 Ladies and gentlemen, let me get this thing here situated. Hey, baby You'll cut that TV down a couple not you y'all forgive me Why if I ever listen to her? How to kill a man movies? I just want they don't understand my women watching all of them Move by how to get rid of somebody snap Fashions of this and confessions of that. I said well, I'll slip up and do something wrong Y'all she wrote Now y'all let me see if I got this here chat working want to pop in on this Sunday night. I don't know if the Chat working okay. Yep. It is working Posted earlier today about shifting your heart I hope you get the chance to watch it my Sundays on Sundays. I don't put ads on those videos because The way the devil work He'll have psychic and tarot readers ads on my Sunday sermon So I just Lord to put on my heart don't put ads on the videos on Sunday So so the Lord word can go forward And but want to pop in and do a Q&A real quick the night and Annie thank you. We're gonna go ahead and get started. How do you recover a Relationship after you pushed him away? Well, I'd be I'd be honest with you Annie when you push a man away You got to be very careful when you think about bringing a man back because You know as they say God forgives men Don't that's that's a thing That's real is most men don't know how to forgive So you got to make sure that your man is a man who can forgive because if you push a man away And then you bring him back. He may come back with some resentment And y'all hold your questions try to keep the chat clear as possible for just questions So if you don't have a question just kind of watch the chat So that way it doesn't fill up too much a cool God bless you Pour out in your life. Thank you. Thank you for today's sermon. Mr. Gaskins. I continue to watch each video It is painful, but I'm growing each day may God continue to bless you. Hey, thank you Thank you. Now, let me see Get this next question here And remember to put the hashtag Q in front of your question baby daddy asked son Baby daddy asked if son asked about him, but he hasn't checked on him in a month Well leaving where is that don't try to force him to check on When a man going through some or a woman going through some and they're not checking on they their child leave them there because When you force that situation, you could be bringing toxicity into your child's life So let it be and and you deal with it as the parent you be that forefront that guardian That's why they call you that guardian Hi, Tony. You talked about Taking energy in the past Men have said that I give off a vibe that I already have someone when in reality. I'm single not dating or entertaining Bombs, I'm confused Well, it could mean that you just appear to be satisfied You know, you notice how you know what they call thirst trapping on Instagram You know, it's women posting pictures And I always hear my wife say it sometimes she'll say okay That that that woman there must have gone through a breakup that woman there her and her boyfriend must have broke up She could tell by the the way the woman posted in certain pictures that the woman broke up So that's what I mean by energy so when you look at peace you look cool calm and confident then a Man may say or she looks taken and then if you carry yourself classy and respectable A man sometimes assumes that you're taken like it's no way a woman this classy and clean and respectable is Available and so that's why I mean gotta inquire within so honestly It's a compliment and if a man gets close enough to you to say that then he's found a way to shoot his shot But it's really a compliment. Is it a good idea to date someone in the motorcycle club? well, if you okay if it's other motorcycle clubs in your City and y'all break up You got another club to go to then. Yeah, so it's okay, but just know if y'all don't work out you gonna have to change clubs I lean God bless your Tony. I already have an LLC. Are you suggesting to also have a nonprofit? To put the proceeds into no no no no no no no What I'm saying is is if you have an LLC, that's your for-profit business But once you get that and you get that established and you feel comfortable with that you can start a non-profit That is something that you raise funds for from the local doctors lawyers People who just doing good in the city you could be raising funds for your nonprofit to You know give away meals give away gift cards to be a blessing You know to be a blessing to people in the city So your nonprofit is your purpose-based stuff But if you can't run both of them at the same time or one doesn't have legs Then don't worry about it But it's just something to where when you feel kind of bored you feel like okay I've done this now what then you start your nonprofit as your charitable leg of your brand and what you build it like most companies most Major corporations have a nonprofit foundation as well That they can you know do donations through Keyshawn God bless you. God bless you Tony. It's not my story But how did you feel as a real man about a woman that dance slash trip for a living? I just pray for you know I pray for I feel bad for her because I don't think that's a way a person will want to make a living y'all hold your question Real quick while I'm answering this and then put it in there so I could see it I see them question flying in there my good Now YouTube if y'all watching this YouTube what y'all need to do is Separate this to where you got the chat over here and the questions over here Where I could the people watching it they could click Submit a question and all those get put in the question box So I just could go right there and just keep going one by one and after I touch it and I've Answered it it disappears. That's what y'all need to do YouTube. Okay? So I know y'all be watching people video to make sure we ain't running no crazy movement So do that while you're watching now as far as for the dancer I just pray for for the woman for the women in that I've coached a lot of dancers a lot of dancers when they getting ready And they say they're ready to come off the pole They ready to become a realtor or they ready to become a pastor or they ready to you know Go to eyebrow school. They'll come to me for coaching and I help them transition And I never met one that says she absolutely love it But majority of the time they just can't see where else they can make that kind of money act And so I just pray for I pray for just try to help her show see business outside of that But you know, I can't judge. I'm there. Oh God bless you. No God bless you for them Evany bless you bless you Tony you say men fall in love through accountability But a lot of times some men don't know how to take accountability and get upset when you call them out on Their actions every new right, you know, you're right, but just because a man gets upset doesn't mean he don't appreciate it You know, it's no different when you Training a dog or you raising a child or you pushing an athlete to his or her Furthest level nobody is going to like smile and clap and say yes Whoo, hold me accountable. Whoo. I love that. Yes, you caught me trying to play the game Whoo, you know, nobody's gonna do that But he still respects that and a lot of men will Get mad or try to you know huff and puff as a defense mechanism You know, but really he realizes what you're doing and he respects what you're doing a man who doesn't respect it That lets you know that he's not ready to grow. He's not ready to change and it lets you know that that's not your husband So you can't take that personal Betty God bless you God bless you new day. Just wanted to say we appreciate you see I saw that now See, I'm trying to read faster tonight now, but y'all be sending a message Blessing any that should I give him space after I apologized? I was accusing him of things and I really feel bad. I said, sorry I don't want to chase him. I'm mad at myself Definitely give him space definitely give him space and you got to ask yourself Why were you accusing him because if you were accusing him and he was not guilty That means that you got to work on your heart and a lot of men and women do that because we don't heal Before we deal. So if you go into a relationship and you're accusing somebody or something Then what that means is you haven't healed So you may need to dress yourself and start doing some work so that you can love as if you've never been hurt before Now my dad created that When he would coach me when I was 23 he said son, you got to love as if you've never been hurt before What should I not talk about when newly dating now y'all see how coming off that question right there and then Brittany Court popped in there with that question right there. That's how you got to do it Okay, when you see me slowing down then boom pace your question Don't don't push your question right when you see me in the midst of talking. Okay? What would you not talk about to a stranger? Just like that. Just keep it common sense like that. What would you not tell a stranger? Because that's what somebody you newly dating is So the same progression that you make with telling your business was a lot of women on the first date They telling about the abuse they went through as a child. You know, that's not a first date conversation A man may take that and run with it. Use it against you. So, you know Understand that just just take it simple and slow Instead of rushing it Y'all try to keep the chat clear if you can With just questions. What do you suggest if one spouse is making it difficult to leave gracefully by refusing to get a divorce When it's time to move on how long must someone be held hostage in a toxic relationship? I suggest that you lean to that you lean on The courthouse and what the laws in your state are so they're gonna have Laws in your state that if it's a certain time he hasn't signed that you could go around that I would imagine in every state they'll have some type of law around that. So I will focus on that share H. God bless you one of the moderators. I see her here working Now share gonna be removing all the excess chats are y'all right? So when you say share remove this share remove that she trying to keep this here chatting on clean for me So I could see the question. So y'all