 So about a year ago. I was on top of the world. I was killing it like I've never seen anybody kill it I was making over $15,000 a month working 10 hours 20 hours a week. Just doing what I fucking love and I was also diagnosed at age 16 with bipolar, which means you know Extremes up extreme ups and downs like for a period you might feel like Superman and then for a period You want to kill yourself or something and I left that untreated and so the resulting combination Was that I felt invincible? I felt like nothing bad could happen to me and I started taking really really big risks the first risk I took Like really major I took many risks, but the first major one was committing over $40,000 just to Do a huge lecture at 800 people lecture in just two weeks without anybody in the country I was in knowing me and Actually pulled it off the massive massive risk, but I managed to do it and that was cool and Almost 200,000 people saw me Because of that promotion But then I got hungry and I wanted more so this time What I did was I lived in a big villa. I rented a 15,000 a month villa and Like huge villa with with the pool and all that crazy shit and got myself ten employees Like bam like from one employee on average to ten and Decided to pay each of them about three thousand a month Right off the bat. So, you know, that was another massive risk and The second one didn't work out. It's too much too much to a little time and So the failure was unbelievably hard the failure was immense it was I've never experienced anything like this to this degree. So when I talk to people about failure and People are like, yeah, you know, I I failed in the past I know what it is like to fail. It's like No, you haven't You know what it's like to try something and it doesn't work out You know what it's like to Try something and give up. Oh, you might even know how what is to try something Lose a bit of money And go like, oh, well, you know You know that sucked about whatever maybe feel bad for a couple of days, but You don't know failure like I fit new failure What I want to get to in this video is the idea that Only once you've like failed massively like had like a massive catastrophic failure only then Do you actually have a shot a real shot? becoming successful and actually accomplishing your dreams not just, you know play pretend going for it and the reason for that is because you if you read a lot of success books and You know listen to motivational talks and all that crap You kind of get this entitlement feeling like oh, I'm I'm I'm deserving of success I I'm supposed to be successful. It's it's part of my journey. It's part of my destiny to be successful and That's where the problem begins. It's in in in that Knowing feeling like yeah, you could have a day where you're like lazy and you don't do anything and you're like, yeah That's just part of my journey and I like to say that the journey really begins like the real journey Because until that it's just the potential but the real journey actually begins only once you actually doubt yourself to the degree that you're like Am I supposed to be successful? You know, you might even believe that for years and then you're like Am I really supposed to be what I think it would be and Yeah, during that period I Thought I was I was really seriously thought that maybe my destiny is just to be like a homeless guy or to to kill myself Something like that because it was so bad so bad impossibly bad and I Truly didn't see any way out of it. This wasn't like a failure where I lost a bit It was I lost everything and then five times more Plus many other things so Once I came out of that and again, I wasn't Supposed to come out of that and by the way second by the way if you look at all the really really successful people like the top people in the world the most high highly Respected people in the world. They all suffered at least one Kichastrophic failure in their life and that's no coincidence So once I experienced this catastrophic failure Like I said everything I believed was shaken I wasn't sure of anything anymore I Didn't know what you believe It was pretty bad But Eventually You get all these childish beliefs stripped away So you no longer believe that you're entitled to Success you no longer believe that you deserve success and your paradigm changes because you realize that you don't really deserve anything and You you know as Grant Cardone says You eat what you kill so I Then realized that whatever I want in life my goals I'm not entitled to them. Nothing is promised nothing is nothing is guaranteed and only if I really really work hard and smart and Also, if I'm lucky Because luck has something to do with it Then I might be able might be able to achieve my goals and that may sound like oh, that's very discouraging but to be honest I Never worked as hard or as diligently as I am after You know since I had this realization Because what happens when you believe that you're entitled to success is you get lazy It's like people who are successful. They get lazy Because they think they're entitled skin with people who think they deserve a future success. They get lazy So on the weekend on Friday, you know, you're like, oh, I'm I'm tired So I'm not gonna work today and then you rationalize it because you're like, oh, okay But I deserve success. So, you know, it's all part of my journey. It's part of the journey It's a lesson whatever whatever and for me. It's like okay. I'm tired well My goals aren't gonna happen by themselves So I better get working and it's not like go ahead days ahead. You know, it's just like oh, yeah, take responsibility So you just learned to take a higher degree of responsibility now regarding the actual Like really in-depth story of what happened. I talk about it extremely in-depth in my book Including how it happened why it happened what happened before what happened after what I was thinking the technical parts of it What was good? What's the lessons? What are the lessons? so, yeah You'll be able to learn more about it there in-depth and Yeah, the lesson to use is pretty simple. It's If you think you're entitled to success If you still think you're entitled to success You're gonna be very much either disappointed or you never, you know Hopefully you'll be disappointed because that means at least you try but most likely you'll be like the 98% of the people in self-development Who just you know masturbate all day and don't actually do shit. No just do the small shit But they never fully commit to anything they never take on a huge project that risks everything So they never actually get the benefits, you know, they just like oh, yeah, I'm in self-development like who gives a fucking crap, dude so That actually makes it worse like I'd rather you weren't because at least that would justify you being a lazy bitch, but you know So I hope that makes sense Yeah, so so You you learn that either by assuming responsibility from the start Realizing you're not entitled Which you can do now or you learn it the hard way because I'm a kind of guy that tends to learn shit the hard way I just over commit to everything and then you know when I fuck up, it's like it's so bad It's so painful that I'll never do that again. That's how I learned at least so So you learn either through being smart or through Making dumb mistakes like massive mistakes that will destroy your life to be honest temporarily hopefully You learn that you're not entitled and once you learn that Now you actually have the opportunity to be successful the potential Before you realize that the fact that you're not entitled which takes at least one like Major catastrophe usually you're not even in the ballpark because you're still like a child You're still like a kid like oh, yeah, I'm gonna be an astronaut one day I know and you still haven't really learned That it's a fierce fierce world and that you shouldn't live in fantasy land You should live in the real world where you do where they can't that can happen But it's gonna be very very hard and record it also a bit of luck So I hope this video helps you a lot. 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