 Hey Tony Gaskins here Couple minutes early. I saw There was a few people in here, so I wanted to go ahead and hop on Let me know if you can hear me Make sure my chat on Now the way this works is This is the bless tribe. So on Sunday nights at 9 p.m. I go live for the bless tribe You'll see the individuals who type and they have a little symbol beside their name that little symbol the color is Based on how long they've been a member of the bless tribe. I've only had this up for two months. So That's why it's only two colors D'Andrea, thank you so much for joining the bless tribe now if y'all have any questions You've been holding on to go ahead and type them in here now when you see somebody type of question I'm gonna answer that question. So wait, you know Until you see me Finish answering that question before you pop in the next one to Shonda, thank you So all the bless tribe members, thank you so much now Really what the bless tribe allows me to do is when I post a video if it's too real for YouTube I can make it a member's only video and really not losing anything because of the support that the bless tribe is giving me By being a member of the channel. So I really appreciate y'all for that something you two rolled out and I was not going to do it, but I decided I kept seeing the emails about it. So I decided to do it and You know, I see a lot of people Appreciate it Welcome to your first Q&A Now I'm gonna try to only be on here hour now. So if y'all got any questions go ahead and and put them in there So I could see them somebody already blessed me with a With a gift I appreciate you. I can't see Who blessed me but thank you? Thank you Mona the emails I haven't even got to the emails So you have to put a short version of your question in here on this Q&A those emails are Long form emails, which I have to answer in a whole video So I get so many questions on here. I haven't even gotten through all the emails Why does a man like to go silent? I actually got a whole video on that one You sometimes what you have to do Is you have to go to my page Kim I appreciate you and you got to click on my page and Then you have to click on videos And when you click on videos, it'll take you all the way through you got to scroll through To see all the videos because you may be only being served the latest ones learn. I appreciate the support Does a man even care if you have a good heart? Yes, a man does care a man cares if you have a good heart But the thing is is if is if he doesn't have a good heart Then it doesn't really matter But see the thing what men do is a man will take advantage of your good heart and the reason why is because In order for a man to appreciate something he has to work for it You can never really give a man something when you give a man something a man really doesn't appreciate it so what happens is I Lot of times women being nurturers and being cares and being lovers and being givers You give so much to a man and you do so much for a man and you bend it over backwards for this man and so he ends up feeling like a king and he just kicked his feet up and He uses and abuses you and then when he finally is tired then He starts to appreciate you and so that's that's really what happens is Women give a man too much too soon angel. Thank you so much. Just want to say thank you, Tony I know you come with knowledge and revelation. I really appreciate you Queen purpose. Thank you So the lesson is you really got to let the man lead in love and then you reciprocate and When he's having to work for your heart, it makes him appreciate your heart because he's having to work for it It's not just giving to him Now Erica pet away. Thank you. Hey bless y'all y'all already members of the bless tribe and y'all still blessing me Hey, thank you. That means more than you know I know YouTube has been giving you a hard time with these videos, but just wanted to show my support Hey, I really I really appreciate you. I don't know what what's been up with you, too They've been pausing my videos and Stopping them Martina bless you Ashley pit. That's a good question. I saw one before you Man, what's somebody? Why doesn't a man like gifts men speak different love languages? I really don't like gifts either men I'll tell y'all one thing that most men will like is Acts of service so like cooking a meal, you know even physical touch, you know Sgt. Is Scout At what point is it okay to buy your man? By a man you're dating a gift when he buys you a gift when he buys you a gift Then you could buy him a gift and make sure it's in equal Proportion so don't let him spend 50 and you spent 500 he spent 50 you get something around, you know, 35 to $50 to Do you have experience with working with men who serve time in prison and how that affects them? Yeah, a lot of it everybody I know pretty much them been to prison You have really provided me with valuable insight I so appreciate all your videos broke up with my boyfriend of eight years and I was looking back until you put that video up about Situationships. Hey, that's a blessing. That's a blessing any time a man stringing you out Oh Okay, I got it Sorry about that I haven't Removed somebody message on accident my finger was on it, but I hit undo Okay, look like I can add some of y'all as a moderator. I don't know what that mean I Can add you as a moderator. Hey, I apologize Jojo you have to post your message again My finger was on it. I'm talking to a older guy and he told me before he's a businessman We only been on one date. We've been talking for eight months. He tells me how special I am But we only talk for a couple of minutes a day to me could God bless you God bless you to Mika. We're gonna pray for you. Everybody left to Mika up in prayer Because that for one to make it that's not right that's not right and I and I hate the fact that you believe him I hate the fact that you believe him, but you got a good heart. You got a good heart. God bless you, but That's real sad you got to run though I would not talk to that man another day in my life if I was you to Mika He wasting all of your time he trying you Jesse J. Just told you he married That's exactly what he is. He is married that man talking about your business man I run 11 companies got over 50 streams of income and I'll be on this YouTube which all about an hour a day Seven days a week. So please Understand Barack got my time for Michelle. That man ain't doing that much business unless he'll be you now he full of New member here Tonya. God bless you. You've been a blessing to me with such vast knowledge. I really appreciate you Tonya MC. Hey, I'm gonna go up to the last question So y'all if y'all see