try not to just fill up with just randomness So that's what I would say lean on lean on that courthouse The where you could go on get on around what he trying to block Lucristo God bless you for that unlike My boyfriend works for Greyhound and he was working too much and not Returning and not nurturing our relationship. I got mad broke it off and changed my number I really miss should I call him? I believe he's my husband He said I was his wife um Was see now this what they called a you got the ounce of prevention and you got the pound of cure So you you want the pound of cure now? Now this the thing Because you want to jump bad and you want to leave If you go running back, he may make you pay a price So I understand that he may have some resentment and he may make you pay a price So that's a person's choice on whether you want to go and be in a prison of his resentment Or whether you want to keep on going because you want to get mad about that situation So you miss handle it you handle it like a grown girl Instead of sitting down and having a real conversation and saying look, this is what I need. That's what needs to happen You just want to break up and now you regret in your decision because you tried to force his hand. See you tried to use Manipulation by guilt coercion by fear and so now it backfired on you So when you go back he may make you pay for that now if you told him over and over and over again And he still didn't make time then that's a sign then in that case you shouldn't be missing him Starfish God bless you. What are the signs of a woman having confidence when first meeting interacting with a man? There are no signs it ain't no signs is if you are you confident are you confident if you confident then whatever you're doing That's the signs. Okay, you don't need to try to learn signs and then you're going in there trying them Why the music playing in the club and you trying to look confident a man gonna see right through that like a glass window Okay, the the kids become confident When you watch enough of these videos and you get enough knowledge about men and about dating you're gonna be confident So if that means you just sitting like this Then that's the sign of confidence if that means that you smiling That's a sign of confidence if you confident. So ain't no signs now Lord Rainer God bless you do our dataman with the same income as myself It might not be exact, but you just want you don't want no man That's gonna need you that need to live off of you coach rock. God bless you now. Why didn't you like brother? As morel the God bless your tone. I just want to thank you and your lovely wife for the words You both have spoken. It's been such a blessing. I realized some of the changes. I need to make in my life. Hey, God bless you now God bless you. Let me see something here now You're a star fish you don't you don't want to try to fake confident the signs of confidence Caramel kisses in here appreciate you Caramel In here moderating as well tonight Oh Somebody pop down I'll get ready to answer a question. Somebody pop in Surreal Serial God bless you Tony someone told my boyfriend. I talked to this guy August 2019 When we broke up he didn't talk to me for a day got so angry and won't let it go. Why we got back together in December Men are very territorial men very territorial and a man's gonna be like that So you just got to understand that but here's the key. Can he get over it? Here's the key. Can he get over it? The other question is is is he gonna make you pay for? Does he want revenge? That's what you've got to realize if he cannot forgive and move forward You're gonna have problems on your hand So if it comes to if you come to find out that he's keeping you in a prison of his pain in the prison of his anger Then you need to let it go because if a person cannot get over Something that did or did not happen Then you need to move on Should I rekindle a previous relationship when it did it in bad he reached out recently and we called up on the events Going on in our lives. He said he wants marriage. I expressed the same what to do He if it didn't in bad he now he may want marriage, but if he don't tell you he wants you Then he just wants somebody to talk to right now during this year 19 He just wants somebody to talk to if a man wants marriage and he wants marriage with you He is going to expressly say that, you know, he's gonna let you know and So that's what you got to realize If you have a question put the hashtag cue in front of your question, so I know it's a question So everybody on here. Hopefully you listen if you have a question put hashtag cue in front of your question Even if God bless you now while dating Tony, do you know if a man is watching those movies or using? Handler, what are the signs? You don't really know But the signs typically will be a man that is It's one end of the spectrum or the other Either he's gonna be very very very turn on turned up and really coming coming coming at you you know like want to fulfill it or He may be just completely satisfied because he's taking care because Handler got him taking care of You know in those movies, but to be honest with you gonna be you really won't know if a man doing that because a man could be one of those things and not Dealing with those movies at all. So to be honest with you is is more so like here's the thing Most men don't think anything wrong with it. So to be honest with you. That's a casual conversation You can have so what kind of stuff are you into like the do you have watch porn? Now, you know, that's just You know, I hear a lot of guys are into that, you know, like what is it like this site only fan or like, you know Pornhub, you know, you also I'll be saying a word wrong on purpose, but um You know, that's a casual conversation because most guys don't think it wrong anything wrong with so that's how you catch them up He don't think they're wrong with it. But see now, you know the damages of it. You know what it can do So you just throw it out there probably around month two month three He'd be probably most likely gonna answer you Straightforward like yeah, yeah, I watched that. Yeah, you know, just good relaxation and don't condemn them or anything like that just mental note and then you Finding your way on out of there Raphael of God bless you Do you believe love is enough to make a relationship thrive? When do you know it's time to let go? Well, if you got if you're thinking about if it's time to let go that means you don't have love because see with love Love is or it isn't it ain't on in between love See when you have love you're not considering leaving when you have real love But see this what you got to understand about love is love has to be confirmed. So It has to be confirmed and it has to be affirmed So when you love in somebody if they love you back, they're going to affirm their love If they don't do that, you don't have love, but when you have love and it's reciprocal Leaving don't cross your mind because it's love So that's what you got to understand love is or it isn't it is black or white when it comes to love It ain't no gray area and a lot of people don't realize that and don't believe that Geo God bless you. Hey Tony I finished the life coach course and I went to my mentor to get registered Paid the fee but did not get a chance to finish profile. My account isn't available now Do I have to start over? Yep, Geo, you got to start over So when you get on there the sign up you got to go all the way through the sign up process and so what you could do is Email info at my mentor dot life Email info at my mentor dot life and and the developer help you Ariana Brown. God bless you Inspire faith bless you now Hey Tony just wanted to say thanks for all that you do been watching you since talks with Tony Okay, they're back in the day now You have truly been a blessing in my life continue to allow God to use you God bless a bless you All right now Kyra. I see you Kyra say boom gotcha put that question right there right on time Man told me he sees me as his wife. He told me he is in a relationship We had one conversation. I never heard back from him. I've never been on my back. We met last year I wasn't ready Tables turn. Yeah, Kyra That's another example of of the overactive Female mind, you know the male mind can be that way as well But typically it's the woman's mind that is overactive and y'all make a whole lot of stuff up and Happened that never really happened So listen, you know, it's been a year. It was one conversation You didn't sleep together and you asking a question about a one Conversation man who is in a relationship now see I want you to hear it like that you you asking a question about a conversation that y'all had last year He's in a relationship and in one conversation. He told you he sees you as his wife Okay Put it all together and as crazy as that sounds. That's how crazy it is that he just was talking He's ever told him because he liked to hear himself talk can be Tony do you do premarital coaching? He wants marriage with me and it's willing to do premarital coaching already Directed him to your videos. Um, yes, I do. Yes, I do Just find on my mentor dot life If I'm on my minute now my coaching schedule is booked up into all the way through May into the first Week or two of June. So for those of y'all a lot of time people like oh, I wait But every time you wait, it's gonna be a month out Just because you got to realize I want to do a few sessions a week and and I'm talking to a good amount of people online So you got to go ahead and get on in there. It's my mentor dot life and then hit Find a coach and then you'll see me when you hit find a coach and scroll through. I'm probably the second coach on there now I think Matzia God bless you now. Okay. Hey, I wasn't aware that's Australia. Well, you're a He says he loves me so much But he said he wants to be alone should I move on or try to talk to him move on move on A man who loves you and want to be with you is not gonna tell you he want to be alone He lying he lying through his teeth Alice hearted. Thanks for being real. God bless you Wba Tony I have an ex of one year that I broke up with Eight years ago that keeps sending me friend requests periodically on Facebook