 Hi everyone, I went live on the wrong channel But I had to go ahead and keep going because everyone was starting to watch so I kind of flipped the script But I'm on this channel now the correct channel and I want to talk to you guys because a lot of a Lot of y'all have been asking me How do I get my husband or my boyfriend to want more in life to do better to strive and you know get paid more and you know Better himself financially. How do I as a woman? Do this for him, you know Um as a woman if you're married to someone You cannot okay, if you married someone just as they are And you are great to something totally different When you got married you can't go changing things Now if you never said anything like oh, I'll love you and if you're poor for ever blah, blah, blah, blah I don't care. We can be poor and live in poverty and I'll still love you if you've said all that And he mirrored you under those pre tenses then it's kind of like You can't go back and say well now I want you to have money, you know You can't do that. So if that's what you agreed to if you agree to that lifestyle then you're not gonna be able to Have a good Argument as to why you need him to better himself because You agree before you guys got married that this was okay, but if you never agreed to anything and You're able to you know think that you can improve your man You're gonna want to be inspirational to him not negative Okay, you catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar. Okay, you don't want to be the nagging wife Because that's just gonna push him away, you know What you need to do I said to some other video you need to get him around the type of lifestyle that you want You need to get him interested in the type of lifestyle that you want You need to take him to car dealerships to test drive nice cars. You need to take him to model homes to You know walk around and get into the vibration of a better lifestyle You need to take him to the nice areas of town You know when you guys want to go grab something to eat Don't just stay in your little circle go out and venture out get him into the atmosphere That you want him to upgrade to okay, cuz then once he feels like He belongs there or he should have more then he's gonna be right on board with Getting better. Okay And you don't Put him down. You don't put him down. You say, you know what honey? I know I bet you could have that car in two years or honey I bet we could live in that house if we want it to and if we You know put our minds to it, you know, honey I bet you could get a promotion on your job if you just put in a couple extra hours a day and really showed your Showed your company your value, you know You're not gonna put them down like oh my god, you should be doing so much better than this I don't know why I married you. Oh, you know, you don't want her that in life You're just mediocre You don't say those things to the person you married or that the person you're with if you want them to improve You got to make them feel like they're in charge of their own life That you believe in them that you see them in the position that you know It's successful and that you're waiting on them to get there because You know, that's where they belong. Okay, and by you feeling that thinking that and you bringing them around You know certain environments nice cars nice houses nice places to eat nice areas of town They're gonna start vibrating on that frequency to and wanting those things too and they're gonna figure out how to get them, you know So that's how you get your man to the next level you take him there You take him to visit that level you take him to test drive that level you take him around the people on that level you take him to eat on that level and You know, even if it's just appetizers, you know, you might not afford can afford to eat It's a fancy restaurant except for a drink and an appetizer go for drinks and appetizers You know, so take him to these nice areas of visit your future lifestyle In that moment when you guys are out start talking about this is where we're gonna be in a couple years This is the sound of town. We're gonna be living on don't say Can we move over here or you know, do you think you're gonna afford this? Speak it into existence. This is where we're going to be living not I hope you can get a raise or not a Wish we could live here, but this is where we're gonna be living. Okay, so you speak it into existence. You take him out You let him get a taste of it once you get a taste of it You can't not you can't go backwards. You can't be like go back and feel good. You're gonna be like, dang that was nice You know, they have good school districts our kids would be better off the fair, you know, they have nice area low crime Nice houses that car will look good in my driveway. My wife would be happier I would be well respected my parents would be proud of me all those starts are gonna start going through his mind My wife thinks I can do this You know, I feel like I deserve it So you're gonna be putting those thoughts in his subconscious mind and eventually he's gonna want To upgrade and he's gonna figure out how to do it, you know, so Don't do it in a negative way because it never works a lot of women lose their men by nagging them and comparing them to other people Yeah, it's fun to talk a trash about them online, but you don't talk trash to them You know, that's just gonna destroy their self-esteem. So what you need to do is talk success into them talk Prosperity into them talk upgrade into them, you know That's your job as a woman to push them to that next level, you know And when you do they will be thankful, you know, they will always be thankful, but you don't contribute Okay, this is the key if you are going to contribute Don't contribute as much just a little bit, you know Because then he can't take the credit. He can't feel good about it. You know, he can't be the man You know, he can't say yeah, I did it. Aren't you proud of me, baby? Because you're gonna say, well, I thought I paid half of that, you know You didn't do this on your own and you're not gonna look up to him as if he accomplished something great because you basically helped him get there So if you're gonna help just help tiny bits like oh, well, you know Save your money. I'll pay my phone bill this month, you know Don't go anything above a hundred or two hundred dollars. Okay, if you're in that type of relationship if you're building together Remember ladies When you help someone build up You can't see them as someone who did this great thing You don't see them as successful as the next woman who did not help them build up So you're not gonna look at them the same and they're not gonna feel like the man with you because you help them get there You know, so that's when a lot of men will start cheating on their wives or their longtime girlfriends who have helped them build With someone that didn't help at all, but recognizes the man did it all by himself. That's what he wants he's gonna steal all the The recognition and pretend like he did it all by himself and get, you know All the recognition from another person. So very important not to help anyone build up their You know dream so they can take all the credit and leave and go somewhere else, you know Um Very important to let him make it on his own with just maybe this much help that you really can't even take too much credit For because if you do it the other way He'll never get all the praise and glory he feels he deserves from you since you helped him so Think about it That's why I like right right now If if your husband or a boyfriend is trying to save up money and he's asking you to pay this and pay that and pay this and pay that say no Say but I will You know, I'll give you some gas money this week or Just if you're gonna contribute just do it a little bit not too much because if you Push him too far and you become his crutch. He's not really doing it on his own. You're actually doing Doing it but letting him have the credit Okay, and soon he's gonna want to claim all the credit with someone else. So do not Help him build up his you know empire assist him a little bit You know help him by running errands for I'm doing him a little bit of favor here and there But don't assist him monetarily. Okay, that will be the biggest mistake you will ever make. Okay, that way He can truly take all the credit and if you're married you still get half anyway if he leaves you so You might as well save your time and energy Okay I'm just saying you didn't