 Hello everyone, welcome again to another Narc Survivor Live video just been walking around here, lots of birds, okay let's talk about it. Narcissists make a lot of mistakes in their lives, they do a lot of things wrong and it's because they're so impulsive, they're not thinking before they act, they do a lot of things in the moment because it feels good to get them what they want and they're not thinking about long-term, they're not thinking about what's going to happen later, dead fish here, just notice that there must be a lot of fish around you, but yeah back to the topic, they're not thinking before they do a lot of things, so they make a lot of mistakes but you know there's one mistake that they make is far worse than anything else and I can see it how these narcissists, it seems that they all make the same mistake no matter who they are or what part of the world they're from, they all do the same thing, it's like they can't help themselves, I mean just look at our community, look at all of the amazing people who have subscribed to this channel, all of the people in the comments, people who are very empathic, it's like they would go out of their way to help anyone, they don't judge other people, they give people a chance, I mean of all people we all gave these narcissists a chance and they took us for granted and that is the biggest mistake they ever made because they underestimated us, they targeted us in the beginning because they saw something that could be useful for them but then they ended up devaluing us and screwing us over, when I know a lot of you, you would have been there for them for life, you would have remained loyal to them, you would have tried to help them but they took it for granted, they exploited you, they used you just to meet their own needs without thinking or caring about you because they're very impulsive, they're just thinking about what they want in the moment and the crazy thing is and it's why a lot of them they don't even feel any regret because they can't even see it, their arrogance, their sense of superiority and their need for control does not allow them to see what is right in front of them and yet a lot of you, I mean I've talked to so many clients, people who are very successful and very attractive people which as we know is what narcissists look for but also people who are very capable, I've spoken to doctors, psychologists, a Hollywood movie director and even some celebrities as well, I just think for a moment these types of people it's like when we go to work where the boss we're in charge, we know everything we need to know about our work and we can show people what to do, we're very good at it, we're very successful, a lot of people might look up to us and admire us, I'm sure many of you can relate to this, I mean just look at the situation with Johnny Depp and Amber Heard or the other one with Will Smith, these are A-list Hollywood actors and when they go to work it's like they're the man, they're in charge, millions of people around the world love their movies but then when they went around, they're narcissist, it's like suddenly they're nothing, they're no good, they gaslit into submission and you just got to think about that for a moment. Amber Heard and the other one who was Will Smith's wife, I can't even remember her name but I think she was the one she had that affair with Augusta Alsina, I just think about that, how Amber Heard she abused Johnny Depp for all of that time and Will Smith's wife, she had an affair with Augusta Alsina while she had a family with Will Smith, they were married to her children and he was a very successful actor, just think about all of the millions of women around the world, they would have done anything to be in that position, to be with those A-list Hollywood actors, I mean just think what people would have done just to spend 10 minutes with them and it's the same thing with us, I mean we may not be A-list Hollywood actors but should you have to be to make someone happy, I mean it's not all about superficial things, the point is that we were very capable, we had a lot of potential with them, we did everything we could to make them happy, no matter what we did it was never good enough and it's something I've experienced myself and you may look at it and think I've got 170,000 subscribers on YouTube, I think I've got 16,000 followers now on TikTok, tens of millions of views from people around the world but believe it or not when I was around the narcissist they made me feel like I'm nothing, like I'm no good and the crazy thing is when you look at these narcissists it's like they make it as though they are superior to us but what is it that they're doing that is so good, what makes them so great because when you look at it we're the ones who are doing all of the work, we're the ones who are very successful people in what we do, we're empathic, we're just all around good people who will do everything we can to help someone but they misuse our empathic abilities, they turn it into something that's just for them so they can get narcissistic supply because they're very selfish and when someone is so self-centered like that they can't even see what is right in front of them, something that could be very beneficial to them, you see they're only seeing things as temporary and just for their own enjoyment because they're looking at it like it's probably not gonna last anyway once you figure them out and you realize what they're about you're not going to want anything to do with them because deep down they already know they're no good that's why by the end of it they don't even try to hide it they just rip their mask off and they show you exactly who they are and they were that way the entire time they were always like that it's just a lot of us we didn't see it and you just got to think someone like that of course they know they're not gonna have a future with us of course they know no one in a sane rational mind is gonna put up with that we're just not gonna do it because we have standards we know we deserve better we know we don't deserve to be abused but this is just how it goes with them they end up shooting themselves in the foot it's like they cut off their nose despite their face they betrayed the very person who would have remained loyal to them throughout their lives I mean I'm sure a lot of you you would have been there in that old age when they start experiencing health problems you would have been there to care for them and support them no matter what as long as they just treated you with love and respect you would have been that person for them but like I said they took it for granted they exploited you they misused you because they're selfish and they lack empathy and that's really all that it is that's all that you really need to know and because they're so arrogant and entitled they have a need to feel superior and they have a need for control because they're very insecure because of these things they're insecurities which cause them to become envious and jealous