I think he really loved me. Does he still want me or want me in his harem? He wants you on the roster. He wants you on the roster because If you really wanted you he wouldn't let eight years pass. He don't want you and He did not really love you. He did not really love you a man Not gonna really love you and then late let eight years pass and then now come coming back now He's just still broke busted and disgusted emotionally spiritually. Maybe Physically and so he don't want you The net now you feeling up the chat keep putting that Tony only want questions in the chat You feel you feeling up the chat. I'm seeing you ten times another net Boss lady pebbles. God bless you. I have an HR consulting firm Where I can get government contracts. I set up. I set up a Separate LLC for life coaching in my book. Was this the best move? Yep, you did right because your HR consulting firm That's totally different That's totally different where you gain government contract So, you know, I have probably 11 LLCs because stuff in different fields. So My real estate investment company is not going to be in the same LLC as my life coaching company You see what I mean? Then my book publishing company is not going to be in the same You know, LLC as my real estate investment or my tech company. So I have Several LLCs because it's different your tech company real estate investment company Media movie company book publishing company Consulting corporate consulting company one-on-one coaching company. So I separate stuff out just so it You know, because it's different rules and regulations for different industries sometimes. So If they vastly different so but you know, it's a little bit more to manage but I just do what makes sense to me Chante God bless you Tony. I'm a single parent and have been abstinent for eight years I'm recently unemployed and live with family. I'm having a hard time finding balance and I'm getting a bit discouraged advice Well, you you you include the important things in what you're doing So by you feed your mind The more you feel if you're feeding your mind and you're still feeling down That means you got to keep feeding your mind That means block out television block out r&b rap Country music listen to music. That's gonna edify your spirit. You know gospel music Um contemporary christian music stuff It's gonna edify your spirit when you want to listen to music Then when you want to listen to talking you listen to videos that's speaking to your spirit that's speaking to your soul So you just got to increase your input of positivity reading books and get active So you unemployed. Okay, what you're gonna do Identify your gifts identify your passions. You know, you could you could go on fiber.com and offer a service proof reading offer proof reading service On there make you some money, you know go on Etsy sell something what you what you could sell you see what I mean Start just sit down with yourself and see what you can offer online what you can do to put some money in your pocket La crystal god bless you if he loves me will he return and try to contact me Our connection was genuine. It wasn't about money or superficial things Well, see la crystal what you got to realize is that you think it was genuine See a lot of time women think they love something and got love and all of this and and don't bit more know How that man feel didn't demand on the moon So you think that's how he feel but if y'all not together then that ain't how he feel See what I'm saying a man you're gonna be with a man that you meant to be with if y'all not together Then it ain't meant to be right now. So you can't sit and wait and ponder on it You got to get up and get on with your life. You got to move on with your life You can't sit and wait on somebody now surely god bless you poor The loud god bless you up do me. Okay Love fiance of three years don't know if I did the right thing ran business together and started fighting every day He did a lot for me, but he gets angry He gets very angry didn't believe I'd leave compare me to other women and couldn't take that Um, you did the right thing because you said something, you know, it's three years So you gave him enough time. He gets very angry. So eventually that was going to be this hill. Okay So that's what you have to realize that when you dealing with a man to get very angry five years six years in All right, so it was time to go ahead and leave because and then he comparing you to other women Uh new member god bless you Thank you for joining Welcome to the new members. I really appreciate y'all Me one two three god bless you me and my kids father just broke up after 13 years of being together And I haven't talked to him in a month, but now he is trying to talk to me. What should I do? Keep it moving keep it moving. Y'all was together One year and then hanging on for 12 years See y'all was together one year and in a situation ship for 12 years Keep it moving. You didn't say nothing about husband. You didn't say nothing about ex-husband So you was a girlfriend for 13 years Come on now. Come on. Come on now. What should you do? He shouldn't even be able to reach you. You need to have a uh a kids line You need to have a ring that when he called if it's by the kid it's got a special ring tone Other than that y'all ain't got no conversation You at this time you need to be healing preparing working on you building you and moving on Going by your business Even at god bless your ex and I met up A part a year Things I ended it because he wasn't enough for me false Try and explain. I was grieving the loss of mom needed time Well, I'll tell you this right here. You know people did people heal differently But when you need time away from your partner because you lost somebody you love That's a sign that you went the wrong person anyways Because when you truly have real love Then You know You know Then You're grieving you want that person near to you And if you need a little like a day or two or what have you to yourself If that person truly has your heart Then they're going to be okay with that space and that's not going to turn into a breakup But when we really love somebody and you really got love You want to cry in the arms of the one that you love You see what I'm saying? So You have what you have to realize is that situation exposed your weak bond So yeah, you can explain it if you want to but he knows that it wasn't because he wasn't enough He just he know y'all want to win the good fit Hey, y'all try to keep the chat kind of clear just just a lot of questions are being there So I can get these questions I know y'all want to amen and ouch and and all of that, but it just really You know if we got a good amount of people we look like we got a hundred people on here You know, so if everybody go to put yeah and amen that's that go all the questions gonna disappear for me Kimberley p. God bless you. I finally chose one focus area of six for coaching single moms Had my first session last week and love it Watch single mom tips video today and it was my confirmation. I needed this. Thank you. Kimberley. God bless you I'm glad that you had you a session God bless you now I don't know if the session came from my mentor dot life But if it didn't I may say you join my mentor dot life as a coach We need you and if you put single moms on there now you could put on You could put, you know Confidence coach in there self love in there as well, you know, you get to pick three categories on my mentor Is it wrong to leave a man? I'm dating because he watches those movies Now anybody don't know what she mean by those movies. We talk about perner. Okay And we just gonna Because you know you to catch words. So we talk about the nasty movies. All right And you don't really know when he watching those movies. What he watching if he watching this Okay You don't know if he watching this on the nasty movie. All right So either way he nasty So now you're not wrong for leaving a man who watched those movies You're not wrong for that if you talk to him and say listen, I think that defiles your spirit I think it gives you false sense of you know Stimulation and it it really breaks down the true and real connection between a couple Because you so caught up in fantasy land watching bumblebee triple x Do her thing and then you want to be coming and slapping me till i'm red Talking might do this and do that and you want me to recite the lines that she said on your love You know poorly directed nasty movie on perner hug. So now This is breaking down our relationship Express that if he sees if you see that he can't get past it. It's you know, it's an addition not a phase I gots to go player I'll let you I met a man prior to the situation in january And it appears to be very promising We've been practicing social distancing and talk daily been single for five years any advice besides continued communication No, no advice besides that just keep communicating and keep paying attention to the signs now be creative with your communication face time Face time, you know Make sure you get your face time in Um, right of hand written letter. It depends on how long the situation is Now i'ma tell you now people could be asymptomatic So keep social distances don't come on here lying talking about your social distancing Because if he asymptomatic and you got respiratory issues And you go hanging out with him. You're gonna meet the lords early Okay, because in 19 ain't playing All right, don't mess around and have an underlying issue like a like asthma because you'll be You'll be cut short Well, you consider doing a video about not living with a man before marriage I have never been married and never lived with a man and will not before marriage. I get questioned by guys about it um, yeah, yeah, I'll do a video on that but um Yeah, I mean that's pretty straightforward, you know, it's pretty I don't know if I could talk an hour about that You know what I mean and my videos an hour long so You know, I'll be honest with you a man really don't care about you living with him I'll be honest with you a man really don't care about you living with him. He may bring that up Because a man who doesn't want marriage who's not marriage minded He want to give you Somewhere to live with