 Now I would be remiss and cheat you guys if I didn't talk about the other Element of what I teach which is the intergame part So let me tell you a story here to introduce it. I had a student took one of my courses He practiced for a period of a couple months Decides he's really gonna go for it goes to a club and there's a smoking hot woman there And she's the woman where guys make that invisible u-turn you know I'm talking about She's that hot He goes up to her. He says I Don't know what you're doing with all these other men, but it's not working with me my name so-and-so He lived in 20 minutes does a couple of my patterns 20 minutes later. They're making out like crazy He takes a break looks around and people are like What is this guy doing? He figures you're gonna play it cool mistake number one. He didn't try to get her out of there the same night He didn't get my memo He gets a card with her phone number that has her cell number on it He figures I'm gonna be a cool dude I'm gonna make her wait Waits three days three days come by Sounds like the story of Christ after three days Ransacks his desk can't find the card Goes through his condo can't find the card anywhere. He thinks holy shit. It's dumpster night. I threw it out in the fucking dumpsters He lived in a big condo complex five dumpsters He dove through each one after 90 minutes No phone number now what he said next holds profound significance for all of you What he said next he said Ross? My old self came back I've been depressed for six weeks. I can't even talk to a woman. Why do I always fuck it up with women? I? Have a question for you guys Where was his old self when he was making out with that woman and getting the envy of every guy in the club Where did his new self go when his old self came back Pismo Beach, Jerusalem, where did it go? Come on. I want some answers anybody Huh subconscious anybody else it's still there The old self was still there when he was making out with a check Okay, I'll take that one more answer Yes, the new self. Oh Interesting I'm going to give you a b-minus on that but not bad Here's what I think say again Who said that? Very good answer. That's an a-plus Very good answer. Here's my idea Here's the really interesting thing for me as a hypnotist. I asked myself the question How is it possible that he hallucinated a way that he gave himself an amnesia for everything? He did right because he did a lot of things right that evening. He prepared himself, right? He got dressed properly. He worked on his attitude. He made the approach Introduced himself right did the language patterns got a great make-out, but in his mind all he saw was failure and my teaching to you is That he looked at his progress through the pain of his past He looked at his progress through the pain of his past in an area of life that has Pain and confusion and trauma and by the way half of what I do is Healing work with people a lot of my seminars. I'm doing a lot of covert healing work Lot of guys who come this community have a lot of trauma that needs to be gotten out of the way It's not about them being beta males. It's about them being traumatized human beings So if you say to a traumatized person, you just need to act alpha and do this You're just giving them more things to do self-torture run so He was looking at his progress and his potential through the pain of his past My mother may her memory be for a blessing who's one of my great teachers used to say if you dip your glasses in shit Even the roses are going to look brown so That's the profound challenge in an area of life. That's really painful it takes training and discipline and if you can afford it coaching to See your progress So what do you do now the the other piece of poison that he really swallowed down is that question he asked Why do I keep fucking it up with women?