 A message to Christian singles. Stop being ashamed for being single Hey guys, what's up? It's Isaac and if you're new to this channel, this channel is all about helping you Walk with Jesus daily. That's why it's called daily disciple. I'm dealing with kind of a cold I had a flu a little bit during the Christmas time and now we're way past that But I'm still dealing with cold symptoms and flu. So I feel a little bit sick But nevertheless, I gotta get a video out for you today. This is a little bit of a rant I have but It's for your encouragement. It's not to get you all angry or riled up, but I've been but I've been seeing okay I've been on this new app. It's not new, but it's new for me tick tock and on it, you know There's mostly kids probably I would say age 12 to 18. I'm 20. I'm on there. I post pretty often So a little bit older in the age range, but on there, you know post a lot of funny, you know short videos That kind of thing, but I've noticed a lot of them are about, you know being single and oh man I'm a hopeless single. Oh man. Nobody likes me. Oh man. I'm single. I'm such a loser like it's it's really interesting to see these videos and I think it's a real reflection of a lot of People maybe you're you're in that age range to maybe 12 to 18 or maybe even older than that And you're just like, oh man, I'm single especially when you get older. I'm 20 I haven't dealt with this tons just because I'm still like I would say it 20s still pretty young When you get to that age range of maybe 22 or 23, maybe some of you guys can speak to this in the comments Dude, it's so common to just be ashamed and feel insecure about being single And I think we in the Christian community we've done a lot of harm in this area We've heard a lot of people because of how high we value marriage. We're like, oh marriage is the pinnacle Oh man, two souls coming together as one. Oh my goodness. This is an amazing thing And yet here we're leaving all these people here that are in the pews and oh, yeah, they're single Oh, they're 22 23 even 20 and they're like, yeah, I'm not You know, I'm not in a relationship for me I've never even been in a relationship so I can relate to this I don't claim to know a lot about Relationships because I've never been one but I do know that the single experience being single There can be a lot of pressure from outside people like people within the church community I don't know. I know I'm kind of rambling because I'm half sick But I I see this as such a sad thing when we feel Shame in this area of all man Yeah, I haven't found the person that I'm gonna, you know, spend the rest of my life with like we're in this kind of holding zone Like nothing really happens when you're single and it's just kind of sad and you're just kind of like, yeah Maybe one day something good will happen. I'll be in a relationship like to me. That's such a sad Disoriented perspective of what life is like and what God has created the season of life to be like and be for Because when we are stuck in this area in this state of shame like we're ashamed of of where we're at or when we're We'll shame for a being single whatever it is in my opinion. We're Stifling our growth and we're stifling and putting a hold to maybe what God would have for us during this season When we're caught up in shame and self pity and like, oh man, I wish that we're in a relationship. It's so sad Like what are we missing out on? I think we're missing out on a whole lot of opportunities to just be like, hey, you know what this is Where I am. I don't need to make excuses. This is another thing too. So many people making excuses here stupid excuses I know you know with you know parents or grandparents usually They're in a relationship yet and you just got to say some stuff But to me like can we stop with the stupid excuses? Yeah, I don't know my schedule is just really busy I'm not really I can't even fit a relationship in yeah, I'm just focusing on school right now a school is my main priority Yeah, man, I'm just kind of working on me right now. You know that self-growth self-development kind of okay So if any of those excuses were true for you, that's fine I'm glad but I know a lot of people they say those things to get people out their backs and that kind of thing But but believe me the second that somebody kind of comes into your life You're like, oh my goodness this person is you know, I like this person and this seems right and all this kind of thing You're like well, I'm busy. Well, whatever. I don't care that I'm busy. I'll fit this in, you know So some of these excuses maybe they can serve a purpose and maybe You know what people that are putting pressure on you from the outside to get them kind of back off a little bit But I want to encourage you to kind of be bold in the fact that you know, not that I'm I don't need no, you know, some of these girls are like Like it's not necessarily what I'm saying, but I'm saying that it's okay that you're single a guy girl, whatever It's okay that you're single and you don't need to be ashamed of that God doesn't want you to be ashamed of that because when we are ashamed we stop being useful and we stop being We stop growing and we start we stop moving. Okay. I want to address something here, too I've seen a number of Christian singles They find it a little too easily to find Signs from God that it's his will for you to date somebody or be in a relationship with somebody. Oh my goodness There's a new girl in Bible study. It's a sign. Yo, dude. She goes to the same grocery store as I do. It's a sign Hey, man, she uses the same Bible translation as I do. It's a sign Hey, I heard that his favorite worship song get this It's way maker his favorite sign is way maker. That's my favorite song, too It's a sign. Okay, so I don't pretend to know when the sign like when there's a Appropriate sign and like oh my goodness. Well, this person is this and this and this and this it's a sign Like I don't even know I don't know how that works. I I've never been in a relationship I'm not a relationship expert. All I know is that we should probably calm down in terms of the things that we attribute as Signs. Oh my goodness. This person is in my university class. It's a sign like Let's chill. Okay, so maybe you're like I just yeah, I'm not ashamed of being single You know, maybe I make excuses every once in a while for why it is But at the end of the day, you know what I'm okay with being single and I'm not gonna be ashamed of it But I still want to kind of be in a relationship eventually. I want to get married and you maybe you're in that in that zone So I want to speak to that a little bit. I like I said I don't claim to be an expert on any of this or even know the first thing about relationships But I do think and maybe we're in this journey together I do think an important thing is to look for community So look for good solid Christian community where you can meet people where they have, you know You don't want identical beliefs because you want people you want growth and you want all that kind of thing But but like similar blades beliefs so like, you know church group or whatever people that have the same kind of Foundation and start establishing and trying to build that community around you and and and get into a community like that Because I hate to break it to you and it was it was it was a very harsh reminder for me, too But you actually need to talk to the person that you want to be in a relationship with like if you see somebody you're like Like this person seems awesome. This is cool. Okay, great. You actually need to talk to that person for me I haven't got to that level yet. Maybe one day. I'll keep you updated But but I think it's just funny so find that community Don't be ashamed of being single but look for that community 2020 for me is a year of community You know, there's some changes that have been happening in my life And it's just kind of like kind of almost a fresh start in some ways, but I'm looking for that community So maybe I'll shoot a couple videos on that on my, you know Look looking for a church at this point actually and looking for that community So maybe I'll shoot some vlog type videos Let me know in the comments down below if you'd like to see that and follow me on my journey of community and all that But all that to say don't be ashamed for being single It's okay Don't dwell in self pity because God wants to use you where you're at. His timing is perfect And that's all I have to say today So I hope you enjoyed this video if you did subscribe. 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