got to work to get paid in this day and age unless you're So yeah, y'all a funny story if y'all I went live on the wrong channel and people were mad They're like I said, oops, let me let me flip the script. They weren't ready. They weren't ready Okay, so If a man doesn't want to move out of his current Financial status and he's perfectly okay with living mediocre or the lifestyle that you guys are in But you want him to upgrade and he's perfectly fine. I'm happy. I have everything I want. I don't need a bigger house I don't need nicer cars. I don't need this. I don't need that if he's in that mindset And you're like what I do Start doing things on your own Like maybe start an online business start getting paid on the side of your regular job If you work or if you don't work start getting paid by doing something that you started yourself lead by example Okay, if he sees that you're making money, he's gonna like hop on like, you know what I can do this too I can make some extra money on the side. I don't have to work as hard Maybe I can even make more money than I do at my job. Let me see what I can do So there are some guys who have to be led by example. So you do what you need to do and When he sees that you're successful or that you're making extra money or you're profiting He's gonna be like, well, dang, I can do that too so For those who are stuck and don't want to move out their mediocre mediocrity They sometimes follow by example another way is to Get around people that are where you want to be make friends with people who have nice things make friends with people who have nice houses Nice cars, you know hang out with them and your husband's gonna start to feel or your boyfriend's gonna start to feel like You know less than and he's gonna want to upgrade. So that's another way to do it. Okay, take them around nice Neighborhoods make friends with people that have what you want and when you do that, you know When like a successful guy and another guy get together He's gonna want to talk about business not holes and you know sports and stuff He's talking about business stock market, you know, how we gonna next idea next big make money making idea, you know online businesses, you know Stock options and stuff like that. He's not talking about the the remedial things that a lot of other people talk about He's talking about money how to make money how to get money how to maintain money And when you get your man around people like that, then his thinking will change so You want to Get your man in a better environment when you guys hang out of you if you're used to hanging out at, you know places that Are not upscale start switching to upscale places slowly, you know, you want to build him up to it You don't want to just throw him in there So upgrade upgrade him in his taste in his in his desires because That's what's gonna get him to that next level like Even sexually you can do this by like looking online at lingerie, you know expensive lingerie They're like, oh my god, I love this. It's so pretty. It's so expensive though. You know, we you know, but that's okay I can go to Walmart or Target and get one It won't be as nice and then you might feel a little bit sad that you can't even dress sexy because you can't afford the nice thing That you really want, you know, so Just little bitty things like that will help upgrade your man like, you know, look Like look at something online. It's like, oh my god, that dress is so pretty. Oh my god I would look so good in that but look at the price. It's just so expensive Okay, well, that's maybe I'll find something at Target that's similar or Walmart I could I'll shop at Walmart, you know, make him feel bad Like you deserve those things and he knows you deserve those things and when you when you are get, you know Getting all excited about it and then you realize bang my man broke. He can't afford it So let me just go to Walmart and get the cheap version of it made in China, you know, so That's gonna make him feel bad. He's gonna be like, dang, you know, I want my woman to have nice things, too so That will give him also some inspiration Right It's okay someone writes my husband is building his own business, but every setback he quits. What can I do to push him? Okay? Men who are trying to start their own business who keep having setbacks and then quit it's because they're probably not ready to start their own business They're not financially able to start their own business already or they're not starting the right type of business Maybe they're starting too large or too big instead of little baby steps So try to get him to start baby steps that he will get be guaranteed success, you know Like if he's trying to start a business, why doesn't he start a business online? Why doesn't he raise awareness about his upcoming business through social media? You know You can't just put a business out there and say hey, I'm here come shop or hey I'm here come give me business or hey I'm here you gotta build it step by step if he's starting at step 10 and and skipped You know steps one through nine. Of course, he's gonna have setbacks So get him to start small like everybody always want to start a business and they want to invest all this money Start off super small get your clients build your name build your brand advertise You know get a Facebook or YouTube or Instagram and build it up so that when people When you're ready to open or when you're ready to get clients, they're already there because you've built yourself up, you know Start with ideas, you know Solutions to problems that your business can solve start by advertising things like that, you know And then when you open you already have a bunch of people waiting to buy your stuff by your product Go into business with you or whatever if you started if you just set up a storefront open the doors and said, okay Come in, you know people don't know about you people would just drive past you They don't trust that name. They never saw you before they don't know you You know blah blah blah blah build yourself up first and then You know instruct him to do that because that will help him a lot of people will already have ideas That's been done a thousand times and nobody wants You know to give them business because they can get it somewhere cheaper, you know what I'm saying Just like, you know, a lot of people are trying to open up businesses where they sell candles and soaps and stuff like that But you can get the same type of stuff For like ten times cheaper somewhere. No one is going to you know, buy your stuff unless you create a buzz around it Like why they need to buy this particular item, you know, so Help him be creative help him understand this Okay and Okay, so another thing is a Lot of you guys are starting the same types of business that's been started over and over and it has failed repeatedly Try something new try something different that has not been done or put a spin on it, you know Everybody and their mama wants to be an entertainment a rapper a record label Everybody and their mama wants to do that everybody want and their mama wants to sell soaps and candles Everybody and their mama wants to do the same thing Change it up, you know, if you're gonna sell soaps and candles do something different if you're gonna be a Recording artist if you're gonna have a studio if you're gonna be an entertainment in the entertainment business a producer change it up You know, don't just offer the same thing everyone else does What's different about you, you know So let's see, okay, so she says it's building kitchens and bathrooms, okay Well, that's that's a good business But you know the the type of companies you want to target are builders, you know home builders not People that want their bathrooms redone, but you need to get in with the home builders, you know Like when they're building new neighborhoods, you get you get contract with those neighborhoods to come and install The bathrooms in the kitchen, you know Stuff like that you don't You aim For what, you know, you can do if you don't have the manpower behind it start off small, you know Things like that but that is a very that it's a that's a business that required a lot of hard work and You know, perhaps maybe It's easy to get discouraged because that is a lot of physical labor Maybe you maybe he needs an idea that can make him money without working so hard you know, maybe like an online business of selling the products to Remodel your own house or your own bathroom a drop ship company a supply