 There's nothing more emotionally painful than being in love with someone who doesn't seem to care about you back So how do you know if you're more in love with him than he is with you? I have five signs that I'm going to be going over today Hello, my name is Matthew coast and welcome to commitment connection If you're really serious about getting into a great relationship Where a man loves you and sees you and absolutely cherishes you make sure that you go to the forever woman Formula calm and pick up a copy of my program there There should also be a link in above and below this video that you can go check out alright So what are the five signs? Let's go over them here number one He doesn't seem to care about your time effort or attention So your time effort and attention are really some of the most precious things that you have And so when a guy takes those things for granted He's taking you for granted and it shows his lack of desire for you It shouldn't be this way right you should be with someone who really values you Treats you as a priority and appreciates any effort and energy that you put into the relationship And by the way, if you're watching us right now and your Say type I'm here in the chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from It's always cool to see women from all over the world watching these live streams sign number two is He is Emotionally and physically absent when you need him So one of the most important things in relationships and one of the reasons why we get into him is because Relationships in a large part are about being there for one another when you really need each other And it's about having someone's back that you can really count on and rely on someone someone who has your back It's it is possible that he's just too socially inept or has some kind of mental illness That makes him not able to recognize the importance of you being there But it's just more likely that he he just doesn't have the same love for you that you have for him You should have someone who has your back when you need him. That's very important number three He never accepts blame or responsibility So when a man doesn't accept responsibility for things in the relationship There's usually one of two reasons for why this happened the first one is that he's immature and The second one is that he's not really that into you and he's immature You don't want to be with someone who doesn't take ownership and responsibility over their part of the relationship That's baseline. That's like the baseline level of what you need in a healthy relationship Ideally, you'll be in a relationship where you both take 100% responsibility over taking care of each other's needs if he can't take if he can't even take responsibility over himself You're far away from that Either way you should be with someone who at the very least Takes responsibility for himself and ideally takes responsibility for the entire relationship If not, this will come back and it will be painful When things get tough in the relationship and things always do get tough in every relationship so number four is You always have to initiate and extend the conversation So he rarely or almost never reaches out if he's not at least trying to chase Pursue and invest in you even a little bit. He's probably just not that into you it is possible that he has some Emergencies come up or some kind of secondary priorities that come up that pushed you into a secondary priority But if this happens over a long period of time, it can really become a serious problem And either way you deserve a man who initiates extends and pursues contact and communication with you if you're with us right now and you get what I'm talking about say I Get it in the chat if you if you don't know what I'm talking about or if you have questions about your situation or whatever Make sure to ask your questions And I will get to them at the end of this which is coming up here pretty soon. So number five is He doesn't share or discuss anything about life So how often does he try to bond with you if he doesn't it's possible that he may not trust you or feel safe with you So what you want to do is kind of look at a contrast here to try to determine whether it's That he doesn't feel like he trusts you and that he doesn't feel safe around you or whether it's really just that he's not that into you anymore and The way that you do that is by looking at does he have more? enthusiasm when it comes to co-workers and friends and other women in his life So if he does it's more likely that he just isn't really in love with you So either way you should have a man who pursues Bonding and connection with you even if it's in little subtle ways as a lot of women know Sometimes men aren't quite as expressive as a lot of women are sometimes it's in reverse It kind of depends on on the people you're with right There's the it's one of those things where a lot of times women will come to me and they're like Oh, well my guy is this way or my guy is that way and it's it's different than what I'm talking about and you have to remember that This only ever applies like anything that you can slot somebody into a stereotype or something like man or women at Most it only applies to like eighty percent of the population and you know There's always Variables and fluctuations in how somebody is and who somebody is and so you just have to remember that So too many people suggest that They that you should leave someone when the slightest thing goes wrong or something's not working Everybody we see it in the community all the time women are like just leave them leave them You know get away, you know, you don't deserve that get away from home, right? And and I'm not I'm not a big believer in that. I'm not a just dump somebody and run off kind of a Person that's not my belief system I believe that that you can heal things. I believe you can make things better I believe that you can have a real connection with somebody if That person is also Committed and interested in making that work if you're the only person who's trying to make it work It can be a serious problem but if you're both actually committed to it and you work on it then You can make things work in almost any situation a lot of times Things just came up or you created negative anchors around each other or whatever and you have to heal those or change those or fix those and Then you can create a completely new type of relationship or kind of rebuild the spark that you used to have in the relationship so you can grow and