me talking don't post your question wait I finish talking the end post your question again. So it'll be fresh Victoria not eat people popping up in the orange and it's green I Got to get them special attention because they doing a little the donation thing So God bless it. It puts it big on my screen on the hot look on y'all screen. I Oved you for your post situations ships. Thank you For blessing us and breaking cold Victoria As you know, I'm out here breaking that code Got a burning question Laura a post your burning question. I posted again if I missed it and I had one Station do I have to schedule a session for reply to my email? Um, you well if you need an instant reply then yes, you need to Have a session if you need a reply like ASAP, but if you got time then eventually I may get to it I can't promise you because That same email that you emailing. It's over a thousand emails in there So, you know me being one person I can only do so much What it'll be good is try to pull the the Main question from the long story you probably sent in email and post it here Okay, nobody see your face. We don't know where you live. We don't know who you are So you're still anonymous. I would I would try to grab the you know the meat of it and post it here Tam That's only my ex keep trying to get back with me without a ring. I'm not budging I asked him why he says he can't stop thinking about me I Blocked him now. He leaves notes on my car. Why I? Mean it's just a game. You didn't say how long y'all been together, but it sounded like it's just a game Mona your sister's got the Join the bless try to get a question in camey. I question for your sister Tell your sister join the bless tribe now. I got to get these other question Victoria I saw you out. Thank you. Where can a celibate female 33? Into the church find a man of God most of men in church. I've seen where I line up blessed be You need to go on tour with Kevin Hart your men got on I line But I got a video on that I got a video on that My dream is to create my own nonprofit like you speak about so often But just like you I'm a one-person show a nonprofit requires a consistent board though Should I try a different route? Well, Serita non-profit only requires three people on the board to be started. So You it can be you and two other people and consistent board does not necessarily Necessarily mean like they work in and they all working all hard and all of this It's not that serious. It's not that strict especially when you beginning out you on a small level So you throw my name on there. You throw your name on they throw somebody else name on there And you up and running you could get it set up for typically like my state in Florida It's hundred and fifty dollars. I got a client. She has a site That where they walk you through you sign up on there and they walk you through from start to finish I think it costs four hundred dollars and then you pay the other additional fees But you coming out around nine hundred to a thousand dollars And then from there you able to start raising money from friends and family Crystal Lee God bless you. Thank you thoughts on dating your ex-husband Thoughts on dating your ex-husband of a few months. I'm not sure what really that mean But I will say Amy thank you for joining the bless tribe if you want to become a member of bless tribe so you could submit a question The link is in the description for those of you who looking for a coat Make sure that you click the link in the description for my mentor. My mentor is a tech One of my latest tech projects. I have several that's coming out but my mentor is All of the coaches that I have certified that I've trained and then others who take who took other training courses They are converging on my mentor to help the world So these are real people who are passionate about helping and serving So the link is in the description my mentor dot life. It's dot life not calm my mentor dot life Chris, I'll tell you this if a man leaves you Let him let him let him stay gone Now if you had to leave him it depends on what you had to leave him For so if you had to leave him for abuse If you had to leave him for cheating on you multiple times I would stay gone if you left him, you know for something smaller to send him a message Then okay, that's a little different, but if he left you I want every woman on here If a man leaves you don't let him come back because when he left you he's telling you He does not want you Nadia. Thank you so much Now Nadia, I know they give you a little bit more space in here to write this question out. Okay, so I don't know If this abbreviated but let me see what you said Maybe that's a boyfriend is but it's a by of One year Doesn't me to check his phone cheated two times, okay From doing the Instagram Q&A I learned how to read this hill y'all think I went to the abbreviation University Boyfriend of one year. Okay. Now. Let's understand this Nadia one year. Okay one year He don't want you to check his phone Okay, and he didn't cheat it twice So we're gonna put up some extra fingers It a man ought to be on his own strength a man ought to be able to be faithful to a woman for a Year to three years on his own strength On his own strength I was an absolute dog when I met my wife and I was able on my own strength to be faithful to her For the first two years. I had to turn it over to God after that I had to turn it over to God But a man should be strong enough to be faithful on his own before he need to call in Reinforcements and some call in reinforcements day one So understand that if a man cheated on you twice in the first year, and you can't see his phone That mean he gonna keep cheating on you and you got the wrong You got the wrong Louisiana beauty. Thank you for becoming a member Hey Ruben you listen to me and you did it, right? You wait till I finish answering the question then you pop your question in there. It hit me right on time I see it my ex got married in September, but never intended on telling me He was going to continue to see me, but I found out by seeing pictures online by mutual friends of ours Why would he do that? Because your ex ain't worth nothing Ruben because your ex is sorry You lost exactly what you thought you lost a no-good sorry man She got a no-good sorry man So what you have to do is have a paradigm shift and understand that you lost a bond and that you need to be happy That he's gone You need to be happy that he married somebody else and you need to be happy That you open down to heal and to receive and attract real love in your life He did it because he is worth Nothing in his life right now as a man. He does not love