 How many of you agree the parenting parenting is a challenge is a challenge do you agree? I think parenting I think parenting is a big challenge in general It's a big challenge and especially in the current pandemic in a situation prevailing all around the world Parenting has become a much bigger challenge. How many of you are with me? If you are with me, please type W why beat you W why in the chart box if you are with me, please type W why in the chart box If you think if you think parenting is a challenge, please. I would like to request you to please write go. Thank you Thank you so much. Yes. Yes with you fantastic Roger the princess Most of you you're all with me. You're all with me the chain is brought into this world is a miracle is a miracle born Delivered into this planet and on the day the child is there on the date self a child is delivered as Golden Golden treasure as such on that date self itself But then after the chain grows the chain grows and the golden treasure That the golden treasure that has been delivered into this planet It becomes a responsibility of the parents to see that the golden treasure is enriched for the mom Enriched for the more are at least retained and certainly not Destroyed not wasted Important and that becomes the parents Look at the chair. He doesn't have any control. He doesn't know anything. He is totally in your hands. He's totally totally In your hands in the parents hands, how the parents You know That's going to be very critical as a responsible Citizen of this country our responsibility is if we can bring up our child in a responsible manner that itself Will be a great contribution of us to this nation to any nation that you are living in you agree with me If you agree with me, please write W. Y. In the chart box If a chain is successful, it's actually it's you are successful if the chain is very new I guess we have to take the responsibility for the change Because it's we people we are bringing them and isn't we have to do it in a responsible manner I'm so happy that you champions your parents decided to be in this webinar to talk about this topic to understand And to take it forward. Okay, great. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you let's Let us move forward. Thank you very much So today, you know, we will be dealing with this topic in two different, you know presentations The first presentation will be made by my co-host and co-speaker. It's a Mohit Arora. Mohit Arora He's presently based out of based out of Antalya Antalya Turkey Turkey isn't up. He's in Turkey presently, you know, let me briefly introduce you to Introduce Mohit Arora G to you Group may he's presently the group managing director of capital for his group and also co-founder Co-founder of creditq dot com. Okay, you know, he is basically from Hyderabad. Of course, he's from Hyderabad That's how I knew him the very first time, you know, when I met him in my life. He's very back in 1990 798 97 98 I met him for the first time So it's nearly 22 23 years back. I met this gentleman in Hyderabad Then he joined ITC limited the campus placement, which is a very good placement those days What right is he that's right is he moved to rubber bank in India Then he became a bank up but from rap bank. He moved out of the country Then you know, he went to he went to different continents. He was he worked in the Middle East He worked in the Dubai and then and then You know, yeah, then then actually he became the agreed business vertical head for Africa continent for the entire Africa continent of Standard China standard China. That's a phenomenal accomplishment. And you know, he is you can see those Global coverage director for the US food and farming oil gas director in culture Contributed to financial times, you know, and he's widely covered. He gave my TV on financial times London School of Economics Africa summit. He represented he presented then there are several things and More than all these things, you know, I was always impressed. I mean touch with the The time Then he moved to the he moved to the US and from there to Brazil and he married a Brazilian lady And when his chain was born, you know, where the chain was born the chain was born in Delhi, India He wanted that so he came to India He came to India that you wanted his child to be born in India And then after he started, you know, sending me some photographs of his child the very first time his child opened eyes He captured the very first time he touched him He touched the finger the fingers of his child He captured and the very first time the Sun rays fell on the face of his child He captured and that is how that is how he's been tracking. That's how he's been guiding that has been living His life with his one and only son whose name is Maximus. He stands with his Maximus and today you would be Learning about how how he parents Maximus will come to know about him You know, I'm always impressed and he shared we were in touch with him and recently he lives there And I would like to present to you this great gentleman. He's a genius. He's a financial wizard. He's a genius I'm more than all these things. He is the father of a son. He's a great parent and he calls himself not father He calls himself as a second mother. He tells me sir. I'm not a father I'm a second mother for my child except breastfeeding. I do everything what his mother does Everything I do whatever his mother does. So I'm a second mother. I really appreciate and I'm so honored And we are all so honored that he is with us and he's going to take you through a 30 40 minute Presentation and after that I would be coming and I would be coming back to you with my own learnings my own learnings as a parent of You know to two sons. I would be sharing my own my own life's learning experiences So with your with your yeah, yeah, I'll be coming up with my own learnings and now with your kind permission I would like to stop sharing and with a big round of applause from all of you from all of you You can now can we invite me some more hit a rock to come and present to us? Thank you. Thank you very much. I'm stopping the presentation here. Oh, gee. Welcome. Welcome to the baby now Thank you. Thank you very much. I now the screen is yours. This could let me let me give the option for you to share Okay, now we can move in you can share the screen with us and you know, go ahead with your presentation Right. Thank you It's a pleasure. Of course, you've been a long time mentor. It's like the elder brother. I never had So thank you for those words. I think that appreciation But yeah, I will take it. Thank you. Now in the audience Ladies and gentlemen, I have some of my classmates I have my senior colleagues like the wish who used to be the global head of coverage. He and I are a shareholder in very few So I And obviously a product of what I have learned from others It's the wish to be here engine. It's Sanjay. That's You know, however, did I understand the value of my knowledge? However, did I understand the value of everything? No Despite all the science and math background. So this presentation is structured around that Let me get into it straight. So the first like few minutes it will run On its own Sort of a movie or a preview and then I will take over Yeah, it's about 30 or 40 screens should take I guess it should take less than 30 minutes And the idea is to more have an intimate session. That is why we are like 25 or 30. I would encourage All the questions at the end of the presentation and while the presentation is running just keep texting if something strikes you So questions questions questions, you know, what makes this obviously a good human being what's advised? Yes, so I will get into the presentation And please enjoy the next few Uh, next few minutes and my voice will be back after like two or three minutes or so There we go So ladies and gentlemen, I hope I could get your attention to pick up the key messages there So, you know, stop wasting the planet's best resource. So what is that resource? Is that is that what we think? Is it is it is it gold or money or resources or whatever? I think it's just the intelligence of the human people And where does that start that starts with a child, you know, it gives you An ability to get a smile even from your enemy Now when we discuss about the intelligence and the children, I think no one talks about the suffering of the parent And even when you focus on the suffering of the parent, I think that is not the starting point the starting point is Why nature waits for you to reproduce till you're 20 or 30 Back in time average life spans were barely 40 So nature is giving you an opportunity to reproduce Literally It is not produced another human being it is rejuvenate and refresh yourself A pregnancy is not nine months It is an opportunity for the parent to refresh because by the time you hit your midlife you start cracking up So this is the whole thing. It's two way parenting how to benefit From your child and how to redeem your child Because while we make progress Seeing your progress, you know this technology and modern education and parental neglect It is ruining the child's intelligence and that is what you see So two-way parenting redeem your child and rejuvenate yourself So how are we going to navigate next 15 or 20 minutes? This is Let's call it 353 so three core pillars of this two-way parenting So what why is it two way? Let's address it in three core ways Once we do that we will get to the five Deficiencies I call it root deficiencies. You know, these have been deeply analyzed and these are root deficiencies of the modern education So-called modern education. I think the modern education stopped after 800 AD. That's what my reading tells me But let's call this modern education. So what are the five deficiencies? Once we are done with that we will get to three root level solutions, which will eradicate these five root deficiencies So getting into the first one So three pillars of the parenting number one Child needs your respect more than the love and it's anyway more useful than the love Because respect cannot be one-way street. One-way respect is just suppression If your boss or manager or spouse does not respect you You don't like it, right? Then a helpless child I mean, why why does he not deserve respect and he is more intelligent than us? He does not Discriminate like I said he can invoke a smile from an enemy a child can communicate without language A child has a wisdom to question in a deep way that you and I will struggle. So he is superior intelligent He's the freshest form of human being we can experience. So he deserves respect Number two Aspect of the core or the core of two ways. So what is the second way? We think we are the giver and the child is the receiver wrong You have to prepare yourself To benefit in in your wisdom and intelligence from the child you just say oh, I learned something from the child That is being casual About it if not, you know sort of moronic Because you have to like when you go to a guru or a teacher or your own parent, you have an open mind. You don't judge You do a full darshan darshan is or darshan is not looking at a baby. It is unprejudiced viewing So I'm suggesting you