 Hello, this is Ilchibuko Todd. You are watching Tao Thursday with Ilchibuko on Brain Decation TV. Today, I will talk about how can I create a positive relationship. When we are talking about relationship, automatically you may think relationship with someone or other people. But I want to mention about the relationship with yourself first. When we are in relationship with other people, we feel some emotions. We feel you are hurt by others and automatically we are looking at other people. Other people hurt me and I am a victim of this situation. But before we look at improving the relationship with other people, you want to look at yourself. I get a lot of times this question, how can I improve the relationship with my husband or with my wife because things are not going well? And I hear that they are going to counseling and working things out with each other. And I tell them usually first each person improve relationship with himself or herself and later on come together to work on a relationship to create positivity in a relationship. So then what is this relationship with myself mean? So in this study of Tao, we say that there are three things or three bodies. So when we are talking about body, you know as a physical body as me, but you want to be looking at these three things. Physical body as a container that holds different things. So for example, emotion. Emotion is not out there. Emotion is right here within this physical being. Also how about information, information or stories of the past? Isn't that inside of this container so-called physical body too? Absolutely. In this container, we hold different things like story of the past, information that you keep saying in your mind all the time and also the emotion that is going up and down depending on situation and circumstances. So this body also contains different things like we can say our soul. This is the greatest energy or the being existing inside of you that physical body holds. Also information wise, we say we have different state of consciousness. Level of information goes up and down. So the greatest and best information you can have is the we say divinity. Those different information, different level of energy reside inside of our physical body. Next is second body, energy body. So the energy body is something that goes beyond this physical existence and it can expand or shrink. It can be very small and tiny or it can be wide and big depending on what information you carry. Third body is information body or we call spiritual body. So this is related to what kind of information you carry all the time. So you can be saying like the self talk, why is this happening to me or I am not good or I am great, I am loving. This is the range of we say consciousness. So dark consciousness or information can be what limits you and keep you in the same place and the brighter consciousness can be expensive and wide that can tap into the limitless potential of yourself. Now when you look at physical body, when you look at energy and when you look at your information, you will be able to observe and reflect what is going on and get to know about yourself. What kind of emotion do you carry all the time? How about your information you carry, what do you say to yourself? So positive relationship means that quantity and quality of information is bright, consciousness is bright, also the quantity and quality of emotion is more of joy, happiness, peace and also how you see yourself, your body become positive or being patient with your body and allowing your body to communicate with you through the communication with your body, communication with the pain of the emotion as if you are talking to somebody. This will help you to be more of observer existing inside to see what is going on and be able to be honest and patient with yourself. So if you increase your awareness about those, then you will have better communication and better relationship with yourself. Now if you have that then you can go step two which is creating the better relationship with other people. So when you create better relationship with other people, what is that mean? You show up as this honest, sincere being to other people. If you do the step one to help yourself communicate with yourself and have awareness, that means that you will not be reacting, you have this processing time inside of you. We can say observation or watching yourself. And through that, what you output, what you say to others will be more considerate for others or sincere or respectful for another human being. Even that situation is difficult and hard and even somebody says something to you that can be hurtful. If you ended up hurting another person, naturally you can say to another human being, I'm so sorry. Please forgive me. So if you ask me what is the positive relationship like? It's not really about being nice or having some kind of the relationship on the surface. It's really about connecting to your senses and knowing about yourself more. And that will turn into loving yourself more and uncovering this self that is beyond your imagination which is just the pure love itself. And even the state of your mind, your consciousness, you will discover from the dark state of consciousness which is blaming other people or blaming even yourself for a long time from the past heart. But you will be able to shift from that state into the bright one which is peace or absolute love for yourself and seeing hope for the future about yourself. And with that you will be able to see in others the love that is existing inside of them and hope for the relationship with you and others to be a better one and positive one. Thank you so much. So I hope what I talked about today will be improving relationship with others and with yourself. Next time I'll be talking about overcoming negative feelings. Thank you for watching Tower Thursday with Ilchebooko on Brain Education TV. See you next time.