 Hey everybody, it's Siddiqui Soul Rain, Elfie here, Elfie. Are you giving mom a kiss? How are you on this Tuesday? It's Tuesday, so let me just get right to it. I am so excited. I am writing a memoir about my life, my experience all over the world. And Elfie, are you in the memoir? I don't know. You're not in the memoir yet. I'm going to have to write you in. And I'm having a little bit of a hard time getting focused. And so I am going to go find my friend Deb. Debbie, Debbie Daschinger. She's an amazing, amazing, amazing book coach. She's a mentor. She's a dear friend. And Debbie knows how to kick some serious booty and get people in line and get them writing books. So it's kind of like, remember back in the day where we had Mr. Rogers and he would have guests over, Mr. Green Jeans and all that. That's what this is going to be like. So I'm Mr. Rogers and I'm going to go find Mr. Green Jeans. Hold on. Let me just see how we do this on Facebook. Hold on. I know you're out there, Debbie. Where are you? Invite a friend. Let me invite her. Debbie. D-E-B-B. Have you guys done this before? Inviting a friend. So fun. I'm inviting a friend to come talk to me. OK. So we'll see if we can get her on here. You'd read that. Sarah, thank you so much for saying that. Yeah. You know what? I've been writing it for a year, but so far it's just like I have a super shitty first draft. Hey, Garth. Garth, family, childhood friend. How are you? Debbie. OK, Debbie. Good. So Debbie, I'm going to invite you. Let's see if that works. Invite Debbie. Yep. Invite Debbie. Here we go. Here we go. Debbie, Debbie, Debbie, Debbie. Come on, Debbie. Come on, Debbie. Debbie. Oh my god. Can you believe it? Oh, I'm so excited. I'm so excited. OK, this is so exciting. So Debbie, here is my dilemma. Your dilemma. I'm Mr. Rogers. You're Mr. Green Jeans today. And my dilemma is that I've been writing this memoir for like, I think it's actually two years. I have what I'm calling the super shitty first draft. And I just can't. I know you must hear this all the time. I am not getting it done. So I'm coming to you. I'm bowing before you as the book mentor Guru. And I'm asking you, can you help me? Can you help me get this book done so I can get it out in the world? You know what? I don't need it to be an international bestseller. I don't need it to be fancy. I just need to get it done so that I can get my stories out into the world, get on to stages, speak, and that people can be like, OK, I want to hear more of your stories. And I can be like, here's my book. So tell me, talk to me. Absolutely. So totally. So just getting your book done, that's the right first step before looking out to the world and what's possible, because there's a lot possible. And I have some questions for you. So you said two years, memoir, truth, what is getting in your way? Is it about completion? Is it about the state of the book? Is it fill in the blank? Well, I think it's that I don't really see myself as a writer. I'm like, I love speaking to people. I would rather be up on stage telling the stories. I'm visual. So when it actually comes down to sitting and writing, all of a sudden, the house needs to be cleaned. Or Elfie needs to go for a walk. Or I'm really hungry. I think I've gained like 10 pounds trying to write this book. I don't know, can anybody out there on Facebook land raise your hand if you can relate to like, I've gained 10 pounds trying to write a book? Well, you know, I can relate to this. So perfect question. And I really appreciate that you said that exactly as you did. Because my story is actually that in the beginning, I had a lot of people come to me about writing a book. And I'm like, not a writer, not a writer, not a writer. I was very clear I was not a writer. So I went to a writing class and something came outside of me that really surprised me. So fast forward to my first book. You know, that's very tough and understandable. So I want to say this to you. It's OK to not be a writer. What if it was OK to not be a writer, to not be John Irving, to not be whomever you might put in there that you love to read? That you're not Joan Collins or Jack Collins? David Cideris. I love David Cideris. Exactly. Or Augustine Burroughs. Yeah. And everybody out there can fill in the blank. What is it that makes you hesitate? Because truthfully, we can have that in any component in our life, whether it's speaking, I'm not as great as, I'm doing radio, whatever it is. So just take that off the table. So what if you didn't have to be a writer? And what if you just got to be you? Because what's amazing about who you are and who each of this is, is that we're very quirky. We have really interesting points of view. We've each had a really interesting life. And we're going to have a really interesting way to express it. Now here's the great news. Once you have expressed it onto paper or computer, there are things called editors. And we hire them. Because they are phenomenal at cleaning up our shit. So we go, blah, with the paper. And an amazing editor goes in and goes, awesome. I