him so that you get complacent But a man that's marriage minded He is not going to expect you to live with him or he may expect it if you tell him I'm not doing that until we marry He's gonna understand that because he know that's the right way to go So it really ain't that deep. That's the kiddie pool. You know what I mean? It really ain't that deep. Just just keep your standards Shakita hair god bless you not Shakita be showing up and showing not God bless you. What are the advantages to wordpress verse wicks or hiring a web developer? Now see with wicks It's do it yourself wordpress can get very very complicated. You know, even like my mentor dot life That's got that got a wordpress foundation So you see all the stuff that my mentor dot life can do And so wordpress can get real complicated and you may need a developer Developers is not that expensive. You know, you could get somebody to be at your budget You know to manage your site if that's 50 dollars a month You know what I mean 20 dollars a month you get somebody on fiverr.com you get somebody now with wicks It's a template. So you pick life coach. They're gonna give you a life coach site You take they picture out put your picture in take they copy type in your copy. You see what I mean? So with wicks website builder google gold daddy websites all those They they for they intended for beginners to have a modern looking site That you could manage yourself my toner gas and calm is a wordpress site that I could manage myself a little bit But it's certain stuff on there. I can't do and I gotta depend on a developer to change certain stuff out for me Which could be a hassle because artists They'd be spacey So you you try to reach out to the development. You can't hit that He's underwater snorkeling for three weeks and you like man. What in the world, bro I had a book releasing where you've been at the last three weeks. Oh, I had a flat tire And you had a flat tire for three weeks that you couldn't return a phone call So in this day and age you want to get you a wick site Go to that gold daddy website builder website builder.com so that you could change stuff yourself And it'll only take you a couple of hours be honest with you A guy told me if a man opens the car door for a woman She should open the door for him once she's in the car. It says a lot about the woman grown boy or is this any meaning and that what that means is that the man was was taught how to Be in a relationship by movies. So he saw that in that movie. What is your Bronx tale? He saw that in a movie and His his mama or his dad really wasn't there To teach him about love relationships and he saw that in a movie. So he just think that's love relationship It's like we got automatic locks What you want somebody to want me to get a dough lock the dough unlock She getting the car. She leaning over trying to push that heavy old dough It's like you got automatic locks. What you talking about, bro Like what is you talking about this 2020? Like didn't want me got to lean over and unlock the dough on the automatic lock Then that god bless you now poor little life And this God bless you now. I see you Shanice god bless you bless you now Let me see Hey, Tony, is it a deeper issue if you get uncomfortable with older men looking at you By older. I mean 60 plus i'm 31 No, I mean just kind of you know, it's a little creepy, you know Ain't no deeper issue just nasty and see the man the older man get the more he know how to Do his eyes to look at you like he's undressing you with your eyes So, you know, all a old man look at me i'ma feel You know uncomfortable So no ain't nothing wrong with that. Ain't about no deeper issue. He just he deep the men. They know how to I'm 60 year old man. He know how to undress you with his eyes So he hit you with that and you just you you you feeling your clothes coming off and you like what the world And so that's all that is you can't really worry about it My twin brother's married But he told me about an ex that got away I sense he had regrets. Why do men do this? um it's really A man can try can push a woman away because he wants her to be A grown girl because he's a grown boy And she loves herself and she's standing her ground and she slips through his grasp And it's not that he really loved her. It's not that she really was wifey It's just that that was the one who refused to succumb to his games To his grown boy ways You see what I mean? So it ain't that he really missed her because if he really really missed it, he could go back and get her He could have went back and got him because ego wouldn't let him go back and get her It just really feel like failure. It's like, you know, that wide open shot that you missed you You thought you had it You know, so you're gonna lose sleep about that because you wide open that's your spot That's your spot that you hit from and so boom He couldn't get her to be a grown girl to match his grown boy And so now just he kicking himself because he like man, what I did wrong what I said wrong When really it just was her strength. So it ain't that he really regret it You know, it's just kind of just reminiscing Black book syndrome is what I call it. You know how the old men used to have a black book with all the phone numbers in it black book syndrome Uh, the son I made up with that right there now Uh, Sierra God pleasure my boyfriend moved. He is 27. I'm 21. He wants to come with We see each other four out of seven days a week I felt it won't last like that forever. Should I go My boyfriend moved He wants me to come with okay. He wants you to go with him Um, if he wants you to go with him, then he need to get on one knee and propose He need to get on one knee and propose even if all he got is a rubber band to put on your finger But if he ain't putting no if he ain't putting no ring on your finger I wouldn't go no, well, they all just have to be long distance till he ready You know to propose and if he don't propose and and it get past your timeline then boom you got to be gone God bless Tony. How come you state if a woman is interested in your man? She'll encourage you To stay with him rather than leave In a attempt to try to have him for herself. Thank you. Um Um, now, I don't know what video I said that is but um What I mean by that is A lot of times your friend A lot of times your friends Will have a little crush on your man and they'll take his side And so when you come complaining about him, he talking to her He know she got a thing for him and that he kind of got some sauce on her Because she might be unhappy in her relationship or she might be single And she will start working for him. But deep down be wanting him for herself He actually can touch her if he want to touch her So that's what I mean is a lot of times women when you're going telling all your business to your Woman friend a lot of time that end up being a friend of me That'd be a friend of me that you confide in instead of a real friend and And the way you know that is if you want to leave a man because you know, he ain't no good And your girlfriend keep telling you to stay That's what lets you know That she got something for him and she taking his side because your real friend She's gonna tell you yes girl, whatever you got to do you need to come stay with me You need some money you you need to get out of their relationship Your real friend gonna help you leave When it's trash now if your friend trying to get you leave him and it ain't bad ain't nothing really worth leaving That's another sign That's another sign. She might be a friend of me I'm Courtney. Thanks for keeping 100. You are truly God child. Blessing to you and your family I wish more men were like, hey, God bless your court and not God bless your point in the life Lord Keeley God bless you. Here go Keeley not showing up and showing up. That's a lot Now Keeley, all right now you either going through Tough times or real blessed times they're gonna be one end or the other because when you give them like you be giving Either the devil gonna try to attack you to make you feel like you know ain't no oil on your seat Or either the Lord gonna, you know show up and show out and I'm playing that No matter what you're going through that Lord show up and show out in your life now God bless you Keeley. God bless you Um Jadria Jadria Jadria God bless you for giving for how I'm doing your name How does one get to how does one try to get past mistrust? He caused over 10-year marriage. How do I get him? Understand to help me get that trust back I'd be like I'd be honest with you. You don't need him You don't need to get him to understand that he needs to help you get that trust back. He already knows that He already knows that and so if he's not trying to be transparent to be an open book And to earn your trust then he does not care. He does not respect you That the relationship has ran its course and he's not interested in making the relationship work So when a man gets that to that point what he's trying to do is he trying to Sabotage the relationship with the hopes that you will be strong enough to leave So that then he could say well she gave up on us She left and because he doesn't want to leave because he don't want it to be on him So that's what you've got to realize Kiki god bless you is a disrespectful If guy you're seeing talk about his ex to you Ex still has feelings for him after seven years Um Yeah, it's disrespectful and it's weak What I mean by that. He's just not really emotionally intelligent. So instead of talking to a therapist Or a coach or his home boy. He's just talking to any chest. He can lay his head on and so really what it means is It means he has a soul tie So he got a soul tie with her and the soul tie is so strong He can't help but talk about it because he a soul tie strangled you And you just got the you got to talk about it to to to loosen that strangulation And so that's what's happening with that situation Hey, Tony, I get sad a lot because I left my ex who has a vice. I made him promise To his mom before she died on christmas to be there for him. I made a promise Am I wrong for moving on all the way? No, you're not wrong. You're not wrong You know, that's why the bible say don't make no promises Because you don't have no