build a stronger bond if you want to do that and so You know my suggestion is that you you work on Communication right you you you develop your communication you communicate with him you talk to him around it You build conversation around the topic so that you can figure out where he is and what page He's on a lot of times women act like they're like private detectives or something, you know running around like looking for clues It's like oh, I found this clue and I found that clue I found this clue and the best clue that you can find is actually having a Conversation with a guy and finding out exactly what's going on with him because he's really the only person that can actually Tell you what's going on with him. We can make speculations. We can talk about different signs We can give you advice about different things to find out different stuff But the best thing that you do can do is have a conversation with him And if you're afraid of having a conversation with him That's a problem as well and you need to figure out whether that's because of lack of confidence That's going on with you or whether it's because of something that's going on with him and then work to resolve that issue so another thing that could be going on is it could be that you're not speaking the same love language and One of the things that I talk about in and I actually just created this long-distance Relationship program. I haven't launched it yet, but we will be launching it soon one of the things that I talk about in there is this idea of going deeper than love languages because love languages are great Right the five love languages book. It's an awesome book totally recommend it. Everyone should get a copy of it however, there's something that goes even deeper than that and It's in my opinion. It's actually having a conversation with somebody about What is you know, what makes them feel loved? And that way it's not like I mean It's good to have kind of these categories because then you can figure out what's going on with somebody However, it's better to actually ask them how they feel loved that way you can you can learn about them as an individual and Work with them in that specific way It also could just be that he's not feeling connected anymore or that he's not really getting his needs met Which is something that you can definitely work on. All right So if you have any questions or anything, I will go over them in the chat. I'm just gonna go over Real quick the five signs one more time for everybody And then if you have a question or anything throw it in the chat and I will get to the chat here in a second So number one is he doesn't seem to care about your time effort or attention Number two is he is emotionally or physically absent when you need him number three is he never accepts blame or responsibility Number four is you always have to initiate and extend the conversation number five is he doesn't share or discuss anything about life All right, so let's see what kind of questions we have so Hello, hello, hello Angela says hi from UK. Thanks. Your advice has really helped me. You are welcome, Angela I'm glad my advice has helped you Me know all says hi Matt. Great to tune into your live session. You look awesome today. Well, thank you. I appreciate that Appreciate that love compliments. I'm a big fan of compliments. All right So lots of people here here here. Hello from Spain Wales UK. Hi there. This topic is something much needed right now. I'm glad so You look nice today. You look nice today. Thank you. Thank you Connie says get it. This is so true. Listen up my friends Nadine says too much then says he says wants me 24-7. It's kind of weird Catherine says he does the taking responsibility part, but he Gives close close-ended answer when we chat Please how do I deal with that? Well, what do you mean when you're chatting? Is that like are you talking about when you're actually having a conversation in person? Are you talking about when you're talking to him over messenger? Are you talking about when you're hanging out together and having conversations? You know, you can there's there's things that you can do. There's different ways that you can create Better conversations through questions. If that's if that's what you're asking about However, I'm not totally sure What you're asking about Mary says what about military since they're very busy. Could he just be too busy? Yeah, it is possible Right now and I talked about that as far as the priority thing goes where another priority might end up coming up And let's say that he's in the military and he has some kind of assignment that comes up And he has to go and work on that assignment and he doesn't have some time. It is possible and Another thing is, you know is are you is this a long-distance thing? Are you in person? There's a lot of different factors here that you need to consider and Think about and so we'd need more about your know more about your situation whether For us to actually determine whether it is something where he's just in the military and he's too busy or if it's that He's just not really that interested Connie says communication is key I agree Heather says first six months with my boyfriend was magical then suddenly he's so distant I've asked him about it and he says he doesn't know what's different. He's completely different person now sad Does sound sad. Monica says question. So how long should I wait for him to come back and make me his priority? He has just been an uncle and he's totally committed to helping his twin brothers Loom after his baby nieces Well, it kind of depends right depends on how long you've you're in this relationship with him How long you've been seeing each other? Are you in a committed relationship? Are you not in a committed relationship? All that kind of stuff that determines what you should be doing right now if you're not in a committed relationship, then you should be using my forever woman formula and you should Take what I talked about in there in terms of abundance of Connection and abundance of options and start building your life in a way that you're not waiting for him if you are in a committed relationship, then you should be communicating with him and talking to him and figuring out what's going on with him how long asking him how long it's gonna take and Things like that because if if you're just sitting around waiting for him, and you don't know what's going on and You know like I said the most important thing is communication and it's one of those things you can ask