company, you know Something that's easy that brings them any quick without, you know, lots of labor and time put into it A lot of people don't think they just say oh, I know how to do bathrooms. Let me do that They don't think on the higher level. They don't think as a boss. They think as an employee Why not just sell the products, you know, why not just profit off of selling Why not get a wholesale license and sell bathroom products cheap to to builders? Why not do that? Why why not, you know hire contractors to put in the bathrooms and pay them While you, you know, have a wholesale company want to do something like that, you know, think bigger People think too small. They just think labor labor mind, you know, think management think owner Okay Think about how you can make the most money by doing the least that's how you get places most millionaires Think think like this. How can I make the most money by doing the least work? When you start thinking on that level it's gonna come easy. So guys Sit in your house sit in your car. Whatever you're gonna sit and think about this besides something illegal How can I make the most money by doing the least work? You know, how do people get paid for doing nothing? Basically, how do I get paid in my sleep? Basically start thinking about that and the answers and the ideas will come I promise you Okay A lot of guys a lot of people think I don't like men. I love men. I don't like boys Okay, man will come up with some money-making ideas men will come up with how to move from Level one to level ten in two years. Okay. These are men. These are people who are invested in their career And their Families that want to do better and build things for their future generation. That's men Boys just want to date and have sex for free and ask the woman to pay half the bill and live in an apartment and make four figure Five figure salaries. That's boys men want to have an empire a kingdom and to leave something to their Children and have their wives bragging about them. That's men. Okay. I don't hate men I don't hate boys, but I don't deal with boys, you know and women grown women shouldn't deal with boys either and You know, I made a video about that but I didn't put it out because I didn't want people to get the wrong idea because I really went in I was like I Was like giving tough love that would have came off as hate, but You know, you can't hate someone unless you love them first That's just true. You can't hate someone unless you love them. You can dislike someone you can disagree with someone you cannot You know of be happy with somebody, but you can't hate somebody unless you love them So tough love is what I called it. I'm not gonna put that out because it was a bit harsh So instead I decided to give some you know Some information on how to get to that next level stop thinking as an employee and think as an owner Okay How can I make the most money? Doing the least that's how you think and the ideas will come if you're smart if you have a high IQ you will figure it out Right Even my daughter's figured out, you know, I'll test them. I was like Layla, you know How could you make money without leaving your house? Give me five ideas. You know do this with your kids Okay, how can you make money while you're asleep? Give me some ideas, you know And people will come up with the ideas, but then they'll talk themselves right out of it because they are afraid of success Why are they afraid of success because they don't feel like they deserve it? Why don't they feel like dessert? They don't deserve it because they've been conditioned With poverty mind so you have to reprogram yourself in these situations, you know what I'm saying How about accepting for your man for who he is and that what he's worth. Well, you know You can do that You can accept your man for who he is instead of what he's worth, right? You can do that, but Are you gonna be happy doing that? Are your kids gonna have the things they need in life by doing that? You know, are you gonna be able to leave your kids a will instead of a won't By doing that are your kids gonna be financially burdened when you're that when you die Because you just want to be mediocre. I don't know you decide, you know Are you selfish or do you want to push your family into the next just you know into the into the next decade with something? More, you know, it's up to you. You know some men they don't care Women they care more about where their family ends up, you know, men don't care. They'll just work eat drink and then die Be like, okay, I lived a good life But women want their children to thrive and their grandchildren to thrive and their family name to thrive Men don't care about that kind of stuff Women do that's why women pick their men up based upon The level that they can you know elevate their family to So if y'all don't care about y'all's future generations and your children and your grandchildren, you know That's fine, but a lot of women do and that's why they base who they choose their partner on You know what they can provide and that's just that's just good looking out, you know and You know if you if like some guy just said in the comments If you can't afford children don't have them and don't have sex unprotected because that's one of the ways to have it Duh, you know have two forms of contraception not just one They have male birth control pills now. So there is no excuse Don't get on the peel now to equal rights remember y'all gonna be all hormonal low sperm count Testicular cancer from years of taking male birth control pills Okay, anyway Yeah, so guys if y'all are looking for better ways to make money Think like a woman think like a woman be creative. What else what's not out there? What services can you provide? Okay Handyman services, you know, there are so many women who especially single women who don't have a man around their house You can go and fix stuff around a house After work for like two and three hours make appointments after work go fix whatever they need done like small jobs and then go home That's like a second job. You only need Three hours extra and you're making what how much how much does a handyman make per visit? Maybe like 100 200 dollars depending on what the job is that you can make 300 dollars extra a day by being a dang handyman You know I'm saying oh, let me oh my garbage disposal. Don't work All you got to do is go press the reset button and collect your money, you know, I Just fixed my garbage disposal a string was stuck in it, you know, but it wouldn't work and Most women are not gonna know that you know and you can go ahead and make your money And You know some some women, you know, they can't they can't do certain jobs around their house like You know, you can buy you can become like a little Exterminator, you know, you can buy some book spray from the wholesale place And you a little sprayer and go exterminate people's houses on the weekend for you know a hundred dollars Each go, you know, you can do all these things You can also sell services You know typing up stuff for people who don't have time to type you can be a ghostwriter you can do all those things So if you don't want to do manual labor, you can type stuff up for people. You can do people's resumes online There's programs. You just stick their information in that they they might not know about, you know And all you got to do is input their information and bam here comes a professional resume You just made 50 to 75 dollars, you know think I Could make money I can make money in my sleep right now if I if I just wrote down every idea I had I could make Ten times as much money as I'm making right now, you know, just from ideas like The easiest way to make money Is the most profitable way so think about it the hardest way to make money? It's gonna cost you the most you're gonna it's gonna cost you time energy gas Supplies so try to think easy easy, you know Consultations, you know, a lot of people make money on consultations. What are you good at? What is your expertise? Offer consultations on what you're skilled in, you know Things like that learn how to speak correctly so that people take you seriously Speak in a professional tone Improve upon yourself and provide a service and people who need that service will seek you out, you know Think okay, so So this is your homework men I'm gonna give you all some homework because our boys Take take 20 minutes tonight and figure out five ways to make money With what you know and what you have right now not what you need to get