 فشرف بل اشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا دا دا دا لا وياله من شراف عظيمي الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن وثناء الجميل واشدوا الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل واشدوا أن سيدنا ونبينا محمد سم الله عليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم دين أما بعد الله سبحانه وتعالى my beloved brothers and sisters he bestows upon us many blessings and if we as his creation sit down today and we try to count the blessings of Allah سبحانه وتعالى we will never ever be able to put a figure on it and that's why Allah said in the Quran وإن تعدوا نعمة الله لا تحسوها إن الإنسان لا ظلوم كفار if you try to count the blessings of Allah سبحانه وتعالى you will never ever be able to put a figure to it because it's so much in number and the blessings of Allah سبحانه وتعالى they come in two types blessings which are fundamental blessings and there are blessings which are and there are blessings which are and there are blessings which are whichever of those blessings we speak about there's never a the ability in a person to ever know how much they are whether it's the the fundamental blessings of Allah you will never ever be able to say this is how much it is and if you look at the blessings which are there are sub branches you will also not be able to you will also not be able to put a figure to it and now that Allah تعالى has given us these blessings there is something that we need to come and return with it and that is why the scholars they say الشكرو gratitude is قيد للموجود and صيد للمفقود the scholars they say that patience, sorry gratitude gratitude it holds down for you it holds down for you the blessings you already have if you come with شكرا gratitude the blessings which you already have will stay with you and they won't go and you will also receive the blessings which you don't have that are missing from you and Allah will give it to you because of the gratitude that you came with so this is the blessing of gratitude it brings you what you don't have and it also holds down for you and keeps for you what you already have and from the blessings that I'm going to be speaking about today is الولد children children are a blessing from Allah who is my beloved brothers and sisters have you never not seen have you never seen a person who's wanting to have children and they've been trying to have children for a very long time have you ever seen their face whenever the issue of children come up how sad and emotional they become because they know they are missing a great blessing this is a blessing my beloved brothers and sisters who even the prophets realized they have to give them children look at Nabi الله his ذكرية for instance in سورة الأنبياء الله سبحانه و تعالى he says و ذكرية إذ نادة ربه and when ذكرية called onto his load رب لا تذرني فردا و أنت خير الوارثين ذكرية ستو الله سبحانه و تعالى do not make me a person who is alone don't leave me as a barren person who is alone in this world و أنت خير الوارثين and you love inheriting so ذكرية عليه السلام a prophet of Allah he humbled himself to Allah and he begged him for children so this is something even a prophet of Allah سبحانه و تعالى realized so it's a blessing my beloved brothers and sisters to have children but as I said whenever a blessing comes a gratitude is needed and the gratitude it comes in many forms and we all know the difference between gratitude which is حمد and شكر شكر means that you come with gratitude verbally you come with gratitude from your heart you feel that Allah has bestowed a blessing on you and last but not least physically you show that you are in a state of gratitude for what Allah has bestowed upon you سبحانه و تعالى so children are from those blessings you need to show gratitude regarding and Allah تعالى and his messenger if you look at the religion they've given a lot of importance regarding children الله سبحانه و تعالى he says in the Quran الله tells us in this verse he says all those of you who believe protect yourselves from the Hellfire and your families so Allah تعالى commands us in this verse after referring to us as his believers saying all those who believe in this verse after referring to us saying all those of you who believe so the minute you hear the verses like what did he say bring your ears close because you're going to be commanded something or you're going to be prohibited from something so here we're going to find a command or a prohibition one of the two so what is it going to be a command protect yourselves from the Hellfire and also protect your children from the Hellfire what have the scholars of Tafseer said regarding protecting your children from the Hellfire how do I protect my children from the Hellfire and what does it mean to protect your children from the Hellfire it means as the مفسرون say those who've commented on this verse they said it means by teaching them by teaching them the religion of Allah and his legislation and that you man them and you cultivate them upon that so it means that you educate your children about the religious affairs the