 Hello, YouTube family. Welcome to another Narc Spive Alive video. In this one, I am going to be giving you a simple act to make a narcissist obsessed with you. And of course, when I say obsessed, I mean that they will be overly interested in you, often in a positive way. They will be very possessive and controlling over you. It may even seem like they love or admire you, even though that may not actually be how they feel, but it will seem that way because of how you're acting towards them. So here it is, a simple act to make a narcissist obsessed with you. All you've really got to do is be fake and just look at the other people that they surround themselves with. Those people are fake as well. And yet the narcissist can spend all of their time with them. They're fake family members, they're fake friends, these fake people in their lives. And these people are pretty much enablers. They enable the narcissist's behavior to continue and they make it possible for it to happen. So to make them obsessed with you, you just have to do that. Be fake. Always agree with them. Never disagree, never confront them. Never say no. Always say yes. Don't have any boundaries. Be completely selfless. Let them define you. Let them portray you however way that they like. Let them punish you. Let them treat you like a doormat, an emotional punching bag. Of course, by this point, it should sound quite ridiculous. And of course, this is not my advice for you to do this. But I am just telling you what you would need to do to make a narcissist obsessed with you to be on the right side of them. And I know what many of you may be thinking. If you have narcissistic parents, you may look back and realize that that's pretty much what you did for them. When you were around the narcissistic parent, you were fake. You pacified them. You placated to their demands. You were whatever they wanted you to be. To make them feel comfortable. To make them feel like they were right. Like they know you. Like they know who you are. Like they created you. Like you're nothing more than an extension of them. And even if you're in the devaluation phase, try this. You will notice the shift immediately. And it's really quite scary how quickly they can change. Because it's like in one moment, they're devaluing you. They're abusing you. And it's only because you're opposing them. You're resisting their ideas and propositions for you. As soon as you act fake, as soon as you just agree with them, you agree with whatever they're saying to you. As soon as you do that, watch how their behavior begins to change. Because then they're validating, you're validating their false self. You're validating the illusion. You're making it seem real for them. So of course what has to happen then, if you're doing that for them, you're going along with it, you're being fake. Why would they devalue you then? Why would they oppose you? Why would they resist you? Of course they're not going to do that when you're agreeing with them. When you're validating their false character and the illusion. You may even find that in that moment, the awkwardness, the discomfort, the walking on eggshells, that all begins to stop. And yes, in that moment, they may idealize you. In that moment, they may view you as perfect because it really has nothing to do with you at all as a person. They just look at it like, are you going to validate my false character right now? Are you going to validate my illusion? Are you going to make me feel good about myself? Are you going to make me feel powerful and important, desirable and attractive? Because if you are going to do that, then you're all right. You're good. You're on my team. But if you're not, then you're bad. You're my enemy. My opponent. And I have no use for you other than to destroy you is how they're thinking in their minds. And of course, that's not the exact process that goes on in their minds. But I'm sure you get the idea because they have this black away mentality and they look at it like you're either with them or you're against them. And just look around at the rather fake friends and family members. Look at their enablers, they're flying monkeys. Are they against them? No. They're with them. They're on the same team. They're all fake together. They're all exactly the same. And that is why when you do oppose or resist them, what do they do? They all team up and turn against you. And why? Because you're different. You're not seeing them the same way as everyone else. Because everyone else believes in the false character. They believe that that's exactly who they are. Well, rather not everyone does. Because I've seen this as well in my own experiences. What other narcissistic people may do in that environment is that they have learned how to get along with the narcissist without butting heads, without creating an enemy. And in fact, because narcissists are so gullible, some of those fake family members and friends may have found a way to manipulate the narcissist to their advantage. But even then they're still fake. They're still fake and manipulative. Because it's like not only are they being fake with you, but they're also being fake with the narcissist as well. Because you've got to think of course, with all of their enablers and flying monkeys, they're fake family members and friends. You really think that they all idealized a narcissist? And they all think that there's nothing wrong with them at all? Of course they don't all think that way. Many of them, they already know exactly what the narcissist is really like. And yet they just go along to get along because they don't want to create an enemy out of the narcissist. They want to be on the same side because maybe they're getting some benefit out of it. And they just feel like it's much easier for them to bond with the narcissist over your destruction. But that can be another barrier as well. Because if they do have all of these enablers and flying monkeys and these fake family members and friends, even if you do agree with them and do act fake, because they have these other sources, they may