 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survivor live video and in this one we're going to be talking about What you need to do if You want the narcissist to chase you and before I begin I just like to say that I completely understand Those of you who want the narcissist to chase you after everything that you've been through with them how they gave you these Fake dreams of a possible future with them They strung you along They manipulated you and then they devalued you they made you feel like you're nothing and and Some of you you may be craving their validation You just want to feel like you matter to them You want to feel like they care and Some of you may just want to get revenge you may want to punish them After what they did to you so I completely understand completely understand that and That is why I decided to create this video because I know that a Lot of you want to know You want to know How you can make the narcissist chase you so I'm going to tell you in this video what you need to do First you have to hook them in There has to be something That gets their attention so You have to know what they like You have to know what they want what they desire and then become that and This could be physically Mentally emotionally sexually You need to be What they're looking for and then you need to Communicate with them you need to give them a taste of it So that they know what it's like So that you can Hook them and Law them in and then once you've done that you need to mix it up There needs to be hot and cold So once you've given them a taste Then you need to be distant and you can even give them the silent treatment Just don't talk to them for a few days Because then that will really make them think about you a lot they're gonna be wondering What you're doing And who you're with They will obsess over you Because remember narcissists are naturally Very obsessive people They can't let things go Things dominate their minds very easily They become fixated on things Often for no apparent reason So that's really what you need to do. You need to Just be hot and cold But you have to give them a taste of something in the beginning Something that they like they need to experience it Because that's really what's gonna hook them in Otherwise they're gonna forget about you very quickly Because for many narcissists it's so easy for them to get supply elsewhere so Yeah, they will forget about you very quickly But when you give them a taste It leaves something for them to chase after So that's very important to give them a lot of your attention in the beginning and to find out what they want and give that to them And then withhold it leave them to chase after it while Still making them think that It is obtainable for them You don't want to cut yourself off completely and make them think that there's no chance of Being with you or Just having whatever it is that they want Because again if you do that they will forget about you very quickly It has to be Within their reach So yeah, I know this is kind of dark It's pretty manipulative as well, but that's really what you need to do If you want the narcissist to chase you it's not something that I really advise My advice would be to just move on and forget about them Don't try to punish them or get revenge. Let karma deal with them and You really shouldn't even want or desire For them to chase you or For you to even want to be around them. I mean remember we are talking about narcissists you Someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy Someone who is arrogant and entitled grandiose They think they're the best thing since sliced bread, but they never want to do anything for you You have to ask yourself sometimes. Why would you want someone like that anyway? You should want someone who loves and cares for you Someone who wants to give you the world someone who is Obsessed by you just being you without you having to manipulate them or play tricks and If they're not already obsessed with you just being you then You should question what you're even doing with them It's clearly you're not gonna find a future in anything Other than that other than someone who loves and adores you and I think that's what you really want especially those of you who are empaths and you Put out so much of your energy Into other people until you become depleted You want someone who can reciprocate that back to you? and I get that and You're never gonna find that as long as you have a narcissist in your life because they take up all of the Capacity That could otherwise be used for someone else when one door closes Another door opens We often Stare at the door that is closed But we don't see the one that is open for us Sometimes you just have to look and see if the door is closed then Find another door that is open one that Offers an opportunity for you an opportunity for growth and development For what you really want because I I don't think I've ever heard in Hundreds of coaching sessions that I've done I've never heard anyone say that they were actually Satisfied Being with a narcissist I've never heard anyone say that they were happy with that They always wanted more something to think about Because the truth is you're never gonna get what you want for it for from a narcissist You're just not you can find that within yourself or within someone else, but Not for me a narcissist They can't be that they can't do that Remember, it's all about them. It's all about what are you gonna do for them? It's not about an equal exchange or reciprocation. So that's something to keep in mind When you're thinking about Trying to make the narcissist chase you. I mean just think about what kind of person You're trying to get to chase after you. I mean, yeah, they might chase after you But they're never gonna be who you want them to be They're just not and the sooner you accept that The better it will be for you so Just keep that in mind If you are thinking about Making the narcissist chase you but yeah, I do hope that this video Can be helpful for you Remember my videos are Mainly for educational purposes. It may not always be For practical use But I hope it was helpful. I hope it helped you to learn more About this disorder if it was then please give it a thumbs up down below. I appreciate it I appreciate you all Please share this video Subscribe and I will talk to you in another one very soon