religion of Allah you educate them and also man them teach them manners and how they should come with manners and also you cultivate them تربية upon that so this ayah is the first evidence to show the أهمية the importance of تربية الأولاد cultivating your children correctly بخاري المسلم both of them collected in their authentic book on the authority of الله بن عمر رضي الله تعالى عنهما أليس فاضا he said I had the prophet of Allah saying عبد الله بن عمر is saying I had the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم say كلكم راعن وكلكم مسؤول الأرعيتي every one of you is a shepherd for a herd of sheep and every one of you is responsible for his herds of sheep and the prophet went on to saying والرجل راعن في أهله وهو مسؤول الأرعيتي a man is a shepherd over his own family وهو مسؤول الأرعيتي and he will be questioned that responsibility the day of judgment so a man is responsible for his wife and his kids and the day of judgment he will be questioned regarding that responsibility الله is going to ask him سبحانه وتعالى about this responsibility also الإمام المسلم أن بخاري on the authority of معقل بن يسار رضي الله تعالى عنه may Allah be pleased with معقل بن يسار and this is the wording of Imam Muslim the messenger said there is not a person who Allah has placed responsibilities on his shoulders there is not a person who has been burdened with responsibility and he comes the day of judgment he comes the day of judgment without fulfilling his responsibilities except جنة has been made haram from him anyone who comes and he has not fulfilled his responsibilities and he comes the day of judgment he will be questioned about that responsibility the day of judgment and not only will he be questioned he will also be prohibited from entering jannah so this hadith is very serious scary and worrying so from the things that are part of the responsibility are your children they are your responsibilities and you are going to be questioned about the day of judgment the hadith of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said this also is another hadith that shows us how Islam has given importance to children the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said command your children to pray the prayer to pray to Allah and to pray the Salah for 7 years when they are at 7 years of age when the child is 7 command him to pray the Salah وضربوهم عليها for 10 years and when they reach the age of 10 man them educate them and man them upon what وضربوهم عليها ل10 سنين at the age of 10 so now first of all it was just command them but then when 10 comes in it becomes forcefully the parent now takes it to 8 وضربوهم عليها ل10 سنين 10 years of age وفرقو if the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم has said وفرقو بينهم في المضاجع divide them in their sleeping the brother and the sister if the prophet of Allah is commanding you to divide a brother from his sister when it comes to their sleeping where does it come into the equation to allow him to free mix with his cousins and this is a common practice amongst amongst us that the boy is not taught the difference between man and male and female that there should be no free mixing taking place in your household that the brother and the sister are at a very young age already learning everybody's room the boys don't go into the girls room and the girls do not come into the boys room and so this small is what the sharia is placing so this religion it's a religion that places every single thing in its place it speaks about everything it deals with everything it's a solution for our problems and wallahi because of this point because of this point alone the lack of importance being given to this it was found brothers and sisters doing something wrong with one another cases that I've personally been told brothers and sisters doing wrong things with one another and also cousins doing something wrong with one another because the dividing of the beds were not taken serious عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله تعالى عنه he said ادب ابنكة فإنك مسؤول عنه you are responsible regarding that child manna your child educate your child for verily you are responsible over him what are you going to be questioning the day of judgment عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله you will be questioning the day of judgment what manners and what etiquettes have you taught your child وماذا علمته and what have you taught your child and he is also responsible in being obedient towards you and he is also going to be questioned as well and he is responsible of obeying you in what you are telling him to do but which one comes first the thing that comes first is you as a parent have to cultivate your child correctly you have to raise your child correctly you have to educate your child correctly you have to take the responsibility of your child very serious and then once he has grown up he is responsible of listening to you obeying you being obedient towards you that is what بن عمر رضي الله سفيان بن السعيد الثوري رحمه الله he said ينبغي للرجول it is necessary for an individual