how long you should wait But he probably has a pretty good idea in his head How long this is gonna take and so if you don't have that conversation with them You're never gonna know and if you do have that conversation with him Then all of a sudden you can learn about what he thinks and then make a decision based on that and then decide okay He's gonna take forever with this. I don't think he's coming back I can move on with my life or create something else or it's gonna take months And I don't want to wait that long or it's gonna take weeks or a couple months And I am willing to take that long and wait that long and he's committed to doing something more so that we can actually feel Connected with each other again, so it really depends on how deep and committed your relationship is and how much it's not So Elizabeth says wonderful wonderful man, but very unstable financially trying though worries me because I'm on disability Julie tree says yes communication is key, but when they just ignore you that's what really hurts Well, if you're in a situation where somebody's ignoring you you should stop trying to communicate with them And you should find somebody who wants to communicate with you. I Mean it seems pretty simple to me Don't don't try to force something that see and this is what I'm talking about here Right if you're trying to make something happen But the person you're trying to talk to isn't interested then you're wasting your time and you need to find somebody who is interested Nadine said is it possible that we can marry because I'm worried about my age We have a great relationship. Well, what's what's your age? Is it possible you can marry? Who are you? Who are you talking about? What's the age problem that you're that you're having? Heather says I've tried numerous times to communicate ask him questions. He shuts down He's still there, but he doesn't feel present. Yeah, and that could be a serious problem I mean he doesn't seem present because he's got something else going on or He feels like something else is going on in his life It's either there's another priority going on or there's something going on That's making him feel so much pain that he's just like trying to get out of it by zoning out And so you you need to figure out which one it is and why he's doing it And if it continues to go on and he's he just shuts down you need to Reconsider whether this is something that you actually want to be in or not right and that's the whole point of communication Is it good to leave a bad situation? Absolutely, but if you can communicate and work things out That's great. If you can't then I mean how long are you going to stay in a situation where? You are trying to communicate with a guy and he just completely shuts down with you. I believe that you deserve something better than that you deserve something more than that and I hope you believe that too and if you don't believe that and if you're having questions about it And that's why you're staying my suggestion is that you go pick up a copy of the forever woman program You can get it for free go to the forever woman formula comm Watch the video there and get the program I help you reframe your belief systems in there so that you believe that you deserve something great in your life and usually what ends up happening is if you're in that situation and It doesn't matter how much you're in love with somebody if they're not going to be present and they're not willing to communicate and they're running away then You have to value yourself and believe that you deserve something great in your life Because once you start doing that your whole world will change You'll decide that that you're worth something more and so you'll start seeking something more and that's when magical things start happening for you Ramona says hi Matt. You look nice today. Well, thank you Karen says there are breadcrumbers in Abundance, especially on the internet and Facebook. I learned to detect them faster and easier. Yep. There are lots of breadcrumbers Lots of breadcrumbers Maria says Matthew coast you have a girlfriend. Yes, I do Let's says Matthew. Why is that I feel like it's so difficult to be love and to love someone Well, it could be that it could be a lot of different things. It could be that you're not connected to Your your love within yourself. You don't feel it. It could be a lot of different things. It could be that You're I mean you're saying that you're having a problem loving somebody It could be that you're you're in kind of a survival mode And so you're really focusing on yourself Instead of being able to focus on other people because you have these needs that are coming up that you need to take care of or you have Trauma from your past that's preventing you from really connecting with somebody Deeply in the way that you want to and so a lot of times what you have to do Is heal whatever that trauma is from your past because then you can open yourself up to a Real relationship that way Or loving somebody that way. So Catherine says I'm talking about when we have a phone chat Yeah, and and so that's You know, here's the thing here's here's the the thing about phone chat is I wouldn't get all caught up On phone chat and I've talked about this in many of my live streams I talk about this in my forever woman program, which you should go and get It's it's not only for single women It's also for for women that are in relationships as well We we have some women in our community right now who are using the forever woman program And there's one woman specifically who's who was just giving us a new testimonial about it because it's It's changed her her marriage so much. It's it's created such a An amazing relationship with her with her husband that was really lacking for a long time Jenny says hi, I'm Jen. Oh, so sorry. Let me let me finish that one as well. So What what I talk about there is You need to just use the phone to meet up with each other Like don't sit around unless you're in a long distance relationship And there's a need to Be and connect on the phone a lot My suggestion is that you just use the phone for scheduling Meetups and getting together so that you can meet up in person and remember this remember this always The magic is in the meetup the magic is in the meetup And so some guys are just bad on the phone And so you call them up and and this isn't only guys There's a lot of women that are bad on the phone too and you call them up and they're just like Do you need something? What do you want? Like what's