in the future not what you need To have in order to start this but what you have right now in your possession How you can make money five different ways and Whittle it down to one or two ways and go and do it. Okay, you'll thank me later. You're welcome Figure it out, you know, it doesn't take it doesn't take a genius to figure out how to make money Some of the richest people in the world don't have a college degree. They just had an idea. Okay? They put down the distractions They put down the excuses and they put their mind to work on Something that they believed in and that they knew they could do With what they had at the moment. Okay, so just go for it. There's no excuse, you know You are where you are because you choose to be You know, I my daughter wants to start a business. She's nine years old, you know She's already thinking like that and that's good. That's where you want to be somebody says Tamales, yeah, there's people selling tamales all throughout the clubs They go in there with their little bag and their little pizza bag That they deliver pizzas in with what tamales in there and they sell them for like five dollars a pop You know and how much does it cost to make tamales? It's not that expensive So if you whatever you can do just go do it, you know I remember There's this guy And he had started off with a food truck And he sold like these tacos or whatever and now he has like a giant I think a giant restaurant From having a food truck for like five years. He saved all his money And then he opened a big restaurant now. He makes probably millions. So start off small. Don't try to get here quick That's the problem with most men. They don't they feel like if they can't get successful quick They want to quit. No, you start off small and you build your way up You work your nine to five and do your thing on the side until that money Is more than your nine to five money then you can quit your job and be your own boss, you know It's baby steps. It's a process. It's something that You build up to you can't just get there overnight And that's what a lot of people don't understand and sometimes women are a distraction, you know Sometimes chasing women is not going to help you get paid Okay, because they they want your money. Okay, we want your money That's why we rather chase people that already have it instead of people that don't have it So once once you get it, then you have time to enjoy your life. Enjoy the women Pick a woman that you want instead of settling for a woman. You don't really want but you know This is the last chance you're gonna have to settle down with someone so you might as well You know, you don't want to have that attitude you want to be like, I'm gonna go out and pick the woman I want, you know Just like when you get a great job and you can go out and pick the car You want instead of the car that's in your price range that doesn't have too many miles on it That looks decent, you know, you want to go and pick your car brand new get the warranty and all that stuff That's what you need so, um Focus on your success Focus on where you want to be and get there and then everything else will fall in line Everything else will fall in place. You won't have to worry, you know You won't have to deal with women like me calling you names Because you won't be those things You know, you'll be someone I can brag on or tell a story about a successful story about and compare to other people and say this is who you need to be like You then become a role model You know All men should want to be role models to other men All men should want to be an example of success instead of mediocrity All men should want to be great You know All men should want to hold their head up high and walk with pride and have their women bragging on them and their Daughters proud of them and their kids having stuff that they never had all men should want that You know When they don't that's a problem Okay, when they don't That says something about themselves so as a man Your priorities Should be in order You know Your lower self that chases women that want sex and things like that That energy needs to be channeled into creative energy into money-making energy Okay, men who have sex with a lot of women and chase women who are broke All that energy that you're giving away Is your creative energy that is supposed to be used to get you wealthy But you're giving it away for free to women and think that you're getting over But really what you're doing is you're diminishing You're diminishing your creative energy That energy is supposed to be channeled to create And if you don't use it to create and you just use it to procreate or have sex or you know You know do all these things that make you feel good sexually That energy is better spent elsewhere, you know Creating something putting all that frustration anger Pent up energy into a project You know a lot of men who are very successful sometimes they practice celibacy for a while So that that energy builds up and gets them to that next level, you know It's like to some men it's a turn on to earn a bunch of money like dang. I just earned You know $40,000 in three days because I put all my energy and effort into you know this project and bam There it goes. You know, that's the orgasm. Damn. Look at my success A lot of men Don't know what to do with this energy. So they go ahead and chase women Now this energy is supposed to be used to create to build To have all the things that you want in life that can provide and protect for a family, you know, but you're you're misusing it Just like women misuse a lot of their energy, you know their sexual energy To get men to do this this and that That's supposed to be used on a man who's hit it somewhere That's that's their uh, that's their reward, you know, when you do good you come home you get laid When you get a promotion you go out celebrate you go home you get laid You know, you're not supposed to get go home Celebrate and get laid with somebody who is making minimum wage or you know not building up That doesn't turn you on okay, so It can be redirected in a more positive way to become more profitable Now a lot of men are going to be upset about this But you know, if you don't want better for your future generations or your children Or if you don't even want children then this message is not really for you You know, you can live alone in an apartment Off of um five figures and be totally happy, you know It's a miserable life to some people some people. It's the perfect life, but um You know Men that want more and want a legacy and want a family and want an heir to their throne and want to build You know, this is how they think okay Somebody says they're illuminati How are you illuminati? Okay So anyway I'm reading some of these comments um Yeah, if like ladies Also the the type of man you choose to be with Shows who you are as well. So if you're if you're choosing players thugs Men that don't really have a lot of ambition in life and just want to play you and look good and talk sweet to you And you know all this kind of that that means that you don't take yourself seriously You know, you're dealing with men who not serious about life means you don't take your life seriously as well You're just in there, you know for the moment, but you have to remember one thing Women I don't want to say women have an expiration date, but we have a time clock And don't waste your youth on on guys who are not going anywhere, you know If you don't take yourself serious, you're not going to be attracted to serious men You know, you're going to be attracted to boys. You're going to be attracted to looks swag all this like Stuff that doesn't matter But if you take yourself seriously your future generation seriously your lifestyle seriously what you want seriously You're not going to be messing with those type of guys. Anyway, so unless you You know, if you're just living in the moment, you don't know any better No one taught you any better and you just you know Saw what your sister did or your aunt did or your mama did And you just saw them go for the the thuggest guy or the the cutest guy or the smoothest talking guy And then up with five kids, you know, and you follow that That's all you know But then you have to ask yourself did your mother take her life seriously Did your aunt take her life seriously? Did your sister take her life seriously? Do you want to be in the same position as they are? Did you see them struggle? Do you want to struggle? You know, do you want to take your life