control over tomorrow. Okay, so moving forward don't make no promises, but You know, you're not wrong move on. There is humans and human break promises And especially when your life is on the line when your your Future is on the line, you know, his mom will understand And you know, you were trying to be nice and sweet and you know cute The give her some peace on her way out and that was nice of you, you know But now she you know is going on and now you need to going on because he's not growing and he's not changing And all parties involved really understand what needs to happen So don't beat yourself up over that Wavy black queen feels like god bless you now wait feels like I've never I'll never understand why my ex walked away from me and I ask a question every chat just to get some type of closure So I'll just send a blessing this time. Please just pray for me. Well, I'll tell you what you need to do Versus the chat you're gonna need to do coaching You're gonna need to do coaching because what's happening is is you're not really talking about it with somebody that's Knowledgeable about men and love and relationships so that you can get sound feedback See the sound feedback is what closes up those voice. That's what gives you closure So you asking questions by that but you just running in circles You're just going in circles and what you also got to realize you got to give yourself closure Can't nobody really else give you closure. He can't even give you closure. You got to give yourself closure and you do that by Watching the game film talking through it and learning and growing Joy god bless you. I know that stand off your back is a must But what are your thoughts on kissing? I'm abstaining And have heard some say that kissing should be off limits. I'm curious to know your opinion Well, you know, if you got mono out there, you know, you got Herb simplex one out there right now. You got 19 out there So really it's just a lot going on out there. You need to keep your mouth to yourself Keep your mouth to yourself save it for your husband Now what I have learned over time is that kissing can be more intimate than actual intercourse, okay, because kissing could is Seen as more entering getting to think about this white and think about this now a man will kiss a woman That he has feelings for but he won't kiss the street woman the took the five dollar woman he pays for Or the thousand dollar woman he pays for he won't kiss her Because he don't trust her mouth and what she do with it. So a man who will kiss you in your mouth That's actually more intimate than the actual act Of coming together. You see what I mean? So understand that you're doing more damage And it's more dangerous to be kissing because that's like a gateway. That's a gateway draw. See when you kissing Everything the chemicals go to releasing. Okay, that body You're gonna start to feel Aquafina he gonna go to Activate an arm and hammer box and then all your senses relax So you he kissed you long enough You're gonna be on your bike. So you play with fire. You're gonna get burned And it's unfair to the man to be kissing because men already don't like to kiss So if he do all the kissing he gonna want something after that kissing ain't him be doing on the kissing and just be Fine with walking away like a woman could be so that's what you got to understand It's unfair to him too the be kissing him because you lead him on now you being a tease and you setting yourself up a failure Um turning the conversation was this year Please You made it sound like i'm hanging on to something. Oh now you said last year you said y'all met last year So, you know if y'all met last year and he in a relationship and y'all still ain't together That's still all the same You know and if he in a relationship what y'all talking for anyway So it's still all so you so you really hold it on to a figment of your imagination because that's somebody else man You see I'm saying so how somebody in a relationship gonna tell you that He see you as a wife and y'all only talk one time now you say y'all talk one time Okay, now you got you you leaving facts out of there. You need a cold session. All right my mentor doggie life Um, Anderson god bless you. What does it mean when a guy flipped and changed out of five months of dating? Just stopped communicating made me feel uncomfortable. I broke up and asked what the problem was He was trying to him me below the belt to hit me below the belt. It was so strange He just heard He just heard he just it's just a heard man And that's that's what happens like when you see a man change up that quickly. It just lets you know that it was A lesson that that's not your husband So you just hey this man was sent to teach you a lesson so that you'll be better So you'll be wiser for the next situation don't spend too much time thinking on it For namesake god bless you if I spend the night with a guy Slash intimacy until the next midday and he doesn't walk me to my car and just says call me or Or a call when you get in doesn't that mean he doesn't truly like me seriously? now um Now you now, you know, you could be reaching a little bit Uh, you know, if your legs work fine, he he might not see a need to walk you to your car now You know, it's not a nicolet sparks movie You know, man, it's just not going to be A player more likely to do that To walk you to your car because he know you've been watching so many movies that you think it means something He walked you to it to your car So no, that don't mean a whole lot that that does not mean a whole lot, you know, and that's where Women when y'all spend too much time reading these nicolet sparks books and watching the notebook and watching all these movies And then y'all get into this space of you know I put my slippers by the bed and He didn't push it all the way under the bed so that I wouldn't trip on it If I wanted to get up in the middle of the night to go get something to drink And I just wonder does it means that he doesn't care about my well-being because he left the hazard In the middle of the floor and should I continue to move on? You know, and that's how y'all get to this place to where y'all be, you know Really reading the stuff So it's kind of like, okay, you came over there Now you say it sound like you put intimacy So that could be the other thing if you came over there and got loose booty Then he might feel like okay walk yourself out, you know loose booty You came over here and got on your bike So you came over there if you got on your bike and was there to the next day, then yes You know that that could have sent the wrong message, you know So you got to be careful with that Gia If a man is afraid of rejection will he be capable of pursuing a woman he loves? Or will his worries keep him stuck just curious? um a man Fear rejection, but he will overcome that fear for a woman that looks like his wife He definitely are going to overcome that fear Now let me see. I thought I saw I don't know if it was a question that I had already asked though Answer I mean, I don't think I missed now Kid of God bless your lost physical custody of my two kids. Their dad wanted me to help Fix his legal status I married him let me see kids more often Started doing the paperwork Feel uncomfortable continuing the process. What should I do? You're gonna need coaching you're gonna need coaching. That's that's real too deep for here That's real too deep. So visit my mentor dot life And click find the coach and then at the filter It'll save subject or category select co-parenting And then look at our co-parenting coaches on my mentor dot life and book your coaching session because for one I don't really fully understand all the details. There's a whole lot of details in there a lot of legal stuff in there so I don't want to teach you and You know on situation like that when it comes to serious stuff like that, you can't try to Take a shortcut on this Q and a a little bit more for more trivial stuff That right there is too it too many lives hanging in the balance, you know, you need coaching on that Lisa god bless you. Hi. I'm 47 never married single for five years 42 tired of grown boys. I'm afraid I'm becoming content with being single any advice That's good. Why are you afraid of that? You ought to be content being single when you content being single That's when you ready for a relationship. See when you discombobulated and you frustrated and you You know depressed and stressed and Anxiety ridden and you you all of that right there desperate desperation turns into high Dehydration you go beyond thirst. That's when it's scary. But when you content being single That's when you truly ready for law Because that's when a person has to compliment you because you don't need anybody to complete you So you're in a good space ain't nothing to be worried about and so the man for you He's gonna sweep you off your feet and he got to sweep you off your feet because you you good by yourself You comfortable where you are Hi toning. I'm taking the life coach course and looking to create t-shirts. Should I get the name and image? copy written The thing like this right here on when it comes to copy written and all of that It's like do you got the money to sue somebody? You see what I'm saying? So if you don't have the money to sue nobody then just creating it could Appear as a copyright and so if somebody sees that it's out there and that you have it They're not going to take it if they use it And it's maybe because they don't know who you are But I've never really had that issue. I have people like steal my quotes and stuff, but it's like It ain't making me, you know, it's not costing me anything, you know financially. So it's kind of like Eh That's just extra money where you just create the shirt, you know, I mean It's not that big of a deal to be honest with you now you can go to copyright.gov and spend $35 to copyright something With a slogan with a shirt that's more so like trademarking which could be a a few hundred dollars You know what I mean or more so I really wasn't focused on that too much Can you start the process of dating and getting to know someone over? If you have already crossed the line with them It's all respect going out the window if so how to do that