himself. He does not know himself and he's hurt He's lost Lorena Villaman give me a shout out. I'm a new member from Anaheim, Southern Cali This is to say give me a shout out. Just come in and want some attention Lorena say hey, you better recognize me and then tomorrow gonna be doing a charge back on the car Lorena come in You want a man to pay for everything, don't you? Michelle, why does a man could constantly speak about his good credit score because he just got it He just got it. He just found out what credit was Michelle Last year he just learned what a FICO score was didn't even have credit got two secure credit cards And now he's so ecstatic that he got some credit really don't Don't mean much of nothing If you ain't got the money to pay for the debt you about to run up on the credit. So that's all it is That's all it is any question became a part of my mentor yesterday. Hey, Jojo Thank you so much for joining my mentor. I'm guessing you mean as a coach Make sure you got a good picture on there if you don't have a professional head shot You can take a picture on portrait mode With a smartphone and it'll look good if some people on there with a car selfie and I hate to tell them I don't think anybody gonna hire you if your head shot on my mentor. Life is a car selfie I just really do not think anybody about to invest a hard-earned money To be having a coaching session with you sitting in your car So make sure you don't have a car selfie if you do get just get in front of you a white wall Or go out to the lake go out to the forest get some greenery behind you Have somebody put your phone on portrait mode and take a nice picture My guy wrote me today Andrew and told me he got his first client. It's only been up for a week Got his first client Say was one of my students out of Texas and he was excited. So My mentor is doing what I intended for it to do help more people Find life coaches Now who was that my eco my eco J. Thank you so much for that blessing. God bless you Please don't go do a charge back Christina Miller. I was married for four years in a toxic marriage. I divorced him and with I Divorce him and with struggles with kids. I survived. He sends a text that he wants to come home I don't know what to think don't think Don't think don't think Not only Did you date him and get engaged to him? But you married him Not only were you married to him you were with him for four years So he had his opportunity. He had his chance. Let me let me help y'all understand something You dealing with human beings and the human being I'm sitting on this thing right now And it's like a it's an iPhone But in this iPhone got a microphone plugged into it in this On this phone is stuck onto a mirror That's used by makeup people who put makeup on and around the mirror got lights Okay, all of this technology and I'm on a website That allows me to stream live and see the messages of people Who are members at one dollar and 99 cent a month? Supporting me. I say all that to say all of this was created by the human mind So the reason why I said all that is to help you understand how powerful the human mind is If a man cannot learn how to love you and respect you and treat you right in four years of marriage You got to move on with your life Listen to me. You got to move on with your life because It don't take that long A child could learn how to treat you with respect in a day A week a month somebody who is literally mentally challenged can learn how to love and respect you So I want you to understand that It's a man considered attached if he allows girlfriend To have access to him To have access to his life if he does not have a commitment Girlfriend if he don't have a commitment what you say a girlfriend He allows a woman to take his daughter To the restroom or allows her to view bank statements He's just looking for a mama. He's looking for a mama. He could sleep with that's all that is He's just looking for a mama. He could sleep with he he really just needs somebody He needs somebody He needs somebody. That's all it is. Don't don't don't read too much into it Mona in my email, which is personal, but I can share with you how to move on and forgive the man who molested my daughter my Third daughter's dad. Bless her. I was molested at seven Mona, I don't know if you talking to me Or if you talking to somebody else But yeah, that's a little deep you might need that right there Mona with that type of that You have that goes into trauma bonds and all of those things that's therapy not coaching that's therapy not coaching That's not coaching That's that's outside of my scope of work Now I don't know if you talking to somebody else about sharing your message with them But I really I don't coach on that type of stuff coaching is more so Hearing now and going forward not past trauma and things like that because those things typically come with a diagnosis with a label And so coaches don't operate in that realm What does that older man age 52 from a different state get out of pursuing a woman on facebook? He start acting like we're in a relationship within a week. He was so possessive We can't understand everything a man does some of these men just crazy men just love to What a lot of women don't understand and this is why I have to tell my wife about key key with men at the soccer game sometimes for a man a man is so sensual and so sexual that men Like you've seen reports and stuff of of what men do in public You know to themselves Looking at a woman in public. So men are just so Sensual in that way. He literally could just be Getting pleasure off of that conversation. Just just looking at your little circle Um on your little profile picture. And so it's really because it's here. It's mental Um Alexis Matthews Well gold digger You should have copied her question and put it back in here because I didn't I didn't get to see Alexis Arzela god bless you. Thank you for joining us Um Alexis gold digger wants your question to be answered. So if you could post it again Boss lady pebbles. Thank you for your support. It really means a lot Natasha Thank you. I really appreciate you Now what now what she who name she said caramel kisses Money sign Tony gas is his cash up. God bless your sister I don't caramel kisses. She'd be giving up my cash out. I don't know if I gave it to her Or she just figured it out typing it in there But she give up my cash out and sometimes people will send me a dollar and I'm like, okay. Thank you lord I buy it I add that I tied 10 cent on that dollar too. I get that 10% now Don't don't don't get it twisted Nola is it a red flag to me and if I've been single for years. I just don't much Work