have a similar unprejudiced mind Where you prepare yourself To benefit from the wisdom and intelligence that a child brings which will increase your wisdom and intelligence So again wisdom exchange is two ways Third aspect of two ways Stop confusing supervision with parenting and monetary support with parenting Parenting is two ways. It is supporting intellectual and physical nourishment of the child. It is not saying hey, you do this. Hey, you do that So three things, you know respect respect respect is mutual And stop confusing supervision with parenting and be prepared To be nourished by your child be open to his intelligence. So that is why it is two ways coming to the five Root-level deficiencies of so-called modern education Deficiency number one Tell me if if I told you here is a product consumer or industrial product A car or whatever You to run out of this product for in say four years to the product last four years, but it will make me two years to produce If I if my production time is half of the Of the life of the product that obviously something is wrong with the production system So that is the modern education a person lives 50 or 16 years productive We stuff him up in the college for what 20 30 40 years People like me have bloody three degrees three gold man And I stuff myself 30 years so This ladies and gentlemen is is the biggest evidence That we have shot ourselves in the foot people talk about increasing longevity Doing some rocket science in the west coast In polo alga and rescue the whole burn make people live 200 years But we are messing and and killing people by half by just this education Yeah, half your life goes towards education and then what happens There's a good chance that you lose your damn wisdom You We just How intelligent a child is Look at a 30 year old person who's just freshly dropped out of college Look at the gold man Look at the IITs IITs in whatever or MITs a 30 year person will rarely have the intelligence of a child Where does that intelligence go? It is suppressed with fear so The first root level deficiency You take half the time life And you remove the wisdom wow and you call it more second root level deficiency There is no Even in the curricula of switzerland or In sweden and I have reviewed this curricula carefully sometimes spoken to these schools. My kid has gone to school at five continents with you There is no Structured parental involvement Parent is only plain And and bills are pushed on top of the parent. There is no help for the parent Anyway, yeah, there's no so there is no engagement for the parent to rejuvenate The teachers just keep ravishing the parent and more so in our indian culture. So root level three problem of the modern uh, education See how much ever smart I am I could be an Einstein, but if I'm a womanizer, I'm an idiot Yeah Which is what Einstein was sorry to say that I'm being a bit aggressive But just to illustrate the point you may be a genius, but if you have no control over your senses Especially especially pleasure and happiness You will hand yourself your remote control to somebody else So point number one point number two economy we emphasize happiness that I feel stupidity You have to have a balanced mind happiness and sad you have to rise above happiness and fear That is equanimity. You are not be heard into anything not even happiness. So in the modern education, there is no Emphasis especially on sensual controls, you know, penis pregnancy is drugs Lack of respect to parents a lot you can play on lack of sensual literacy So it is science and math literacy, but there is no sensual literacy Nobody even wants to talk about It's a point four, which is the root deficiency of modern education Excessive focus on cognitive skills Now what is cognitive? This is math and science So this causes two-fold damage very clearly the first Anybody who's brilliant Thinks he's a genius. So what does he do? He rummages others Causes undue priority And then he screws himself when he grows He thinks he's a genius But we forget that when we go from a starting level employee or an entrepreneur to a big businessman You need political skills, which means you need skills To manage others not do the job yourself. Just because I can do the job myself good When I grow up you may not have those political skills So The sharper person actually suffers more It's a it's a it's a curse And and the cognitive emphasis on cognitive skills messes the intelligence You're creating this false sense of security or in your root deficiency fire And this is the biggest Let me underscore this this is the biggest crime And possibly Indians are the worst criminals because they know this The westerns don't know this we know it and we still come into this crime the best Age before which Child can receive all the benefit is before seven years And it's actually before three years. It starts from the gas station Then the lady gets pregnant and three years now. There is a second shot you get around 12 years. So why is that? This is the cognitive development Have you ever looked at compared a cow's baby with a human baby the cow's baby drops soon after birth and walks A human baby doesn't Why because his brain gradually develops His basic ability Cognition which is ability to understand without education develops over seven years That is the time that you have to feed his subconscious mind Yeah, and this has been now proven Times and again in the western research that if you neglect the child before seven years, it is causing poverty Especially in the new york area. I would recommend you some books in the end so neglect of child in the modern education when he is best Gifted to receive this education before seven years. So what is cost? You know, some of these deficiencies are Our heart breaking. So what has caused these deficiencies? Who's responsible? Here we go So access of business interest In the education, yeah privatization possibly But a bigger contributor is neglected by the parents in lack of empathy for the child Even bigger I think the biggest The cause of harm or what is causing these five group deficiencies is confusing philosophy with religion without philosophy ladies and gentlemen A person is like a tree without Ground without soil without roots Even in international curriculum the ib curriculum, which is the most expensive Philosophy is not taught because they don't want to go into theology theology touches upon religion So we have lost as parents as a society skills to separate rituals And symbology from the true meaning of these. So the true meaning of these is philosophy I will come to this in a moment, but other three reasons, you know, we are calling Absolutely our daily Education system which was created for god's sake In in in last hundred years or so to produce clerks soldiers and subdued population Our kids are not going to be clerks soldiers or subdued populations. So we need a different education system Lack of social and government support for quality teachers Yeah teacher everyone thinks from dubai to london to new york teacher is a piece of crap and he can live off just 500 Dollars round look at countries like singapore then mark student even netherlands The best the talk most people especially in singapore go back as teachers So we are here. We have created a system where we are delegated father is a genius father is making a million bucks salary But the father is the father's child is being raised by a teacher who lives off 300 dollars And the father expects the child to be a genius. Is that possible? now and lastly shallow in a shallow absolutely shallow parental affection with substitutes objects with respect and time for children This is a disgrace you think i will buy an iphone And i'm fine So you are basically treating your child as an object The same sensual literacy i spoke about that has been gained against the child So with the collection of this I feel we have ended up with a so-called modern education which kills you by half and makes you dumb So philosophy and religion now, what's the problem with this? Very often You will struggle to get to the core of philosophy of any system Because in christianity there is a whole bunch of You know rituals and icons Yeah, it's the same in shintoism in in in japanese religion. It's the same in the traditional japanese religion It's the same in traditional chinese religion. It's the same in hinduism Yeah, so so this confusion that you have with doctrine and symbology that i was saying How do you remove that and how do you get to the kernel the core? Of of any religious system Only By comparing it with others But if i have no maturity to read about islam or jews or judaism i will not disturb hinduism So it takes with you know, it takes that maturity to compare And another problem that you have in multiple religions is mythology Oh, there is this grand figure who did something And people get distracted with the grand figure and focus and lose the message And the message again is tied up in metaphysical terms, which no one can understand or can be interpreted in different ways So my approach to philosophy is simple compare with other religions Get rid of rituals Get rid of metaphysicals Have a newtonian approach to philosophy give me the principles that i can understand and there is no confusion with those principles Period so that is philosophy and you can hinduism is one of the hardest to discover But more on that later. So why philosophy? No philosophy you're trying to plant seeds in hot air. There is no soil there. You will only get rush So three root level resolutions of these problems we saw the three bilateral system two way parenting and the five root level problems And then why these problems exist? so How do we solve these problems eradicate? Yeah, not solve. I would say how do you eradicate these problems? There are three strategies that i suggest one Stop milking the wife Stop milking the mother. She's had enough. She cooks. She cleans. She takes care. She even makes money And in the end if she doesn't sleep with her husband, he still complains Fathers need to come out that concept of the father being a supervising figure A Jesus Christ who just provides bread out of the thin air is outbidded be a second mother to your child Unless you do that You may be a multi-millionaire and the child will figure that out The child will make you off your money And off he goes He has no emotional bonding with you as a father. He just sees you as an expandable resource So unless the fathers come out And take control of the child you will not win that proximity and why do you need that proximity? So I have Enough friends in mid 40s who come to me. Hey, my memory is gone I'm like a zombie. I'm being bullshitted by everyone. I feel lazy lethargic. I'm drinking too much Yeah, I have money so I can purchase sex I can go to the nightclubs So I said, okay, tell me what gives you the greatest joy embrace of Some lady you don't know Or a drink of alcohol or a visit to the temple Or a hug of your spouse Now compare all of this With the embrace Yeah It tells you something So fathers need to come out and stop, you know hiding behind the hardware If you're really hardworking and if you're really super genius You