totally get your, believe it or not, I waited through all of this and I totally get it. Hire me. I'm going to clean this up so all the spelling is great, the punctuation is great, and your thought form, your arc, is perfect through the book. And here's another thing. Once you have written your book, I recommend that you read it out loud. Especially for somebody like you, for all of us, when we read our book, it's first of all, it's kind of an amazing emotional thing because it's the first time we're hearing our book come to life. And then you actually get to also be the reader. So you're absorbing an audible book and it's your book. And when that happens, we immediately know anything that needs to be changed. I mean, first of all, there's great appreciation for what we've created, probably for the first time. And then there's this other part that's a good director that can see all pieces and says, oh, that's kind of cool. But I might change the flow and change these chapters or, you know, that paragraph's not so needed. It actually was explained before. Or there is a paragraph that's needed because this is a little confusing. You get to hear, after your first draft, the music, if you will, of the song you've just written in a book. And then you know musically what needs to be changed, altered, what is harmonic, what is perfect, what is dissonant, what, and all of that. So I would recommend that you commit, I am not a writer and I'm a great expresser. And I'm just going to, you know, make a pact. You can make it with me and with all of us right now. How much realistically can you do every week? Every week. Well, I write as it is, I write about five hours a week. I could probably double that easily if I let myself off the hook and didn't think that I had to become the next Augustin Burroughs or David Sideris. Yeah, yeah. Okay, so my next question is because I think accountability is powerful. I will be your accountability partner. Will you post on Facebook every time you write? And I don't mean it doesn't have to be a big to-dock because I don't want any pressure on you. I want it to just be like I wrote for this much today and will you agree to write for at least eight hours a week? Yes. And what about this? What if I read one of my chapters once a week on Facebook Live? What if you did and you got feedback? How powerful would that be? Yeah, I mean, why not get it early and often? Why wait for the critics or whomever? Like why not just start telling the, why not leak the stories? And I got one thumbs up, yay. You know, why not just start doing like live readings of it and then get people's feedback? And for people out there who are watching you right now, you know, this is called brainstorming. And if you're crazy creative off the charts, like Sadiki is. With the emissives on the crazy. They know me, they're all my friends, they know. There's not one person that I've seen a name pop up that doesn't know how crazy creative I am. Yeah, okay. I just feel like a lot of loves and wows and I love that. And I just want to say, look, for all of us who are sensitive and very creative and I own that too, the worst thing we can do, like if you're trying to write a book and you find yourself stuck is stay here. Cause we are the perfect hamsters in a wheel. Like we'll never get out of our own way. Thinking try and you know, we'll just keep going around. But as creatives, as sensitives, the greatest gift we can give ourselves is to speak out loud, whatever the issue is, especially in a forum like this where you can brainstorm because once the dam opens, the creativity just keeps going. So you already just came up with an amazing compliment and resolution. So you're going to write at least eight hours a week. If you do more fabulous, you are going to- I'm gonna put it on Facebook. You're gonna- I'm gonna let y'all know. Let everybody know and tag me. I'm gonna read it once a week. And you're gonna do a Facebook live and talk about, look, how beautiful and transparent is that too? What a gift that is to everybody to go, hey man, I'm scared as shit. I'm writing this book. I feel like I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. And I'm gonna read you chapter five. And if you have feedback at the end, please be kind and help me move forward. So I can create this into something. If I'm putting this kind of time into it, I wanna feel really proud of it. I want it to really represent me what I want to put out in the world, which of course you will anyway. You're a photographer, you know beauty and aesthetic. So of course the book will be fabulous. And I will help you with that too. So anyway, that is a great question. And for anybody out there is thinking I'm not a writer, cool. I have felt the same way. And I put out three books that are international bestsellers. I've contributed to 12 bestselling anthologies. I've written for magazines, blogs. I still don't think I'm a writer, but I don't let it stop me. So don't let it stop you. Well now I have a question. So the minute people are like, what are you up to? And I'm like, I'm