 And Las Vegas Raiders coach John Gruden has been fired for racist, misogynistic and homophobic emails, private emails that he sent to a friend a decade ago. So, taking a big picture, a moral perspective, I don't think John Gruden did anything immoral. When you vent and you say ugly things privately to a friend, I don't think that's a big deal. If John Gruden had gone off on the Jews or off on the Latinos or off on the Seventh-day Adventists, I don't think it's a big deal. So, he got fired for a private email sent 10 years ago. I think that's, from a big picture perspective, I think that's ridiculous. Second perspective, the primary objective of the Las Vegas Raiders owner is to have a winning team and to make money. And having a coach who says these things is going to make it harder to have a winning team and to make money. I mean, his team came out flat. They lost to the Chicago Bears who aren't very good. So, this controversy clearly affected the team, so I would expect an owner to act in his own self-interest. And so, it was probably in Mark Davis' self-interest to fire John Gruden. So, I don't think John Gruden did anything horribly immoral. I don't think John Gruden did anything immoral saying ugly things in private emails. And no, I don't think I've ever said anything quite as racially charged in my private emails. But I mean, I've said some embarrassing things, but it's not like I am just slinging racist slurs in my private conversations. And they're just trying to clean myself up. So, pretty much how I talk here is 80% of how I talk in private life. But the guy would get fired for private email, but that's the world we live in. So, the more prestigious your position, the more vulnerable you are to this type of cancellation. If John Gruden had been a plumber, he wouldn't have been fired. If he'd been a legal secretary, he wouldn't have been fired. But when you have a prestigious job and most of your players are going to be black in a sport that is overwhelmingly black, then, yeah, it becomes difficult to continue. Skip Bayless says, I couldn't see how John Gruden could keep his job off the racist email from 2011. Wow, so just one racist email saying that some NFL player representative had teeth that looked like Michelin tires. So, one racist email in private from 10 years ago gets you fired. I mean, nobody's safe, but most of us don't have a prestigious job. So, for 99.9% of people, we're not in a job where you're going to get fired for a single racist email from 10 years ago. But now, I guess there's a whole spate of emails that have come out, and that's the world we live in. So, it became impossible for John Gruden to keep his job. Objectively, morally, I don't think Gruden did anything wrong because we all say things in private that we would not want repeated publicly. But then, you have to live with the effect of things you say and things you do privately once they become public. There's nothing we do that does not affect other people. So, from the emails we send to the text messages we send to the YouTube videos we make to the type of entertainment we consume when we're alone, everything we do affects others. There's no pass. There's no free zone in one's life where what you're doing doesn't affect others. So, it's interesting that all these black people who've known John Gruden never ever experienced anything that disturbed them. So, Mike Turico, his Monday Night Football partner, and Tim Brown, his star wide receiver. They said they never experienced this side of John Gruden. I mean, when you're mad at someone, it's not surprising. This email shows that the fight against racism is not over. Of course the fight against racism is not over because racism is built into our DNA. Little babies prefer people of the same race. But little babies have an adverse reaction to strangers and the people of a different race. We all have within us a fear and a loathing for the different and for the stranger. Some people it's more deeply buried for other people as close to the surface, but it's going to get revealed if the situation becomes intense enough. So, we're all going to say shocking things under a situation of sufficient intensity. And that an email from ten years ago, a series of emails, it's sad to think that this will end a person's job. On the other hand, it's not the owner's job to look out for John Gruden. It's the owner's job to look out for the well-being of his team. And given how the team performed on Sunday, given the repercussions of these emails, and you can say, hey, you know, the cock-sucking and cocaine smoking that I do on my private time, that should not affect how the wider community sees me. But once this stuff goes public, all right, then you're stuck with the repercussions of your choices. So rule number one, everything we do affects other people. There's no safe space where we can just do our own thing and think that we're immune from having an effect on other people. And don't put things into emails or text messages that you would not want played across the scoreboard in a stadium filled with 100,000 people. Now, I hear a lot of people commenting on this John Gruden controversy and saying, there's no difference between the way I speak publicly and the way I speak privately. And that's completely inhuman. So I would prefer to believe that these people are simply delusional. But if they're not delusional, then they're very boring. There should be a private space where you can share what's on your heart and you don't have to be so careful with what you say. And no, I don't think that the private venting in an email that really shows a person's heart, as opposed to like John Gruden, who let's say has worked in football for 30 years and there aren't any black players with substantial grounds for saying that he behaved in a racist fashion. Why does this one private email from 10 years ago, why does that truly reveal John Gruden's heart as opposed to say 30 years of intense living with and living around and interacting with black players and there never being these kind of complaints. So now I don't think that this one email, this one batch of emails reveals his heart. Now, it's not that I never think a private comment reveals someone's heart. So I think clearly with Mel Gibson, his anti-semitic comments while drunk, I think, yeah, those did reveal his heart because they are part of a whole string of similar comments. But again, I don't think Mel Gibson should have been fired or blackboard. We instinctively fear and hate that which is different from us. I grew up a Seventh-day Adventist and I had some fear and hatred of those who weren't Seventh-day Adventists. I converted to Orthodox Judaism and now there's a culture and rituals and ways of seeing the world and ways of speaking that would have been unfathomable to me if I had not converted to Orthodox Judaism. So the honest thing is to regard any religion not our own is at best strange and very likely satanic. That's the natural instinctive human reaction. If you're serious about your religion, your natural instinctive reaction to other religions will be that they are satanic. That's just how people are built. Everybody fears and hates strangers. That's