to keep starting over and over But wonder if guys find that off putting I know you meant something about You just don't want to put in much work to keep starting over and over No, guys don't really care about anything To be honest with you like sometimes women say does a man care that I live with my mom? No, does a man care that My driver door does not have pain on it. No, does a man care that I earn less money than him? No, does a man care that you know my left foot shorter than my right foot? No Does a man care? No No No, if he could look at you and he is attracted to you That's the first and foremost if your personality is not trash That's the next thing The number one thing for a man is physical attraction A lot of women they're getting real deep and they're getting real educated But if you still look broke busted and disgusted and you're not taking care of yourself You could be the smartest deepest most spiritual Praying you could pray to paint off the wall, but if you're not taking care of yourself Brain brand and body then a man will keep it moving That's why you see a lot of women who focus on body And they air-headed still end up with a man because men are visual first A man is visual first then he is emotional and spiritual But first he's visual. So you being single man don't care nothing about that. You've been single for 10 years You know what he gonna tell himself? Yes. She's been there waiting for me. She's been waiting on me. I'm excited That's how he'll be. He don't look at that. Now the one thing that does kind of throw me in all Is when you cross 40 And you've never been married That does kind of make a man pause More so in fear because he wonders is she crazy? And when when I say crazy like does she cut men does she stab men? Like literally this is what he's processing. And so that's what I've heard many men say Oh, she's old 40. She ain't never been married. She must be crazy and really what he is literally talking about is Does she run a man off with a knife? Does he like does she like to cut does she like to stab In all of those things So that's where it go Mona so since you don't want to answer none of my questions Lola how to let your guard down and trust again after every man you've been with has broke your heart so bad What you're gonna have to do is get the new knowledge and let me ask you this question Have you taken real love university? Have you gone to tonic askings academy? Have you ever had a life coaching session? Have you had four sessions the only way you can drop your guard is to build your confidence The only way to build your confidence is to get new knowledge So you have to be able to talk through these things this q&a ain't gonna solve you It ain't gonna help you when you have some deep pain and all of this stuff going on This q&a ain't gonna be enough for you You're gonna have to put your money where your mouth is and you're gonna have to buy the books You're gonna have to read and study the books You're gonna have to take the courses you're gonna have to go to the seminars You're gonna have to go to the retreats You're gonna have to do all of those things Speaking of retreat i'm doing one in california It's up in the mountains at a nice campus three meals a day Three hot center cot as they call it got your bed. You can get an individual room. You can shower room How you want them little cots? Cubbies i don't know what you call it You see h I don't know how to pronounce your last name I'm gonna try to say it co-shane. I'm gonna put a little Co-shane love um i'm gonna put a little Fancy on this because it all could be cocaine or kohan. Maybe kohan She took the course and she did write me about it on um instagram. Thank you for taking the course And so I want you to understand Boy caramel kisses I need to hire her as an executive assistant. She said make sure you all are liking the video So understand you got to do the work and when you do the work see monum No, I have not I watch every video you ever made. I want to do a session. I'm in therapy now Not now therapy is good therapy is good But I want you to understand the difference between therapy and relationship coaching See a therapist is That's is someone who has gone to school And so they're good at studying. They're good at taking tests. They are smart Having book smarts is different than having wisdom So smarts come from a book wisdom come from god. So you can go to therapy But there are they have a treatment plan that they have to stay within they can't necessarily add all personal wisdom and all of this wisdom because They have a treatment plan and they don't want to get sued. They don't want to get audited and lose their license When you are a coach A coach is called See it's see therapy is a career That can be a calling but coaching is a calling that can become a career So that is why when you watch my videos, you really won't hear a therapist go as deep as I go on this relationship Teaching because this is my calling not just my career So I want you to understand that so what you have to do is you have to couple them And you do therapy and you do coaching And and when you get that, you know Double whammy it helps you a lot Christine Williams, he has been very mean with me and I told him I don't like it He does it again and I said to him. He's not going to change his character And he got mad am I wrong to question his character? Christine what you wrong for is staying now Just to be realistic. I know everybody in the comments could always say Now y'all won't I don't know what that mean Be a moderator y'all won't Caramel kisses to be a moderator. Let's see how that work out Let me see this add moderator It's always say caramel kissing not a moderator for your channel for the whole channel Caramel kisses. I don't know what you can see over there You probably in all the business now they say you're a moderator for my channel Don't don't hit no buttons now. Don't hit nothing crazy. You don't know what it is not caramel kisses. Don't hit it now But what I was saying is Christine Is you have to realize that if you keep letting the man the reason why I say three chances is because Everybody in the comments could say oh just one chance. Just give him one chance and he done just give him one chance and he done but you can't do that because Nobody's going to do that. Everybody's going to stay longer And so marquita you got to post your question when i'm not talking I'm going to try to hold my finger here to see if I can keep your question So the first time We call it a mistake The second time we call it a choice The third time is a habit So christine what it is is if you keep telling him not