going on and you're like trying to talk to them But they just want to They just want to figure out what you want and get off the phone as soon as possible And so if he's one of those kinds of people you don't want to force him to start opening up on the phone Instead you want to meet up and and get into a situation where you can connect in person because that's a better connection anyway So Jenny says hi, I'm Jen. I'm always watching your videos and I've learned so much It helps me to realize how my man treated me and I was reminding myself if I'm worth it for his love Well, I'm glad you watch my videos, Jenny And my suggestion is that you go and get the forever woman program because in there I really help you reframe the way that you think about yourself and your own value And start thinking of yourself and start believing in yourself that you're really worth it and if And my suggestion is if you do have that program that you go over it multiple times go over at least 10 times That way you really ingrain the information in your brain Zabana says your advices are very very important things. You're welcome Nadine says can a marriage work if I'm 51 and he's 32 it can it absolutely can and You what you need to figure out though before you start trying to figure out if this Is gonna this marriage is actually going to work or not is you want to find out if there are any Anything if there's anything going on that would prevent it from working out So does he have does he have any Things that are absolutely necessary to him deal breakers to him That are very important like for instance having kids And so if he doesn't have kids and he's 32 and he really wants to have kids Then I would suggest Not trying to get married to this guy because It could be a big problem if he's the kind of guy which there's a lot of guys out there That don't want kids at all then absolutely it can work and we have women in our community who are married to people 20 years 30 years younger than them and they have fantastic Relationships and it's going great and they're totally in love and it totally works. And so absolutely it can work I have a video it's called why men love older women You should go and watch that video and just scroll through all the comments There are just tons and tons of comments from women in there About how they're married to men who are much much younger than them And so I wouldn't get caught up in the fact that you're 51 and he's 32 I'd get caught up in what's going on in as far as the connection is concerned What's going on as far as what he's looking for making sure that you're putting yourself into a good situation Like doing the things that I talk about in the forever woman program Which you can get there's a link above or below this video. By the way, I gotta pitch it every chance again So just make sure those are the things that you want to look for don't worry as much about age, right? Like people get married with huge age differences all the time and it's not that big a deal and Most people don't really care It's really about how well do you guys get get along together? How much do you care for each other? How much are you compatible and does it work with the two of you and as long as it works? It really doesn't matter Sherry berry says eight months exclusive with my boyfriend awesome He doesn't want his ex-wife to see me with him and doesn't invite me to his teenage Kids activities even though I know the kids well. Why do you why do you think he does that? he probably does that because his ex-wife is Gonna freak out and lose her mind when she sees you because she's still in love with him and she's Gonna act all crazy. I mean it's possible so and I know why you're asking this right? You're asking this because you're like is he still connected with his ex-wife Is he still seeing his ex-wife? Does he care what his ex-wife thinks? It's possible. That is possible It's also possible that his ex-wife is Going to lose her mind and flip out and start attacking or start doing Bad things because he knows she knows that he is seeing somebody else and he's moved on and that drives her crazy and and there's a lot of Relationships that are like that my brother's relationship used to be like that with his ex-wife And so you have to be aware of of what's going on with that. I mean it could be either one You know what you want to do is kind of use your intuition And just see if there's anything else that's going on there or see if there's anything else That's weird that's going on there and it's kind of hard to tell Especially if he's kind of distancing the two of you and making sure that you're not around each other but it also I mean people lie all the time as well and it's I mean who knows how crazy she is she could be You know lying and stuff my brother's ex-wife used to used to lie all the time It didn't matter what What it was about or how much of a ridiculous lie it was I mean he she used to send my nephew home to my brother With these ideas that my brother doesn't love him and all this other stuff and it was just horrible And so I mean there could be a lot of different things going on there and You'd have to kind of gauge What kind of a person she is and what kind of a relationship they had and what kind of a breakup happened And if he gives you the indication that she's just crazy or that she freaks out about things that That or that she's really jealous or that she still is in love with him or whatever That could be a good indication that he's just keeping you guys away from each other so that she doesn't freak out And start acting crazy and doing irrational things that might hurt him you the relationship or the kids So loose says my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and a half went from treating me like a queen Being supportive hard-working family oriented Talking about engagement marriage to suddenly telling me he's not ready Okay, did you have a conversation with him about this and I have a program out there that's called how to talk to a guy And one of the things that I talk about in there Is this idea of a guy not being ready and how to talk to how to have a conversation with him When he's in a space where he says that he's not ready And the first thing that you want to do is find out Why he's not ready and he most guys will just tell you straight up Why they're not ready if he's not ready and then you want to find out how long it's going to take For him to get ready and just ask him that just have a real conversation with him And talk to him about