should be like the mother who can take care of the entire bra mind not just yourself Second Learning I feel is bullshitting the child Why? Because child needs to realize the knowledge. He needs to penetrate the knowledge Learning tells us. Oh, I memorize something. I'm a genius at test finished So what I'm suggesting here is read a chapter memorize do whatever you have to do Both as a parent and child But once you finish reading Think 10 minutes contemplate meditate penetrate that knowledge Feel the layers of it Make it your own Yeah, just learning is not enough. This thing doesn't exist in schools And it is causing harm. So self realization basically third Catch the kid young obviously So I'm saying the parent is like a farmer. You have to prepare the soil To plant the beautiful plant Yeah, you saw the seed So the sooner you start preparing in the soil, it's better It's scientifically proven on top of it now using And so much of psychoanalytical literature Now your question will obviously be okay. That's a nice thing to say So, how do I prepare my child? Especially when all this google microsoft and apple have hijacked your kids or you have abandoned them So three things to prepare the soil Yeah, parent being the farmer and he's preparing the soil First is the central control Second is a cross-disciplinary world view. Now, why is this important and this comes a lot of extent from philosophy A lot of knowledge is thrown at the child, but he has no system of Of you know, slotting that knowledge I'm getting abcd mathematics science physics He doesn't have a world view Why is this useful in the first place? And how do I slot This knowledge So he has no means Without world view, you will waste the cognitive intelligence And then the third thing is the deep reasoning Once the child has a world view and essential control he needs to have a deep System where he can reason and use logic to see what is worthwhile and what is junk So he should be able to discern the two. So these three things I think We'll prepare the ground World view, central control and a logic based multi-philosophy orientation We should be exposed to different religions, different philosophies So that he has that economy not happiness So once you have prepared the soil with these three What do you do next? You leverage these three factors To create a home curriculum. I'm saying home curriculum which and guaranteed, you know We can work together and create a home curriculum Which is better than anything that exists globally anywhere So to to create a home curriculum, which is hard And cutting edge but magic When you're talking about a river with the child you talk about the economics geopolitics the science the math And the beauty of the river Yeah, the river has all of this So it's thematic learning And then activities with the child it could be robotics or it could be anything But rigorous testing And you should test the child yourself Your standards at home Yeah, both for intellectual development or spiritual development or science and math should be higher Than And again not to forget emphasize assimilation of knowledge Yeah, through a worldview and sense control not just learning So so what is this curriculum? This is a curriculum for six months to seven years Now many people think Many people tell me they're more than are you mad? I said if I'm not mad for my kids then Who do I be mad for yeah So this it's it's I think it's possibly the world's Not possibly. I think it's definitely the world's best curriculum, but it is hard You can't do easy things with easy stuff so What are the components of this curriculum? We spoke about logic philosophy multi religious training structured travel It's it's really important that you stop wasting your money going to London Paris New York And just looking at those monuments and not learning anything structured travel means You pay more for the guide Than the hotel Yeah, and from the guide you learn the history politics stories Geopolitics of that place you discuss some of this before your child Yeah before you go for a trip. Sorry. So before you go over your trip Discuss about that Have a nice story show your kids good pictures and then structure Structure a trip which is more like a documentary and your children Will benefit much more than you know, okay. I've gone to Paris and I've taken a selfie What else would you teach your kids stop teaching them stories of castles? Yeah, it's easier to make stories out of current geopolitics. You can make funny stories out of a lot of situations and Another critical thing that you see popping up on the screen Cultivating empathy If you don't Cultivate empathy the child will always have fear empathy is not some stupid thing that is going loving everyone else A person who's selfish is always full of fear And a person who's greedy is also full of fear both greed and selfishness end up as fear The only way to overcome that Is to have empathy And And you forget about Yeah, that doesn't work. So you have to cultivate how do you cultivate empathy? I will come to that in the last few slides And use the fear and suffering to inoculate The child against fear and suffering Yeah Don't run away from fear and suffering fear and suffering exists and you can use this as a vaccine to make your kids stronger This is actually the missing Empathy in operation with fear and suffering are the missing vaccines molecules Now the last one Before you teach sciences It's helpful Or if not critical to teach the boundaries of the sciences What is unknown today? So what are the big questions that we are trying to resolve as a human race? Try to communicate depth with the child to inspire them Rather than throw periodic table and and physics and stuff like that. So describe the boundaries of the science Why where the map everybody's talking where the map and this whole thing is confusing So I had to read up like six books and I came up with 25 algorithms where a seven-year-old kid can do Six digit images Here This is the best way to elevate the confidence of the chart He's like mathematical ninja after that. Nobody can bullshit it. It will uplift the child so quickly No memorization of tables nothing I did enough experiments at home teaching my little fellow Multiplication before he could do addition and it works Because this is not the stupid gringo logical way It is the Indian way we created the numbers There are three principles and westerners understand only one There is a second principle called beniculum. It's not understood even today. It doesn't need any carry between the numbers more on that way Now teach the child don't teach him software Certainly teach him about how physics works, you know, how hardware recording works There are Russian systems that you can use for the children And then open the child's mind to the beauty and how small he is don't with astronomy and cell biology So he can see the moons. You can see our bone. It's one thing. You can see the moon of Jupiter with a simple bionic loss And once the child understands cell biology, he can understand the ass of the element easily Yeah, but we do the reverse we start with a this is the tiger. This is this Yeah, so break it down break the knowledge downwards elementary levels Leveraging You know Lastly Nothing will look beautiful If it is not beautiful from inside and what is not beautiful from inside will not look beautiful from outside Whatever you do, even if you pee has to be beautiful If you each has to be beautiful, you wrote up your homework has to be beautiful How many ideas you have here who cannot be a plumber? Indian engineers cannot put a simple water pipe together My belief is an idea. So I must not get carried away the viewers like It amazes me we we we we have this row and everything and we cannot put a simple water pipe together because of lack of the art and histories So this comes and with the art and histories your eyes open your eyes train to see You get that certain calmness and confidence in so You get vision and you get calmness if you are aesthetic and art oriented Yeah, nothing logic philosophy travel Vedic mathematics nothing can train your eye. You don't train your eye before seven years. You are blind Yeah, you see enough Indian couples standing in lures not enjoying monalisa. They're just visiting with their cell phone Why they cannot see what they paid for because their eye is damaged So aesthetics and art and the way art is taught in schools is really nonsense color something sketch something You go to teach ABCD principles of art what is the line what is shape what is Stone what is color? You know you have to teach in a professional way and so as Going back to the parents We are now towards the end of it and I will rush so parents had a choice They would start again, right and you would become a child happily. So why don't we destroy this childlike goodness? And how do you nurture this goodness and intelligence and reverse this damage? Not to forget, you know child is like a radio and a parent is like a listener if the radio sounds broken It's the listener that has missed the frequency. Nothing's wrong with the radio So you shouldn't be a child and every time you're stressed do what a child would do You know play Engage And Restless they join simple things Your child is still not listening to you Ask him how he will be when he's a parent Encourage your kids to think how they will react to situations when they are parents and you will see their sense of responsibility And in the digital age, you know The young people have loneliness and the older people have dementia Both are neglecting each other and suffering from diseases that are caused by loneliness So what other choice that you have, you know, you are your only you're going to be your child's only true friend So you need to rediscover each other and become a better human being And fight that dementia and find that loneliness. So Let the child's you know natural intelligence Flourished and end up in likey I've got some personal pictures of this and that would be the end of my conversation So this is my son taking care of Mother after the surgery in Dubai You know building empathy and compassion Don't keep the child away from the hospital. Show him how the death happens. Then his heart will grow We practice multiple religions. You can see we are partly Sikh Buddhist, Hindu and of course he's baptized. He's half Catholic And Quran too. We cannot put a picture of the book with icons. So he's read Quran three times This is how my son looks and this is structured travel, you know, Ladakh. We learn Buddhism Hercules is tomb down below amazon and georgia and Ecuador and of course your rubbish London and Disney and Norway so some pictures So this is when he's learning stuff robotics that he uses And these are books that I create for him. I call it limits of sciences was ours to cause I created problems myself and research important different chapters The the hardest part is If you really want to make a child understand the word today the books don't exist So you have to build your own So you will see there is biology at the bottom DNA and then there is all the physics and the Subatomic particles on one side. So it's just like boundaries of science