to disrespect you and he keep doing it Now it's on you because he's telling you I don't respect you and I don't believe you strong enough to leave So i'm going to keep on respecting you and then when you call him out He's going to get mad even though he's in the wrong. So that's when you got to let him see your back That's when you got to let him see your back And then you have to let him chase you and let him do the work jump through the hoops to get you back And if he ain't willing to sacrifice and do the work to get you back then keep moving about your life Tony answer my question, please Why does a man stay around for a few years without sex but does but does not want a relationship? Because you on his roster You are a roster filler marquita So what that means is he don't want a relationship because he don't want you So he wants you to be on his roster because your energy brings something to his life your energy your voice A lot of men like to have different women doing different things christine. Thank you. Bless you A static fetish Getting a little frisky a static fetish. God bless you. Thank you for being a member So he just wants you to be a roster filler. So what you have to do is you got to remove yourself If a man staying around in your life He he's like uh, he's taking up space He blocking your blessings because if his energy is in your space, then he blocking you from other Men who could be coming into your life. So you can't have a man taking up space Hope taking up space and he ain't paying rent and I don't mean literally But you can't oh, that's what it means a moderator it add that little wrench To to caramell kiss his name. Okay. I see I do not know what that means hold on somebody say Share h They say you're a moderator, but I don't know what that means So you allow him to take up space and you got to get gone You have to remove him and move on with your life because He's trying to hold you there while he's doing his thing Because he knows another man can't come in your life as long as he's taking up space And then when he gets tired and he can't find what he's looking for he's gonna come to you and settle for you That's all it is But he don't really want you because if he wants you he would be in a relationship with you and then he will get married to you Tony i'm 42 angel. That's your question never been married, but I meet men often here in In Atlanta when is it a good time? For me to share with them that I have 13 children I'm not really sure when to share that being single Not angel write me again write me again angel And let me know if that 13 was a 13 Or if it was a one or three Casey and god bless you um Angel write me again if that 13 was 13 Give me a Wrench Tony make me a moderator for the blessed tribe Hey, now I don't know it all in me y'all man. I mean I hack my page be the soul my page the India I don't know what that moderator stuff mean is I hold my finger on there too long Make you a moderator No, I don't know dawn the biologist Hey, but I believe it about that testosterone being low Okay angel angel. Let me see. Let me find angel. Let me see if angel wrote me again Angel, did you write me again? Did angel write me again? Margarita, thank you. Bless you Tony, please start a single after that dating app. There's small pickings in Miami I would but I can't because then you'll be mad with me when all these men scamming get on there D-rock female. Thank you for your blessing Now what to bella at what to bella at on here because I saw to bella earlier I'm looking for angel to see. Oh 13 year old Is that what she meant? Oh, you got a 13 year old. Okay. Okay Huh, then somebody say nine boys four girls. Okay. Now come on nine Range between 25 and four years. I'm looking for what angels saying I have nine boys and four girls. Okay Now angel another question. Did they come out of you or did you adopt some? Did you adopt some of them? Because god bless you. You got a womb of old. Okay You got a womb Like sarah it read they don't make them like you. No more none God bless you. I want to have me 13 My wife looking at me crazy My god nine boys four girls god bless you angel and you on here supporting me with them kids. God bless you naïve Yes, I gave birth to all 13 Angel my goodness My god. Yeah angel got to get a wrench I got to make angel a moderator Angel I'm gonna tell you now. Now I'm gonna be honest with you if he loves sports If you find out he loves sports And you got in some of them kids is close and age He'll be okay If he don't love sports and I really say that meaning he need a team He want a team he he love children He loved children. He loved a mentor. He loved a coach He'll be okay But if you've noticed that this man got a short temper If you notice that this man is Is an average everyday man Then you can't tell him that but I will tell you this If you your kids and this for every woman with kids your children That's a day one conversation. I'll be honest with you because those are your kids so It does not matter on day one if he find out about your kids or on day 1000 He's gonna feel the same way. He's either like kids or he doesn't he's either like you or he doesn't so I honestly I wouldn't I really would not Alalena then the other people who moderators they didn't ask me to be a moderator nine You asked me to be a moderator. That's making me scared like you working For cross them seas and you've been a hack my page So I can't make you no moderator because you keep asking to make be a moderator. I don't know Who you working for you working for them coders Over there, I've been a hack my page. I took my page down Tony for man says he would like for you all to start being absent. What does that mean? Does it mean he's serious or trying to creep? You have to know him you got to know his character What does it say about his character? Who is he? Now if he if he drinking and smoking and cursing and clubbing Then I'm gonna be a little cautious But if he's a good dude and he does good things and he's a good person Margarita virgin god bless you then that's something different You're looking at a different situation So it depends on his character what it means remember You got to analyze the root to understand the fruit You have to analyze the root Kiana Hi, Tony. Thanks for all that you do be blessed Thank you for your blessing I stopped talking to a guy because of inconsistent communication We were talking for a month now. We stopped talking again on his part. Was I too harsh too early? No No, because in the in the first month he supposed to be Gung-ho. He's supposed to be all in first month. He supposed to be blowing your phone up. He supposed to