how we're programmed. We're programmed to prefer those who are like us and to start fearing and hating those who are different from us. So this idea that the things that you say privately should be exactly 100% the same as what you say publicly then you're destroying all genuine human connection. Human connection in large part is based upon, I will tell you things that I would not tell anyone else. That I will feel free to share with you like an ugly, vulnerable, angry, hurt, malicious side of myself that I would not feel safe sharing with anyone else. That's the whole basis of human connection. We should have friends where we can let our head down and expose the vulnerable, insufferable, pompous, cruel parts of ourselves that we would not want wider known. In the bedroom, I had a girlfriend, Holly Randall, who would plead with me during sex, eff me like a whore. Other women will use the N word when they're having sex. They would never use that outside of the bedroom. People say all sorts of things in the bedroom or just in the heat of battle. The National Football League, of course, is going to be a racist, misanthropic, misogynistic and herbophobic league. The interactions are going to be so intense. The sport is so intense. People are putting their lives on the line. Do you think soldiers? Soldiers aren't saying racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, misogynistic, misanthropic things all the time under the stress of training and battle and having to live together. I mean, what about prisoners? So now different races of prisoners are forced to... Not as a professor. I haven't heard from you for so long. Send me a text. Let's catch up. Yeah, there are some women who use the N word while they're having sex. But people in general reveal parts of themselves in the bedroom that they would reveal nowhere else. So prisoners... So the recent New York Times article doesn't actually give direct quotes of the alleged racist statements. Let's have a look. Where's the New York Times article? Oh, readers, coaches, emails included homophobic and misogynistic comments. So someone says, oh, that F word. He wrote to Alan and used racist terms like lips like Michelin tires. My ex used to call me professor in bed, but she never used the N word. I'm sorry, bro. I'm sorry that you didn't get... Yeah, like saying that a black guy's lips as big as Michelin tires. So what? I've heard black people mock white people for their physical characteristics. I've heard Asians mock white people for their physical characteristics. To be human is to look at people who are different and go, you know, what the hell? This is bizarre. If I expose you to plenty of teachings and rituals within Orthodox Judaism, you go, this is satanic. And then from a normal Jewish perspective, how could you have any reaction but now Christianity is pure idolatry. That's an instinctive Jewish reaction to Christians and Christianity. Most Jews would never say that publicly. Most Jews would not even say that privately. But it is an instinctive reaction. We have all sorts of instinctive reactions that are not very nice. So John Grun denounced the emergence of women as referees. Okay. I think half of... No, I think three quarters of football fans would agree with him. He denounced the drafting of a gay player. How many locker rooms do you think are going to be thrilled to have a gay player amongst them? He denounced the tolerance of players protesting during the playing of the national anthem. And this is a bad thing. So he called the league's commissioner a f-word and a clueless anti-football pussy. And he should not have pressured Jeff Fisher, the coach of the Rams, to draft queers. There is a reference to Michael Sam, a gay player chosen by the team in 2014. Never actually played a down of regular season football. So for this he's fired. Well, it makes sense to me when I put myself in Mark Davis' shoes. I would only expect Mark Davis to act in his own self-interest. But I think that these emails are somehow heinous in and of themselves. It is ridiculous. But the world is not fair. So if you say and do things in private, that then rebound badly on your group, then you're going to pay a price. So, oh yeah. So Gruden has a defensive lineman, Carl Naseeb, who was gay. So I think Carl Naseeb, isn't he the first out gay player in regular season football? So I would suspect that Carl Naseeb has not been the recipient of John Gruden's homophobic rants. So Gruden criticized President Obama. Oh no. And Joe Biden, who he called a nervous, clueless pussy. Oh my God. He's similar words described Roger Goodell under D. Maurice Smith. He criticized Smith's intelligence. I don't know. Why is that out of bounds? Should there be certain races of people for whom we are never allowed to criticize their intelligence? Oh, he used racist tropes to describe his face. Together the emails provided an unvarnished look into the clubby culture of what NFL Circle appears, where white male decision makers felt comfortable sharing pornographic images, deriding league policies, and jocularly sharing homophobic language. Yeah, that's how men communicate, not just in the NFL. The banter flies in the face of the league's public denouncements of racism and sexism, and his promises to be more inclusive. What type of banter does not fly in the face of public moralistic pronouncements? I mean there are people playing in the NFL who have killed people, all right? And the league was fine with that. So, John Green was writing from his personal email. I remember I got fired from a job for something I wrote from a personal email to the assistant of Ben Silverman. It's now a big TV hon show. And she contacted me, I think after hours wanting to see a copy of my new book that I was working on, A History of Sex and Film, so I think I sent her the chapter one. And somehow Ben had access to her email and started printing it out and jammed his printer and he got really upset and he called my HR agency and got me fired. So, John Gruden had a 10-year, $100 million contract. So, the bigger you rise, the further you fall. The more prestigious your position, the more vulnerable you are to cancel culture. The NFL congratulated Carl Naseeb after he became the first active NFL player to publicly declare his game. Why would you congratulate that? Like, why is that such a great moral thing? Roger Goodell said he's so proud of Carl for courageously sharing his truth today. Representation matters. I'm sure there are hundreds of forms of sexual truth out there that people could share. Do we really want to praise that? Apparently, John Gruden had few boundaries in expressing homophobic and transphobic language. Well, Gruden asked Allen to tell Brian Glazer, the owner of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, to perform oral sex on him. And they mocked Caitlyn Jenner after Caitlyn transitioned. Oh no, Allen and Gruden mocked Caitlyn Jenner. They criticized a congressional bill that aimed to force the Washington Redskins to change its name. And they shared a sexist meme of a female referee to which Gruden replied, nice job, Roger. I'm glad the only time I'll spend on this topic is on the Luke Ford live stream.