So your kids Are a joy that you forgot to receive you got to wake up before they don't need you This is a gentleman. This is the end of my presentation and ladies and gentlemen, sorry Thank you. Thank you very much. Oh my god Oh That's a phenomenal Can you Stop sharing. So, okay. Great. Thank you. Mohan. Thank you so much. Oh my god Can we give a big round of applause to all of us? I'm new to south and say Great job Good job Oh my god What an in-depth and not as ad seniorly rocking What an inside a different way of looking at the whole parenting aspect Oh god, that's phenomenal. Hope you enjoyed it. You liked it. You noted down the points Right, you might have you might be having several questions. We will differently look at those questions We have I would like to take a few more minutes so that we can close the presentations and then Then we can move to the Q&A session Right Okay, great Let me thank you. Thank you once again. Thank you for here. Thank you so much Thank you very much. Well, what a lovely beautiful slides and excellent content and the way of looking at the whole problem You talked about three core pillars up to a parenting and you identified five root level deficiencies of moral education and then you came up with three root level solutions and then three factors for home curriculum with a beautiful child From the whole curriculum all around that that's phenomenal. Thank you Mohit. Thank you for you know enriching our insight insight and the knowledge about the whole issue of parenting Thank you very much as a father as a father who brought him To my own sons I would like to share just three learnings From my parenting experience. Would that be okay with you? Sure Thank you. Thank you Yes, thank you. We uh, yes I will just take a few minutes for that and we will get into this. Okay. Okay. Great. Great. Thank you That's my understand shaker anand the shaker anand you know Studied in smaller schools in Hyderabad and Bombay and then came to Hyderabad then, you know and Yes, he went on to become an IIT and he did his Beated from IIT Guwahati And then go for a couple of years and crack cat examination with 99.99 percentile And went to I am on the bath and there again He's among the top of the time on the bath and then he got placement with the goldman sacks and american investment bank And presently he works he works for goldman sacks his vice president in bangalore And he's married his man. This meant all you know, he said i'm a proud father of shaker anand I'm a proud father for the great accomplishments that shaker did I am much more delighted to tell you that shaker this meant all the great accomplishments He's still grounded. He's still grounded. He's married. He's married and he's very much, you know That love and respect that exists and i'm so much honored that i'm blessed with such a kid So this is the first one. I have another one. He's angered brother five years Anger to five years younger to shaker. This boy's name is suraj ananya. Suraj ananya It was a very naughty kid mischievous. Well shaker was you know, uh more academics oriented Why calm discipline and this boy is a very naughty mischievous kid highly sociable And he's there all the time outside the home when the other one is inside the home You know people who used to you know, this boy is so popular in the colonists where we live We were known as his parents because he's more popular. There's those colonies and but at the same time I was always worried, you know, how Because this brother was performing so well at school and you know, always seen the champion that pressure The pressure of living up to the expectations, you know, I was always worried whether I'd be doing some kind of Some kind of you know comparison with his brother That would be putting a lot of pressure on him So we were careful where carefully his mother and I were careful in handling this kid And he went on to he too got some idea selection But then he preferred companies and so he went to big spilani To do his uh four year b-tech program in the computer sciences the subject he he chose Okay, and then he worked for a couple of years and then he went to university of Minnesota, Minneapolis where he completed his master's in computer sciences in big data You know data sciences and presently works for a company called You know Pearson the global learning company in in Minneapolis. Okay This is you know, my experience is working with them. I had some failures and I had some successes with with Bringing up these markets. So I would like to share number one three lessons that I learned from my kids One thing is positive coaching versus negative coaching. My elder son was studying at big non-vigilium his armpit hyderabad his 10th standard So I asked if I had this habit of you know making my children write what do you want to become? What is the gold documents or thing? You know, he said we sat together and said you you would get state first rank in 10th standard That's the target. We kept state first rank in 10th standard You know, that's what our goal is our family for and for his goal is and the quarterly exam is over What was his performance state first forget about it district first forget about it city first. No not even school first Not even school first looking at that performance Oh my god, I asked him what is this? What are you doing? Is this the way? This is how you want to become your state first Then you know, this is the way you would want to do it right because I was born a small village to my parents You know, I was very small remote village in other places small village to a farmer to a farmer So my father used to tell me you know, I always used to see other parents telling the children What are you going to do? What are you going to do if you study like this? What are you going to do about farming? Good people are just that. You know, they used to ask me whether you would mend the cattle If you like this, you can never go because you would mend the cattle. So they used to tell me oh, no No, I don't want to mend the cattle. So, you know, uh, you know, you would do it So I was also using similar kind of language with my children I was thinking that okay if I scare him if I frighten him that you would become that we don't study properly If you don't get ranked you'd go like that, you know, half a length of then final exams over 10th standard completed What happened to the state first forget a district first forget about state first forget about not in the section first He is lost in the second When I went to Vietnam to tell him to pay the fee for my younger son I've seen a big battle there with all the photographs of my my elder my elder son's friends The pictures and the mask there and my son's pictures over Then he joined for his plus two. I asked him what he wants to do that Then I want to crack I a tz with all in the rank number one All in your rank number one Oh my god I looked at myself My son's failure. Is it his failure or my failure? What did I do to my son? Have I done positive coaching or negative coaching? I tried putting some pressure telling him about negative things So I thought something wrong drastically with me. It's not with him. He's a genius How come he became like this? So I changed my ways and what I did was You know, I said he said he himself wrote the himself wrote that I want to crack I received all in the rank number one and get admission to IIT That's what he wrote as gold. I told him, beta, you know, if you get into IIT fine, even if you don't get into IIT fine You're so good. We are with you. You know, I told him, even if you don't go to IIT, you can you'll still become successful You'll still become a happy man. You don't have to what you give your best and enjoy your classes Go there. You get into IIT or not. That's not a thing at all That's not a thing at all. You go there fine Even if you don't go there, you'll still be successful because you have it in you You have so I changed my ways. I changed. I stopped telling him, you know If you don't get this, you become like this from negative coaching I started working with him and giving him positive coaching and all that So my my suggestion would be, you know Helping the children with a positive coaching that mattered that helped me a lot So number two thing that I want to talk about preaching or probing So beta, you become an IAS officer or beta, you go to IIT, IAM or you become that, you become this This kind of preaching rather than that That level, actually I never tried doing that I mostly I used to follow a particular document which I made my children write Which made my children write. I always ask them two questions What do you want to become in life? What do you want to become and write it there Put it in black and white and then the next question is why do you want to become that? What do you want to become and why do you want and what are the five benefits? I used to have a small simple gold document What are the five benefits you think you and your family would get by your accomplishment of that? So the question here, what do you want to become and why you want to become? I've been telling what he has to become and why he has to become that It is left to him. No, the world is so, you know, so open and their information is available People are getting exposed to the children. They do very well So they know what to want to become and what they become, what they will get, what kind of life they want to leave So I tell, you know, asking the right questions in the right way You know, make them to think creatively understand who they are and explore themselves So probing go for probing rather than preaching and the number third in the last one the last one that I would like to share with you is Motivation or love Motivation of love, you know, I'm a motivational speaker I used to say, yes, you can do it. You're awesome. Fantastic. You're a genius This and that. I used to send him lots of messages But more than those motivational messages, what really worked with my child? My child is my love for him, my respect for him, my respect for him So I get motivated and inspired by my Lord. All that he did when he was when he was doing his studies I used to make an omelette of his taste and go and feed him or I used to cut the fruits and go and feed him Or I used to sometimes apply oil, apply oil to his head and give a good mileage to him Always, you know, I used to tell him, beta love you and my children, my wife, you know, one thing for which she appreciates me Not many things, but this one thing that she appreciates for is the habit of habit of expressing love explicitly, you know, home You know, we regularly say, love you beta, love you dad, love you mom, like this, you know Or when we chat, this love you comes when you, you know, this is the kind of thing that we, we share So I felt, you know, my love, simply my love made him stay focused on his goal, stay focused and you know, and I told him You get it fine if you don't get it, just enjoy, enjoy your studies, enjoy what you're doing and we love you We love you period, unconditional, whatever you are, we love you, we are with you If you get it right, I am fine, if you don't get it right, we are with you, we love you