أن يكره ولده على طلب الحديث فإنه مسؤول عنه it is necessary that an individual a parent doesn't matter that they burden their child on learning the hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم فإنه مسؤول عنه because you are responsible of your child and the statement of سفيان بن السعيد الثوري here حديث it doesn't just mean حديث it means it's science and it's commentary and everything I will speak about that so here what we learn is from the things that when الله was saying in the ayah أملكو أنفوسكم وأهليكم all of this is an explanation the hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم مر أبناءكم بالصلاة وضربوهم عليها لأشهر سنينة وفرقو بينهم في المضاجع تأميز كو أنفوسكم أهليكم how do you protect your children and also the statement of عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله عليه وسلم أدب إبنك فإنك مسؤول عنه ماذا أدبت وماذا علمت ومسؤول عن بيركة وطواعية إلك and the statement of سفيان بن السعيد الثوري ينبغي للرجل أن يكره ولده على طلب الحديث فإنه مسؤول عنه فإنه مسؤول عنه يأيو الذين آمنوا كو أنفوسكم وأهليكم وأهليكم نارا الإمام سلطان العلم العز بن عبد سلام يزبكوا قوائد الأحكام في إصلاحي الأنام ومن this book of his by العز بن عبد سلام رحمه الله تعالى is a book where he tries to prove مصالح ومفاصد how it enters every part of the religion so he is trying to prove مصالح ومفاصد are from قوائد الكبرى رحمه الله تعالى and he talks about many things in that book of his it's a book that one should sit down and read and truly will benefit from but there is something he mentioned in this book that stood out for me and that is when he was talking about the rights that the community have on you and this is a point that many people forget that the تربية الأولاد the cultivation of the children is an issue that the rights of the children are not just between you and the children no no no no it's a rights that the community have on you as well I have rights on you in regards to you cultivating your children it's one of the rights I have on you because your child is going to live with us he's going to be part of the community it's either me or my children or my cousins or my family members he's going to rob if you don't cultivate him correctly and if you cultivate him correctly the people who are going to reap the benefits from him pray behind him in the salah listen to his lectures are going to be us the community members so it's a rights that we have on you and this is what he mentions he says حظانة الأطفال from the rights that the community have on you is حظانة الأطفال وتربيته وتأديبه وتعليمه والسعي في بصالحهم العالية from the rights that the community have on you is what that you cultivate your children correctly and you educate them and you manner them in what حسن الكلامة to speak good you teach your child how to speak correctly that when he asks people for things you always remind him to say please at a very young age you teach him in these manners والصلاة والسيام and you teach your child how to pray and you teach him how to fast والسعي في بصالحهم العالية and that you also strive to the great benefits that the child needs whether it be his worldly knowledge as well his health his food all of that you take care of والله my beloved brothers and sisters it's sad because these scholars when they're talking about cultivating the children and educating them and teaching them remember their society automatically helped them they were in an environment where the father would teach the child etiquettes and manners and then when he went onto the streets the community would also start to push that principle those teachings that you already taught your child at home the community will help you as well so your child is consistently learning good from the streets as he is learning it in the house but we're not in that kind of society anymore we're in a society today where if the child doesn't get good cultivation at home he's most likely not going to get it on the streets so it's very sad of us as parents to take that child and bring him in a society like this throw him in this society and not give him any preparation and then still tell him to protect himself and to be careful and to not get caught up with the problems of the streets and to not misbehave we're throwing him into this society like this and we have not taught him anything and not benefited him benefited him and we're not only not done that for him but rather we're trying to tell him and expect from him to not get caught up in the bad company the streets and what's taking place and this reminds me of the line of poetry that the scholar said this reminds me of a person the poet said you tied a person from the back you tied them from their arms like this and once you tied them crossed their arms you took them from the collar from the back you threw them into the water and you said to that person hey be careful do not let the water touch you be careful don't let the water touch you and that's exactly what many people do in terms of the cultivation of children they brought their children into a society like this and to a country like this and to an