 Hey all she was seven. Yes. My voice is a mess. I'm sorry I'm not sick. I just my throat was irritated by something yesterday outside some stuff fell out of a tree and Held it by accident and here I am. Okay, so someone asked me to do a video topic They asked me a question I'm gonna put this in my mouth so stop so bad They asked me a question. They're living boyfriend It's hanging out too much with Some friends that she doesn't like One guy in particular that she does not like In the past this guy has influenced her boyfriend to move out And he didn't even discuss it with her and she just like came home one day and he was gone packed all this stuff But then he came back later but her concern is That she didn't like this guy. He has influence over her boyfriend and He just so happens to be gay And his other two friends are straight. She doesn't want him hanging around him and She also says that she knows it's wrong, but She likes to be with her boyfriend 24 hours a day seven days a week She doesn't like to be alone or lonely. She wants to be with him all the time and He leaves her a lot to go out hang out with these guys and she'll call him and he won't come back And she'll nag him the whole time that he's gone on the phone and she knows that she Did shouldn't be doing that But she just wants to be with him And plus she's concerned about this other guy that has this influence on him who's gay, okay? Where she lives she doesn't have any like friends to hang out with or you know She didn't have her own, you know group of friends to hang out with so she's kind of left by herself And she's an attractive woman. So that's not about you know looks or anything So she wants to know my advice that I'll give to her and how to stop him from hanging out with these friends What should she do and if it ever happened to me like in my in my past In relationship if it's long term like if you've been with this person for you like a long time They want to hang out with their friends and not you and they want to hang about like have boys night or whatever If you're not married, you can't really stop them from doing what they want to do. They're gonna do it anyway They don't want to feel like they're controlled or trapped and sometimes they just want to get away from you Because if you with somebody all the time you can't miss them. You can't appreciate them. You can't you know Sometimes it's just too much and you need space and Was younger I was like that I was just like that when I was younger I wanted to be around my boyfriend all the time I didn't care about hobbies. I didn't care about other people. I just want to be with them, right? That's sweet but Men don't think like women Men don't think like that. They need space They need all that stuff. They need To be able to do what they want to do. They don't want to be smothered their feelings are not as Emotional as yours, you know So they're not going to be wanting to do that with you 24-7 Now the whole issue with the gay friend who has influence over him, I wouldn't trust that I wouldn't trust it at all because First of all, why is why are two straight guys hanging out with the gay guy? Together at a bar and why is the gay guy giving Your boyfriend the relationship advice There could be some hidden agenda there on his side of things and There's nothing wrong with having gay friends but if this person has a strong influence over your boyfriend and can get him to move out of your apartment and Who hangs around him who doesn't like I mean there's something there. He has a crush on your man. Okay? He might be cool. He might be nice. He might be buying your man drinks He might be doing all kind of stuff that you can't see because you're not there So you might just have to put the law down Okay Sometimes you gotta put the law down And she also said that she gets so mad and angry and says bad things to him and makes him cry and all that kind of stuff too Which is funny because you know I used to do the same thing you know when men start paying attention to you and you stop nagging when you stop calling You stop talking When you ignore them When you don't even text or call them anymore you can live in the same house as somebody If you don't care what time they come in if you don't ask where they're going who they're going with If you don't care anymore, and you just stop asking and you just stop everything you don't call you don't text You don't ask them where he's been when he gets home. You just click the TV You just lay on the couch and watch TV. You just go. Hey And you just stop do this for like a week Okay, it's gonna be hard if you're used to nagging him all the time and wanting to be with him all the time and Yelling at him all the time for hanging out all together and he's gonna stop and notice this Why is she yelling at me anymore? Why doesn't she ask me where I've been? Why doesn't she care? What's going on? You know This is gonna get his attention the nagging the yelling the Making him cry. That's just gonna make him want to go out more There's a song. I think it's about our killing. It's called when a woman's fed up. There's nothing you can do about it The first time that a woman is fed up is that she will stop nagging you and calling you and texting you He has to know you're serious because as long as you are emotionally involved He knows he's got you and that he didn't have to change Once you stop being emotionally involved He's going to notice He's gonna say oh my god, she's a call me in three hours. She usually blows up my phone Oh my god, she has a text me all day and it's almost tomorrow Or you know, I'm I've been out for five hours and she hasn't even texted me once to ask me where I was who I was with What is she doing now? He's gonna be wondering about you now his mind is on you Okay, nice minds on you. What is she doing? Maybe she went somewhere. Maybe she's meeting somebody else Maybe she's like found another man Maybe she found a