And that love, unconditional love, explicit expression of love for me, I felt it helped my children and my family today In what a way, so these are the three things that I wanted to share for my life's experiences And yes, thank you very much, I've been honored to have all of you here today Such a great joy, thank you for indeed, thank you very much for the wonderful presentation So what is next? So what's next? What's next? Next is perhaps, you know, like personal high performance coaching or curriculum design Mohitji is there to help you and he's also, he will share some more details about this curriculum thing with you And thank you very much, thank you. And he's also writing, he's also writing a book, a book and the whole thing And I would like to request Mohitji to, you know, come on screen and take it further And otherwise we can also have some questions and answers Thank you once again to all of you for joining us this evening, for being with us You're part of it, you're awesome, there's something really special in you Otherwise you would not be here in this program And you are the serious people who became interested, who came and joined us We are so much honored, there is a great parent in you, there is an awesome parent in you You are something really special, your children are so blessed to have parents like you God bless you, love you all, thank you very much And I would like to request Mohitji to come forward in the meantime If you have some questions, you can ask the questions and also you can put it in the chat box Or you can even unmute yourself and ask the questions Thank you very much You are awesome, thank you So ladies and gentlemen, please feel free to shoot You can either type or ask, unmute yourself and ask Thank you Rahman Ji, thanks a lot sir and all the organizers and as interest Thank you Rahman Ji, thank you for being here Just for the forum, for the audience here Like Dr. Sivar Prasad said, we are working on a book, but that can take some time And we are open to one-on-one consulting with a focus on two forward things The first is the parent himself needs a lot of help In terms of emotional support, in terms of figuring out the right and wrong Yeah, there are no schools for parents Yeah, so if we are successful, and I'm saying this of course With a lot of uncertainty in things like in anything The ideal state for us would be to set up a school for the parents themselves So that parents can be made, they get the right support, they can be made aware Like me as a parent, I cannot get much information from my mother She gives me stuff, she is great And I'm enthusiastic Punjabi lady, but she gives me stuff which is irrelevant She's read Gita three times and she's read Guru Granth Sahib which is the Sick book, but I get connotation which is very old Plus the sciences, mathematics, robotics, all this have Moved so rapidly, the fundamental sciences have shifted so much You may not even have an idea So the parents need help So the idea is Over nine years, you know, whatever experiments I've done as an experimental father, I'm happy to share With the parents, yeah And the end product of these conversations would be to have the parents create a curriculum Which they can teach on the weekends, they can mix in their travel So this is like a curriculum, which is not very obvious, but it's there there's a way to deliver it and What curriculum? How you deliver? You know, all of this depends so much on on on on the psychological situation What is the parent thinking? What state of mind he is? What kind of a child it is? So while there would be some journal guidelines that I've shared Having spoken to a lot of my friends and some of the friends that keep constantly in touch With I believe every situation is unique And the and it needs careful attention. Now one thing I will say No child I feel is stupid if our heart And liver and kidney is the same. Why is our brain different? It is not different It is just how it gets sculpted. So regardless of how your child is Behaving, I would say he's a genius. You just need to support So those are three things, you know happy to Have one-on-one sessions This whole exercise actually came out of that. I was speaking to a lot many people and sometimes, you know Five hours six hours even 10 hours a week just going to talking to friends and family about a parenting approach I thought I was saying all these things and people started to get attracted and then I realized no No, no, no. I'm not saying all these things. There is something of value there that I can draw a face So I'm happy to draw a face Yeah, the book whenever it comes out, I think you can take its own time So back to you. Thank you. Thank you Thank you. Do you have more head awesome Can we have some insights? We have we know learned people here Psychologist and the professor Adiralu Sajjanarena sir is there sir Few insights from you as well on parenting and yes Yeah, I think somebody's trying to get online Yes, yes Yeah, okay Anusha, the screen is shared. Can you please stop sharing Anusha? Yes, okay. Anusha Baki Please can you stop sharing the screen your screen is out too? Okay, let me just see here if I can stop it Yes, okay, great. I can stop it. Thank you. Sir. Yes Um, yes, then we have the orange out this is see the guy who see the guy who Yes, namaskar bandi, please Please you'd like to share your doctor sita sita Um, dr. Sita is that dentist and is him is the lion is a lion. She's a lion And does a lot of service Um, and a great parent you are and a great grandparent you are Please from your side It's me. We need to move from pillar neck over copper to castle too You know, I'm finally interested in it. We have to respect our grandkids also Oh, that's a lot of wisdom in the Atlantic Maybe can you send me a local zoom meeting? Thank you Thank you so much Thank you Yeah, don't mind summarizing that in English because many members of the audience may not understand very great Dr. Sita was so impressed. She said, you know today one specific specific thing that you mentioned You know that she she she is taking home with her. That is respect your children Respect your so she says from today. She would be respecting her grandchildren You know, not only love is respect. You said, you know, respect is mutual as a parent We have to respect our children. So that's one point that she's taking home And she's suggesting that this kind of things things, you know, like do meetings Once in a month or three months if we can have it, you know, she it will be very refreshing That's what she said All right. Thank you. Okay, right. Thank you. Thank you. Sita. Thank you. Dr. Vijay kumari so Sir, I want to share something please, please sir. Actually, it is really very interesting and informative topics, sir We thank you very much for your dynamic organization Of all these presentations and that's our one thing I want to share sometimes, sir We see our children They are much more talented much more creative compared to the parents. Sir. I keep appreciating this from my child also I feel surprised sometimes from where she has inherited At the creativity sometimes you must have inherited from your Father and this is from me They're much more brighter, sir. Then we have really we have to appreciate day to day basis and they feel Flourishing they will be happy to listen this from the parents and And very jubilant also. So this this encouraging we have to do every time and on every day day to day basis What I feel and one one one more things are it is not like The present day generation is earlier we used to listen to the parents Here this time we have to listen to the case Yeah, we have to respect their views we have to go according to their views also sometimes it is not like Uh, you should follow. We are your elders. We are seniors. You have to say We'll be all our sayings. It is not like that, sir. Maybe times we'll be learning from our children Sure, sure. Thank you. Thank you so much for Joining us from Nagpur. Dr. Vijay Kumar is a scientist is a ph agriculture. She's a great scientist And mother of a daughter and thank you very much for sharing your insights. Thank you. Thank you very much Yes Hello, this is Raju Yes, please please go ahead. Yeah, I just want to I'm known to move it for several years The decades has been a good friend. So, uh, I have a Conversations con conversations with him once in a while on parenting and it really helped Raising my daughter. She's pretty young at three years old, but conversations and vedic math and um, how to and basically Learning from his experience and implementing Uh, the strategy, uh With my kids. So I'm testing all the shit that he and but yeah So, uh, especially on I'm trying to inculcate her learning based on Vedic math and also a practical learning instead of based on curriculum and books Now and uh, I'll see how it goes. Please being very good so far. So Um, thanks to moheed for sharing his experience as a friend with me Thanks, Raju. Some of those conversations helped me orient and learn how to communicate Thank you, Raju. Thank you for joining from fear mountains fear month. How do you how do you call the firm on the united states? Which state is that? It's uh, san francisco barrier fremont of fremont fremont san francisco barrier Thank you very much for joining us such an honor sanjay das g is there Okay, uh, rajita prasad from bangalore a keen parent Could you like share something or rama chandran garu or anybody Son doctor sanjay das is there Thank you so much for giving us this opportunity moheed. That was an awesome. Uh, You know information that you shared. I regret uh That I have lost quite a lot of Because my son is already 19 years old now Had these lessons been given to me earlier in life Maybe they would have been much more different in the way we brought up my son and Definitely, I would recommend many more friends of mine who still have you know, my own classmates have A lot younger kids than mine so Yes, I'm going to recommend this because there are so many things that I From this session from both of you gentlemen. Thank you so much for this opportunity Thank you rajita mother of wish room one of the kids I admired a lot. Oh my god, you know wish room wish room. Yes So React sorry, I didn't mean to Please please sorry That was rajita prasad. Yes Rajita, how old is the kid? He's 19. So my son is 19 One nine Yeah, no, then that is the right age For him to be trained for sensual literacy. Anyway, yes You know Take away of mine today because generally we respect his views and thoughts and whatever he wants He takes his decisions Now I have understood the importance of Being a parent and giving him more literacy towards sensuality and sensual life Thank you so much. That is my takeaway today from this session Now and here is a simple answer if I can give you There are two there are two books when I'm writing it down. Yeah, one of course. One of course is Yeah It's called I may be misspelling it. It's called sattipatna sutra Sattipatna sutra, I put it on text. Yeah If you repeatedly this is like Newtonian Hinduism, yeah, it's it's it's not it will not talk to you about hanuman Lakshmi ji or Ganesh ji with your respect. It is it is Newtonian It's