catch on very quickly. They may realize that you are just being fake. And of course you can only do that for a short amount of time because it's not natural for you to do that. At some point they're going to sense it, they're going to catch on. They're going to realize that you don't really agree with them because you're going to only play that game for a certain amount of time as an empath. It's just completely unnatural for you to be that way. As empaths, as truth tellers, we can't engage in fake manipulative games for a long time. We can't do that. We prefer an environment where there is truth, where there is conversation, discussion. We talk things through, we get to the bottom of it, we seek a sense of resolve. That's just how we guard as empaths. And even as co-dependents or people pleases, that's what we want. But narcissists, nope, they most definitely do not want that. That is the last thing that they want. That is the last thing that they want to see. They want an environment where there is total chaos and confusion so that nobody really understands what exactly is going on or so that everyone is looking at you as though you are the problem. I mean typically once it's gotten to that point where it's like maybe they've already discarded you or they've been devaluing you for a very long time or they've already started a smear campaign, enforced their enablers and flying monkeys. In most situations, even if you do act fake and you agree with them, you're still not going to be able to go back to how things were before. I mean I've seen it in my own experiences where there was a smear campaign and there were already flying monkeys. But even then the narcissist still returned to the love bombing and tried to get back in with me again. And I had an opportunity there. I could have chosen to be fake. And then things would have returned to normal for a certain amount of time. But as I said, as empaths, we just can't do it. We can't be fake. We can't just act like nothing has happened. We can't just pretend that we're the bad guy even when we know that we're not. We just can't do it. We just want to be ourselves. We don't want to take on these projections because that's really what they are. They disown these parts of themselves that they don't like and assign them to us. And they expect us to take that on despite everything that they have done to us. All of the hurtful things that they said and did. So even though you may have this advice, although I'd rather not say that it's my advice, it's just really for educational purposes only. But those of you who do want to know how to make the narcissist obsessed with you, as I've said, all you've got to do is be fake. Just agree with everything they say. Never confront them. Be selfless. Let them define you. Never say no or always say yes. Even though you have this information now, it doesn't mean that you're going to be able to execute it because as an empath you just can't be fake. And I know myself from my own experiences. If I'm having a discussion with someone and let's say I try to play a game, I try to pretend or I try to lie, I just can't do it. I'll just start smiling. I'll just burst out laughing. And immediately the other person will know that I am being fake because I just can't hide it. You can't if you are an empath. You can try but you won't succeed with it. And I'm sure many of you if you've already tried it, you will know that that is true. We just can't be that way. We want to be real. And we want other people to be real as well. And that's what this whole battle is about. When you're with a narcissist, you just want them to be real. Or at least what you thought was real from the beginning but then at some point you begin to realise that this person who is devaluing and abusing you, that is actually who they really are. But even then that's not really who they are as well because all of these intimidation and coercion tactics, they didn't come up with that by themselves. They learned it from somewhere. Maybe they saw their parents do it when they were children. Maybe they saw it in a movie. But wherever they saw it, they decided that it made that person look powerful and authoritative. So they decided to take that on for themselves. So it's like they're neither Dr. Jekyll nor Mr. Hyde. They're neither of these characters. And in fact, if you strip all of that away, you will find that all that is left is a void. Yes, there's really nothing there. In some narcissists, there may be an undeveloped child self. That may exist in some narcissists. And you may find that that exists in you as well. But in a different way, for us, that is like our inner child. And we are still connected to that. But you cannot be that around the narcissist. You cannot be playful. You cannot have fun. You cannot vibrate at the frequency of love. Because narcissists are predators. And they will exploit you. They will use that to destroy you. Because they will see it as a weakness. Or they may even see you as being fake and manipulative as well. Never have fun around a narcissist. Never be playful. Never be cute. Never do that. Because just by you opening up and being vulnerable around them, that automatically makes you a target. This is what they do anytime that they see anything fun or innocent. They want to destroy it. They want to damage it. They want to take it away. Because it makes them sick. They can't stand it. And they can't stand it because they don't have that. And not only that, but also because at one point they did. But it was robbed from them in their childhood. And just because I'm a speaker of innocence, that doesn't mean that they were sexually abused as a child. It may just mean that they were abused in some other way or neglected by their parents. They were betrayed. Because that can also rob your innocence as well. It doesn't always have to be sexual. But either way that happened to them, and they feel like it's unfair. They don't like it when they see that you have it. So they wanted to deprive anyone who has this innocence, this naivety, this unawareness about