 things like get a grip or that flew over your head might just literally go over someone's head but not really literally because literally doesn't mean literally anymore literally but it doesn't mean that we can't find a humor in things it just means that there needs to be a lot more explanations and repetition of that sort of language around us in order for us to understand it a lot more because you know we have to we have to work out our heads and we don't just acquire the ability to do it as easy as other kids might my father is a very big advocate of sarcasm and I can tell you that we do understand it and I think sarcasm is one of the most humorous most fun things to do in the human language so it definitely doesn't mean that that we won't develop the ability to do it later on mostly at this stage emotional and social problems don't tend to arise and particularly for kids who are a lot more introverted and involved in their own interests and they don't really have the opportunity yet to interact and get those those sorts of misunderstandings and issues that come with socializing as an autistic about eight till 13 is the the danger point where there is a lot of opportunities for misunderstandings and issues with social communication and personal problems they can all start to arise at this age and they can assist and grow over many years and is between this age of about eight to thirteen obviously depending on on the two kids not all kids develop this some maybe just being extremely introverted and just not bother as much about and other people focus a lot more on themselves and this can be this can be useful but for the kids who are a lot more extroverted and wanted to communicate and be accepted and feel wanted is it can be a lot more difficult of a challenge to overcome not all issues with and socializing can progress into mental health issues and but there is a lot higher correlation between and being autistic and being and comorbid with depression anxiety ADHD so these things are a lot more probable genetically and but also environmentally so there's a lot of implications in the real world that can kind of spot these conditions after or make existing conditions a lot a lot more difficult to deal with self-esteem and understanding of the people can be one of the main issues that nearly every single autistic person has to face and who has any sort of care of interacting with other people also I don't particularly know any aspies or autistics who have not experienced some some kind of bullying and there's also there's a statistic that shows that and autistics are a lot more likely to be bullied and definitely google it have a look at it and it's out there so have a look I'm not gonna I might put it down in the description and if I've got the opportunity to see but there's there is so much higher amount of bullying and autistic people and it it's reasonable to assume that this is because of the the differences and a lot of the oddities that that occur from not having inbuilt behaviors or the body language skills tone of voice skills the not knowing when to stop speaking or let the other person speak all of these things these factors can and be integrated into whether someone can exist with other people without being ridiculed or found to be a little bit weird and when people think especially when kids think someone is a little bit weird or different they tend to capitalize about that capitalize on that a lot more than than others and a lot of autistics sadly have to face the hand of bullying quite a few times in our life because of the issues of understanding and when something becomes bullying and when someone is being nice or overly bad or overly good or strange or weird with us the lines of which we can we would consider bullying to be a thing can be very blurred and subjective to each to each person so and they may think they've been bullied where they may they may have not been bullied them someone made us not like them and have expressed that maybe a few times during their time which is which is obviously quite different to repetitive and you know on the on the go bullying that that may occur to other kids that may not think they're being bullied the lines can be very blurred and it can be very difficult to kind of determine the the reasons behind all of this so autistics on average and particularly those of aspergers tend to have an average above above average intelligence compared to the rest of the population this makes sense because a lot of autistics use more of their logical brain in understanding things like social situations and other behaviors or instincts that don't particularly carry on in our brains for some reason and because of this increased effort in trying to understand things that seem to come naturally to others we spend a lot more time understanding and trying to make sense of things with understanding and using your brain in order to figure stuff out it usually comes with a higher amount of intelligence because of this increased intelligence and this increased ability to analyze and look at the differences between ourselves and others and a lot sooner this can cause a lot of issues for us in terms of being able to relate to other people of our age because of our more analytical brain we may find that adults who generally apply a lot more logic and reasoning behind their actions and a lot more easier to understand and let's let's not be around the bush adults are a lot easier to understand than kids in most cases especially in terms of socializing and getting along with people and not not having too much friction in social conversations we start to notice trends and patterns a lot more readily than the other people around us and because of that we start to understand trends in ourselves as well and a lot of the things that we understand about ourselves starts to get questioned and a lot of things that the lines between dating friendships parents teachers all those kind of social roles and and people in our life can start to feel a lot more difficult to grasp hold of as we start to analyze the differences between them and although our understandings of these things may be a lot more concrete and logical than the ones that are in place already it can cause a lot of conflict between what we think we should