seriously get a serious man? You know, that's that's common sense But a lot of people will not think like that because they weren't taught So You have to retrain yourself to think do I take my life seriously, you know So, um Whoever's in here talking about god and jesus's stuff. Thank you. We don't need a pastor. This is not church, darling um If you like if you're if you find yourself in a situation where you're dating someone that's not going anywhere Anywhere and doesn't want to go anywhere politely leave the situation, you know politely leave and If he asks you why you're leaving and just say I I want a more serious life I'm taking myself more seriously now. I need I need to make some uh decisions My priorities are different and I can't You know, I can't execute my plan being with you, you know and just be like I gotta go um Don't let someone drag you down If you had goals and then you got in a relationship and then you don't know where your goals went Chances are, you know, you need to leave and create some goals again for yourself because If you're not getting better And you're getting worse that relationship is not beneficial to you, you know Anyways Poor thing, you know, and also, you know, there's a place for everyone in the world. You can fit in where you get in, you know um Men who want to do good by their families, they will find a way, you know Seek I must this is for the uh, bible person Seek and you shall find if you're not looking you can't you're not gonna find it, you know So if your man is not even looking to better himself or looking to upgrade you guys lifestyle He's not going to find it. Make sure he's looking, you know, you look with him. You drag him along to look with you You know go window shopping Like 50 cent go window shopping, you know um, go test drive Go have appetizers if you can't afford the full meal go do something get in that frequency. Take your man Make sure he sees that there's better better ways to live, you know Um, then when he sees women out with other men who are giving them everything that look worse than you He's gonna feel that you're like, dang, she could have this type of lifestyle if she really wanted to let me do something You know that girl is ugly and she got this rich dude. Dang my girl could get a rich dude. Dang She's gonna leave me if I don't upgrade, you know Show him What he's supposed to be you know Take him to her You know, you look better than these women, but they out here eating filet mignon or you know lobster and and seafood and Every anything that they want drinks dessert at this fancy restaurant with ballet take him there and show him that this What you deserve And be like, you know what you better get it together because I sure can't upgrade. Look at these girls in here I know I look 20 times better. Guess what? You don't know what you know, you don't know what goes on in the DM and the in my inbox, you know So You want to let him see that you deserve better and that you can get better if you really wanted to look I wait on you. I'm working with you. What you gonna do, you know, show him Because he doesn't know he's in his own lower. Oh, I got her. She loved me, you know, she's washing my underwear She loves me. She cooks my food. She loves me, but don't ever think Like Beyonce say you don't ever think you're not irreplaceable So, yes Show him what you can have if you really wanted it, but let him know that you waiting on him to upgrade So you can have it with him. Okay This is key. This is what I did like for my husband When we first met before I was married I took him around the places that I used to hang out where uh, you know, wealthy people hang out You know, he had some he had some money and stuff But he wasn't on the level that he's at now, you know, uh, I took him around those type of people He met lawyers doctors, you know, all those kind of things and Got to know them Got on that frequency, you know, all that kind of stuff got got clients networking So you bring him into the environment. You don't say we should be here. Go there Yes, you should be there. So go there and take him with you and give him a taste of the good life So he wants it too, you know Christian values in the black community Um Y'all can promote it if you want don't mean it's called it Uh and I don't know why I attract religious trolls. That's just silly. That's weird. Like this has nothing to do with religion There's all this has something to do with bettering your life through the type of men you choose 70 percent of black children that has nothing to do with Jesus though Like 70 percent of black children born out of marriage has nothing to do with religion. Okay Because Christianity was not our original religion anyway, so You know, so That's nothing to do with religion Okay Yes, I'm Someone says I'm an advocate for same-sex marriage. So And what's your point? I'm an advocate for a lot of stuff that you probably don't agree with so I Bye Felicia If you're here to judge and tell people to repent and all that stuff you want to wrong Because you know, we don't hear like we we in it to win it We're in it to win it Okay So You know, if you are smart you'd be collecting tithes and offerings since you're a church I know that's what I be doing The only way I'd ever be Christian again is if I was the first lady of a mega church. Okay I will pretend I will praise Jesus Yes, you need to repent and I pass that tithes and offerings plate so I can go get my Bentley Okay Yeah, yeah, I'll marry a mega pastor Come on now You know, they only in it for the money anyway anyways I want a rich black woman where the Rich black women don't want broke black men. You know, we want somebody richer We don't we don't want somebody to drain us. We want somebody to add to us So we can take half their check when we divorce them So you got good luck with that I told you we in it to win it Someone keeps texting me like I want to talk to Okay 10 dollar someone is saying $10 an hour is not good for you hoes I made $10 an hour when I was 18 years old back before $10 an hour was even high. I mean was even low When I was working minimum wage was like 4 475 or 425 an hour And I was making 10. Okay, so and I was still in high school You know 18 17 years old. So if you making that now as a grown man 30 years later, you got issues I'm sorry Hey the Christian trolling Anyway, it like for example If you're always envious Of other people And what they have and you're in a relationship and you're in a marriage and you can't have nice things And that's what you want. Okay. Remember it's all about what you want In life, you know If you want something You're not going to be happy to get it, right? So it's not about your morals. It's not about what's right or what's wrong It's about if you want something and you deserve to have it and you think you deserve to have it Until you have it. You're not going to be happy so You know if you're in a relationship and your husband or your boyfriend can't buy you nice things on your birthday or On anniversaries or things like that and you're pissed off because the other girl that looks worse than you has a man Who buying her stuff and you feel like you deserve it too from your man, but he's just not on that level yet If you want that, you know If you can't get it yourself or you don't want to buy it yourself and you want your man to give it to you You know, tell him look. I want some nice things, you know Go get me this You know, tell him what you want. Don't just hint around tell him look. I want a new purse It costs this much. Can you get it for me for my birthday? If his answer is no then say, okay fine. I'll find another way to get it. Don't worry about it Now he's going to be thinking how she's going to go get this purse, you know, blah blah blah blah Now I say on my other channel. I probably uh pissed off a bunch of people, but there are some married women with sugar daddies Who can do the stuff that their husband can't Who can go buy them the nice things that their husband can't and the woman will walk around saying Oh, my boss gave it to me. Oh my friend gave it to me. Oh, my mom bought it for me. Oh my dad sent me some money Oh this oh that the whole time she got a sugar daddy buying her stuff because he can't afford it You don't want your woman having to do that Because or they have a wealthy ex-boyfriend who will you know buy stuff for them Just because they can you know plan B basically so Make sure you can give your woman what she deserves and what she wants and what you know, she