themselves. Because that's really how it is with us. With them it's like it happened to them and now they're always that way. But for us, we didn't have our innocence robbed from us as children. If that ever tried to happen to us, we ran away. We didn't get too deep into it. We didn't get involved. Because we wanted to hold on to that. And then our personalities became fixed. And that's why even as adults we still have it. But they don't. And that is why they despise anything innocent. Anything fun, anything playful. They really do not like it. Especially children. They can't stand children, especially their own. They despise a child's innocence. They're not thinking about how I can protect or preserve it. They're thinking about how could we subject this child to cruel and unjust treatment? How can we deprive them? How can we pile all of these duties and responsibilities onto them? How can we corrupt them? Yeah, it's evil. It's demonic. But sadly this is the world that we live in today. I mean just look at Browns. Everywhere you look there's the sexualization of children. And phones and tablets are marketed to children as well. And all they've got to do is turn on the TV and see all of these sexualized TV adverts, music videos. It's all of a social media, TikTok, all of these girls shaking their butts. It's everywhere they look. So without being said, it doesn't always have to be that they were neglected or abused by their parents, although that could be a part of it as well. But also how they lost their innocence as a child could have been from certain things that they were subjected to. Just in social media, on TV, music videos, even seeing their friends in school, seeing how they act and behave, seeing how they dress. So yeah these days very early on in primary school in the UK, elementary school in the US, children are already sexualized at that age. Some of you may not believe it but I've seen it. I know it. I've heard enough to know that this is true. I remember even in my own experiences when I was a child, there were a lot of things like that going on. And of course as we know, as the years go by, things are getting worse and this is causing a big problem in society today. A child's innocence needs to be protected and preserved. This isn't just something that we should have as a child and I know that many of you in past watching this will resonate with what I am saying because I know that you are connected to your inner child and that's how you ended up watching this video because this is what makes them hate us that much more. It's what makes them want to destroy us, our innocence, this childlike magical sense that we have inside. Yes they want to destroy that. Of course there's not really too much that they can do if your personality is already fixed but they do desire to take that away from you or to crush and suppress it as much as they can and that is why it's like they're always trying to corrupt you. Often sexually as well they want to offend you in a sexual way and they're doing that for a very specific reason because your childlike innocence it makes them sick and it makes them sick because you move through life in such a carefree and innocent way. It's like you're not overthinking about the past, you're not worrying about the future, you're focused in the present moment and they don't like it when they see that because they're always worrying about things that might happen in the future, they're very paranoid, they're always anxious, depressed, they've got grudges and resentment from things that happened in the past when you could just let things go so easily because you have this childlike innocence about yourself and not only that but you have this belief in yourself that this belief has not been crushed, it hasn't been taken away from you, you still have these hopes, dreams and ambitions for the future, you haven't been completely broken inside, you still believe that things can change you still believe that things can get better and maybe that's why you're watching this video right now but they don't have that, they don't believe that things can get better, they don't believe that things can change especially not for you or for me, they don't really believe that we can heal and move on because they know that it's already too late for them, they know they're never going to get that back, they know it's all over for them and that is why they rely on their manipulation so heavily and they've been manipulating people since they were a child because something happened to them and they realized they can't be authentic, it's not safe for them to be real so they shut that side of them off, created a false character who's not innocent, not childlike but they're strong, they're powerful, they're all knowing, they're all seeing, they're sharp, they're quick-witted, intelligent, wanted, needed that all of these things but of course that isn't real, it's just manipulation, they use it to deceive people and that is why this works if you haven't been devalued so far and maybe if there isn't a smear campaign to get a narcissist obsessed with you especially in the love-bombing phase, just be fake, agree with whatever they say, don't confront them, be selfless, let them define you and then they'll be obsessed with you, they'll appear to love and admire you, it may not last for long but then it will turn into a negative obsession at some point where they'll become overly fascinated with you because it's like now you're a challenge, you're a puzzle that they need to solve because you don't agree with them, you don't like them, you disapprove of them and they want to figure out why, they want to figure out how they can change it so then they will heavily manipulate you, brainwash you, do whatever it takes to confuse you and make you believe in their lies and illusions, possibly their future faking as well. 226 live viewers, please hit the thumbs up button if you're enjoying this video so far but yeah hold on to that childlike innocence that you have inside, hold on to it, it's likely that if you have it up until this