Uh, yeah, you can start the process over you can if the person really like you if he if he likes you then yes He will be okay if you say hey, I decided that you know, I'm just we we moving too fast and I want to pump the brakes I want to slow down a little bit and um, you know I'm just not ready to be intimate like that If he really likes you he'll understand he'll work with you You know, I have couples, you know that I work with that is in that situation. They fell into the bed They felt like they made a mistake or one person felt like they made a mistake told the other person The other person really liked them. See the good thing about it is Sometimes that works in your favor Because see when you fall into that bed Now that's like the test drive So now he didn't test drive you he'd enrolled you he see how you handle, you know bumps and turns and Now he know what the ride is like and see i'm using this terminology just for youtube but And also a lot of men use that terminology and what I tell men is a woman is not a car that you should be test driving So you can't expect to test drive no woman, but a lot of men have that mindset They's like why am I gonna marry her if I don't know if we compatible in that area So a lot of time when you slip up and you fall into that bed on accident It could work in your favor because now that's out the window So it's like a if you want to stay with me that mean you already know we compatible there So if you stand that mean you're saying we're compatible if he say listen, you know I'm out of here. Didn't that let you know that he was going to be gone anyways So what you have to realize is that you're not a car So he don't have to keep being with you intimately Because just like at the dealership they're not finna come and let you put 3000 miles when they call every saturday Talking about you still trying to figure that out if you want to buy the night They're gonna give you one drive and they're gonna say okay Do you want the car not because you can't keep coming up here every week Test driving a car you didn't test drove the car so much now the car need a oil change. This is against our policy Okay, sir, you're gonna get the car or not. We only got a one test drive rule So you see what I'm saying? So the same thing in the relationship You ain't got to be test drove because you a human being So if you don't want to be there go there with a person Okay Was long distance seven years Met three times Hot pocket and microphones Uh, okay peach cobbler. Okay. He's a celebrity Thanks to you. I cut it all been six weeks. Nothing We're both in our 50s. Do you think he'll wake up too late? Was long distance seven years met three time The whole thing was a game, you know, the whole thing was a game Um, and that's the problem You know and that happened a lot with celebrities Because you know y'all women y'all be sold in fantasy land and you just happy, you know, you just happy Um, you just happy Eight nine when people ask questions y'all try not to answer the question. Okay, because um People say they don't want people in the chat answering a question You know, so y'all because they confuse them. So y'all let me answer the question, please and um We understand that you want to help and all that So, yeah, you you just played yourself So take the lesson from it for one never be long distance longer than a year two at the max Three when you meet up how you gonna meet up three times and then be on your back and doing all kind of stuff with your mouth You know and y'all not even together. So it's really like You was on the roster. You were a roster filler that you was his roster filler in your city Or when he could bring you to his city and he used you for that purpose only Just chalk it up put it in your book Teach the younger ladies about it and move on with your life. It really was nothing. It was it was just a glorified Escaped for your book Hi, Tony. I would like to purchase about 10 books of a woman's influence. How can I get a better deal besides amazon? For the same over 200 I really can't tell you, you know, because I don't sell them You know, I mean I can't sell them myself because it's owned by a publisher You know it's published by a top five publisher in the world. So it's illegal against my contract to be selling them out to Trump So, you know, it's just kind of like If you can't do the 10 then just do three, you know, do five, you know, I mean Anything you do whoever you bless, it's still it's still a blessing. They're still gonna appreciate it. So You know, I thank you for even thinking about that Um day to the guy aiming god bless you now day to the guy for 10 months Let me see how much time I got. Hey, I got 27 minutes now. I got 27 minutes Day to the guy for 10 months He didn't feel ready for a relationship after nine years of marriage. Wife cheated on him. He said doesn't know what he wants thoughts, um, he don't know what he won't leave Keep on going and he probably may never get married again. A man been married, um, nine years And he says wife cheated on him. You don't know if that's true You don't know if if he cheated on her and she cheated retaliation or if she even cheated So you gave him 10 years. He don't know what he won't go on about your business Ivalen Jones, I just cannot forgive my husband. God bless him For cheating five years ago. Now it's our 10 year anniversary. He wants to renew our vows and I think if it doesn't Worth it, what do you think and I think it doesn't worth it? What do you think he's 66? I'm 49. You think it's not worth it? I'll tell you like this, you know, a woman's heart is the most forgiving heart in the world So if you as a woman came forgive him Then for one that mean he too old for you anyways That mean that that's that wasn't your husband to begin with That was your little fantasy boy. It was a little fling. It was a little fling that got out of hand. He's 66 You 49, you know, his body might be starting to slow down stuff might be starting to shrivel up If not his heart just you know, his motor might be moving a little different and you 49 You get ready to go into your your golden years your glory season And so it's some other things playing in there because what he did five years ago Most women as you see by these questions Most women could forgive something like that for marriage, you know, they get past it. It may be hard But nine out of ten women go through that So for you to be in this place and this five years ago and you and you don't have you're not saying anything else that he's done and you you don't want to Forgive you don't feel like it's worth it. That mean that he was never your husband to begin with Because and you just never had that kind of heart for him because sometimes in relationships must you know mistakes happen people make bad decisions and Every single day people is forgiven Like we really don't get to hear of too many couples where they didn't go through Some form of infidelity. So if you feel like that ended it Then be gone, you know, let it go. Don't don't don't live in a prison of Of that right there, you know, let it go because essentially when he did that he was dead wrong And he broke the covenant anyways, so you have every right to move on So if you came forgive Be gone A man used me for his business. Mm-hmm. They're having a lot. It's successful now I put a lot of time into it. Well, he reeked what he sold your thoughts Um, in some form he will he will he'll reap it in some form. You may not get to see it You may not get to celebrate in it. So don't wait on that don't look for that But he will reap what he sold, you know, it just can't get around that. Hold on commercial break from commercial Let me see Empress god bless you now god bless your part in our life Boyfriend is generous. I never asked for money Wants me to buy him a gift Greater than it knows that less than yet less than 1k I don't think you should mix Finances until after marriage Is he testing my loyalty? Together one year I show love just frugal Now the fact that I you know He wants you to buy him a gift Yeah, he might be testing you now But if he generous And I don't understand what you mean by mixing finances because buying a gift ain't mixing finances The mixing finance will be sharing an account You know a joint account. So if he generous and he buy you gifts, it's okay to buy him a gift Now I I can't remember if that's less than or greater than I think that's Uh less than 1k. So, you know, write that out if you need to but um Ain't nothing wrong with reciprocating now. No, no man wants somebody that he just got to pull just got to care forever So if you got money and he generous and he buy you gifts then yeah, it's all right to buy him a gift You know, ain't nothing wrong with that at all G or god bless your last question Yeah, you need a coach session now Why do men hold on to pictures videos etc after a breakup do they realize that it isn't smart to stay stuck in the past? Um, he want to stay stuck in the past, you know, he want to be there. That's that's his That's his soul time You know, that's his soul time. He got feelings for you know, he want to be stuck there He realized it ain't no fun, but he really he's not ready to move on in his heart You know, he comfortable in the next woman. She could just get it how she lives She could get in what she fit in that's what he's saying But when a man is truly overwhelming he's gonna delete them pictures and videos, but Most men don't know how to deal with a soul time One Emmanuel god bless you god bless you queen sherry and family. Hey, thank you. Bless you Lena tv Put a cue in front of your question Do you think it's okay to buy christmas gifts for a guy you're in a relationship with Six months in Now see Lena We in we in may and you ask them buy christmas gifts Um, yes, it's totally fine to buy christmas gift But what y'all got to do is when when it comes to these gifts You put a budget in place So that he don't get you a $50 gift and you give him a $500 gift you put a budget in place So that y'all know say hey, we're gonna do gifts. Well, what's the budget? Let's set a budget A man who's trying to play you he's gonna be like there ain't no budget You know just do what your heart want to do You know just do what you