environment like this they've not educated their children they've not benefited their children and then they expect from their children to behave to not be criminals to not be a problem and a havoc in society what you're doing is actually work towards him becoming this evil individual who he has become and that is why the great noble scholar he one day saw a gathering where people were sitting he saw a gathering and it was adults that were sitting there and what they did was they got rid of the children and the young kids they told them to leave the gathering and so he just became a gathering of elders he said to the elders that were there he said to them he says why is it I have seen you disperse getting rid of the young children from your gatherings why have you got rid of them from the gathering don't do that don't get rid of them rather give make space for them and bring them close speak with them converse with them and if you think they don't understand what you're talking about try to explain it to them as well for verily today they are young kids maybe for a people they are young for a generation but very soon they are going to be elders for another generation to come we were once young for a generation of people ثم أسبحنا اليوم كبارا قومن and here we are today we are elders for a generation so taking your children to the beneficial places you go to whether it be the salah and the masjid whether it be حلق circles of knowledge now a lot of parents don't take their children with them because they know why they can't take their children with them because they speak filthy language or they sit in a cafe where they are not adhering to the Islamic principles so they know if they take their children to those gatherings which they go to their child is going to their child is not going to take good from it so you as a parent why are you in that gathering in the first place and this also brings me to another point which is a lot of parents they themselves do not go to that circle of knowledge there's a where there's a gathering that's taking knowledge is being taught a book of hadith is being taught or تفسير is being done the parent will grab the child by the hand and he will drag the child to the masjid and he will tell the child to sit in the masjid and listen to the benefits that are being given here and automatically the parent will walk away where has he gone? he goes to a cafe and picks the child up from there if only the child saw from you sitting with him in that gathering and benefiting with him that would be more beneficial for him than the whole lecture probably because what you're preaching to him and what you're telling him to do is something he does not see you do so this is the same as the statement of Amr al-Bu'as what are the things that a person needs to cultivate his child on whether the child is very young this brings me to the next point the first point was what أهمية تربية الأولاد the importance of cultivating a children correctly we've taken that point we're now going to move on to the second point the second point is التربية الأولاد the cultivation of the children what angles can one do it from where do I need to focus on cultivating my children the first thing that a person needs to cultivate his child upon is العقيدة الصحيحة is a correct عقيدة that the child is cultivated and is nurtured upon a correct methodology a correct عقيدة and that is why the message of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم و ترمي the narrator in the Sunan من حلية عبدالله من عباس that the Prophet said to Abdullah إني أعلموا ككلمات and he said to the beginning boy I'm going to teach you words إني أعلموا ككلمات إحفظ الله يحفظك إحفظ الله تجيطو تجاك إذا سألت فسأل الله و إذا استعانت فستعم بالله so the Prophet told him oh boy I'm going to teach you some words and what was it that he taught him توحيد العقيدة إذا سألت if you ask only ask Allah don't associate partners with him فسأل الله و إذا كانت تحطى إذا كانت تحطى و إذا كانت تحطى و أعلموا أن أمه اجتبعوا على أي فعوك بشيء و لن يفعوك إلا بشيء و إجتبعوا على أي ضرورك بشيء رفع عاتي الأقلاء و جفة الصحف كيف يوجد شيء that the Prophet told him يجب أن يفيدوك في إجابة التي لا يساعد و لا يوجد مالاً ما هذا الخيار لك. سيأتي لك لا يأتي لك و سيأتي لن يحدث لك. و أيضاً لو يأتي لك معاً لتحاملك ولكن لم يكن لن يأتي لك في عزة الله و لن يأتي لن يأتي لك. لأن مالذي يحدث هو ما الله تعالى تعالى once. و then the Prophet said to him رفعات الأقلام. The pent have been lifted و جفت صحف و the scripts have become dry. Just this hadith alone. Just the statements of the Prophet عليه الصلاة و الصلاة و السلام. الإمام ابن القائر رجب الحمبلي رحمه الله. He wrote a whole book. He wrote a whole book مشكات المصابحة I think. What do you call it مشكاته? في اختباس حديثة وصية النمسة حتى اللعبة سمت اللعبة. When he just explained after he explained it in his كتاب جامع علوم والحكم ابن رجب went and explained it by itself separately. You see? So that is to show you that ابن عباس was a boy. A young boy. Very young. Remember when the Prophet died he was only 13 or 14 or 15. So he was very young anyways. But the Prophet