that and and ask him how long it's going to take for him to get ready And usually he'll he has a good most guys have a good ballpark figure in their head of how long it's going to take before they're ready And then you can kind of figure out from there If he's being all squirrelly about the whole conversation and trying to get out of it It's probably because he's losing interest in you and it's not because he's not ready But he's just losing interest in doing that with you And if it is that he's just not ready It could just be that he's afraid, you know a lot of guys are freaking out about marriage because There's a lot of things especially if you're in america where You know, he could face all kinds of different problems from getting married a lot of people a lot of guys are Are avoiding a lot of women a lot of guys and women are avoiding marriage these days For a lot of different reasons one being that people lose a lot of money and divorce And a lot of people are getting divorced these days And so you kind of want to figure out what's going on with him specifically And make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation and if he's not Putting if he's not willing to put you in a good situation with him At least the situation that you're looking for have enough self respect for yourself that you're willing to say Hey, okay, if if that's not going to work for you then this isn't going to work for me either and That can be really hard and it really sucks when that happens and being in that situation But it's a lot better than being in a situation where Suddenly a guy feels like you're not really right for him and you stay in the situation for with him for a long time Just wasting your life with him You know only to find out that you should have left a long time ago So seb play says facing the truth is good. No time to waste. That's right Monica says thank you matt great advice. I will ask him directly Hopefully I can find the right time and way to do it without coming across as needy or anxious Any thoughts on this? I'm not sure what we were talking about So do do do do I'm not sure. I'm not sure what the conversation was again. Sorry. Sorry about that monica I my my mind My memory isn't always The best here, so All right, so all right, so foxy says it used to be The woman that was complicated now. It's the man Now it's it's the culture too really it's It's really the culture and one of the reasons why you want to This is one of the reasons why you want to get a system, right? You want to simplify it and make it as easy as possible and Dating doesn't have to be complicated and men don't have to be complicated And what you need to do doesn't have to be complicated And that's one of the reasons why I put together the forever woman program Because I wanted to make it as simple and easy as possible for you to make sure that you're protecting yourself and getting yourself into a great situation and Not putting yourself in a position where you're You know going to get hurt or whatever and so Really If you're if you're confused about what's going on and you're not sure what you should be doing The best thing that you should do is Get my program the forever woman at the forever woman formula.com There's a link above and below this to get it and that way You're you have a system that actually works and helps you navigate the world of dating And get yourself into a relationship where you're really valued and seen and cherished by a great guy That's what you want. And so yeah, I mean, there's definitely some complication there Especially being in the hookup culture that we're in right now But people still want great relationships men want great relationships. There there's a lot of fear out there There's a lot of problems out there. There's there's a lot of things that are coming up There's there's a lot of problems on both sides. There was a woman the other day that was talking about how Men just how women want relationships and how men don't and I don't think that's true at all I think everybody wants relationships and It might be that men are the gatekeepers to relationships, right? Women tend to be the gatekeepers to Creating physical intimacy, but men tend to be the gatekeepers to the relationship because women tend to seek relationships more often than men do And so you want to make sure that you're getting yourself into a situation With a guy who's looking for a relationship as well. Who's looking for a real connection Who's looking for a great relationship who's looking for a 10 out of 10 relationship Because when you have a great relationship, it's it's better than anything else It's better being around somebody where you're you have great communication You love being around each other You can go and hang out and do things together and you you just love spending time together and and you connect in so many Different ways and and you you match your love languages And so you when you're spending time together just feels Amazing to both of you and you feel like you can't get enough of each other And that's that's really the situation that you want to be in That's how relationships could be and they can be that way if you put yourself into the right situations And one make sure that you're protecting yourself and two making sure that you're getting into a situation Where you're really valued and you're really important to a man I believe that you deserve the type of relationship Where you're so important to a man that he doesn't ever want to let you go And he wants to make you a priority and he loves you and he absolutely cherishes you He worships you he thinks that you're just this amazing beautiful goddess that he wants to be with And that he wants to flower with love and and and kindness and gifts and in his presence in his world And he wants to bring you in there and just love you and hold you and just Make love to you and just create an amazing awesome relationship together. That's what you want to have Was I going off on a tangent there? So angela says been single for six months met a guy really like Like but asked him a question and felt like he diverted the answer Not to hurt me or was scared of my reaction How do I get him to understand? I'm not a jealous person Just want someone who's 100 honest. Well, you can have those conversations, right? You can kind of call out that behavior And I mean it might be a little bit late to do that at this point But you could ask the question again and see what he does Right and if he starts kind of getting all