 If your spouse won't talk to you when they're giving you the silent treatment, it's pretty uncomfortable. Probably wondering what you should even do in that situation. Do you keep, you know, trying to get them out of it? Do you try to get them to talk, to engage with you? Sometimes you do that and it actually doesn't help. It just continues the silence. It just becomes very, very frustrating. So it's important to kind of understand what's going on. Why is your spouse giving you the silent treatment? Is there being mean or is there something else going on? Obviously they're upset about something that occurred in their relationship, but this is their way of dealing with it, way of coping because they don't feel like they're able to really open it up and share what they're feeling. So their way of protecting themselves is to shut down and to be quiet and to not connect with you. So the good news is that if you can work on being a safer partner, meaning eliminating blame and shame and criticism in your relationship and changing the way you behave in your relationship, then your spouse is more likely to be able to react differently. As well as if you give your spouse the opportunity to be able to share with you and to open up and you don't react, you really let them feel heard, they're much more likely to open up and share about the difficult challenges. The truth is that it's pretty difficult to eliminate conflict altogether in a relationship. It could be a long-term goal, but in the short term, you know, it's a little bit unattainable, but what we experience with couples is that they tell us that even though they do occasionally have conflict, they have some, you know, they have many less bad days, meaning many more good days than they had before. And when they do have a conflict, they're able to recover from it much quicker. So that's silent treatment that could last a week. Now it's only lasting a day or even an hour because they have the tools to be able to reconnect and to work through it together. And that's something that is, you know, refreshing for you to hear that even if you're dealing with the silent treatment, even if your spouse won't talk, there is something that can be done about it. If you can work on your relationship, you can change this dynamic. So please be in touch with us to share your particular story, your situation, and we'd be happy to help you.