friend. Maybe She had a car accident. Let me call her, you know You have to stop everything Give him a reason to think about you give him a reason to miss you give him space to wonder where you are Make his mind not focus on his friends, but why you're not calling Okay, that's the good thing about being crazy and Calling and blowing up people's phones and wanting to be with them all the time when you stop cold turkey altogether It will get their attention quick and when he comes home He's like, you know, you've been distant lately. How come you never call me or text me and ask me where I've been or whatever You just say well cuz I don't care anymore. He's gonna be like what do you mean? You don't care you know, you're a grown man. You could do what you want to do You can hang out with whoever you want to hang out with you know, I'm not gonna stop you anymore That's what's making if that's what makes you happy to do it. I Really don't have anything to say about it anymore. You know exactly how I feel about it and you ignore it So that tells me that you don't value my opinion. So just go do your thing. I'm fine. I'm gonna do you know I'll be fine. Don't worry about me when the girl says don't worry about me worry about her It's good to go hang out with your friends. I don't care, you know, they be like, okay And he'll go hang out with his friend, you sure you want me to bring something back, huh? You know, he's gonna be all concerned now And it's no don't worry about it. I'm gonna go grab something to eat You know, I'll go out and give me something to eat. What do you mean? You're gonna go out and get you something to eat Where are you gonna go? I don't know You just be like I knew it with them. I don't know like hurry up Like I don't know I'll figure it out. Don't worry about it. Okay Well, we're gonna be then he's gonna start volunteering information Well, we're gonna be at such-and-such and I probably be home about 10. I'm like, okay. Well, whatever And then he'll walk out the door and the next time they'll be like, well So what did you go do now he's asking about you and like I don't know Why do I forgot the name of the place, you know And they'll be like, okay. Well, I'm going to go hang out and I'll be back and then this time you'll be back earlier Okay, I'll be back around nine or it's just like, you know, it you don't have to come home early for me Don't worry about it. Go do what you do I'm like, okay Well, what are you gonna do? I'm like, I know what I'm gonna do. I'll figure it out. You know, oh, you know But if I go but and then you'll say it's like but I'm probably not gonna do anything. I'm just probably gonna lay around the house or whatever and relax But you go ahead and you go have fun Just hit like that and then like with the next time They're really gonna start to want to talk to you. They're gonna be like, okay So what's going on? Why aren't you, you know, how come you ever yell at me for hanging it out and blah blah blah blah blah blah You haven't said anything you haven't cared that I come in late You know, are you you still love me? Are you still into me? And I'm like, yeah, I still love you. What do you mean? Because last week you were just all over me and nagging me and calling me 50 times a day now You don't call me at all, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, well, I just got tired You're not answering the phone or caring what I was saying, you know, I just got tired of it Just, you know, once you do something over and over and over you don't get the response You want you just you get what you give up use the words give up. You just give up And I'm like, huh. And so he's gonna start to feel how you feel He's gonna go really. Yeah, okay and so, you know and then like He's gonna start pulling back. He's gonna start spending more time with you. He's gonna be like, yeah You're right. I do hang out too much. You know, I didn't realize how much I hung out Plus the guys are always like why you're always checking your phone and Well, your girl has a call in two hours. That's a world record. I wonder what she's doing now They're making him paranoid that you're doing something because you haven't called him So you kind of you kind of just cut back all the way to get his attention And that fails If he's still gonna do what are you gonna do and leave you at home and not even ask about or care Then you know what? You tell him Well, I'm gonna start hanging out too Every night that you go out I'm gonna go out and I'm gonna go out by myself Because I don't have any friends and I like being alone. So the solution to our problem to say our problem It's when you go out to go out And if you go out when he goes out, he's gonna be paranoid That you're gonna meet somebody better than him And he's gonna stop hanging out with his friends and he's gonna start hanging out with you again If you put that in his mind that you go start hanging out alone He is going to fear that you are gonna meet a better man than him and dump And he's not gonna if he really wants to be with you he's not gonna let that happen You know and then like if you want to you know find out if he's bisexual or gay or whatever You just need to ask him look I Know you're close with your friend. I know he's gay, but don't you think he has a crush on you? don't you think that It's wrong for you to lead him on and be there Knowing that he has a crush on you and you're supposedly say supposedly you're supposedly straight What do you mean it's supposedly well, I don't know because you spend more time with him than you do me and Leave it like that And say well, I'm going out. So y'all have fun and just go out And see what happens You know don't play a victim Play Someone with a strategic plan and see what happens and Let me know how it goes try it. Let me know how it goes and I'll see y'all later All right. Oh help the help her answer answer what you think she should do in the comments y'all. Okay. Bye