writing this memoir. And I see Bethany Kelly on here who owns a company called Polishing Partners. And she, two years ago, she helped me start this project. And the first thing that people ask me, Debbie, is who's gonna publish it for you? Are you gonna publish it yourself? And you mentioned an editor earlier. And you mentioned paying an editor and right away I'm thinking like, oh my God. You know, and I've gotten quotes from editors and it's like $6,000. So should I start a GoFundMe campaign for people to donate to? You know, and honestly, again, like I said at the beginning of this, I haven't thought ahead like, would I love it to be published with Hey House or whatever? Of course. But is that something that one should be, now I'm thinking like globally of all the other people out there that might be writing books, should we be worried from the get go of how it's gonna be published? Or at this point, should I just keep writing and writing until I'm done writing it? What point does one go to an editor? What point does one start thinking about those things or should I just be writing? Well, you should be terrified. I am terrified. I was terrified to do this. I mean, I could burst into tears right now but I'm gonna try to do one Facebook Live where I don't actually cry. We're gonna laugh through this one. Well, okay, all super good questions. So let me separate them for a second. Okay, there is actually a timeline that's good for writers. And there is a time when you'll need to hand it over to an editor. You don't necessarily have to pay $6,000. You can write to me. I will recommend someone I send all my clients to. I think she's very well priced. And yeah, and it depends on how many pages you have and the condition of your book and all of that. And of course, yes, who you hire. Here's what I suggest. So we're just gonna back it up to the book portion. It's really good for you, I feel, as the author to have, I don't like to use the word control, but to have your creative pause in the book for a little bit. So once you have fully completed your first draft, like I said, you wanna read it out loud so you get the musicality of your book and you start to know, first of all, you'll know you have a book and then you'll be able to know juxtaposition, anything that needs to be changed and rearranged and you'll do that, right? But this is getting easy because the manuscript is basically done. Then once you've gone in and you've done that, you've made any changes, that's taken out, shifted things or something was needed. So don't get upset, but you're gonna read it out loud again. You really must. And then you'll know where you're at. Maybe you'll have a few more changes at that point and that's okay, institute all those changes. At this point, generally around your second to third draft, you can start to feel like this is being coming finalized for you. It is my recommendation at this point that you look for a great editor. You can talk to a bunch of them, look they're looking for work like everybody else and get recommendations from people and you can let them know, look, I would love to spend this much money and I need a turnaround of about this much time or maybe I have no turnaround at all. It's like, yeah, whenever they're done, if they're done in two months, three months, that's great. Some people need a rush job. So it depends how busy they are, but you do wanna hire your editor. Like I said, they make our books beautiful and golden. And then as far as publishing, now there may be people of other points of view about this, but I, but, however, I've been in the business a long time. I've been doing this for eight years. So what is this? Cause some people are like, who is this woman? Yeah, who is, who is her? Who is hot Debbie? So hot Debbie, Debbie Dashiga, I'm a visibility expert and this is what I do out in the world. I'm a visibility expert and I teach people, I coach people privately, how to do their books, how I, people bring me their books and I turn their books into international best sellers and I also work with people. How do you use media for free? How are you a savvy media person getting tons of interviews, a press media kit, coaching, all of that stuff? So you can see like, this is my deal, but here's, I'm not one of those people who is, they teach cause they can't do. I actually do both sides. So I have a radio show, I interview people all the time. I've been on air for 10 years. It's award winning, syndicated, et cetera. I'm also interviewed. I've been on over 800 media outlets. Camera work, I do red carpet interviews. I teach people how to do that. I write books, I coach the bookings. So this is what I'm saying by visibility. This is my sweet spot. This is what I came here to do is mass communication, period. So in my personal interesting point of view, I recommend that first timers keep it simple. Book virgins, book virgins keep it simple. Hashtag book virgins, keep it simple. Okay. That's right. Keep it simple. Like if you have a lot of money, honestly, and there are people out there who probably