 وأقولوا في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزال وأقولوا قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوّاله الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على عبد الله ورسوله نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته أردتكم على أخر أبوز من المصطف الهدي بقاتكم بايل مدراسة تولو مرية في هذه الأبوز إن شاء الله وطالعنا سنتحدث عن بيرول ويلي دين في السلاف كيف أردت الأولى حقا ببيرول ويلي دين هذا أهم هو أنه لو تقول لك أنه يتبعون السلاف الصالح وكتب أنه يفهم السلام والسلام the way they understood it لذا يجب أن ترى كيف they understood concepts like this and how they implemented it لذلك يمكنك أن تفهم ما يهتم من هذه الآيات والأحادي that we have heard of يمكنك أن تستخدمها وتفهم كيف يجب عليها to be implemented وأنا سأبدأ with an آية which relates to إسماعيل عليه السلام والذي is the statement of Allah عز وجل إن صورة الصافات فلما بلغ معه السعي قال قال يا أبا تفعل ما تؤمر ستجدوني إن شاء الله من الصابرين وأنا أخبرت هذه الآية هنا even though the آية relates to two prophets from the prophets of Allah أنا أخبرتها لأنها أخبار أكسل في بير الوالدين وأنا أخبرتها لأنها أخبار أكسل that is it's it's so amazing and so it's almost it's difficult for a person to even imagine or to even comprehend the sacrifice that إسماعيل was willing to make and yet you see examples of sacrifice for بير الوالدين among the Salaf that you see that they truly understood from this آية and from the آيات about بير الوالدين and أحاديث about بير الوالدين they understood the real meaning of sacrifice and the real meaning of obedience to Allah and بير الوالدين and that is that إسماعيل when his father إبراهيم عليهم السلام when he saw in his dream and he said my son i've seen in a dream that i'm slaughtering you i've seen in a dream that i'm slaughtering you so what do you think قال يا أبا تفعل ما تؤمر he said my father do what you have been commanded ستجدني إن شاء الله من الصابري you will find me inshallah from the patient so look at the obedience of إسماعيل to الله عز وجل and look at his patience and look at his بير towards his father يا أبا تفعل ما تؤمر my father don't worry do what you have been commanded you won't see anything from me except البير except goodness and a sabr and patience that's all you're gonna see from me is goodness but i brought this ayah to show you look at the bir of إسماعيل how good he was to his father إبراهيم يا أبا تفعل ما تؤمر ستجدني إن شاء الله من الصابري my father do as you have been commanded obedience first to Allah and you will not see anything from me you will not find anything from me ستجدني you or my father will find me inshallah to be among the patient and that is why they call him الإبن البار the the righteous child who was from the best of the people to his parents إسماعيل عليه السلام and this is just one example from the examples of the prophets عليه الصلاة والسلام but it sets the scene for what we're gonna talk about and that is a narration from صير ابن جابر that he said كان عمر الخطاب رضي الله عن إذا أتا عليه أمدات وأهل اليمن سألهم أفيكم أويس ابن عمر أمر الخطاب رضي الله عن when the people of Yemen would come to him the delegations the people in from it's mentioned that they would come in the hajj every year or perhaps it could refer to the people who would come for other reasons in the army or whatever but the people from أهل يمن they would come every single year and when they would come every time أمر would say to the people of Yemen is there a man among you called أويس ابن عمر is there a man among you called أويس ابن عمر حتى أتا على أويس فقال أنت أويس ابن عمر قال نعم until he came to that one day one time he found they said yeah there's a there is a a man called أويس ابن عمر who came with us so أمر he came to أويس ابن عمر أمر ابن الخطاب who is أمر ابن الخطاب after all of the صحابه he is the the second best of all of the صحابه and the best of them after أبو بكر رضي الله عنهم and أمر is the one coming to him looking for him he says are you أويس ابن عمر he said yes then أمر he said to him من مراد ثم من قرن are you from مراد and then from قرن are you قرني أويس القرني قال نعم he said yes قال فكان بك برس فبرأت منه إلا موضع درهم he said was it the case that you had this disease of the skin leprosy and you became cured from it except for the spot the size of a dirham قال نعم he said yes قال لك والده he said do you have your mother any you are your mother is alive and you look after your mother قال نعم he said yes then أمر he said رضي الله عنه قال سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول يأتي عليكم أويس ابن عامر من أم دادي أهل اليمني من مراد ثم من قرن they will come to you a man whose name is always ابن عمر from the people of أهل اليمن from the delegation that came with from the people of yemen from مراد and then from قرن he'll be from the tribe of قرن will be ويس القرن كان به برس فبرأ منه إلا موضع درهم he had this disease of the skin so leprosy and he became cured from it except for the space of a درهم له واليدة هو بها بر and this is the shahed he has his mother and he is بر to her he is he does بر الوالدين he does he does great dutifulness to his mother لو أقسم على الله لأبره if he swore to Allah for something to happen Allah would make it happen فإن استطعت أن يستغفر لك ففعل he said so if it's easy for you for you to go to ويس and ask him to ask Allah to forgive you then do so for عمره من الخطاب