عليه الصلاة و السلام عليه educated him upon correct. سفيان الثوري. He said this statement. And also Abdulahim مبارك سديت as well. And also Abdulahim مبارك سدي. Which is what? إن من سعادة لحدة والأعجبي. أن يوفقهم الله لعالم من أهل السلام. The blessing for a young child. And a person who is new to Islam. Those two. The young child who is growing up right now. And the new Muslim. Both of them. The greatest thing for them is what? أن يوفقهم الله لعالم من أهل السلام. That Allah brings to them a scholar from أهل السلام. That if Allah blesses them. By allowing them to take knowledge from a person of the sunnah. سفيان الثوري said this. And Abdulahim مبارك said this. So look at it. The young kid. The first benefit that سفيان الثوري or one of the greatest benefit for him. Is to have a person of the sunnah to take knowledge from. Because the worst thing for a child to grow up. Is to grow up upon innovation. And to grow up upon misguidance. Abdulahim نشوذب. He said ان من نعمة الله على الشاب. Abdulahim نشوذب said. From the blessings of Allah upon a youngster. A youth. إلى تلسك أي واخي صاحب السنة يحمله عليها. For a young youth. For the blessings of Allah تبارك والتعالى. All of him is that. Allah brings to him. A person of the sunnah. Who takes into the sunnah and not educates him upon the sunnah. عمر بن قيس الملائي. He said اذا رأيت الشاب اول ما ينشى مع اهل السنة والجماعة فرجو. عمر بن قيس الملائي said. If you see a youngster. On his fast stages. Young kid growing up. Fast stages. He falls under the hands of a person of the sunnah. من اهل السنة والجماعة. Farjo hope for him good. You see a young kid. He falls in the hand of a person of اهل السنة والجماعة. Then he said. Hope good for him. وإذا رأيتم مع اهل البداع. But if you see him as a young kid. In the hands of the people of innovation. فأي اسمن. Then give up on him. فإن الشاب على اول ينشوه. Because. The person is how he is at his fast stages. Remember if innovation corrupt it creeps into you. And it enters into you even as a child. It takes hard effort and hard work for it to be taken out of you. So that's why it's important. That the child at a very early stage. He's taught. اقيدة الصحيحة. And of course this goes hand in hand with the statement of the messenger. صلى الله عليه وسلم which is. مام المولود إلا وهو يولد على الفطرة. There is no child who is born except he's born upon the. Natural disposition. Which is the. اقيد الصحيحة. فأبوه يهوه داني اول ينصراني اول يمجساني. His father. His mother are the ones who play a role in either making him a Christian. Or a Jew. But the child is born upon what. فطرة صحيحة. A correct natural disposition. The second. The second thing that the parents need to cultivate their children online. The therapy of the children is is. القرآن والسنة. They teach the children the Quran and they teach them the. سنة. ولذلك ابن خلدون في مقدمة. He says. إعلم. No. أن التعليب الولداني للقرآن الشعار من شعار الدين. No. That teaching the children the Quran is a symbol from the symbols of the religion. أخذ به أهل الملة ودرج عليه في جميع مصارهم. This is a path taken by the scholars and the people of knowledge. And this is the path which they tread on. In all over the Muslim world and all over the world. The scholars that's what they did. They first of all started to teach their children the Quran. Why? لما يسبق فيه إلى القلوب من رسوق الإيمان وعقائده من آيات القرآن. وبعض الموتون الأحديث. The reason is because. The Quran goes directly to the heart. And it solidifies the correct إيمان. عقيدة. The child gets it from the Quran. And then he says. وبعض الموتون الأحديث. And then after that. The child is then taught. إبنو خلدون سيد. وبعض الموتون الأحديث. Some of the books of Hadith. أربعين النووي. عمدة الأحكام. وبنو المرام ونبتو. You see. أننا اللقل والمرجان فيه متفق عليه الشيخان. And then he goes to. The Hadith which Bukhari is on the loan on. إفرادات البخارية على المسلم. The ones that Muslim are on loan from Bukhari. And then he goes to other books like that. وصار القرآن. وصار القرآن. أصل التعليم الذي يبنى عليه غيره من العلم. And he goes. And the Quran becomes. The foundation. In all of the educations. In which the child is acquiring. For everything else is built upon the Quran. عبد الله بن عباس. رضي الله تعالى عنه. He says. من قرأ القرآن. Anyone who memorized the Quran. And learns the Quran. قبل أن يحتلب before he reaches age of puberty. فهو من من قوتي الحكمة صبية. He is a person who has been given wisdom at birth at childhood. The third thing that the child should be taught is. اتقال اللغة العربية. That the child is taught to solidify himself upon the Arabic language. He solidifies himself upon the Arabic language. And he learns the Arabic language properly. الإمام الماوردي. In his book. لصيحة الملوك. He says. فإذا بلغت تأديبة والتعليبة. فالوجه. أن يبدأ بتعليم القرآن مع اللغة العربية. If the child reaches an age of. You know he understands things now. And you are mannering him. And he teaches an age where he can now start acquiring knowledge. He goes. فالوجه. The correct way is. أن يبدأ بتعليم القرآن. You teach him the Quran. مع اللغة العربية. But whilst you teach him the