wants Okay, if you meet her and she likes certain things you got to keep her in that lifestyle, you know If you uh see her eyeballing someone else's nice things, you know, she wants them, okay You need to figure out how to get them just like You know, if your man is looking at other women and how they look you're going to look at yourself and be like Dang, you know, does he like big big butts? Does he like big boobs? Does he like her hairstyle? Does he like her makeup? Why is he looking at her? What is it about her that he likes, you know, uh, of course men are always gonna look but Look what he's looking at pay attention. You know, oh, maybe I can Wear an outfit that looks similar to that if that turns his head, you know Maybe I can get my girl that purse because she keeps looking at it every time a woman has that particular purse She turns her head, you know, women look at other women too, but it's not because of what they look like It's because what they have, okay It's like, dang, look at that purse Dang, look at them shoes. We're not looking at her. We're looking at her stuff Okay Men have always asked me that why do other women look at other women? We're not looking at them. We're looking at their stuff Look at that hair. Look at them nails. Look at that Purse look at them shoes. Look at them jeans, you know, that's what we're looking at. We're not looking at them Oh, they look nice in that thing that I want. Yes. We'll give them a compliment. Oh, she looks good in that We want that, you know Men are looking for a totally different reason. They want something else Hey, I'm just telling y'all the truth so, um When I go out I look at women I look at women I get inspiration from other women, you know I look at women and I say, oh my god She looks so good in that color. Oh my god. I love her shoes. Oh my god. Look at that watch, you know And smile That's so cute. Where did you get that? Like I have so many people ask me where I get my stuff at in the grocery store Oh my god, where did you get that from and and then we go and tell them. Oh, yeah It's on sale. You know, you can order it online. You can buy it here. You can buy it there That's what women talk about stuff Okay And if you're a man and you don't realize that or understand that women like certain things Then, you know, you need to start realizing that now because that's what we're looking at Um, now there's someone that's not materialistic at all. They just don't care that they were wearing the same clothes every week by $10 purse at, you know Goodwill or or walmart and be perfectly happy, you know but They might want all your attention and all your time and be clingy to you And want you to be there and call them and text them and be there for you all the time That might be their wealth, you know, that might be Uh, what they want instead of material and men sometimes men can't even give women that You know, the non materialistic women want other things And sometimes men can't even give them that but then they want to complain about Materialistic women, you know, they want too much. They want too much And then the girl who doesn't want anything she wants too much time. She's too clingy, you know Uh, the woman that doesn't even want time. It just wants a commitment or she wants commitment, you know The easiest thing to give a woman is material That's why you know, it's It's very easy for a man with money to please most women. Okay, think about it Think about it, you know, it's hard to give a woman all your time It's hard to give a woman all your attention. It's hard to keep a woman happy by emotionally stroking her and saying, oh, baby, you're perfect. I love you I'm gonna give you all this attention. You know, I'm never gonna go out with my friends. It's all about you It's all about you, you know, so, um Things like that you can't have it all you're gonna have to pick and choose. What type of woman do you want? You want a woman who will shut up and leave you alone if you buy her an expensive purse and you you can, you know Play your video games in peace or do you want a woman who wants all your time to snuggle and cuddle and hold hands in public? And she'll take a $10 hot dog and a Walmart purse Which one which one is easier to please in a piece, you know You have to think about these kind of things because some women, you know Some women want it all someone want the money the attention and everything so This person keeps texting me like a book I'm like 20 texts So Men like i'm just telling y'all what women want how to impress women how to impress us like it's not that hard You know three things, you know how men say you only think meet three things food sex and you know, uh, what else I forgot the third thing but Women just like nice things You know for you to be a good guy, you know not not miss over her and what Commitment that's all we want That's what most want you need to have something you need to be committed and you need to be decent Okay, that's it. That's all we want Yeah Take care of us be decent to us And commit that's it That's what most women want you can do those three things. You can make your woman happy If you can't do those three things You're always gonna have issues, you know Uh Trump's wife. Okay, Melania. Yeah, she of course. She's a male order bride. Okay. She married for money She never thought she was gonna be the first lady. She don't even like donald trump She don't live in the same house with him. Okay She's just in it for the money period Lifestyle only she don't even like him And he probably knows that i'm sure she probably cusses him out every night And he probably can't even get it up no more. So really doesn't matter, you know The only reason donald trump gets married is for status. Okay, he doesn't need a wife It's status I can have any woman I want. I can have this Russian Tall, you know, beautiful woman because and i'm old and ugly because i'm rich It's a it's like a car. It's like an accessory wealthy man If you ever notice most super wealthy men always have a wife Because it's a status symbol You can't be super Wealthy and not have a wife. The wife is the the thing that most men If they could just have satisfied have, you know, this this wife, that's a status symbol That's the equivalent to having a Bentley a maybach, you know, you got all these things. Where's your wife? Okay, you can master this you can master finance you can master fame you can master for Master fame and fortune. Can you master a wife? Can you make a woman happy? That's the last thing you can do Can you make a woman happy? That's why all these millionaires and billionaires have wives Because that is the last thing that they can they have to master If you can master a woman you got it. He's like You master the matrix So Women are status symbols women are like a car Once men get super successful and they have every car a mansion Every type of clothes jewelry, then they go for their wife Then they go get the baddest chick or the the the type of wife they always wanted And they give her everything because that is a status symbol when you can get everything and a wife You know, a lot of men don't realize that Having a spouse or a wife upgrades you in every way like It's a status symbol like oh my god, he can please a woman. He has a wife He can provide all her needs. Look at her car. She's driving a Range Rover. She's driving this her husband must be all that You know, they're not looking at her They're looking at you how you provide for her They're not thinking. Oh, she earned that car because she don't ever go to work They're thinking look what her husband did for her. Oh my god. He's a good guy. He must be rich He must be smart. I wonder what he does for a living day. I wish I had her life So I wish I had her type of husband He's still gonna get the credit, you know, so That's why a wife is a status symbol and poverty minded men Do not value the woman because they know that they can never fully please a woman because you know, we like nice things we like comfort we like to be provided for and Only the wealthy Well-established financially stable men understand that a wife is a status symbol, you know Um long time ago in the ancient days, you know, if you weren't married by a certain age You know, people did not respect you. They thought something was wrong with you. They looked down upon you I mean as a man, it's like where's your wife? You know, then they start to get suspicious of you, you know, so Having a wife is a status symbol and you know in life When you can