and very competitive they can't even see you they can't even see how good you could be to them their insecurities do not allow them to see that which is why they end up overlooking you they disregard you but it does affect them later in life it doesn't lead them anywhere good I've never heard of any narcissist being successful over a long period of time and they're always miserable they never experienced happiness they never experienced peace love or joy and when you look at it for us we dodged a bullet because in all of my years of research and experience I've never heard of anyone who ended up winning with a narcissist they never ended up becoming successful in anything together or experiencing long-term happiness in a relationship that just doesn't happen it's either there's a victim in the relationship and they're abusing them to get narcissistic supply and so that they can feel like they're in control or the other alternative is that it's two narcissists together in a relationship and then they target other people outside of it for narcissistic supply it's always one of the two so no one ever ends up winning with a narcissist that just doesn't happen but regardless of that I think they still could have had you if they just at least at times try to restrain themselves but as we know they lack discipline and self-control they're gonna do what they're gonna do they're gonna abuse you they're gonna betray you and there's nothing anyone can do about that narcissists are gonna do what they're gonna do they're abusive they're manipulative they're untrustworthy but like I said you dodged a bullet you got away from it you didn't get caught up in that so now you have space in your life for someone else for someone to come in and treat you right which is exactly what you deserve after everything that you have been through you experienced a lot of undue suffering things that you did not deserve you did not deserve that type of treatment no one deserve that you deserve to be loved cared for and respected and now you have space in your life for someone like that to come in and give you the love that you deserve and I want you all to have that that is what I want for every survivor of narcissistic abuse to find someone who loves and cares for them and also someone that you can love and care for because yes as empaths we do like to attend to other people we do like to make sure that they are happy but with narcissists they just end up tying with you it's like they dangle it on a cat like a carrot on a stick but you're just trying to make them happy you just want to please them but they're just looking at it like you're just a toy you're just something for them to play with because they've never known love they never saw a vision of love in their childhoods so of course they're not gonna recognize that with you it's far too late for that they just look at love as a weakness it's something for them to exploit and it's something that they don't ever want to feel because they feel like that would put them at a disadvantage and wear my jacket today because it's quite cold as you can see it's raining a little bit but I wanted to do this video outside today and I did a long video in the car yesterday when I was driving I just drove another two hours today come back to the same town where I believe that I lost my debit card right now I've only got a very small amount of cash in my wallet so it's difficult just hoping that I can find my cards again otherwise I don't know what I'm gonna do I'm just staying calm not gonna overreact to it it's not gonna solve anything that's how it is with narcissists as I said in last night's video it's like they overreact to everything but over-emotional they can't deal with anything even minor situations in life it's such a big deal to them and that's really what it is it's like you're constantly around someone who just can't cope with life and that is a serious problem when you're around someone like that I mean you've got to think if someone can't even manage their own life how are they gonna manage anything with you like they're always so emotional how are they meant to attend to your emotions when you get involved with them it's always just us managing their lives trying to calm them down but they would ever do that for you I'm sure some of you you were with the narcissists for years maybe decades and every time it was just you attending to them they were never there for you and you just felt so alone like they just didn't understand you it's like they couldn't reach you and you couldn't reach them because of course yes we are very different empaths and narcissists we are like opposites so of course there's not going to be any understanding there but let me know what you think about this video down below in the live chat the biggest mistake the narcissists ever made I'm sure the narcissists made that mistake with you that's how we all end up finding these videos because it just doesn't make any sense we do everything they want they're never happy there's always something wrong you cannot please a narcissist nothing you do will ever make them happy and it's not you I'm sure you can make someone else very happy and it will take just a fraction of the effort that you made with a narcissist we should already reveal that it isn't you midnight blue says yes it's a waste of energy trying to please them it really is just expanded all of this energy on someone who doesn't understand doesn't want to understand because they'd rather just live in this fake world inside their heads when nothing is wrong with them they don't have to be accountable for anything they don't have to behave like a mature responsible adult they can just be this unruly child and you have to attend to everything keep that energy for yourself it will be a lot more profitable if you invest it in yourself rather than just throwing it into this bottomless pit this void of the narcissist where it just disappears without a trace never to be seen again quickly teach says I have nothing in common with a narcissist thank goodness yeah we really don't our same paths we have nothing in common with narcissist they trick us they manipulate us into thinking that we do so we're on the same level we're on the same page about something but we're really not narcissists and empaths we are exact opposites we are nothing alike narcissists are very selfish empaths are selfless they only care about themselves but it's like we have this need to just make sure that other people are okay narcissists don't have that it's all about themselves anyway it is quite cold out here I was getting used to the hot weather in Vietnam I didn't expect it to be so cold over here and it's raining a bit so I'm gonna get back in the car go get something to eat and see if I can finally find this card it will make my life a lot easier if I can find that otherwise I don't know what I'm gonna do but yeah I will keep you updated thank you all for joining me on this live video and I will be talking to you in another one very soon