be blowing you up all day He supposed to be hitting you up so much You almost think he you know, it's creepy a man should be calling you every single day trying to talk to you About an hour a day. So If that's the case that he already inconsistent in month one You did right and then if he came back and now Y'all off again because of him now you got to shut the door and move on completely Do men like surprises the one I was talking to says he doesn't but when I surprise him he seems to Is in an is is it an issue with control? It's not necessarily about control as much as it is about vulnerability Men hate being vulnerable. See when you surprise, it's like that's why I don't like going to the to the Halloween horror nights and stuff like that at the theme parks because When you surprise you got to scream or you got to show emotion You might want to cry. You might want to scream. You might want to yell. You might want to fight So men don't like being put in a vulnerable position. That's what that is I have bad eyesight. So I'm really squinting to see but it comes off looking mean. I'm gonna tell you what to do bless be bless be go Get your credit score at least about 650 And then go get lasik go get lasik on your eyes and when you get that credit score You could get care credit and then you get care credit care credit I'll take and pay the bill and you pay them monthly. So don't just keep the bad eyesight. They got lasik out here now Bless be so it got lasik out here. Go get you some lasik It might just be a few thousand dollars and you could put it on your care credit card and be and I'm not getting paid To say that now care credit. Well, thank you Tony. Hey y'all send me a check Jamie Edwards. Bless you. Thank you for being a member Met a guy online and we're in different states. We've been talking and FaceTiming the The past seven years Recently he said he loves me. Is he being truthful? Okay D all eyes on me 101 I don't curse so I couldn't see say your first name. Listen to me Listen to me says You met a man online And y'all been FaceTiming for seven years And he just told you That he Too bella made you a moderator. It's safe for your channel. I do not know what that mean Hopefully that just mean for these lives and not my whole channel But if y'all let if it mean the whole channel y'all write me a support at tonigaction.com So I could take you off of that moderator And so Now these people here I know I don't think it's gonna make them a moderator all behind the scenes and all that But y'all let me know if it do but um These these Ladies I know them from the bless try And they be here and they become in every day. They don't show that kind of okay I see what you're saying share Tony. We can block people or put them in time I to God be the glory And and listen to me y'all is somebody breathe wrong you could hit that block button on you hear me If they if they put too many dots behind the question, you could put them on that block button you hear me Immediately Well, look here, but see these are all the members So when this I'm really gonna need y'all when we open all the way up when we open where it's everybody could comment They're just the members commenting But man, I forgot what I was Oh the seven years One you met a man online. That's the first red flag two It's been seven years. You might be talking to a robot. It might be a real man He might he could be a transvestite. He could be Uh, he could be married. He could be in a whole relationship. It should never Take a man seven years Jesse J. I was joking. It should never take a man. Oh, that's my little thing died Seven years to say he loves you or he cares about you like that So please y'all please stop dealing with those men Don't ever deal with a man long distance longer than two years unless you knew him before the long distance Natasha star worth now the people who put it The donation into the yellow god bless you. Thank y'all I got to answer their question first because it popped up big on the screen Natasha Advice dating a 30 38 year old man with a child And i'm 25 with no kids I also want to maintain my focus on my last semester of school Have a session with you friday. I can explain more No dating experience. Okay. We really going to go in on that session then we really going to go in Because that's red flag all the way around because 38 he old enough to be your daddy Okay, so he got kids you do not have kids. So you automatically being thrust into As thrust in as a stepmom Which is not fair to you the other part of that is that With these older men They date younger women sometimes just to have you like a nanny because they could wrap you around their finger Because they got more game than you've seen and heard in your life And so they able to wrap you around their finger have you in their back pocket and then be working you like a handmade Taking out the taking care of their kids and all of this And he weighed too old for you then the next thing you know You get older and you in the prime of your life and you want to go to or Europe And he want to kick back on the front porch, you know, you want to You know get it on and his little member then gave up on them So that's why it's important to be in the same age range and not be dating You know Somebody that's going to be a senior citizen 13 years before you become a senior citizen It's just y'all two different generations two different experiences two different outlooks two different mindsets. It's not going to be good Hello, Tony first day here, and I appreciate your gift. I have a very specific question I need to ask how do I email it to you? Well for one That email is really really backed up. So I really doubt I'm going to be able to get it to you To that email address is only given to the members of the blessed tribe to send those questions So I post the email address in the beginning when I first made the blessed tribe So when you become a member of the blessed tribe and you scroll back In the community section, you'll see the email address there But for a one-on-one session With a coach you can either go to my mentor dot life, which is in the description And you could book me on there or you could book any coach on there Latoya blackman looks very familiar and she just popped in here. Thank you, sister And I think she is a coach on my mentor So y'all go somebody go book a session with Latoya blackman if she is a coach on my mentor Tony I'm a registered nurse men always ask about my salary, etc. Should I conceal the fact that I am a nurse? That's a tough one Latoya that is a tough one because You can have a man that does not like you But when you say that you are