 If you feel wounded, and hurt, and cut, and bleeding, and we all do in life, what we need you to do is to hang on a little bit. We want you to wait before you write the post and press send, because we can tell you're still very hurt. Being hurt isn't a crime, but the problem with it is when you are wounded, and it's fresh and open, the chances are you'll bleed all over people who have nothing to do with it. Allow time for your pain and suffering. Allow time for that to move beyond hurt and pain to becoming an active service. We'd rather read your memoirs than your diaries.