squirrely on you You can just call it out and just be like are you does this make you uncomfortable? Is this question does it feel weird to you? And and just have a conversation with him about it and just talk to him about it because if he's You know a lot of times guys are scared that women are going to freak out because a lot of women do freak out They take things personally that shouldn't be taken personally they Get angry and upset about things that absolutely don't matter And if he's like most guys he's been in a situation or a relationship or had a mom or a sister or somebody around him who was a woman who he said something and it was totally innocent and she lost her mind And so he's a little bit hesitant to talk about it. It could be that It could also be that he doesn't want to have that conversation And so you need to figure out which one it is Right, which is why it can be powerful to talk to Whatever it is and go deeper into that and if he starts running away and disappears you get your answer And if he opens up about it and has a conversation about it, you have another answer and so that's better to do than then You know avoiding it or being like, okay, what does he think and all that kind of stuff is just speak to Whatever it is that He's having a problem with going deep into it, right and that can be scary for him and you However, that's depth. That's real That's like connecting on a deeper level and having real conversations and breaking through things and Real connections in this day and age are incredibly rare Most people are walking around on their phones. They're not hanging out with people anymore They're not connecting with people anymore Everybody's like scared to death of offending somebody else because everybody's getting offended over everything nowadays And so if you can have real conversations with somebody and a guy is open to that real conversation with you It can be incredibly powerful and bonding you together And you can also use it to find out whether he's willing to have real conversations like that Or whether it freaks him out and makes him run away And that's a very important thing to learn early on And whether he's open to that because some guys aren't open to that some guys aren't ready for that And if that's what you want, which is what it sounds like because you're asking a question about it right now And you're talking about a guy who's 100 honest, right? Most people aren't 100 honest with anything And so if you speak to it and you have a conversation about it and you're real about it and he wants to Have some real connection and conversation then he will Open himself to it and you'll have a great answer and you can build a a much better connection with him And a much better relationship long term with him if you speak to that Catherine says thank you for this video. You are welcome for this video Luz says and he told me over the phone should I demand an in-person conversation and an Explanation for closure Well, not necessarily. I think closure is totally overrated. I think that I mean if he said that he's not ready Did you have a real conversation with them? It sounds like I mean, did did you attack him for it? Like what happened, right? So so then and this is what i'm talking about right here is If if he says something like hey, i'm not ready and you freak out and lose your mind And start yelling at him and chewing him out and all kinds of things We have women in our community sometimes we have some amazing first off I want to say we have some amazing women in our community. We have some of the most intelligent beautiful bright uh, just amazing Women in our community and sometimes we run into things where some of the women will do things like You know a guy makes some kind of Comment that sexual or something and she will just freaking lose her mind and just start attacking the guy and tell Tell us tell us about it in the community and it's like Okay, well, that's not good for anybody Right and losing your mind anytime isn't really good for you Because basically what you're doing is letting somebody else Control you and so it kind of depends lose on what happened in the conversation before You know are you do you think that this is the end because he said that he's not ready It might not be and a lot of women freak out and think oh, he said he's not ready Oh my god, it's over right and it might not be over It might be that he just needs some time or it might be that he needs some kind of assurance or something It might be that he needs to change his mindset It really depends on him and having a conversation with him and communicating with him What's actually going on because if you don't do that it could be anything that's actually going on there Joanna says I love your tangents I screen record them and use them as affirmations to make sure I keep positive beliefs about relationships That's awesome. I want to give you a high five for that one. I like I like it. I like it So Manon says exactly self-respect is important is very important to have So you that you do not waste your time in a relationship I'll do that That one disappear. Yeah, sometimes the comments disappear on me. It's all right. We'll find them later and talk about it all right, so Karen says I was always the beloved and the men my lovers. I wasn't always kind I got my comeuppance and Karma is that what you're saying? I'm not sure. So Jenny says well, he's always has interest in me We are having bonding every weekend and stay with me, but I Really don't know if he loves me the way I love him. He has responsibilities in his X because he had a child. Yeah, I mean that's that's normal things like that happen all the time and you have to decide Because that's going to be a part of his life And your life as long as the two of you are together and that's always going to be there And so if you want to find out more about what's going on have a real conversation Real conversations are very valuable. Just having a real conversation about what's going on You know what's going on with him and his ex What's you know, how is she what's she like all that kind of stuff is very very valuable to have a conversation with him about that kind of stuff and just find out what's going on because Literally, this is something that you're going to have to deal with as long as you're with him And if you get married to him and you're with him She's not going away right his ex isn't ever going away. She's going to be here For a long time his kids might end up being raised and Become