 the discard phase is not real i don't know it may look real i know it may feel real but it is not real and i say it is not real because the narcissist only pretends to move on they're not really moving on to anything because they don't properly attach to their targets they attach a little bit but not all the way only so much that they can get you to attach to them and then it creates this illusion the simulation of love or a relationship and since they don't fully attach to you they don't fully detach either because they don't process the emotions that come along with dealing with you so those emotions are still there which means that in a way not only is the victim often trauma bonded to the narcissist but it also goes the other way around as well well the narcissist can be trauma bonded to the victim unknowingly to you because you didn't intend to cause that so you weren't aware of it but that doesn't mean that it doesn't still take place so yeah they don't fully attach to you and they don't fully detach which means that they are still there they're still directing their energy towards you and that is why you still feel their energy around you that is why you still feel that and yeah it will affect you it may make you feel sad it may make you feel bad about yourself it may even leave you longing and yearning for them wishing that they would come back but you don't have to worry too much about that because as I said they don't fully detach so yes it may be just a matter of time until they do come back until they do hoover you until they do get in contact with you again and this could be in person you might see them at the store they might show up at your house or your work or they might call you on the phone they might message you there's no way to tell how they're going to contact you exactly but it could be any way and they will do it because they're trying to get your energy and first what they do is they because they don't fully detach from you there's still that energy exchange coming from you going to them but then and you will notice this as soon as you start to think about something else as soon as you direct your energy and attention to another thing something that may be more important to you yes when you direct your attention and energy towards that you will notice that is when they hoover you that is when they try to come back again they try to contact you because they it's like they have the sixth sense they can instantly sense that you have severed the ties you have broken the bond and you no longer attach you no longer connected to them and all a narcissist really wants is that attachment they're not too concerned about being attached to you that's just something that happens they can't really control that because they have to attach to you at some level to get you to attach to them but yes that is the primary motive of a narcissist because you have to remember they can't be vulnerable they can't experience love or intimacy or an emotional connection they can't experience any of those things the greatest pleasure and satisfaction for a narcissist is just to know that you're still holding on just to know that you're still attached to them and that's it you always have to see them you always have to would like but that is not but what you will get is them a reciprocal relationship which of course i already know it's what you want so yes it is good to be aware that this god is not real as if you do anything to get anything more you're not going to get anything as different to what you want continue bring your any attention to this continue to direct your energy and attention towards that it will help you it will inspire you to get any more key in space and that all begins with you will begin to resonate with more luck in and compassion when there's a huge neglect and all of these to accept their fake equality and false identities all of it and of course the reason why i open you to accept that is because i know i know that i'm not certainly target people who are disabled and they don't know that you do deserve a lot more than what you got you're not going to get any more besides their personality or that being is that no they do not have that i know you wish this but they haven't got it so they did you as a source of life yes they do know what you're talking about because they act like it's an equal exchange nothing more that's fine and so you want to see it i just need you to remind yourself that i can take things so i love that back to you and the way you like that back to you and the way you like do you see that i think you'll enjoy that