 وأقولوا في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقولوا قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهادي ولا أتأوله أسؤول أني أسست أنا أسستة ويسأل أني لا يمكنني أن أحصل على أحد who is very much appropriate for me ما يجب أن أفعل؟ الحمد لله رب العالمين به الحمد الحسن وثناء الجميل واشدول الله إلا الله وحده لا شريكLA يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل واشدولlem وحمد العبده ورسوله صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلاء آله وأصحابه واتابعين له بهسالين إلى اليوم الدين أماما لكن غطة في عجبك أنا أتكلم that it is impotent for us to distinguish between two situations that many people can fight The first situation is at the guardian your father إذا كان يفضل لك من تحريرك لأن عذر شرعي لأنه مجموعة من الشرعية التي تقصدها. مثل أنه يعتقد أن هذا الناس ليست مفتاح لك أو أنه يعرف شخص أخر who is fit for you أفضل من هذا الناس أو أن هذا الناس who has come forward for your hand in marriage ليست مجموعة من شخص أخر who is not the right person for you in terms of religion ليست مجموعة من شخص أخر who is not also the right one for you in terms of his manners and the way he carries himself if that is why the father is preventing you from getting married then the guardianship and the willaya تبقى قائمة وتابطة له the guardianship will still remain in his hand ولا تنتقل إلى غيره and he doesn't move on to someone other than him the second situation is if he prevents you from getting married ظلمان وهضمن if he does it out of oppression and injustice and he's preventing you from getting married to anyone who comes forward he's never pleased with anyone however good their religion or their manners are this guardian then he's of course what he's doing is and secondly he loses the guardianship بالتفاق اهل العلم by unanimous agreement of the scholars and also based on the hadith that an Imam al-Bukhari narrated in his صحيح أن معقل ابن يسار يبن يسار his sister was كانت اخطو تحت رجل his sister was married to a man فطلقها this man divorced his sister ثم خلع عنها حتى انقضت عدةها he abandoned these wife until her عدة finished يعني this man came and he divorced the sister of معقل ابن يسار he divorced her and they finished يعني he had a time to take her back but he didn't so the sisters finished then other men came forward to get married to her and so he heard that she was going to get married to other men he came forward and of course she wanted her ex-husband back that's the person she was pleased with so she went to her brother معقل ابن يسار ين and she said to him i am pleased with this my ex-husband i want to get back with him he became very upset with that and he didn't like it the narration mentioned فحمي معقل من ذلك انافا فقاله he then said خلع عنها leave her alone و هو يقدر عليها ثم يخطبها معقل ابن يسار رضي الله تعالى عنه he said خلع عنها he left her he abandoned her و هو يقدر عليها while else he had a chance and the ability and then now the other people are coming he wants to get married to her فحالة بينه وبينها but so معقل ابن يسار he said you not going to get married to her and he prevented her from from getting married then الله سبحانه وتعالى he sent down then الله تعالى يسنس على الواقع و إذا طلقت من نساء فبلغنا أجله فلا تعضلهم الله تعالى سنس this verse down و إذا طلقت من نساء if you divorce the woman فبلغنا and they reach أجلهم they reach their أجل their appointed time فلا تعضلهم they do not prevent them from getting married and الله is talking to سبحانه وتعالى هيا معقل ابن يسارين and anyone like him don't stop these women that are under your guardianship don't stop them from getting married to the right person if he comes forward until the ending of the ayah فدعاه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقرأ عليه the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول معقل ابن يسارين and he recited the verse on him فتارا كالحمية the rage and the absurdness and the anger that was holding معقل ابن يسارين went واستقاد لأمر الله and he surrendered to the commandments of الله تبارك وتعالى and this shows you the companions and how noble they were ألمام البخاري رحمه الله he wrote this hadith in his صحيح uh in اطلاق the chapter of وبعولته النأحق وبرده النأ he wrote it in that chapter so this sister if her father falls into the first or the second whichever of those two he falls into it's determined by a court so she should take her matter to a court and they will determine if her father is preventing her for a justified reason and in that case then of course he's still the guardian or the second which is he has no justified reason he's doing it out of oppression the government the court will determine that the court will will determine that and they would state this situation and if she doesn't find a qadi a judge to take it to then she goes to the closest person to her from her family she goes to the closest person to her in her family and this is going to be of course من قبيل التحكيم اذا المام الشافعي رحم الله أفهمت رحمه الله a very powerful قاعدة which is المحكم يقوم مقام الحكيمي so this person who she gives تحكيم to he will take her place if she can't find someone from her own family to do it then she goes to the third stage which is she gets a Muslim from the Muslims I'm a mu'min from the mu'minain and they are going to be her wali as Allah said in the ayah they the believers will be her wali somebody from the believers will marry her off الله does not allow the women to be oppressed and to be wronged Lord does he Allah سبحانه وتعالى allow for the father to lose his willaya easily so these are the two reasons it could possibly happen why the father is preventing you from getting married take these two points إن شاء الله تعالى to take your matter sorry to a qazi a judge and he will determine which of those two you fall under is he preventing you بسبب عذر إن شرعي مقبول or is he preventing it from you you wouldn't be able to determine it for yourself take it to a qazi a judge and إن شاء الله تعالى they should give you the right verdict anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me إن شاء الله إن his messenger are both free from it سبحانك الله و بحمده أشد ولا إله 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