do and you are like, I really wanna have a publishing company and I, cause they're expensive, by the way. It's very expensive these days. The whole industry has changed. So you pay somebody to do your book for you and there is no marketing generally for you, whatever that price is. So you're still, you've got a book and often part of that deal is they will say, and you have to buy this many books. So you also have the price tag of whatever, 1,000, 10,000, 5,000 books. And I hope you have a lot of closet space or you're speaking a hell of a lot. I do not have a lot of closet space. It's a real issue in my current. Yeah. Totally. So I recommend, here's easy peasy lemon squeezy. Amazon is fabulous. Create space through Amazon is print on demand. That's your print book. KDP is Kindle. That's your e-book. You put it up there. I would say your first, second book. I would do that way. If you find Lord Jesus and all the apostles, I am a writer. In fact, I can't stop writing books. I'm gonna put out a book. I don't know what I was thinking when I said I wasn't a writer. I can't stop writing. I have been struck. I have been struck and I know. I'm on my fifth book, Jesus. Then I would say, I'm channeling the books. Okay. That would be great. Go forth and get a publisher, 1,000%. Really, if you're in your third, fourth, fifth book and this is like a thing, some people start their own publishing company. So there's a lot of different directions. That's not gonna happen. My words right here on Facebook are gonna be starting a publishing company. Hashtag, not a publishing company. Hashtag, we love Louise Haig, rest in peace. Yeah, nah. Yeah. So that is my recommendation. Okay. It really is because from Amazon, you can run all the stuff, the after book stuff and be very, very successful. And if you were to speak and we all know Siddiqui that you're a speaker and let's say I'm gonna give you a little secret here. Let's say you're gonna go speak in front of a hundred people, right? And it could be a free speak, maybe you're being paid, I don't know, but you could tell the event coordinator as part of the contract for me to speak, I would like you to buy a book for everybody in the audience. Now, let's say your book costs $20, right? But your wholesale on Amazon is $3. This person just paid you, let's say there's a hundred people, 20 books, oh my God, we have to do math. Okay, wait. That seems like- It could be the formula and we'll try- I believe that's $2,000, right? 20 books for a hundred, a $20 book for a hundred people, $2,000. But you are only paying wholesale. Three dollars a book. Correct a window. So you just paid $300, you had all the books shipped to this event and you got paid $2,000 for the books that everybody got. I'm just giving you a little tip. Isn't that a $2,700 profit? That is a $1,700 profit. This is why we're blondes and beautiful, so forgive us. This is why we're blondes. Do not ever hire either one of us to do math. We're doing our best. I don't know, we're doing our best. $1,700, but $1,700, that's pretty cool. And if you were paid on top of it or people bought your packages or all the amazing things you gift people with. So I'm just saying that there's so much you could do with that platform. Okay, speaking of incredible things that don't require a lot of, you know, that bondage, that don't work, not to be confused with bondage. Although there is some of that in my book, I want you to know. There's definitely some woman on woman bondage action in my book. Maybe that's the first chapter I'll read you guys next week. Tune in next week for the woman. Okay, but anyway, side note. So, I read an email that you sent out to your list because I'm on your list about get your book done in 30 days. 60 days. 60 days. See, so not good with mail. No, I kill you. Better than two years though. Okay, so when you say, in my first thought was like, what kind of book could I get done in 60 days? I love that question. Yeah, that was, I'm just gonna be honest with you here. I was like, what kind of book could I get done in 60 days? Yeah, you know, this is a you decide kind of thing. People are bringing all sorts of books to the online class. It's a live class with me every week. You'll be with me for 90 minutes. And people are bringing memoirs, people are bringing self-help books, people are bringing, trying to remember business books, children's books, coffee table, like whatever, here's the bottom line. It's whatever is in your heart to get out. I am doing the class for one reason and it was frustration and compassion. Because what I do is the sigh that makes people really visible. So I have my cash of clients, but when people learn what I do, I often hear, oh God, I always wanted to write a book. Oh, yeah, I started writing and I just never finished. Oh, I would love to write a book. I don't even know where to start. So I hear this a lot and it crushes my heart because I figure if you have a book inside of you, then it is meant to be out in the world as a gift, as a service. Some people do it for their business. Some people