have a wife you've made it and you can't get a wife something wrong with you You better go back to the drawing board. Okay That's it so, um If you've been left by a woman for A man with more money and you feel betrayed you feel upset and you hate women for being gold diggers or Wanting men with money. This is a good place To redirect your anger into success because the best revenge is success even with men, you know What if your ex-girlfriend runs into you again and you are a millionaire? Or you have a very nice car and live in a nice house and she's still chasing behind you know Somebody else but you have more than them now, you know Success is always the best revenge. No matter who done your dirty, you know what I'm saying So men you can be successful as revenge as well. You know what I'm saying? I I feel that That has to be the best revenge for any man because first of all it boosts his ego It makes it makes him feel like yeah, you look at all this stuff you left You know, you this could have been you, you know, just like that silo video from a long time from a couple years ago uh, if you I see you driving round town with a girl I love and I'm like if you And then she was working at the diner and he got rich so, you know No matter what Make sure it's motivation to get you to that next level. No matter who Left you who cheated on you who dogged you out Who called you broke? Who called you worthless take that and flip it into inspiration to get the ultimate revenge Okay, success. That's what I would do if I was a man And I didn't have a lot of money. I would figure out how to get some My success will be the best revenge upon any woman who ever Left me or whatever, you know, I would flip the script You know, some men aren't born knowing these things some men aren't perfect Some men weren't raised around, you know men that have success. So they have to learn the hard way But if I had to learn the hard way you you would be Um, you would be dumb not to prosper from your mistakes You would be dumb not to flip the script and become successful as the greatest form of revenge. You would be dumb not to do that Okay You would be dumb to say well, forget her. I'm a go find a woman who loves me as broke Loves me for me, you know That's just settling that's not improving upon yourself. That's just saying, you know what? Um I'm gonna show the world who I am, you know what I can do. I can master this World I can master this matrix. I can master Anything because I'm confident in myself not not I'm afraid to do anything So I'm just gonna stay where I am and I'm gonna wait for someone to stoop down to my level You know, I'm gonna wait for something to drop from from somebody else, you know Pockets so that I can be okay. I'm gonna wait You know, you become the cause of your life and you don't live with the effects of your life You become the cause and if you're not doing anything to better yourself and you're stagnant, you know, that's like death stagnation is death and eventually You know, it's not going to even make you happy anymore that a woman loves you for you You know, because you're all going to be suffering and your children are going to be suffering And if you love your children, you're not you're not gonna want to stay like that You're gonna want to do better and by then it might be too late because you're gonna be old So Focus on that stuff now You know, don't do it for a woman. Don't do it for a gold digger. Do it for your children in the future Do it for yourself. Do it for the best revenge ever Do it to make you feel successful like a man. Do it for the respect You know, don't do it for a woman Do it for the respect the recognition You know, and how it's gonna make you feel do it to make your parents proud, you know Don't do it for me. Don't do it for her. Don't do it for them. Do it for yourself and your parents, you know, your parents sacrifice a lot Only to see you be mediocre only to see you scrape and struggle no They want to see you do better than them if you're not doing better than your parents you messed up somewhere You messed up somewhere if you're not doing better than your parents are or were at your age, you need to get on it Mm-hmm And like a lot of these new guys, I know they're mad at me because I'm like you Women don't pay on dates and blah blah blah blah Think about this. Okay. You go on a date. You really like this girl But you've been conditioned to think that she's supposed to pay her end Or her half and go dutch. You really like her though. You know, this could be wife The moment you open your mouth and ask her to pay, you know, she's she's gonna start thinking of you in a totally different way She's gonna take you out of the might, you know might sleep with you category into the you ain't getting none of this category You know Just that quick just by asking her to pay You she you have taken yourself out of i'm sleeping with him One day soon to he ain't never getting this or seeing me again with his cheap self You just did that in one sentence and the woman that reaches in her pocket to pay For the date What's going through her mind is Okay, I'll pay I still like this person, you know, I'm willing to risk Paying so I can get to know this person better and you know They lay down And they let that person walk on them and they become the doormat in the in the relationship Because if they reach in their wallet to pay they have just submitted to doormat status And once you do that You're setting yourself up for failure. Anyway, so I'm not saying don't pay or I'm not saying to pay But just know what you're setting yourself up for some women like being doormats Some women find find it as a turn on to Be a doormat to a man to let the man Cust them out because that's what they were raised around and they think that's love but You know, nothing good ever comes of nothing like that. So If you don't want to be a doormat Set your standards from the beginning and stick to them. Do not bend them. Okay Men the same thing, you know, if you have standards of a woman Don't bend don't bend your standards because you want some or you think she'll give it up Stick with your standards, you know, if you have a standard that you will not date certain type of women Then that's what you stick to because if you keep Going back on what you said and dating all these type of women that you said you don't want You're going to keep attracting more and more of those type of women, you know, because That's what you're entertaining. That's what you're working with That's that's the energy that you're working with that type of woman, you know, just like manifesting if you're manifesting something You're not going to do something against with your what you're manifesting because you don't want it to not come to you so You're going to only focus on what you want versus what you don't want and Men want different things out of different women, you know So focus on that get the type of woman you want Women same thing. Don't ever lower your standards or else you'll never get what you're asking for Okay, so another way that a woman can push her men to the next level Is to like I said lead by example You know Talk about where you see yourself in five years if he doesn't see himself on a similar level He's gonna either try to make some plans for himself or you know, make some five-year goals for himself if he Is lagging, you know, so it's like, well, you know what you know what babe in five years I'm gonna have you know, $50,000 Um, just saved up just to spend on whatever I want, you know, I'm gonna have my dream car in five years I'm gonna have my own business in five years. Where are you going to be in five years? You know, if he still says working and wherever he's working, um Then you already know he ain't even thought about it. So, you know Just getting him to think about it is the first step You know, ask him the questions. Where are you going to be in five years? You know, you're still going to be working here or you have are you going to go back to school? What is your plan? and Even if they didn't have a plan they're going to create one right then because Now that they've seen what you plan on doing they got to do something too Or else they know you're going to be gone. So Start talking about it And and the more you talk about it the more they'll think about it and the more they'll act towards it. Okay, so If you have just a lazy person, you know, and they're not doing anything and they just don't care They just want to lay on the couch and play video