a nurse He gonna want to stay Because he know you can run a check up when you are a nurse He know you put in some OT you gonna be you gonna have more than enough money to invest In his business and his hair brain scheme So to be honest with you Okay, Latoya. You are a coach. I I'm be honest with you I wouldn't say you a nurse right away Just to be honest with you and and if he's a genuine man hit real man I would say I work at the hospital I work at the hospital. My mama worked at the hospital and was not making money because she was in the Admissions, I would tell him I work at the hospital unless he makes money himself Now if he's in a job that makes less than you And you don't know him. It's the first date It may be too early to tell him you're a nurse because he may stay with you for the wrong reasons A lot of men are on that come up vibe today just to be honest with you But if he makes what you make or more then you're safe because he's looking for his equal or greater CJ my brother. I thank you for popping in on here Hey Tony wanting to know how can I be able to relate more to younger women in the dating world normally date older women But now trying to date women more in the age 24 to 35 I'm 29 um I It should not be hard to relate to them because women are typically more mature than men So unless, you know, you out here like Aristotle or Plato Socrates it should not be that hard to relate to a woman in your age range Now that 24 I would stay at where you at 29 to 35 but It shouldn't be hard to relate to them I think you just may have to increase your rate of Meeting them and meeting them and going on dates and seeing where the mindset of those women are today Oftentimes i'm more mature and have more of an old soul. I see you. I see where you're coming from CJ I'm the same way. I'm the same way For my wife is two and a half years younger than me. So hey, it worked out But she's very educated. She's very smart. And so it worked out. But again, I met my wife A hundred and something women in I had to go on a hundred and a hundred plus first dates So that's what I mean You may have to increase the clip the rate at where you meeting women And I just watched a video today of a young white boy He's in um like college age And it was on it was on Instagram and he walking around he went up to six. I think six college age women girls He a boy they girls they young And do you know five out of six of them Women gave him their phone number The one told him no because she ain't like his mustache Which she probably just ain't like them because you can shave a mustache But that let me know and that reminded me of how easy it is for men to meet women and how many single women there are None of them women said I have a boyfriend. So that mean they either single or read it a cheat And it wasn't like he was Brad Pitt or something. It's just a college guy And and the line he used was hey, didn't I didn't we match on christian mingle? And they were like, no, I don't have christian mingle. He's like, okay Well, sorry about that. I thought I matched with you. I've been swiping right like crazy. Can I get your number? They're like sure And I'm like wow But I remember that's what it was. So cj get on out there my brother get on out there start showing your shot Go on use some of these here dates You don't juggle women don't play them, but you're going to meet the one you're going to meet the one Aliyah, thank you for becoming a member Can I be redeemed from being considered thirsty fresh on the dating scene And I may have come on too strong probably because I've always been the one being pursued Well, you can't be redeemed for being too thirsty with the same man Now you could be redeemed by learning from your mistakes and moving forward differently But once you then been in a gatorade commercial with that man You're not going to be able to take that back He always going to see you as miss thirsty and that's not going to be a good situation That's not going to be a good situation If you shot your shot and you was after him Especially if he's didn't respond to it well and he's not treating you right Hi, Tony, what advice can you give me as far as co-parenting with a narcissist? I can't give you any advice because i'm a life coach and a narcissist is a clinical diagnosis So I don't know what a narcissist is and you don't know what a narcissist is And only a doctor really knows what a narcissist is and all of these people online That's talking about a narcissist If they're not a trained doctor, they don't really know what they're talking about either because A lot of the stuff that women call a narcissist is every man I've ever met in my life So unless that means every man I've ever met in my life is a narcissist We really have gone wrong on understanding what a narcissist is So I would say talk to a talk to a therapist on that one or a counselor Been dating a guy for two months one to two times a week Is it too soon to meet parents? Yes. Yes. It's too much Don't you it's not time to meet parents till y'all ready to get engaged Otherwise you'd be mean to somebody parents you'd be meeting six set of parents a year It's too soon should I cut a guy off if he always brings up something sexual Or just keep my legs closed and continue dating him because men are naturally sexually Sexual and I just have to learn to deal with it As long as he's not forcing himself on you and trying to touch you and trying to violate you Then just ignore just just check them just check them on and say look You know and you may have to get a little more real with them You know, don't you don't have to curse them out You don't have to yell but don't be so nice and key keen about it You know a lot of women Don't understand men are used to getting cursed out by their fathers their uncles their brothers their coaches So sometimes you got to get very real with a man. You got to say listen, bro Calm down and if you curse put the f word in there I don't curse calm the f down if you curse I don't curse now But if you curse So sometimes you got to get real with that man You got to let him know that you really mean it my wife I kept trying to touch her kept trying to come on to her before she was ready And we were laying in the bed So I'm thinking if you in the bed you finna go there when I tell you she rolled out that bed and she said get out of here I told you Do not touch me. I was like Okay, okay. All right. All right. So I'm sorry Put my shirt on got on up out of the Middle of the night she kicked me out So so you may have to check him for real One good time because a lot of women be so scared to run a man off and y'all be man scared And