do and what we need to do in order to live in society and interact with people properly we've become a lot more reactive emotional and sensitive to other people's actions typically because of the the weight and the the meaning that we we put behind things that other people say or other people do for example one thing that was quite a big thing with me up until about maybe 17 or 18 was that I couldn't stand any kind of lying and any kind of abusive drugs or anything like that any smoking alcohol drugs and I couldn't stand it and anybody that was around me that was was like that and I kind of labeled them as someone that I needed to avoid in order for them to you know keep myself safe and keep myself away from bad habits and although that is a good thing it made me very very rude to certain people and very ununopened to people's opinions and reasons for the things that they do one of the biggest misconceptions with autistic kids is that a lot of people would label autistic kids as maybe not having as much logic or reasoning when it comes to things like social social understanding and situations that are causing conflict people and teachers try to deal with the ideas that that some autistic kids have come up with by approaching them from an emotional and an angle that is very much dependent on behaviors and set standards that the the kid may not may not adhere to as much as as the other people around him because of this it can be very difficult to change the cognitive thought of an autistic person and it can be very difficult to understand and change the mind of that person unless you fully understand how to do it and you fully understand how to get on the same level as them and talk to them logically because the fact is is that their logic and their intelligence is in direct conflict with the social side and the behavioral side of what what is what it is to be human and because of this although it's not incorrect the the blurry lines of emotions and behaviors and are very difficult to express the importance of to a person who lives solely through understanding things logically so naturally as we we form friendships as we start to experiment with relationships and at the age of around 13 14 15 we share our opinions we try to find common ground between people in order to build build bonds and build relationships with people but as an autistic person is extremely it's extremely hard to do this because it runs through two filters one being the the other person who has a lot of behaviors and emotions and body language and facial expressions that aren't read correctly or understood correctly by the autistic person and also the the lack of comprehension that the autistic person has for these factors as well so it's kind of a two-way confusion which and can cause a lot of issues when trying to um establish friendships and etc a lot of kids especially um one that I've I've interacted with and helped personally at one of my my mom's school he believed that a lot of the people around him even his friends and weren't particularly his friends this is quite a common thing and I've I've seen this in a lot of videos of people talking about and what it's like to be autistic and what life is like and specifically when we're younger and a lot of them seem to report that they do have friends but because of the lack of ability to define these boundaries of what is a friend and what friends should do um they can a lot of time even assume that they have a lot more friends than they do or assume that the friends the good friends that they have that they do stuff with and interact with a lot and not real friends and they don't mean as much to them obviously this can cause a lot of psychological issues especially with self-esteem and especially with their confidence in socially interacting with people around and because of that lack of confidence it can cause a lot of social anxiety can cause a lot of other issues depression and specifically if it comes and it it cause a lot of issues for them um in conversation when they're trying to confront people about the the differences we maybe share a bit too much about ourselves or share a little bit too much about our emotions with other people around us this can mean people to think we're a little bit too intimate and a little bit too weird with people that we we don't particularly know very well or maybe our opinions and our thoughts may um conflict them quite a lot and make them very upset or angry it can be it could be a very rude statement and we could not mean it at all but it could be it could be taken that way um for most people we have to admit being a kid and being at school it's a very unlogical and confusing place for everybody but you have to remember what it would be like if you didn't have those social skills that let you interact with people sometimes there is an explanation for actions there's no logical explanation for someone's behavior and in our heads it's very difficult at that age to get around that the idea that not everybody works on such a logical level as as we do and therefore a lot of the the lack of leeway and give that we give for people when we're interacting with them and can result in a lot of conflict and bad emotions and lack of understanding between two people it can also promote a lot of feelings of isolation from not being able to relate to people as well and as well as other people school is basically just one of those video games where for some reason people are naturally talented and they've played other video games before and they they know other controls and they can already move properly and being autistic is like having a lot of skills in computing and never touching a a joy pad or a joystick or anything like that to to move the character and just constantly running into walls and trying to get a handle handle of the movements before they uh try to play me a good main game oh hello there are you waiting for the end of the video well this is it end of the video now why are you here oh you want to see some more videos well make sure to like and subscribe make sure to get that little bell as well the notification bell make sure that you can see some more videos from me and i'll put the uh previous and next videos right at the top left here to get i know such a nice person