie it backwards you can wear a cap You can do so many different things because ultimately at the end of the day I need to face Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and say I did my best And because this affects our identity may Allah protect us A lot of the times I see someone that would we take off their hijab and feel like that was what was holding them And then it feels like everything kind of just let go So how do I then maintain things and collect them? Because modesty in and of itself is one of is a is a part of our faith And it sometimes is embodied in hijab, but it's embodied in so many different other ways as well And I think that's important to just to know that Um, I had another it's past my bedtime guys. I'm sorry No, this was the other thing It really really frustrates me in the muslim community when women are told you wear hijab so you don't attract the men This is our act of worship How they make it about them Like I just I don't Hijab is our act of worship to remember we're more important spiritually than we are physically Your intention and it is important because people in society tell us this is based on your value. We're like, no, no I'm more valuable because Allah said I'm valuable And this is our act of worship. So your intention in it is important the there's a There's a lot of victim blaming that really makes me mad The anytime there is these like these unfortunate incidents like what was she wearing? Who freaking cares? She's not the one that perpetrated a crime And it just really really really makes me mad when people try to associate those two things We really have to work hard to disassociate those two things because they're idiots online that are seeing these things And is we have to make sure that we are actually correcting those narratives and that we do actually have healthy Relationships with our bodies and healthy relationships with our hijab and we feel spiritually uplifted wearing our hijab And when someone is struggling with their muslim identity That we have grace with them of like you tell me what's going on with you spiritually I remember I had a student that came to me and she said I haven't prayed in three months. Do I take off my hijab? I feel like a hypocrite And I was like really I think you should start praying. I don't think you should take off your hijab They're two separate acts of worship. You don't know what brings you back to Allah And can you imagine someone be like well if you didn't pray the you might as well not pray honest That doesn't make sense You do as much as you can and Allah swt the hadith the prophet says Just really fill as many of the gaps as you can get as close as you can None of us are making it to jinnah because they did it all Nobody We make it to jinnah because Allah is merciful Including the prophet like really can anyone worship like him? He said Subhanallah, you know, nobody's deserving. Allah is generous Sorry, I know I went on a rant, but I just May Allah protect us all