 And I said happiness isn't a destination, it's a state of being, knowing that it fluctuates. Being happy enough means not giving your power away to another for your happiness. Self-love means not giving your power away, meaning making the other person responsible for your feelings, making the other person responsible for your feelings. And self-love means you can feel love from another human being at the same time you're not dependent on that person loving you for you to feel good about yourself.