games and go to their minimum wage job You're probably not going to get very far with that type of person. So You can start a planning your escape at that time or your exit, you know, um Don't stay in non-beneficial relationships unless you want You know to be their mother so Okay If a girl wants to pay for things does that mean she wants to be a doormat? No, it means she wants to control you The one with the wallet has the more control So if i'm paying for stuff like if i'm rich if i'm a sugar mama And I have this cute guy, you know And he looks like a male model and I pay for trips and stuff and hawaii and blah blah blah blah blah I'm gonna have some say so i'm gonna have some say so where you go where you don't go What time you come home? You know how how much money you got in your account? You know, um the stuff like that I'm gonna have a lot of say so over what you do because i'm paying your way um And plus i'm a woman so I feel like I'm you know entitled to all of that if i'm paying for you, you know If i'm gonna be your mama i'm gonna treat you like a son so Yes, i'm gonna have all my all that say so if i'm paying for somebody If i'm paying somebody They're gonna be by my side when I say they need to be by my side. Look Get home right now Because if they don't get home, guess what they car getting took Their account is going to be empty. They ain't gonna have no spending cash So if you're paying for stuff If your woman is paying for stuff. She probably has a lot of control over you Okay, you might think you sneaking around and doing this and that but you know when she called and Just that phone ring, you know, you better answer You know what when I become an old widow and I'm like 85 or 55 or Probably 55. Yeah, I might have me a little young thing. I might use my all my money for my insurance and Stuff like that have me a little tenderoni a little tender Yeah, I'm gonna tell them what to do where to be where to go But I've earned that I'm I'm old My hood's gone. I got all this cash, you know, if I ever if I ever do that that would be my only way, you know, I'm old and I'm just be like these sugar daddies out here But I could that probably won't even really be my style. I probably get me a A nice regal a regal gentleman But I'm just saying if I was ever to pay for a man, it would be under those circumstances Sugar mama when I'm old my hood did and I got all this money to spend before I die Let's see. Okay Okay, someone says that they're Them being weak makes them Hate themselves. Okay being weak is a choice Do you think with emotion or do you think with logic? Okay You think with emotion and you make decisions based on how you feel about someone or how much you love someone Or how much you like being with someone? That's your mistake You think with logic Okay, what is this person doing for me? You know, what are their actions showing me? You know, are there words matching their actions? You know, um, do they like me or are they using me? You know Make logical decisions. Don't be weak If you're weak, you'll always come out last You always be prey You know for the hunters You know, like when they see a herd of zebras The lion will always go off the small weak one Because they're easier to catch and control Okay, Angelina says she's 22 and 12 in the mind and believes in fairy tales. Well, I was too girl That's the good thing because you you can experience love the right way And then when you get the reality check and the wake up call Then you'll be able to make logical decisions based on, you know What happened to you, you know 22 years old That's when women are still looking for that prince charming everything fairy tale That's why I say if men want to date someone who loves them for them date women 25 and under Because you're still going to get that innocent fairy tale You know, I'm with you because I love you type woman But if you're you know, if you're wanting a woman who can hold her on pay half the bills and stuff like that You're probably going to want someone your own age But since they already know better than to fall for your tricks and things like that You have to go for the younger girl and pay for her because she ain't going to be able She's not going to be able to pay half your bills and stuff like that at that young age So it's kind of a choice Either you get a young dumb person. I'm not calling you stupid. I'm just saying inexperienced Or you get someone who knows better and knows the game and it's not going to play these games Unless they're winning them, you know Uh I met my husband at 22, you know, I thought everything was a fairy tale and uh blah blah blah blah, but I was still In logical thinking I'm like, okay in the fairy tale the prince was always rich He wouldn't broke. Okay. Y'all remember that you might have the fairy tale in your mind But you forgot that the prince was always rich in the fairy tale And the lady was always the princess or the queen at the end If you ain't no princess or no queen at the end and your man is not rich You are not thinking like a fairy tale fairy tales have fantasy as well as logic Okay So if you're only looking at one side of the fairy tale and not the other side of the fairy tale Then you're missing the whole point Okay, um So Even shrek had his own swamp and his own house Okay He didn't live with his mama. So Even though he wasn't rich he owned some stuff. He owned some land. He owned a swamp. He owned a house He had his own stuff. Okay So Even if the fairy tale Is fantasy The end game Is still the same get with somebody who can support you and who's stable. Okay Right Some of y'all some of y'all can get a shrek some of y'all can get a prince But Both of them are stable Okay Anyways, the the younger you start thinking more logically The better results you'll have in your relationships, you know, you're not going to react to overreact to things You know, according to your emotion, you're going to be able to think things through Make rational logical decisions Strategize in your mind, you know, if you do this what's going to happen If you play your cards, right, what can you get, you know, things like that? You got to be very strategic in Relationships, especially when you're young when you're the most youthful and beautiful And have the best body and you have more power At your young age, you know what I'm saying? But if you can learn this stuff young, you're gonna get a hit quick Look at all the housewives on tv. Look at all those basketball wives on tv They knew the game from the start. Okay, they aimed high Okay, they aimed high Now you start aiming low at 22. You're wasting good youth, good skin, good boobs You're wasting all that on some bro dude when you can be Benefiting, you know At your most That's what I'm saying, okay That's all I'm saying benefit your most at your peak Okay, like y'all might look at me. I'm old. Okay, but I benefited at my peak I benefited a lot at my peak. Okay Um And I was smart. I had an older sister who taught me the game Okay, I was I was schooled from a young age. I watched her And that's how I knew what I knew at a young age. That's how I knew not to fall in love with you know looks and You know things like that, but the fall in love with lifestyle because My sister took me to all these places, you know, nice places. She used to date millionaires She took me all this stuff and I couldn't just date anybody after that I couldn't just marry anybody after that. I just I couldn't you know, because I was so used to nice things I was used to valley parking. I was used to VIP. I was used to having money I was used to going in the store and not looking at prices I was used to that. So how can I go backwards? You know, get yourself used to that lifestyle hang out with people that have that lifestyle Put yourself in those environments so you can't move backwards even if you want it to You just won't be comfortable there, you know There was no way I could I could even marry Because how I felt about someone I needed them Sorry y'all somebody called I needed them to be able to provide. You know, I needed the lifestyle. I needed to drive nice cars I needed to have a nice house. I needed to be here. I needed to be there, you know So I needed to go on vacation. So that's what I looked for in a husband Okay, so I'm sorry. I'm gonna have to end it with you guys because I do have an appointment But thank you guys for tuning in. I do have a consultation and You know I'll see y'all on the next one thumbs up if y'all agree and I'll see y'all there. All right