very hard to understand But if you read three or four times, you will get it. It is like, you know reading Einstein or Newton. It's exactly that So this would be, you know, a great tool if I may offer quickly, of course, I don't know your situation But this, you know, this is one of the This forms this book forms the basis of the mindfulness sessions at Okay Okay Yeah, it's taken me for reading. I think I'm on my fourth reading and I've understood a little bit But yeah, please I'll leave it to you the book or name of the book is in the text Sure, sir. I have noted it down. I'll definitely look for where I can get the book Thank you so much for guiding me further Now if if you struggle to find the book Send me a message. I will give you the pdf Okay, thank you super because my son most of the time loves to go through pdf books sitting in front of books and reading them Given this period of corona. He's totally totally into pdf reading But still first let me try and get the book in hand if I'm not able to Message you sir Your printed book is great because printed book. I think it's a symbol of what you don't know Even if you keep it on your table, it keeps promoting you so So get a printed book if you can Yeah, otherwise I will arrange Sure, sir. Thank you. Thank you so much Thank you. Thank you so much. Any other questions or any other Yeah, any other Like to ask any questions or make any statements If there was anything wrong, I said, you know, I'm happy to learn That's so please if you think there was anything contentious or inappropriate Or something that annoyed or irritated you please Please say it will help others who I speak to in future No, sir It is an international standards the presentation excellent Guruji, Guruji, Adiraju sir. Pranam. Pranam. Thank you, sir. That's a blessing. That's a blessing. Thank you so much Thank you Thank you. So Prasad. Thank you Mohan sir for such a wonderful presentation And uh, I would try to follow all these things as I have got two little kids Eight years old daughter and six years old son. I would try to implement And I would like to raise one question from my answer so that I could get some help Please as We try to observe our children and maybe at one point of time After you know exhibiting patients, maybe at one point of time Maybe we go with at you know eight for granted and we go with that reaction So our intention is not that but uh, you know Unknowingly we might react with the intention of correcting our children So is there anything where you know, you can help me where Even though if children are extreme, you know, go ahead with without reaction So if I understood your question you're saying even though it is not your intention You get provoked to reacting negatively Means I get reacted if children are you know guided for several times, but still they are repeating the same See tell me what will improve your health Your mental well-being your blood pressure BP whatever it is general health. What will improve your health? Patience Yeah Because with anger you burn yourself every time you see your heart is shrinking Now it is easy to say that how do you practice patience? You practice patience first and foremost with your enemy Person who this who you don't like you hate you want to kill him. You can't do anything So better using to practice patience with your enemy So I think Same thing Now a child is out of control So In one way is to think okay. I lost patience. I'm burning my heart. You said no, no, no The more impatient this little fellow is this little monkey is the more he is helping me become patient More patient you are stronger your heart liver kidney clean will be Yeah, so it's like, you know, my children, you know are helping me in other way to become stronger and you know That's nice. That's so insightful. Thank you. Mohit sir. Thank you. Shivapasad Garu for this Very useful program for me and for all of us. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. My pleasure But if you're eight and six, please do not lose a second Catch them their mind is still under formation. Yeah, so Yeah, yes You will they will benefit so much. But you know just with the respect you will see their behavior will change Oh, so you're blessed Good luck. Thank you. Thank you a super sucker any I'm not sure Anyone's Is the author of the book that you mentioned Um, as in going up Satina that book you mentioned, right? Satipa. Yes Siddha patna siddha patna sutra, right? She's inquiring if the other is as in going up Um, there are different authors. So be careful if if you pick up a Hindu author You will get Hindu version of it. If you pick up a Westerners, you will get the Gora version of it Because when I just When I just tried to google for the book's name, uh, it just told me as in going as book which was originally published in 1998 Right. I can see that is one of the books um The one I read is written by a Sri Lankan monk hero something but yes, I think please feel free Just pick up anything you can get to start with And just be mindful of the background of the author of course Okay, so that's the reason why I was trying to Check now itself so that you can give me a clear insight about which book would be best to give in Right, see if you can purchase anything printed in Sri Lanka or Thailand or uh, yeah, Laos Cambodia some of those places or us and I'm looking for it. Okay, uh, but I cannot find Yeah, I don't have the book right away with me Yeah, so I think to start with anything is okay. I would say Okay, so if you can just pass the information to Sir also would be a lot of help You know Like we can go with uh, go and test book which is readily available in the market But probably you know later on Once he uh is getting interested in going starting the book Right. Yeah. So the book I have is from uh, I got the book from the monk himself in in the Monastery in Dubai of all the places. Oh, wow Yeah, because I'm I'm reading reading reading three or four years past. You read uh, so many religions and I met this Mom and I say, look, this is all very confusing. Give me something which is more scientific But not all the stories and all that I said, I don't want mythology I don't want any this symbology is give me something Which is just a port of it Okay, because I'm originally financier so I get tired of bullshit faster. I don't know So he gave me this monk book. I'm going to what's up So the cover of the book this book exists. I think in physical form Online I can see there are many books. Yeah No, I want a physical form first Yeah, sure. So just after the call I will Uh, send the I will send the cover and the back Maybe you can email this Sri Lanka Monastery and they can send you the books. Yeah, thanks. Thank you. Thank you so much My pleasure Thank you. Thank you. So that's really beautiful presentation With such a You know such an insight. I know it has come because of years of years of your own search You don't search into the whole you know whole aspect of bringing up a child Really appreciated that Mohit, thank you so much for sharing with us such a beautiful insight and There are lots of people that are appreciating the chart box. You may kindly take a look at it. Okay, right any other questions or Would you like to say something Chaudhary sir, would you like to say something? Abhinav Giani Would you like to say something or ask a question? We have two three students actually They are not parents where they are like, of course the future parents and if they could be in this session Out of their interest. There's one girl by name Anusha and there's a gentleman by name Abhinav Giani And there's also I think one more Maybe one more student but definitely the students are here. Would you like to ask any questions? Yes, sir. Good evening, sir. First of all, Mohit sir. Yes. Yes, sir Uh, sir, uh, like you told about, uh, That uh, I was searching for it, sir, but I did not find it. I was searching for it only No, uh, information is coming out, sir Like I'm also interested Okay, sir, okay, sir See Just follow this Wikipedia link It will give you at least, you know, this isn't the book original book is in Pali Yes, sir Uh, but England many English translations exist because of that sattik. I think it is sattipatna Sutra that it comes up as sutra in Pali Yes, Dhammapada and Father Soutra it gets bifurcated and dry-purcated Sir, one thing that I would like to share about that respect thing that you talked about And there I got the reflection of my parent only that my Relation with my parent has been like that key. Uh, I remember since class eight and nine Uh, when I got some senses that what to do and what not to do They were always there for me and at the same time they were respecting my Whatever decision I was taking but still they were asking for a logical interpretation that why are you choosing this and if They got a good answer from my side. They'll be like they'll be pushing me. Okay. Okay. Very good You should go for it. And if not, then I'll try to convince them So it was a mutual relationship. So I I got that thing from your presentation. I got that reflection also So for that, thank you very much, sir. Like, uh, I was on a On a great path. I get I guess Great, you know, you know, this is how unfortunately in Hindi, we don't have a word which equates to tazeel What is tazeel in Hindi? So tazeel is only goes from the parent to the child if your parents treated you respectfully you will treat others respectfully And you know this like we say in Hyderabad in Lucknow these places have this tazeel So this is the heart of it And I think all this distraction with social media and short-tempered nature and you know, quick Stimulation seeking and just destroying this respect So glad you noticed it and hope you will repay your parents debt to your children Yes, sir. Sure, sir. I'll try to implement it. I hope so Thank you very much, sir. I'll go through that because I find that very much interesting like Newtonian concept related with the mythological Interpretation, so I'll go with go through it, sir. Thank you There is no mythology. It is total kick-ass philosophy. Pardon my language You may not have the stomach to read it. You meant because it is so Okay, sir, I'll say one thing like my father is a professor of philosophy only So I have got into touch with many books related to that. That is why I got attracted to that thing So That is why sir. Thank you Then you are blessed. You should leverage that resource go hug him 10 times and Once you master philosophy it will I didn't even know what philosophy is You know, I had to just discover after all the mistakes Because I wanted to understand what makes a good human being good human being is not science and man It is not this emotional skills bullshit, which the westerns do Good human being is a foundation. You see it in Indians, but you can't grasp it Where the heck does this foundation come from? So that is philosophical orientation My father says that the philosophy is your experience It piles up piles up piles up and you get something that is called this philosophy So in one word he defines it as experience If you are having a good experience or bad experience does not matter. It is a philosophy in itself Whether it is a spinoge or socrates all gained from experiences only So that is what I have learned and I'll get through that book. Sir. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you very much Thank you Thank you, sir Thank you So nice So enriching so thought-provoking so thought-provoking. Thank you very much That's So we're all differently going back thinking, you know That we have to be respecting of course, you know, we always think in our philosophy that you You respect elders. You respect teachers. You respect your seniors, you know But here is a message respect is mutual Okay and In fact, if we start respecting our youngsters and our children and the respect they would start respecting you automatically and they would develop They would inculcate the happiness of respecting if you don't being told so you can actually Set an example by respecting them in the first place And I'm going back with that message from you again like our Sita Dr. Sita said I am also going back with that message of respect them more than what I have been doing all along Thank you very much Any like Chaudhary Saab, Gayatri ji Raman ji Those Sanjay ji from Kathmandu. Would you like to say something? Satish Kumar ji Ganesh Srinayaswamy Ganesh Srinayaswamy writes that you know this cave this program came to him at the right time I don't know why he said that but then Yes Yeah Sree Sree Great. Thank you once again if there are no questions or no Ganesh is going to say something. Ganesh, please go ahead Okay I have two young kids Okay They are late in our life So there is a gap in our understanding as to how we manage them Because we lose patience over a period of time But then as I was having these challenges and we were discussing these in the morning And yesterday also this invite popped up Who I told my kids also that they're going to have a meeting at 7 o'clock You have to remind us so 655 like a son comes and says you have a meeting That's a fine very good But then you know these challenges which I was encountering in the morning I reacted instead of responding. Okay, and then I also learned that there is something which I need to change Because the son also is undergoing certain changes, you know physiologically mentally emotionally There are going to so many challenges because they have not been accustomed to staying at home for the last six months They don't get to go out. They don't get to see the light. They don't get to play So when there are so many things happening within him, yes It is pertinent that I also understand And today's session there is the reason why I told you it came at the right time is because It gave us you know that deep insight which I said from your learning and experience and thanks to you know, Mr. Mohit Arora and Dr. Shiva Prasad for sharing it with us because It comes at a price But we have paid the price earlier, you know for having not learnt it So Now what we can do is while we cannot do the damage undo the damage which has happened We can be more careful In appreciating what is there with us As you rightly said, this is a precious gift from nature to us And then if we can manage that gift In the right sense instead of pushing our thoughts You know our expectations And what we want them to become that is not there because we have always given them the free hand But then there is you know that nature to know That there is something beyond what they have they are already doing that they should pursue If you are pushing that Also, it is wrong So leave them the choice give them love and respect Exactly what you said It came as a hard, you know hitting bold out of the blue to me But yes, there is something which I need to do Unlearn No, leave the baggage And take up from your insights Thank you so much Mr. Mohitji. Thank you so much Though, you know you were saying that probably you are using certain words But I think it is necessary because you know for us Sometimes when we are asleep If I want a word You know to shake them and You know wake us up So that our children can be better do better And Hopefully they'll do better also. Thank you so much Have a nice evening Ganesh, Gado, can I say if you're from Hyderabad? Sorry, I didn't Yes, yes I basically hail from Karnataka, but more of Hyderabadi. So when you were saying about Tehzeeb Uh, you know, I had a hair rising experience because after many years somebody is responding to that because we have lost that culture You know very few people understand it respect it And and when you said that it used to be experienced You are missing that and you rightly refer to Lucknow also where it is used You know very few people appreciate that thing in life What you can pass on because that respect which comes Is very rarely seen these days. I don't know. I don't want to call it a loss of values culture But then yes We need to have that. It's a very very important thing which you rightly mentioned. Thank you so much for mentioning it Hope I'm not taking the time and dominating the discussion here. Oh, no, Ganesh Gado This is you know, you are raising a point which I didn't get time enough to cover and let me address that So, you know on one side you had imposing parents Do this do this do this On other side you have this what I call extreme loving and caring parents Yes, you are And so parents think the real choice is dominant or extreme love care affection monetary support I've tried both Yeah, sometimes we lose control of ourselves Yes, that is a question we Look at so here's what I would say. I think it is not fair To leave the child alone to himself For instance, if I take you to a Japanese restaurant In the middle of New York or London and say Ganesh Gado, I give you this big menu and say Ganesh Gado I'm happy for you. You also be happy pick a dish. I will pay I got it, right? That's what you're doing to your child. So what a Parent will do. I believe The middle path, you know, we are in India is middle path. We are not We are middle path So what is the middle path the middle path is Don't impose But don't leave free draw the whole picture in front of him Only if you draw a lot of dots The intelligence is just formed by connection of these dots So drop as many dots as you can in a nice polite way. No need to be excessively Kind also sometimes you have to poke Dominate I think domination causes more hurt than excessive love So more and more dots you can draw for the child He will wake up himself. He will settle for a life Yeah, that used to be the way it sounds I feel sorry, please you were saying something No, I'm saying if we can you're actually saying that, you know We just show what is possible And then you give the freedom of choice to him And then he'll start connecting one by one one by one one by one in his own way Instead of trying to show him the path And I'm able to fully relate to your you know that example of connecting me to taking me to a Japanese restaurant because the other day when I was trying to read a book in Sanskrit I was finding it difficult to read at a particular, you know sentence And suddenly, you know, I see myself talking to me And then he's saying, you know, today morning you were pointing a finger at your son That he was not able to pick up something Today I'm talking to you. You are not able to read some script. What do I tell you? The inner voice is telling me then I realized What you exactly said that, you know There are so many challenges We need to appreciate what they are respect them for what they are Yeah, yeah, please continue Now and slowly sculpt With these dots in a in a discrete way. You want your son to go some way Yes Instead you connect the dots And position one against another like a Hidden salesman, then the truth he will realize because he realized the truth. It is his truth. It is not your imposed truth Absolutely, right Even with a small child, I see this psychology works. Yeah, yeah, logically you show different things then keep quiet He will pick up what you want easier without fighting and anything Recently somebody, you know, gave this word of, you know guidance People don't like to be told You know, even various ages, they don't like to be told but if you show them the path And if they realize it for themselves As you rightly said just guide them create that you know seen there And enable them to experience it and learn from there I think that's a better way of doing it rather than, you know Telling them because the moment you say telling it they see that it is coming from me There will it will be the absolute truth But the moment they don't like it being told There is assistance again So if I say Krishna said this thing I don't say this thing Please say who's Krishna who's Arjun. I don't think Yeah Now if I say logically it makes sense They listen I feel People who are left kids if you can protect them from distractions Like too much happiness too much pleasure. They have the brain These This Google Apple Microsoft they are screwing our kids brains. So if you protect them Without education without parental intervention. I feel they have that smartness. So just this Technology this pressure is too much. So the natural intelligence is not right Yeah, yeah, you have to protect them like a small tree. You can't build Yeah, the natural intelligence take care of itself If they get addicted to pleasure Thank you, Mohit. Thank you Ganesh. Thank you so much But one important point that I brought out is If you want to change your child, let the change begin from you. You change whatever the change you want to see in your child Let them That is the best way to change Hello, sir. Yes. Yes, sir Uh, thank you. Mohit sir and Siva sir Uh I am a single person and Not on not married But I am doing some social work on underdeveloped child like four to five years or 10 years below 10 years Myself on not like a government funding like that. That's why I joined this a bit minor Because I learned so many things on this Where to help uh to how to train a small child like Underdeveloped in village ruler village because I am from Bihar from some paul district now I am doing my own self And Through this wave minar, uh, I Oh god disconnected sadish. No, you got disconnected Uh, we have one amazing participant here Anusha, Anusha, she's a student actually she had part she belong to our Uh, uh, professor jeshenka telangana steed agriculture university, you know, I am so happy that she registered for this. Yes, sir. Yes, sir Yes, sir. Yes, sir because uh, I have done my ug from bsc agriculture after then I have done agri business management from manage and sanjay that Is my senior. Oh Yeah, he's also joined And uh, that's why I go to some mail and some information and I joined. Thank you, sir And I learned so many things So nice. So nice. So I was thank you so much. Satish maji. So nice to see you You're doing great service. Keep it up. God bless you and uh support you bless you with all the support that you need Moving forward with your mission of helping the people. Thank you so much. Now. I would like to mention here about anusha Anusha says I have decided that I won't allow my children to live and grow like me So that I need some guidance and grow my future once more effectively and actually I'm very much. It was