just do it to express themselves for a legacy to leave for your family, kids, whatever, or just sits on your damn bucket list, you know? I decided to make this class available this one time only because I wanna assist those people who are dying to write, don't know how to write. That's awesome. And want it to be a good book. That's awesome. And 60 days, you can only do a book. Not have any pre-existing material and just have like that I need to write a book itch, or you can come with the wet hot mess that you have and do a Hail Mary pass and get it to the end goal in 60 days, is that what you're saying? Thousand percent, yes. Wow, that's awesome. It's good, you know, I'm giving people exercises and there's a free orientation before the class starts once they register because I really want people to have the idea of their book. The idea is all that matters. Then once we're together, you know, the first class is basically breaking down a book. So I'm gonna teach everybody how to do that. And once you see how it's laid out, it's gonna be like, yeah, of course. And then the rest is you're never alone. I mean, there's a Facebook page just privately for our class, I'm there to support everybody. There's accountability partners. And every week is another piece because I don't want it just to be like, I'm writing, I'm writing because everybody can do that, anyone could do that. I mean, we're gonna even talk about where you can write, how to write, what time to write, what to do in order that you will write, what to do if you have writer's block. I talk about all that, but one of the most important things is gonna be creating a page turner because I want your book to be amazing. I want you to feel like it's great when you get it out in the world. Yeah, I'll tell you one of the recommendations that you need to make to that class is do not go off caffeine while you're trying to write a book. That was a big mistake. Caffeine is a really big motivator in writing the book. So you mentioned that there's a free, a free, what was the free thing? Yeah, it's funny you mentioned caffeine because there is a webinar, a free webinar that people can sign up for and it's an hour and 24 minutes of massive amounts of information. And it's fun information. But the very thing you're talking about, I know you're joking about the caffeine, but it literally goes through. If it's your time, let's say you've promised to write and you're gonna sit down and something comes up in your space, exactly how to deal with it. And I give 12 different ways and there's gonna be at least two to work for you. That's super helpful. No, I'm not joking about caffeine. I did give up caffeine and I noticed that the brain doesn't fire as quickly as it did. The caffeine really fueled the creativity. So I was joking, but not joking. So that's free. I think you sent me the link. So I'll include that for everybody here. And then if they wanted to actually start the course, because I'm gonna sign up for the course, because I need a loving boot in the booty. When? Debbie, the book dominatrix. When does this book bondage class start? It starts on book bondage. Whatever you're calling it. It's called how to write a book in 60 days. So there's no bondage in limited with the 60 day package? No, there is a lot of loveage and there's carriage and there is creativity and writingage, authorage. It's starting on September 26th, Tuesday. It is global. So you can sign up from anywhere in the country, frankly anywhere in the world. Obviously there are replays after everything. I am asking people, I'm asking the big question. If I show up live every week to teach and support you, will you show up live in support of you in your book? So as much as is humanly possible, obviously if your auntie's getting married, that's that. But as much as possible, I really am there to support and work with people. So many interesting people coming on healers and all sorts of things. And I wanna say, I also have a guest expert that I've aligned to come on one of the calls, call number five, because I want everybody to learn from somebody who does this for a living and is gonna give away tips and tricks that we would never learn otherwise. And here's the super uber cool thing. Once we're deep into the class, we're gonna have an opportunity much like you're doing on Facebook live for people in the class to read their work for mastermind feedback. And with this expert, of course, we're gonna get big time feedback on our work. So yeah, I'm telling you in this feedback, we get feedback, it's a voice we wouldn't have otherwise. And it's not a critical voice. And it's not a, oh, you're so amazing voice all the time. It's just somebody who's gonna come in with a really discerning eye and ear to say that's phenomenal and have you thought about this or maybe you could, things that might explode our brain like this brainstorming we were talking about that could be really potentially huge for you as an author and for your book. So there's tremendous support, eight weeks live with me. Get your book done, that's all