adults and his ex is still going to be there and you might still have to deal with her And so it's not like that's going away anytime soon And so you need to figure out if this is a good situation for you to be in or not And have a conversation have real conversations about it so that there's transparency And you're not putting yourself into a bad situation and you don't know it And you know what you're getting yourself into beforehand It's very important that you know what you're getting yourself into as much as you possibly can in everybody's situation If you're watching this right now and this doesn't apply to you It does apply to you because you need to make sure you're always getting yourself into a good situation And a lot of times women don't they just look for clues and what's going on and and it's it's good to have Real conversations and real conversations tell you a lot about a person they tell you about What's going on? So somebody who says please don't say my name says my husband husband friend zoned me And we have been married for five months now We did more before we got married now. He has stopped wanting to be with me in bed Have you talked to him about this at all? So you've been been married for five months. Wow, that's a really short marriage for him to all of a sudden Stop wanting so I mean it depends on what's going on, right? There could be a lot of different things going on here and and what's going on is very important In how you end up dealing with it So if there's something that's really stressing him out, right? So a lot of times guys will lose interest in sex if they get really stressed out And it you know, it could be something that's going on at work, you know, is there something that's stressing him out It could be that he's lost his interest in you But there'd be a lot of other things going on there other than Not wanting to be in bed with you There there there'd be a lot of other Kinds of things where he's distancing himself and getting away from you as much as possible And you need to figure out whether it's that or whether it's some kind of anxiety stress thing because Dealing with those two things is very very different And absolutely you should have a relationship where you're connecting physically and Intimately and in a great way and you should have a husband who who's totally in love with you and wants to be with you And and so it's important to get to whatever the root issue is so that you can make sure That you're getting into a situation where where you're really cared for by your husband Connie says Matthew is right if you are scared to communicate because you might not like the outcome or answer This is unhealthy for you. It's not only unhealthy for you It's going to be a big problem Shirley says hi matt. How can I avail the forever woman video? Well, what you want to do is there's a link above or below this video depending on where you're watching it You can also go to the forever woman formula dot com And then you can watch a video about it there and then pick up the program And that is exactly what you want to do. Surely just check it out. Go on over there Check it out. Go on over whenever you're ready. Go on over check it out Elizabeth said any issues you foresee with dating someone 12 years older Fantastic communication can't imagine my life without him No, I mean is that are you saying that because you feel like that's really old It you know, it kind of depends. There's different cultures out there, right? Like American culture for a long time had this thing where everybody was like If you're more than like five years Difference in age everybody was weird about it Like that was a thing for a long time in American culture And American culture has kind of opened up a lot more now and you're starting to see relationships with people that are 10 20 30 40 years Difference in part because people are starting to feel like it's okay for them to Act on whatever they're actually interested in and a lot of times People are actually interested in All kinds of different things and so you you should just do whatever Works for you just find what works for you and If it's a good situation, it's a good situation if it if it's something that that is amazing for you You know, you're talking about you can't imagine your life without him. That sounds great. I mean why Could there be any issues with it? There could always be issues with it, right? He's 12 years older than you so that means that you know women Live longer than men, which means that at some point he's gonna die And it's probably gonna be a lot sooner than you and so that could be a problem, right? There could be other problems, but those are just normal regular problems There could be problems with ed and other factors like that And so yeah, I mean there there are a lot of different problems that could come up Around dating somebody that's a lot older than you However, if it works for you and you guys are totally in love with each other and It really works great by all means do it Sandra says continued Says he's he loves me but not in love with me Okay, so he's actually talked to you about this won't touch me in any way Even if I want to he turns me away and we talk about having a child because I do not have any I'm 39. He's 45. Well, what you Okay, keeps continuing. She is like Continuations going on and on here. So he has three already now saying he does not want a new baby Yeah, I mean this is a serious problem And it's something that you guys need to have some real dialogue about and go to a therapist about and talk to And decide whether this is something that you want to continue or not because if he's if he's going Total 180 direction and all of a sudden you guys are married You've been married for five months and he's losing his mind and and flipping the script on you That's a serious problem and you need to communicate to him that it's a serious problem for you and that you're not gonna You know, you're not going to stay in a situation. That's that's You know, you thought was really amazing and all of a sudden He's completely done a 180 and going in the exact opposite direction and That you know, this isn't this isn't what you signed up for And that you need to have a real conversation and talk about if this is really the direction that he's going Or if he has some stress or something that's making him act act out and act differently And find out and like I said real conversation talk to him about it And find out about that. So Nadine says, okay, thank you. I