point your personality is probably fixed so you're always going to be that way, you're always going to be empathic, you're always going to be loving, kind, understanding, all of the things that are says are not and that's really what you need to enjoy life and to meet other people who are like that as well because like attracts like if you're vibrating on the same frequency the same resonance as I said before empaths belong with other empaths who also have that innocence about them, narcissists are predators they belong with each other that's why when you look at them they're surrounded by their enablers, they're flying monkeys, they're fake family members and friends and it's because they're all the same you don't fit in with them because you're different you're not like that, you're not predatory, you're not seeking to exploit people you want things to be fair and honest and that's how they manage to exploit you that's how they get you because if you were already anticipating things to happen then you would already know and then they wouldn't be able to exploit you so that's how they do that and like I said don't be too playful around a narcissist don't be vulnerable use the gray rock don't react take away your emotions because that is how they get you and save that fun that excitement save it for another empath because when you meet someone else who has that same resonance they're vibrating on that same frequency it will make a lot more sense it will feel right of course it makes sense that a lot of you are empaths and you return to my videos because it's like have to be an involved with a narcissist for all of this time someone who you are quite clearly not alike at all for you to then find my videos and it vibes with you it resonates for you to find that now everything makes sense and I know it's addictive when you do find it I had that experience as well when I first discovered about narcissistic abuse videos on YouTube but yeah everything's not always what it seems sometimes who appear to be the bad people are actually the good people and the good people are actually the bad like a covert narcissist as an example many of them portray this picture perfect image they're like these angelic saints and so they don't do anything wrong they're always right they're good and then you spend some time with them you get to know them and you realize that that couldn't be further from the truth and yet there's people out there who have been abused traumatized and yeah they may seem quite dark they may seem quite avoidant they're so quick to push people away they don't like to get too involved in anything they spend a lot of time alone they're like lone wolves I don't want to say dark empaths I think many of you know what I mean and I'm sure you resonate with this as well where people look at you and they think that you're bad you're crazy like something is wrong with you when it's like if you look back all you really wanted was just a relationship you just wanted a normal marriage family a normal life and then you got involved with narcissists people who manipulated and exploited you and they turned you dark to where you shut yourself off and then you feel like you're doing a get involved in relationships anymore you don't want to meet anyone you'd rather just have this tunnel vision just focus on yourself your own life your work and just not worry about anyone else because you've done that before and it hurt maybe someone did that to you they broke your heart so you don't want to do that again this is how it is for a lot of people that we think are bad hate to say it even some of these what people call 304s these douchebags these bad boys people think they're bad players they're manipulative if you could look back at their history you would find that many of them just got their hearts broken at a young age when they didn't know too much someone got one over on them and then they decided that they never want that to happen again and i know exactly what that's like because that happened to me as well when i was younger i thought i loved someone and i just got played i got fooled i thought we were gonna have a relationship marriage children and that experience changed me i became completely different after that and it does change you when you have your heart broken it may just make you want to go to the dark side just be like everyone else because it's like at least then you could be the predator rather than the prey and i've been through that phase as well just withholding your emotions being fake acting like everything's okay but being that way it's only going to attract more narcissists because then you're on their resonance as i said you can do that and get a narcissist obsessed with you so instead whatever it's safe continue vibrating at that frequency be yourself be vulnerable and then it may attract other people who are like you other people who resonate with that because when you're being fake then they can't see it maybe they can feel the energy behind it if they're attuned to it that depends on whether or not they are an awakened and aware empath because maybe then they might be more sensitive to it but yeah this is what you've got to do if you want to make a narcissist completely obsessed with you but remember this is for educational purposes only i don't advise doing this all right advice is for you to speak to a therapist or coach and focus on healing and moving on from this narcissists don't believe that you can heal because they know that they can't heal they know that they're stuck in this hopeless and helpless situation the truth is that if someone believes that they can heal and move on then they will believe that for you just as i believe that you can heal just as i believe that some narcissist can heal but then at the same time we've got to look at the facts the statistics that show that there are no clinical documented records of any recoveries from npd so we must take that into consideration as well but that's really yet if you believe in yourself you 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