I'm talking about. And I'm really only doing this once. Get your book done from anywhere in the world is basically what you're saying. So hashtag no excuses. No excuses, just do it. Just do it, just do it. So I think that's it. I'll put the links in the section, but it sounds like whatever kind of book we have, I mean, I have a memoir that's kind of turning into a fiction book actually, truth be told. But whether someone has a science book or a how-to manual or a self-help or science fiction or whatever it is, they can come to this class. They can start with the free one and find out more information, but come to the 60 days and they can just get it done. Amazing. A thousand percent, yeah. And I highly recommend sign up on the free webinar because I'm giving reports away. I'm giving audios away. I mean, honestly, I'm not even remembering how much the team put together, but they were really clear about helping people and being of service. So when you sign up, you are gonna get a lot of goodies and each piece, nothing's replicated. It's not like you're gonna hear in the webinar that you get in the report. I mean, it's all mo, mo, mo information. Mo, mo, mo. Yeah, well, you're really a genius. I mean, you've been on the radio, you have this award-winning radio show and I'm sure that whatever you put together as that freebie package is just like loaded, loaded content. So I'm super excited to listen to your voice, give me the wisdom. And I'm wondering if anybody, I don't know if people can ask questions. I don't know if they can ask questions. If we can see, can you see questions? No, I can't see. I can only see the love and stuff. I think I saw a comment earlier. If someone wants to ask Debbie or myself a question, Debbie or Kathleen or someone that's on, will you guys try to type a question so that I can see it and see if this Facebook Live joint venture, if you can ask a question, it seems like you should be able to. I don't know, we're both new to this. Debbie says love this. Okay, yeah, so I can. So I can see the questions. If you wanna ask Debbie a question, type me a question. Anything you wanna ask? And if you ask a question. We're both single. If you guys wanted to ask that. Yeah, both single. If you ask a question, you will win this bully stick. A dog. So it could be for your dog or I won't ask questions. If I don't have to know what a bully stick is. She taught me. Okay, will I rebroadcast this? Yes, I will rebroadcast this. And in fact, thank you for asking Kathleen. I'm gonna put it up on YouTube. So I'm gonna put it up on my YouTube channel and then Debbie will also have it, but it will be posted to both my public page and to my private page as a repost. So yes. And Kathleen, do you have any questions? Because you have me and you have Steakie right now. Kathleen is amazing. She's a scientist. She's an illustrator. She's amazing. I'd love to see a book from Kathleen. Not to put you on the spot, Kathleen, but seriously, amazing woman. And illustrative questions. Oh my God, I'll read that. Yeah, yeah. Serious genius. From Minnesota, don't you know? Minnesota. Minnesota. What about should we get our little puppets? Yes, let's end with a moment of cuteness. One moment. We got salt and pepper. Salt and pepper in the house. Salt and pepper in the house. Write your book. Write your book. Write your book. Write your book. I'm Shelby the dog and I'm here to say, don't put a billy stick in your way. Hey, hey, write something. What is the bully stick? The bully stick is a dried up bull's penis. Poor Shelby's ashamed. She's ashamed that she eats them now. Though right, we talk about everything that's kind of, we border on socially inappropriate here on Facebook Live. That's what makes all my broadcasts interesting. It's an emotional ride. It's socially inappropriate, but that's what a bully stick is. So if you see a dog eating, now you know. What? Now you know. Why they love them? What's really eating your dog. This is beyond me. Yeah, yep, but they love it. They love it. It's like the dog version of a blow job. You gave Shelby her very first, you and Elphi gave Shelby her very first bully step. She had been a bully version before that. A bully version, see? I corrupted your dog is basically what you're saying. But why do they call it a bully stick? I don't know. There's nothing bullying about it. They love it. Yeah. All right, we have, this has totally gone south. But we brought you- Write your book. Write your book. Write your book, everybody. And if you like this and want us to do more, hey, maybe we will. Yeah, maybe we will. Maybe we'll have, we'll talk on other topics. All right, you guys, thanks for tuning in. Have a happy Tuesday. Elphi, right here, right at the camera. Right there, right there, right there. Right there with your cuteness. Bye, Shelby. Bye, Shelby. Bye, you guys. Have a good night. Bye, Debbie. Love you. Bye. Love you. Once again, Siddiqi Ray, Debbie Daschinger. I'm gonna put the links in the post and I will repost this to my public page and to YouTube. Thanks, you guys. Thanks, Debbie. Bye.