 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd so today We're going to be talking about a subject that many of you requested that I talk about and that's how to keep her as Interested in you interested and invested as you are and interested and invested to her Okay, so we want to make sure that the girls that we're talking to that we're into are Interested in us. Okay, so let's say you're dating a girl or maybe you just started seeing a girl How do you make sure that this person is going to be into you? Or at least just as interested in you as you are into them So I'm gonna be talking about how to do this and then I'm also gonna be talking about how to do it with in like a short-term scenario And like a long-term relationship. Okay, how do you keep things going and how do you make sure? She's really invested in you so the first thing that I'm gonna talk about before I get into this is the product That I'm coming out with Obviously you guys have seen in a couple videos that I've talked about this But if you want to get notified about it want to know when it's coming out then sign up below There's a link click on the link fill it out And then you'll also be in part of the actual creation process of it You know, I'm looking for more topics to cover So whatever people put there I will do. Okay. Thanks a lot you guys So first of all, we're going to be covering the question that I got So how do you get her as invested as you are? Well, I think the way that this question is asked is You know, you can tell that this guy hasn't doesn't have a whole lot of experience If you are trying to get her as invested as you are like trying to play this do-si-do game It's not like I need to do these things and she's gonna be more invested in me it's more of kind of a way that you live your life and The way that I live my life is I go about doing the things that I want to do and I invite people in and the people That stay or the people that I end up dating or the people that I end up sleeping with Now this is something that a lot of guys when they're first start out that they don't really get Typically the girls that they are interested in aren't as interested in them as they are Into the girl. So if you are in this position, you find yourself this happening to you a lot Try to change things up a little bit lead more and see who's following you Typically if you're chasing a girl and you're trying to get her interested in you Yeah, sure us a lot of times you can get the date and I do recommend pursuing a woman But you're pursuing her in a way where you're inviting her to come be a part of you know Like yeah, you imagine yourself as the captain of a ship You're the captain and you're inviting her to come on board and you continually do this to get in again You can get a bigger boat. You can get all sorts of different stuff at the end of the day You're steering the ship But if you start breaking your back try and do what she wants to do a lot of the time and a little bit of negotiation Is fine like that's okay. That's normally you should be doing that in a relationship But once you start following her around she does not want you to follow her. She wants to follow you And so whenever I get into a relationship I know that the woman is really really invested in it because she's already demonstrated that with her actions Now typically if you meet a girl and she's not following you that much and she kind of like if you make a suggestion for hey Let's go get lunch at this place. She's like, oh, I don't like eating there. Let's eat somewhere else You know sometimes you can get a little bit of that But if you're getting that again and again where she's always wanting to do what she wants to do and come You're doing you doing what her plan is Typically that's not the man's a woman connection The man's a woman connection is the man leads in the woman follows So if you're falling into that trap, you're probably not gonna get very many women invested in you Okay, so that's one thing now the other thing too is that you want to qualify the girl a little more Now what I mean by qualification in these terms the stuff basically you just you will you take a step back and Let her come to you if you're constantly the one who's pushing for it Who's you know the asking her questions and you're never giving her the opportunity to actually like try and justify herself to you Then she'll never do it and she's a you're kind of in that chasing frame all the time And it's really really frustrating to be in so one of the things that I'll do is all you know if I'm talking to a Girl for a little bit. I'll be like well, so tell me more about yourself. What do you like to do for fun? Putting it her in that frame now. She's trying to I Don't not gonna say impress But kind of you know typically when two people meet and they're in this position That's what they're trying to do They're trying to see if each other's right for the others and so you try to show your best self So a lot of times, you know if even if they don't have any hobbies or anything like that a lot of times The girl will make stuff up if she's really interested in me So doing more of those kinds of things is gonna get her more invested in you Now once you've gotten the girl and you're kind of seeing her for a little bit How do you make sure that she's just as invested as she was at the beginning? Okay, don't change your behavior if whatever you did won her over if you keep acting like that She's gonna still be invested in she's still gonna really like you The big problem that a lot of guys have is once they meet a girl and they've slept with her maybe a few times They feel like they can just coast they feel like they can just you know not text her as you know anymore They feel like they can just freaking get do whatever they want That's not true. Okay, eventually even if she's really really into you. She's gonna cash on Now there's a certain small segment of the population of women that enjoy the abuse enjoy it when a guy is they don't really enjoy it But they're kind of addicted to those types of guys. These are not girls that you want to hook up with or date Okay, so if you're in this category The only girls that are going to be available for you other girls that you don't want Okay, so if you're in this position where you want to get a girl more invested in you and you're constantly wondering Why am I do I like the girls more than they like me? Change it around See if you can get a girl to follow you that girl is gonna be really really into you once I learned this it took off such a Load from my chest Basically it was telling me that I needed to step up I needed to put myself first invest in myself make myself the best version of who I am Express that to a whole lot of people and figure out which people are gonna jump on board my ship now I am very very Proactive I take a lot of action But I take the right kinds of action where instead of me chasing like be put being in chase mode for like a thousand different women I'm in leader mode for like a Few and I know those girls for a fact are super into me I know they're just as invested as I am sometimes more and I rarely run into this problem ever again So that's what I invite you guys to do Cool, so that's the end of the video you guys if you maintain and consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week like I said I have Some couple spots open in my one-on-one coaching program. So if you want to get I Learn more about that. There's a link in the description below click on the link and we'll get back to you Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there