you're single scared scared to run him off. So you'd be like Stop what stop what stop and you can't keep doing that because if that's what you're doing He gonna he's not gonna respond to that men too forward for that. You got to be real What's another consequence you can use? Instead that that is not as severe as leaving him for behavior such as not keeping his word You're gonna have to cut him off for a period of time. So in in my book that's coming out with my wife Y'all do me a favor go to amazon or barnesandnova.com Go to on the website type in a woman's influence a woman's influence And pre-order the book it'll authorize your card, but it does not charge your card It won't charge your card until the night before the book releases, which is april 7th Which will be april 6th. So make sure you pre-order do me that favor Just do me that favor. So it let the publisher know how many books to print So even if you ain't got the money right now, it's just gonna authorize your card. It's not a real charge It's called a woman's influence tony gaskin and charie gaskins and so In there I talk about the 72 hour rule and this what got me with my wife Is when a man is trying you and it's something that's not really you don't consider the deal breaker So you don't want to leave him you have to pull back and you got to distance yourself for a period of time So it may be 24 hours. No contact whatsoever. He can't reach you then it may be you know 48 hours Then it may be 72 hours You never really have to leave a man more than 72 hours If if he does not change after you distancing yourself no contact for 72 hours, then that's not your man He does not respect you. You got to go on watch your life So hey, thank y'all so much for being on here. I got to get going My wife did not believe I told how to be on here one hour. She just give him a little smile She's like man, you know how many times I've heard that but I want to be serious tonight I don't know if the playoff game is over, but check the links in the description Please go do you a coaching session? On my mentor dot life Because It's coaches. They're waiting on you. I created this for you Investing yourself in that way So and let me know who you end up hiring on my mentor dot life Jasmine she's gonna just pop in with this canadian money Reveal two years in I take medicinal marijuana due to illness. He was supportive Five months later. He got a new job. He started to distance himself and after A hard talk he walked out. No closure. Not sure the real reason It has nothing to do with the medical marijuana And it has nothing to do with the new job y'all just Grew apart and he was not sure to begin with that's why Y'all were still not engaged two years in or married two years in so it's just He does not know what he's looking for in a woman and then he found out that Y'all are not a fit and so What happens is as you get new knowledge and you learn the red flags As you learn the red flags, you will recognize these things earlier. Hey Stephanie love Thank you for pre-ordering the book. You will recognize these things earlier And then you will be able to cut it off You will be able to cut it off early Six months eight months, you know a 12 months Whereas if you don't know the red flags that shows you That a man is not into you Then you'll be two and a half years in and not know and then he leaves but really he was gone six months in So hey, I got to get going Check the links in the description. Somebody asked when the next live. I do these lives every sunday at 9 p.m If I can't do it, I typically will post Post in the community section of my page when you go to my page You scroll over you see community I post hey not gonna be able to do a session tonight Next sunday, I think I'm gonna be at the pro bowl in Orlando, but I think it's at 3 p.m So I might be back in time Typically if I can't make it then I will make it up in during the week Like I'll do it next Wednesday or thursday It's 9 p.m. Eastern when I do it these q&a is only for the members of the bless tribe Anybody can watch it But the only people who can comment are members of the bless tribe and I do that to try to You know condense it but even you see It's still a lot of messages come in. I miss a whole lot of them, but you know doing the best I can Stephanie love. Thank you so much. Thank you for the support um to to my moderators share H caramel kisses and to bella. I really appreciate y'all I really appreciate y'all posting those messages and helping me I y'all got to remind me when I have it open for the public when I do this and it's open for the public to Make y'all moderated so y'all can help me block because y'all remember that disaster when I was talking about the date situation I could have used y'all that night But god bless you and we'll talk soon and and remember if you are new to this channel, make sure you hit the subscribe button Make sure you hit the subscribe button and I post a video every day. I have a video go up every day So it's just my gift Latoya black man. She said book a session with me on my mentor Latoya Hey, y'all do me a favor now and y'all book if you if you got your credit card or you got your savings You got a little extra money Book a session with Latoya because Latoya on here supporting me in more than enough ways And not Latoya when they book you don't cancel your membership on my mentor Because one booking should cover two or three months Of your membership on my mentor as a coach But those of you who want to become a coach and get trained I will be in Atlanta February 22nd During the training for life coaches February 22nd, so you got to visit tonigaskins.com And then click on the events tab or tonigaskin.com forward slash events Lisa g For the sessions visit my mentor dot life All the links in them in the Description of this video February 22nd is the next coach training Uh, yeah, you can't worry about that to fly Fly sometimes sometimes the dislikes are just random people on youtube because anybody could watch it So they just do it just for the sake of doing it. You know, it might be a bot that do it Just to bring balance to your page. You don't even know what it is Atlanta February 22nd I see y'all for y'all inspiring life coaches That's a good way to invest some of that tax money Still just going to the mall become a life coach so you can help others and also at the same time be helping yourself Then rocks. I saw your message about starting the dating app That's gonna cost a lot of money for one and then two. I don't want y'all mad at me with the scam artists come on now God bless you. We'll talk soon. Hope my wife give me this five minute grace period