and who is عمره من الخطاب for عمره من الخطاب to go to ويس القرن and say ask Allah to forgive me لو أقسم على الله لأبره if he made an oath and he asked Allah for something to happen Allah would make it happen then عمره ستهم فاستغفر لي he said ask Allah to forgive me فاستغفر له so always asked الله to forgive him فقال له عمر اين تريد عمر ستهم where are you heading to قال الكوفة he said i'm heading to kufa قال الا اكتبوا لك إلى عملها he said shall i not write a letter to the governor of kufa shall i not write a letter to the one who is appointed over kufa that to make things easy for you that whatever you want you can have it to look after you to give you precedence and عمر realized this is the best of the تابعين this is the one the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم specified that if you're able to ask him to ask Allah to forgive you then do so he said should i not you know the honor of this person and he's from the unknown people from the unknown people he said shall i not write a letter to send with you to the governor of kufa and remember again if i'm going to send a letter now the governor of kufa is going to open the doors for ويس القرن قال اكون في غبارا الناس احب إلي he said for me to be among the poor people is more beloved to me for me just to be an unknown person among the poor people i would prefer that so he declined the offer of عمر رضي الله عن to send a letter to the governor of kufa and he said i would just rather be among the poor people what made him the best of the generations after صحابة the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم specified one thing one thing and that is the بير that he had towards his mother سبحان الله and we no doubt there are other things reported from him his زهر the turning away from the dunya his worship of Allah some of the things that he said but the thing that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم highlighted is how good he was to his mother and while we're talking about the تابعين اليمام ابن صيرين رحم الله تعالى the great eman from the تابعين he said that when he was with his mother the people thought that he was sick because of how meek he was and how quiet he was and how he would not even raise his eye to look at her that the people would say to him that are you sick because of the way that he how he would behave in front of his mother and it's narrated from ابن صيرين that he wouldn't eat at the same time as his mother because he feared he said i fear that i would take something and eat it and she wanted to eat it انا اروة who is the nephew of عائشة رضي الله عنها اروة ابن الزبير the son of الزبير رضي الله عنه ارضى he said ما بر أبويه من مد إليه من نظر he said that the one who looks at his parents and who basically looks at them for a long time or stares at them this one has not done بر الوالدين سبحانه this is how the تابعين understood it even sirin didn't used to eat from the plate in case he took something that his mother wanted اروة said looking at your parents the one who stares at his parents this one did not do بر الوالدين has not done بر الوالدين it can't be considered to be بر to be dutiful to their parents if they if they even مد إليه من نظر they look at them for a long time they don't lower their head in front of them and محمد ابن المنكتر رحم الله تعالى the great imam from the تابعين he would put his cheek on the floor and he would say to his mother put your foot on my cheek rest your foot put your foot and rest it on my cheek and he is narrated from the great imam محمد ابن المنكتر رحم الله تعالى from the imam of the تابعين that he said بات أخي صلي وبيت أغمز قدم أمي he said my brother when the evening came the night came my brother spent the night praying and i spent the night massaging the foot of my mother يقول وما أحبه أن ليلتي بليلته he said i would never wish to have exchanged what he did for what i did سبحان الله i i wouldn't if he offered me to swap and said to me that you would have spent the night in prayer and i would have spent the night looking after my mother's foot he said that then looking after his mother's foot was more beloved to him than qiam al-layl and spreading the whole night in prayer and he is narrated from ابراهيم ابن هاشن لما نزل جرير ابن عبد الحميد الكوفي ببغداد على ابن المصيب فلما عبر إلى الجانب الشرق جاء المد فقلت لأحمد ابن حمبل تعبر said that ابراهيم ابن هاشن he said that when جرير ابن عبد الحميد الكوفي came to بغداد and he crossed over to the الجانب الشرق the eastern side the the the the river جاء المد يعني النهر the river it came the flood came and it the river became uh it became overflowing so i said to احمد ابن حنبل اليمام احمد رحمه الله تعالى تعبر are you going to cross the river to visit this شيخ of حديث فقال امي لا تدعني he said my mother doesn't allow me to do it my mother doesn't give me permission to cross the river when it is full when the the mud comes when it's overflowing اليمام احمد رحمه الله تعالى امام from the ام اذاهل السنة and he wouldn't cross the river for a حديث because his mother said to him that he wasn't allowed to go the narrator he said for عبر to انا he said i i went to cross by myself and i left احمد ابن حمبل despite despite how much اليمام احمد wanted to go and to listen to gain that حديث and that knowledge he didn't cross the river because his mother didn't allow it and it's