 I've felt those things. What's so amazing about fighting, it depends where you're fighting, if you're not in the act of fighting, you won't be humbled or you won't be set back to balance, but if you do these things and you're training in some way that where there is sparring, where people aren't holding back, you will get humbled, you will get stopped. And it's very hard to hold on to a lot of anger. One of the best things you can do for your anger and frustration is get submitted 10 times in 10 minutes or whatever it is. Wrestle with somebody who's far better than you. Spar with somebody that you just can't get inside with. And that's a huge, huge thing. One of the other things we were talking about just before the break is when we are out of touch with these and we decide to act on violence or we decide to act on control, we get into levels of rage and frustration that are almost impossible to control. For instance, somebody was talking about self-defense and knives, and we train like, nobody wants to get in a knife fight. Nobody, because that means I get hurt really bad if I'm holding it or somebody disarms me and I hurt them really bad or whatever the hell it is. It's a fucked up situation. Same thing I'd say for any sort of weapon. You want to use that last and even your hands, but check this out. If I'm fighting somebody, when we hit those levels of frustration or if we've dealt with some sort of trauma or emergencies in our life, what happens is we black out, okay? We black out, if I black out while punching somebody with my fist, I'm gonna black out for maybe five, 10 seconds, I could cause some serious damage. But if I black out while holding a knife, that is causing major, major fucked up damage. And those types of things, which when we misuse and abuse, it's a fucked up thing. Same thing goes for seduction. When I'm hitting different states, when I'm having sex with a woman, when I'm hitting different planes, I find it like meditation. Meditation, even in action. Whether I'm having sex that's aggressive or fast or slow or just really calm and paced, it doesn't matter, I'm in a different zone. But at some part of that zone, I believe it's so divine that I can't control. If I'm misusing that, if I'm out of touch with my identity, if I'm out of touch with myself, if I'm still afraid of who I am, if I still have anger towards women or if I let that into my exchange so I can perform a technique better, it's gonna get all out of control. I start having sexual experiences with people I don't want to experience with and feeling things I don't want to experience while I'm having sex with them. I get lost when I get lost, I get afraid when I get afraid, I start to control. All right, so these are some of the things when we move into that dysfunction. The key to getting out of this is to get into action on it. Do the functional tool. To push your comfort zone is a great idea, but if it is not serving a result and being let go of once that result is achieved, it's gonna lose its functionality. All right, so what we have here is this is something which I feel is real important. One of the things that I love so much about applied like martial arts or fighting and even when it comes into seduction is moving in this area. A lot of times, and I've spoken about this many times before, but we have technique. A technique defines application. This is like who we talk to, why we talk to them, the situations we talk to them. So we learn some like crazy outdated PUA stuff, circa 2007 and we're wearing fuzzy hats and shit. Where does that work? Well, our application is allowed in a nightclub, right? And then that serves our identity. We get this lost frustration. Remember, we go into the dysfunctions, we start getting pissed off, mad, whatever. Because people aren't attracted to us, they're attracted to a facade and an image. Now, one of the things that I think is so important is everybody's an individual, you know? I can't practice Brazilian jiu-jitsu like anybody else in this room. I can't practice sparring like anybody else in this room. I couldn't practice diet like anybody else in this room. It is dependent upon my identity, finding out who I am, what makes me work, what makes me function and what fuels me, what I'm attracted to, what's attractive about me. You know, those are really important things, especially when it comes into social interactions. I need to know what I want, I need to know who I am. That is going to define my application. If I'm somebody that doesn't like dressing up and staying up late or whatever, or being in nightclubs and I'm not going to pick applications that move in that direction, I'm going to pick applications that are tailored towards me and then my technique is going to be based on that. The results of my technique is going to feed back into my identity. Okay, same thing for fighting, same thing for application in terms of sparring, boxing, whatever it is, kickboxing is a lot, yada, yada, yada. It's going to be dependent on who I am, my speed, my strength, my stamina. If I have, you know, if I'm more of a cognitive fighter, if I'm somebody that likes to feel things out more, it's going to define how I put out my application, how I approach, how I engage, you know, how I even pick my opponents. And then my techniques are going to be applied. The execution and the results of that, whether they're failure or their success, is going to feed back to who I am and the evolution can take place. We'll have constant growth if we move in this direction. You can apply it to any single one of your goals, whether that's business, God man. If it's some of the fitness stuff that we've heard about and do the same thing in terms of diet. Also it's very important that to know every single technique you do needs to serve this, okay? Self-expression, it is huge. We are not serving a result. Of course results are good, man. Results are great things. They motivate us, they get us to believe and push forth in so many different things. But every single technique that we learn, all right, whether that is to be bold, be direct, be passive, be more aggressive, be sexual, start yanking girls around, start grabbing people by the neck, pulling hair, all that sort of stuff, that is an outlet of self-expression. If I'm focusing on my diet, if I'm changing my diet, if I'm being inspired by whatever it is, being a vegan, being paleo, eating grass-fed stuff, yada, yada, yada, that is an outlet of my self-expression. When I get results on that, whether they're a failure or they're a success, I'm going to then self-explore. Through sex and seduction, I found out so much about myself. I realized when I got rejected, I got angry. I got sad, I got depressed. I could do the same outlet of self-expression, be the same person, right? Same application, same technique and get success and I could get failure. I could get both of those things. When I succeeded, I thought I was the shit. When I failed, I hated myself. I'm like, what the fuck? Why am I so angry? Why am I so upset? And thus gave me an opportunity to explore who I am. This is why I think socializing and sexuality are such important fundamentals of who we are. Through that, I then had to learn how to accept myself, take a look at myself, all right. You know, one of the best pieces of advice was, you know, I was talking to my buddy about, God man, there's so many different levels. I could talk to so many different people about this, even my trainer, Ed. And I could say, man, you know, if I'm having all these experiences with women and it's good, it's bad or whatever, and it's pissing me off, one of the things that Ed would say is he's like, hey, look, then that's who you are. You have to realize that. The only chance that you have about through transitioning through that is accepting who you are. It's the same thing that he would talk to me about in terms of fighting. He's like, look, man, you're a shorter limb dude. You don't have reach. I'm not James Marshall. He was like, so am I gonna have to spar with you up there? I'm like, fuck, I don't want to, man. I couldn't even get close. If he just keeps me away with his long limbs. So I need to learn different ways of self-acceptance of how to use that. If I'm an angry person, that's okay. I need to first say, all right, this is who I am. This is how I'm gonna accept who I am and live my life, right? Once I can come to terms with that, a level of evolution can take place. And this is where we get into self-love, which is the ultimate thing. The only way that I can truly seduce, because it's a process, we're gonna make mistakes. The only way that I can truly put myself into action is.