will watch this video why men love older women. Thank you. You're welcome So Heda says so if he had all five Should I just keep My distance to create space? Well, it depends on what kind of a Situation you're in are you in a situation where you're in a committed relationship? Or are you in a situation where you're in a not committed relationship? If you're in a not committed relationship Then my suggestion is that you follow the forever woman program You can get it at the forever woman formula.com. There's a link above and below this video And use that system specifically if you're in a committed relationship I suggest you use the forever woman Program you can get it at the forever woman formula.com. There's a link above and below this video for it But yeah, I mean my suggestion is that you use that program There's a lot of things that you can do and it's more than just create space, right? Because you want to create Amazing connection. That's what you want And I go over in detail how to create an amazing connection with a guy if that's something that you want So you should go and check that out if that's something that you want Which it sounds like it is so go check that out Sweet words mary says Heda says we do deep convos. So that's a good sign. Thank you. You're welcome Talking like I'm from the south I don't know is that funny Okay, so Right now we we kind of live in this world. That's especially in the west we live in this world of the hookup culture and so If a lot of women are having a lot of problems Because they want to get into A lot of people actually men and women are having a lot of problems They want to get into committed relationships They want somebody that loves them and and cherishes them and values them and looks at them and And feels like this is the person that they really want to have in their life But a lot of women are having problems with men who keep disappearing. They go on these one horrible date after the next it's just like agonizing pain going on these dates or or they get a guy and after a couple weeks or a couple months or a year Something like that. He he starts pulling away and next thing you know, he's disappearing A lot of women they're they're falling in love with men and the man Is just wants to be a casual Thinks of her as just a casual flame and there's no I mean that's a very emotionally painful thing to be in And for a lot of women this makes them Start to feel confused start to doubt themselves doubt their own value and their own self-worth Many of them feel like they just want to give up on dating and and men all together And so if you're having a hard time In your dating life or your relationships, you're you're not alone this is something that a lot of women are having right now and We live in a culture that encourages superficial relationships and discourages anything meaningful And I believe that there's a better way For men and women to get into and stay in committed relationships that last And that's why I put together a proven path that will help you get into the relationship that you want And there's three things that you need to do the first one Is you need to you need to believe in your own value Because if you don't believe in your own value by the law of belief transference What will end up happening is he will start doubting your value as well And you'll just end up everything will spiral out of control and next thing you know The guy's pulling away from you. You don't know why you're falling more and more in love with him And he's pulling more and more away. The second thing that you need to do is position yourself in value And you can do that in a number of different ways, but you need to start creating abundance for yourself You need to start creating power for yourself You need to put yourself in a position where you can create what it is that you want, right? That's what power is people talk about power and they're like, oh my god, remember power, right? And they they get all angry about it Power and relationships and it's like power is simply your ability to get what it is that you want It's not this evil thing It's actually a great thing because it helps you get whatever it is that you want And the third thing is communicating your value And you need to do this so that you're you're connecting with a guy in the right way, right? These are things like boundaries These are things like talking and connecting to a guy in a way that makes him Feel amazing and he makes you him feel like you're Amazing and special and different than all the other women that he's ever met And so if you're interested in getting my system, you can get it for free It's called the forever woman and you can get it at the forever woman formula dot com There's a link above and below this video You can check it out if you want to stay a part of our community after you join You can do that from there as well And if you get the forever woman program and you use the principles in it You'll attract a man who loves you and who cherishes you And he'll pursue a committed lasting relationship with you You'll do less work and feel more appreciated and valued by your man And this also works with women who are in relationships as well So it's not just for single women women who are in relationships have turned their entire relationships Around because of the principles in that program And you know you or you can just do what you're currently doing and just keep getting the same results that you've always gotten In if that's what you want and it's working for you and that's great If it's not my suggestion is that you find a system. It doesn't have to be my system. There's plenty of systems out there Mine I just you know, I might be a little biased. I don't know, but I think mine's the best That's just my opinion and I think that you should pick it up You can get it for free So you might as well check it out and learn about what's in it and what's going on with it In either way, thank you so much for being here Like I've said I said earlier in the video Our community has some of the best women in the world in it So thank you so much for trusting me in your journey to attract and get into the relationship that you've always wanted to have Thank you so much. I got to get going. I've got to go meet some friends for dinner But I hope you have a wonderful day wherever you are in the world right now, whether it's morning afternoon or night Thank you so much for being in here and I will speak with you again soon Have a good day night afternoon evening