narrated from ابو بكر ابن عياش one of the imams of the sunnah that he said كنت مع منصور he said فتصيح به امه وكانت فضة عليه he said his mother she was screaming at him and she was very hard and she was very harsh with him and she generally and she had she was she was tough with him she was tough and she was harsh with him and she was screaming at him and he put his he was putting his beard in his chin on his chest and he never looked up at her he was shouting at him and ايمام ايمام from the امه of اهل السنة سبحان الله and the people turned to him and ايمام from the امه of اهل السنة and his mother is screaming at him and all he does is just lower his chin to his chest out of humility in front of his mother and it's narrated about لبار he had asked his mother permission to travel to قوتيبة قوتيبة ابن سعيد the great scholar of حديث to for طلب العلم to write the to write the حديث فلم تأذن له she didn't give him permission for jealous so he stayed where he was ثم ماتت and then she passed away فخرج خرسان he traveled to خرسان to reach قوتيبة and she's passed away he waited with her until she died when she died قوتيبة was still alive so he traveled to خرسان to meet قوتيبة ثم وصل بلخ وقد مات قوتيبة so when he reached بلخ it he realized or the news reached him that قوتيبة had died before he could reach him and then the people they began to say oh you know they began to make it like say feel sorry for him that oh you couldn't go because of your mother and then you you know you traveled after she died you traveled to قوتيبة only to reach a particular place and then to realize that قوتيبة has also died and he responded with a response that is يكتب بماء ذهب it deserves to be written in golden ink he said هذه ثمرة العلم إني اختارت رضا الوالدة he said this is the fruit of knowledge i don't feel sorry for me this is the fruit of knowledge i chose the contentment of my mother سبحان الله look at that how the self understood this he said you're saying sorry to me that i couldn't go and listen to hadith from قوتيبة or i couldn't go and ask him a question i couldn't go and write hadith from him but i chose this is why i got this knowledge why was i going to قوتيبة for i went to قوتيبة to learn knowledge and i learned knowledge to act upon it هذه ثمرة العلم the fruit of the knowledge is you act upon it the fruit what was the point of gathering all of these are hadith was i gathering all of these hadith so i could just say that i have more hadith than the other person i was gathering them to act upon them i بخير i deliberately chose the contentment of my mother that was a choice based upon it was based upon knowledge so don't feel sorry for me that i missed out on قوتيبة i'm writing the hadith from قوتيبة اختارت رضا الوالدة i deliberately chose for my mother to be happy with me because this is knowledge otherwise what is the benefit in gathering all of those hadith the benefit was to act upon them and و من that حديث that he gathered and he knew about he said the knowledge that I gathered it was the it was what made me choose my mother and to choose for my mother to be content with me and he didn't go out so he didn't get to seek that knowledge from رحمة هم الله تعالى و اللهي ، نحن في مجرد مجرد من يجب أن نعود و يجب أن نتساعد هذه الأحاديث على هذا الموضوع و the thick of this topic و the stories and the narrations of the Salaf al-Saleh on this topic و really asking ourselves where do we stand with regard to Bir al-Walidi و I think that's a question all of us have to ask ourselves Where do we stand in relation to that rather than subhan Allah these are people who they prefer their parents over the things which are from the most important of the mustahabbat like Talib-ul-Il and we subhan Allah perhaps disobey our parents in the things which are from the wajibat in the first place that we're supposed to do in the first place so we really we need to ask ourselves where do we stand with regard to this and we need to double our efforts so that we're not from those people who are gaining rewards from something but losing more on the other side from something else or from the people who become busy with المفضول the wasteful things or the things which are not so virtuous instead of al-Fadir that which is virtuous and honorable so these are just a few points that Allah has made easy for me to mention and in the next class Insha'Allah we're going to go on to a new segment which is going to deal with سلطر-رحم the keeping the ties with relatives and what that means and how we can do it we will be leaving time for questions Insha'Allah if you do have questions please email them to questions at amu.org and please put in the subject the Muslim family so that we know that these questions relate to this particular course and Insha'Allah at some point towards the end perhaps after the course is finished or at the end of the course Insha'Allah we will deal with the questions that people have Insha'Allah بإذن الله we will try our very best to deal with the questions that are put forward that's what Allah made easy for me to mention in this episode and Allah is the best والصلاة والسلام علي بين محمد وعلى آله والصحبه أجمعي السلام عليكم if you're enjoying these videos and you'd like to keep up to date with all of the courses we're going to be running make sure you head over to amauathome.com