want to do that you're gonna come in with a cheat gift So you come in with the big gift because he know you got a big heart and you a giver you know, so You got to think about that so, um Okay, then you talk about past. All right, let's talk about the future. All right, and let go let go forward But I get you I get what you're saying But um, yeah set a budget on your gift giving Because what women will do a man will go get you this here a pen And it just got your name on it So it cost him $12 And then you'll go get him Just plan because he say he got big dreams and this planner costs $600. You see that's what a lot of women do Y'all go get the best gifts in the world And demand don't know Now he's spoiled Do men feel better after revenge cheating with baby mama? Then gets back with girlfriend after absolutely pretty black He feel absolutely better and the thing about it is is a man don't forget So he might be revenge cheating the rest of your life So this is the thing if you cheat on a man, it's best to just leave it's best to leave because Men and women different when it comes to forgiveness If you cheat on a man and he let you stay he stayed with you He's going to be making you pay for that the rest of your life You're going to be in a prison of his pain the rest of his life unless you know that he knows Jesus christ and he'd have been dipped in the oil and washed by the blood of jesus If not, you're going to be paying for that the rest of your life. Um Okay, um morgan, I I see your question here. You have confused because you put acu So I was wondering what that was My child's dad slash boyfriend of 12 years Left the house to go work at 1 p.m At 7 p.m. I saw him online Getting engaged to the woman he previously cheated on me with Married her Now he wants to come back 90 days later Going about your business Going about your business. He wasted all our time. You gave him 12 years now going about your business What is the longest length of time you should allow for an ex to come back to you If you finish with him after five months because he needs to heal um if it was five months And he needs to heal and you broke up with him He's he's gonna come back within a month or two He's gonna come back But the thing about that is you got to listen to your heart, you know You got to listen to your heart on that and understand like is he worth waiting on Do you want to give that another chance? There's other men out there So do you want to wait around for this broken man to come back and try to get you and and woo you? But anytime under a year Under a year relationships that fall apart. Those are the safest ones To give a second chance Over a year relationships that fall apart Those are the ones that get a little more risky because if you fall apart after You've been together for a year or more Then that means y'all had plenty of time to get to know each other and it didn't work out Seeing five months y'all still getting to know each other. So it's going to be some mistakes there It's going to be some mishaps So under a year relationships are the ones that you really have a green light to give a second chance If it wasn't, you know anything that was crazy that broke y'all up Tony what are your thoughts on a man that has been married and divorced twice already? Both marriages lasted seven years and he has three kids between each marriage I'll turn him over to the lord. I'll turn him over to the lord to be honest with you If I was if I was you if I was a woman I wouldn't be trying to be wife number three because He just he got too much going on And vice versa the other way around too. I'm never trying to be number three Number two. Okay, maybe number three I know they say three times a charm, but Three times could be a curse too I I'll turn him over to the lord Seven years seven years. I'm so tired so deep KYC god bless you Had a man friend who makes decent money say before moving in with a woman She needs to make a certain amount if it's not equal to or under his if it's not equal to or Under his he tried explaining it with a glass half full half empty analogy Yeah, he played too much Yeah, he played too much going about your business Because a man shouldn't really be making that bigger deal about no money when it's his place to provide anyways Is his place to take care You know the woman anyways, so when he talking about you got to get your income to a certain place Yeah, he he's gonna be controlling you telling you what shorts you can and can't wear all all of the ball Going about your business What are some things that you should reevaluate in a relationship at 30 60 90 days? How do you back out of the relationship or reduce slash reduce feelings? You do it with a conversation You know do it with a conversation if you feel like that the person is a little cuckoo for cocoa puffs Then you do it over the phone If they are right and you could sit down and you could talk then you sit down and you talk But what you evaluating is is it still for progressing? So at 30 days you ask yourself how much has he been talking about? Okay, how much he been trying to get me here All right 60 days if you still have not went here Is he getting okay with it or is he getting impatient? He getting a little forceful. He getting a little beside himself And then you looking at red flags. Okay. Has he yelled at me? Has he cursed at me? Has he given me his word and not kept his word? So really them first 90 days. It's like the probationary period So it's just like on your job because what you got to realize is you about to merge your life with somebody else's life So you got to have your policies and procedures when you go to a job They say listen three unexcuse tardies and you fire You know three unexcuse absences and you fire, you know in your first 90 days before you vest it before You know, you locked all the way in We watching you So it's like if he said i'ma call you at nine and then he called you the next day He didn't call you at 9 p.m. Like he said and then he done did this three four times By the 30 day 60 day 90 day mark nine, you know, that's a huge red flag He didn't broke all the rules if he then tried you To get in the bed and you told him no and one time he got a little Froggy, you know and tried to go a little too far Got to go it's over with you see what I mean So you evaluate it just as if you were CEO of a company looking at somebody trying to come into your company You know how they moving Jennifer god bless you. Hi Tony. I'm 23 and a woman's influence has been blessing me. Thank you God bless you and your family in abundance. Hey bless you Jennifer bless you What in her life lord not listen if you ain't got a woman's influence You're living in sin. Okay, so make sure that you get his hill book. I'm trying to tell you now I'm trying to tell you it's gonna bless you. It's gonna bless you Missy goo god bless you. I'm at a great christian guy. I've been dating him for two years He doesn't want his wife to have no tattoos He has offered to pay and remove my tattoo should I remove them for him? Not proud of my tap. I'm not proud of my tap I think he been a little extra and to me that's kind of a sign of controlling because God ain't ain't that word by it. You know what I mean? God ain't that word by it I know they try to look to the bible in the old testament when they used to mark their bodies for the dead You know and all that but it's like it's not that serious, bro It's not that serious like do you got a tattoo on your forehead? Is it on your eyelid when you close your eye and they say love me You know is it down your face if that's not the case then he tripping You know now if you want to remove it go ahead and remove it but for a man to make that an issue not as different if he says A woman over 25 still getting tattoos is a little concerning to me because you should be past that phase It's different if he say something like that like wow you 35 still getting tatted up like what's going on? Like I could see that but if he wanted to go into your past It'd be like hey, you know what that birthmark that you got right there I just don't like the way that's it. So we're gonna have to get that removed I know that's what you get when you come into the country and they give you that shot and it turned into the Love-burp circle We're gonna have to get that removed. You know, he going all into the past that right there That that that's tossed to me that's controlling the me It's like you're gonna get with him and I'm telling him from a man perspective I don't care for tattoo. I got five of them now I got one here one here one here one there and one across my stomach It used I used to have a 14 pack now. I got a two to four pack depending on if I eat in the morning or not but I My wife got two or three tattoo And I don't necessarily care for tattoo, but I'm not going to you know say Hey, you need to get them tattoo erased off of you That's scary to me as a man that man going to be telling you what to eat Telling you how much milk to put in your cereal when y'all get married I I would not I'm telling you I'm telling you I think that's a mistake Don't know but hey do what you want to do now. You'll be calling in a few years Tony this man pick it up my clothes. I say hey, I tried to tell you that same one major delete that tattoo My husband left after 21 years. He's shacking. We're still married I have a friend he asked He asked should we wait until after my divorce to start a relationship He says I'm the one for him. Oh, you have a friend Okay All right. Now what your husband doing ain't got nothing to do with you now what you and your friend doing Yes, y'all need to wait until after your divorce now just because your husband is seeing Don't mean you need to go get in seeing. Okay So just because he ain't seeing don't mean you go get in seeing So now your friend asking you should y'all wait until after divorce Yeah, y'all need to wait until after the divorce Hey, when somebody asks a question now y'all y'all stop putting y'all answers in there because The people don't be wanting to have 50 people answering their question. All right, so y'all just submit it to the lord in prayer Speaking to a Jamaican man wondering if I should pursue the relationship I'm of Jamaican descent