so nice At this day, she's so much interested. She explicit express here. Thank you anusha. God bless you All the best and here we have one pitamaha like senior our very very senior and our Guruji chaudhary sir One or two things from you Yes, sir Good evening, sir. Good evening, sir. Namaskar Now I am grandfather. Actually, I am not father in My children already grown up. They are Married and have their own children My daughter is in canada torrento. My son is in uh west australia So they're just still in one each My grandson in canada is about 12 years old My granddaughter in australia is about five years Now she's entering into sixth year as I said uh below seven years Whatever principles you have given suddenly they will apply. I have actually passed on this. Uh, maybe not to them also They must be participating there So I really it is a highly Informative and inspiring For the children most of the parents. They don't mind always these things But as I said this modern education most of the time it is just bookish knowledge And even curriculum also either you see cbsc or state syllabus is different states So they are entirely different in one way. We can say that state syllabus is more In this direction rather than the cbsc cbsc is more just pumping in more and more Subjects and all these things has our speaker mohitsha arora as he mentioned So what I feel is it is the responsibility of the parents more that two way learning the two way participation or parenting Whatever you are saying that is highly That is the core Need of the hour what we can say and I am really grateful to you both of you For this webinar giving an opportunity to me. Thank you, sir. Thank you. Thank you, sir Thank you, sir. Your presence itself is a blessing for us and for all of us here Yes Love your enthusiasm. You want to participate this day you want to learn Yeah, you want to participate that itself heads off to yourself. So you tell me what's up. Thank you. Thank you very much Your presence is a blessing for us. Thank you very much I have also sent my compliments to you. You can see later after the webinar is over. Thank you, sir. Thank you Sanjay Das ji We need to hear from you and then Anusha if you would like to say something you're most welcome to talk sanjay ji please Actually when my son was there because unfortunately I have lost him two years back He was a very good friend of mine Because one part I was very liberal to him whenever you whatever I was talking to him He was listening all the thing Whatever I he was talking to me and whatever he was also demanding and I was fulfilling all his demands And the other way he saw his mother was very strict on teaching and other things If some quarrel or something and he was liking and actually managing like a bonding between Wife and husband if some quarrel happening then he came and he actually so well He was just explaining why you are quarrelling and all these things he explained everything But unfortunately I lost him two years back Sanjay if I can speak Recently we caught up. It's a heartbreaking story The father whose son doesn't exist anymore He went through some very personal difficult times So, yeah But if you reflect upon Sanjay's suffering Then you see the value that you have in your kids Hi, he was a very cooperative now if something whatever I was he was listening very well If something was happening or by his mother was telling something to him He called the mother is talking like this. How what I what I will do But I need these things Can you give me? And I think for a while if I will not give then he will be Actually feel that I am asking something to my father He is not giving me So what I will do whatever demanded he has made his demand. I have fulfilled all his demands And he was loving me like anything Because when he was born actually I was staying outside with his wife was a doctor She was staying in a Venus or I was throughout my life stayed in outside Venus or Initially, I was thinking when I will come whether he will call me a father or some uncle has come He will call me initially. I was thinking like that But slowly he has made a very good relationship and everybody was like to talk to him talking with me And he was speaking with him and he was missing me everything After the WhatsApp video call he used to call me every day Love Thank you, Sanjeevji. Thank you for being with us today It's such a joy seeing you, but take good care. Take good care. We're all with you, you know Take good care Okay Anusha, would you like to uh, Mohit would you like to say something? Uh, Bucky Anusha. Anusha is the same, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right. Exactly Uh, no It's it's a It's a boy, right? I'm sure the girl. Sorry. I could use the girl. Yes Uh She's still there. She's still there. Yeah, one second. Yes. Anusha is still there. Anusha, would you like to ask anything? I'll say something. Please feel free Anusha Yes, sir. Good evening, sir Good evening. Go ahead Sir Nothing to say sir, but uh, I'm very happy to listen to this session, sir Lovely. So nice This is to us. I have I learned so much, sir about parenting styles how to treat our children Yes Thank you, sir. You are a great child your parents are Thanks for making that comment You will be you will be setting up everything right for your parents Usually parents are the people who should be doing children as a child You have enough strength and capability are so blessed your parents, you know Will feel proud of you. God bless you. Anusha. Thank you for your participation here today Uh, so she has learned what not to do That is a great thing Anusha that that's a great realization and Uh, see even in my case my mother used to shout and yell all the time She still does But earlier I used to get irritated or run away or feel fearful Then I started to think oh, this is a very powerful weapon. So I should use it carefully but first master the weapon so And and I made a promise to myself. I will not shout and yell so do the opposite of Your parents. Yes, because as the parents grow older they become your child Yes, sir So Yeah, it's it's I didn't want to say that in the two way parenting that once you are old you are the child So we kind we compassionate of course don't take their negative things, but uh, I would say Maintain proximity. You can be their anchor Yes, sir You can be their life anchor and help them Live a live another 15 20 30 years better Okay, sir sure sure Sure, she will she's capable The very fact that she is here today Speaks volumes great And we have the three would you like to say three and guy three I think and raman p raman Please if you would like to say something Otherwise, thank you all your wonderful part. You're so nice. You're still here at nine o'clock You know started seven. Hope you found is of value to you And moji would you like to put your number or something there? You know, somebody wants to your mail id or your What's the number there? So if somebody would like to, you know, um, yes Get in touch with you. They can get in touch with you Again, definitely we can come back with some more valuable insights. Maybe in the next session sometime down the line Uh, it's so nice You're all special. Those who are here till 15. They're all you're all special. There's something special in you You're awesome. You're a great parent our great would be parent And great grandparent and a great chair last but you're a great chair. Thank you so much Yes, sir. Thank you so much for the session In fact, I had to drop off I could get back before you guys said Bye and good day for today. Thank you so much for the session And I also sent a message. I don't know if sir could see that mr. Mohan um Generally in sessions we get insights. I don't deny that at all But then to your session I really want to give a standing ovation because you have given a personal feel and a personal touch to it Which actually gives a lot of you know What do I say it it gives me happiness because I also have understood How further I can take my son in his life by supporting him and giving him better care Than what is already being given to him. Thank you so much My pleasure. Thank you Thank you so much. Thank you Mohan sir. Wonderful compliment. Thank you Thank you everyone. My email isn't there. Thank you sir. Thank you sir. Thank you sir. Thank you. Thank you so I'm not bless you. Thank you sir Like to request all of you please take necessary care access necessary care in these pandemic situations Stay strong, stay fit, stay healthy. Take good care of yourself and your families. Let's be in touch You are awesome. You're awesome. You're special. You're a great parent And a great person great person. It's such an honor to have all of you here this evening Thank you so much. Love to all. God bless you. Thank you. Thank you very much, sir Thank you. Take care You gave us a lot. Thank you. Thank you so much Thank you. Thank you Dr. Vijay Kumari, thank you for being with us today this evening. Sanjay Das Ji from Kathmandu Thank you for joining. God bless you. Take care. Take good care. Sineji, Satish Kumarji Abhinav, Dhama Chandrandi, Seethamma Seethamma, Namaskaram. Thank you so much for being today So Sree, Sree, are you there? Sree, would you like to say something? Please say Gayatri Yes, sir. Would you like to say something, Gayatri, before we close? Yes. Thank you very much for offering this wonderful session I'm excited. Shall we have a personally, shall I talk something with and I have some Suggestions need to take? How can I contact? Could you please share that information so that I can contact? In the chat box, the email ID is given. Mohit Aroraji's email ID is given. Otherwise, I would also be glad to share with you. Definitely. Please contact number and email it and share with anyone who would be needing that. You may kindly message me. We'll be glad to share. You are awesome. You are a great parent, Gayatri. I know. Take good care. God bless you all. Love you all. You are awesome. Thank you for being with us. Mohit Ji, final word from you. Oh, thank you so much, Dr. Sree Prasad. I'm new with this whole thing. You encouraged me and I think you've been a constant source of encouragement and motivation. Thank you. Thank you very much. God bless you all. Take care. Take good care. We'll be in touch. Remember, you are awesome. You are a great parent and a great child as well. Take good care. God bless you. So, with your permission, can we end the meeting now? Difficult to leave you all, but can we end the meeting now? We will say goodbye to everyone. Good night. Bye. Love you all. Good night, Mohit. Thank you very much, sir. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you so much. You kept us glued to the monitor, sir. All the time it is so much interesting. So much interesting. So, we were even unable to leave the screen also. It was really informative, sir. Great organization. We are honored. Thank you very much, sir. Mohit sir also and you also, sir. We are honored. Thank you, Dr. Prasad. God bless you. Take care. Take good care. Please. Thank you. Bye-bye. Good night. Thank you. Bye-bye. Good night. Mohit ji, good night. Take care. Thanks a lot. Thanks a lot. Thanks a lot, sir. Thank you.