myself and I know how they can be But there's no red flags, especially with money as he has a well-paying job Well, Kim, you know my wife being Jamaican and her parents both for her parents Jamaican She kind of say that to me sometimes she say man a lot of a lot of Jamaican women do not want no Jamaican man And you know her dad is Jamaican and I kind of see how he is which is it's totally different than me Um, essentially what it seems like to me is a lot of Jamaican men, you know They don't play no games. They gonna cheat if they want to cheat a lot of them a lot of them three hot meals a day They go, you know Very traditional the woman cooking clean and do all this and A man get to be a man and do a man Whereas a lot of American men are saying wait a lot of men are saying wait, but you know me I'm a lot softer than that A lot more understanding than that and so and I think that's the thing Is so you got to look at a man culture a man's culture and his upbringing does mean something So it ain't just about the red flag with money is how he treats you What's his ideas about relationships gender roles? That's what you got to understand You don't you don't just cut somebody off because of their nationality Because you look at his mindset around relationships and what he believes the roles of a man and a woman is And how he treats you that that should take you three to six months to find out KYC gobb that's a hate tone. I've been in a long distance relationship for a year She is vegan. I am not What's your opinion on that? She also says she Says she wait to raise kid. Oh, she wants to raise kids vegan. Um That's not really a foundational belief But yeah, it's like if you don't want to be no vegan, that's not your wife You know that that ain't your wife. I'll just be honest with you because eating the body need food So Y'all a house divided if you want to have you a a piece of steak And she talking about eat these lentils with this, uh, cucumber and Raw onion And I've been so told sauteed and put some salt and pepper on it and you like Can I have a hamburger? So that's a foundation. It is kind of foundational belief because that food nourishes the body And then you over there eating steak and then your kids sitting there And they don't have a piece of that bacon or piece of that steak and now they mouse salivate And now she's feeling left out. So that's something to where It can cause an unnecessary rift and it will be very awkward But if she okay to love you and you okay for her and your kids to be vegan while you eating on steak and baking or chicken or whatever then you know, y'all could write a book on how y'all made it work, but Me personally, you know, something like that. That's kind of like a foundational thing like your food Your religion how you raise your kids. That's something you kind of want to be compatible on so Or hey, maybe the vegan life might be for you what I say try for two weeks I tried to go vegan two weeks lost 10 pound Lost 10 pounds almost passed out and died came back on the other side eating all kind of steak and baking but You know that that vegan all that eat not at the at the window You got to be cooking your food putting it in tupperware taking it with you and have a portable microwave Or eating it raw and cold. But um, yeah, that's that right there That's sad that that's that that are on a relationship. That's sad That's sad Cassidy God bless you. Hi, Tony. Just want to say thank you and God bless you. I have purchased four of your books so far Wow, God bless you. I really appreciate that Candice God bless you Tony to work on myself. These videos are very helpful. Thank you. Peace and blessing a God bless Hey, y'all got five more minutes now Mickey be God bless when when approached by a grown boy. What's the best way to reject? Can I have your number line or having a conversation in general? kind I'm 20 my future husband isn't coming. No time soon Now it depends on where yet Okay, if it's dark and you out somewhere like that Try not to be out there like that and just and listen to your intuition You're gonna feel his vibe. How is he dressed? What his hair looked like what his energy was like? Hey, shorty Give me your number Somebody like that. Oh, here you go. And it could be a wrong number. He calling. Hi The number you reach is no longer in service. Thank you I and I encourage women to invest in a number like that. Now you might can't go to that same store no more in case That's what he hang out at but You know or invest in a little google voice number that he at least call and don't get an answer And then if you bump into him again, hey, I'm just going through a whole lot You know the same number still works, you know, it's your google voice But the reason why I say that today and the reason why I say this because I read I saw on the news a young lady told a man know about her number and he took a life and so I'm like It got to be a way around that, you know, so You that's why you got to listen to your spirit And just see if you need to have your little bat phone and little google voice number And I remember that women used to get them numbers out because I remember being at the club when I was You know your age and go highland We trying to compete for numbers and I remember these girls used to have these kind of numbers to where I called a number and it'd be like Sucker Gotcha This ain't a real number. That's what you get for being nasty And I'm like, wow That woman really gave me that number I must be Look like the back of 67 Chevy uh, Lydia God bless her Pardon her life Hey Do I need to wait until I'm completely divorced to start dating? Yes, you do. Yes, you do. If not, you're in sin Okay, you're in sin I'm glad that chat buffering. Hey, I'm gonna cut this here chat off Hey God bless y'all now think about this here thing Continue to work on your heart now one of the things that I see really going on is you got to work on breaking These here soul ties You got to work on breaking these soul ties and getting beyond that place to where You trapped and you stuck from your past relationships And what you're gonna have to do is you're gonna have to sit down and you're gonna have to look at your relationship And you're gonna have to look at everything that happened And when you look at it and you evaluate it and you say, okay Was that love or was that pain? Was that love or was that, you know, self-hate? Was that love or was that lies and manipulation? So you got to look at it differently so that that way you are able to compartmentalize you can put it in a box And you can take and shift your mindset so you can start to heal Because what you got to realize is the mind remembers things better than it actually was So you'll be given credit where credit is not due KYC I eat vegan food with her when we out and do make vegan food sometimes but not sure I can be 100% vegan her solution is We can go outside um, you know, if you could be vegan and you eat vegan and all that then you know Like she say like, you know, my wife was eating healthy and stuff like that I get me a bit mic or some Popeyes chicken while I'm out and I eat it in the car Spray my little air freshener in there. Come on home. Chew me some bubblegum Hey, baby, how you doing? And I just finished eating that Popeyes But because she wasn't eating Popeyes So that ain't really cheating because that ain't no another woman So you want to hit your old state? Okay Had it for lunch at the job get it for carry out from Chipotle You see what I'm saying? So if you could compromise Then it's fine. Y'all could be together because vegan may be healthier. A lot of pro-athletes is on that And and making billions of dollars and they body doing fine. So it's it's it could be a healthier way to live I believe the body do need a little bit of protein from meat But you know and some scientists will say the same, but if if being vegan ain't gonna kill you Then hey, and that's who you love Now it ain't worth compromising if she ain't really your wife Now if she really your wife Then you could compromise Nicole Baker. God bless your mom 57 With married men all my life Family more concerned about money than heart grandma with grandfather till death. I'm 40 Ended 15 year soul time with a married man Learned through pain with no guidance. Is it wrong? don't want to Disrespect the family for my choice what to do um, yeah, you was wrong And you can't really disrespect your family if your mama was with fitted with Was with married men and your grandma She's with your grandfather till death your family more concerned with money than heart So you making the right choice and doing the right thing and ending a 15 year soul time You can't upset your family because you know, this the bar wasn't set that high So don't worry about that Nicole sound like you need coaching though You you know, you need coaching you need to be able to express your heart really get things off your heart And um as I was saying listen y'all keep working on them soul ties so that your we could get past You know and you could start to grow and get beyond the x Because the x got you vexed and the x got you vexed and is blocking the necks And as long as you keep looking backwards then you're gonna keep crashing while you trying to go forward So make sure you sit down and you do the work you evaluate that pain you look at that stuff You know, you do the work. No, what I mean by kyc. Is she your wife? I mean like is this the woman you want to marry? Like if you don't think she 100% the woman you want to marry Then it ain't worth having your stomach talk to your spine trying to be vegan When you want your estate now if it's the woman you want to marry and this your wife she might be Let me upgrade you upgrade you she might be trying to be answer you to where she finna do you You know better by getting you on this vegan, you know help get some of that good off of you So you could be on that skateboard a little better look like you skate no break dancing in your picture though Um Being lm god bless you for every book every video your willingness to allow god to use you and allowing me to expand my gifts via my mentor dot life Thank you. Hey god bless you not god bless. 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