Quran. You also teach him the Arabic language with it. He says. لأنها اللغة التي أنزل الله بها كتابه. Because the Quran is. The sorry. The Arabic language is the language in which. اللها ستناد القرآن. وخاطم بها في شراء ديله وفرائض من التي. And it is the language which Allah addresses. The legislation of his religion. And the obligatory matters of this religion. وبيها بلغ رسوله صلى الله عليه وسلم. صلى الله عليه وسلم له. And it is this language. In which the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم. I conveyed his message. صلى الله عليه وسلمه عليه. So the language. And last but not least. What are effective ways? This is the third point and I'm going to conclude with this. What are effective ways? In which parents need to take in making sure. They cultivate their children correctly. These five stages are what a parent needs to do. In order to cultivate their child correctly. And these are وصائل التربية المؤثرة they affect. They work properly. The first one is التربية بالقدوة. You're a role model. You do it by action. The child looks up to you. And he sees you doing it. The second is التربية بالعبادة. You cultivate your children upon عبادة. Access it. You pray. You fast. You do extra عبادة. And you always remind your children. When you're doing the عبادة. That you're doing with two conditions. That I have to be there. So you start. When I'm praying the salah. Who am I praying it for? Allah. In what way am I praying? According to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. So you always remind the child this. That I'm doing this action sincerely. For Allah's sake. And I'm also doing it in accordance to the sunnah. Of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم. The third one is التربية بالموعدة. The third one is you cultivate your child. By giving him reminders. Just like لغمان. Said to his son. يا بني لا تشرك بالله. إن الشركة لظلم العظيم. Or my son. Do not. Fall into a shirk. And oppress Allah. Fall into shirk. So this was the موعدة. That was a reminder from a father to his son. So you use those words such as father. Daddy. Aba. Whatever language you speak. You use those words to get the heart of the child. It's موعدة. It's not meant to scare him. It's not meant to be shouting at him. It's just to speak with tenderness and kindness. The fourth one is التربية بالموعدة. You observe your child. You are consistently looking at him. And you are observing him. And this is مراقبة للأولاد. You are observing your children. You are looking. And from this is the issue of gadgets. And social media. Parents buy their children laptops. They buy their children mobile phones. And they don't follow their children up. So parents have to be engaged with their children and know what their children are up to. You don't just buy them a big television and you put it in front of them or you buy them a laptop and you don't find out what they're doing with it. There was a mother who thought her daughter was doing her assignments every night. So she left her there. So my daughter never leaves her laptop. She's always reading. She's always. No, she's not. She's on social media. To the extent that nowadays for people to have to go outside to do Haram they don't need to. Everything is brought to the house. The child may not even move from that position. And he can do everything from the tip of his finger. So it's ملاحظ. It's very important. That if you see your child used to read Quran and then now he started to sing. He automatically have to know that. And say oh, something has changed. What's happened? Everyday you came to the house you're reading Quran when you're walking on the staircase you read Quran. I used to hear it. What happened? What has changed? But a child apparently would only know that if he and the children were always spending time together. A parent who's always on the television. A father who's always away. A mother who just gets a screen and places it in front of the child and says watch it. We'll never know what's happening in that child's mind and what every progress that he's making daily. Five years later she realized her child insults. No, he's been doing this for five years. Where were you these five years? A parent comes up to you at the age of 18. The child's at 18 years of age. So the parent comes up to you and says to you my 18 year old child I want you to advise them. What were you doing as a parent for 18 years of age? 18 years. When this child got to this final conclusion this position right now of what he wants to do he doesn't want to listen to anybody. He's stubborn. Where were you as a parent? Where was the ملاحظة? Why were you not observing anything? So the parent has to observe the child. Last but not least التربية بالعقوبة there has to be punishment for children. There has to be what? Punishments. The same falls under the عقوبة which is the opposite holds truth which is that if he's good he gets a prize for it. And then he's what? He's given a gift. He's given something to be happy about. The same way if he comes with something wrong he's punished for it. And there are things that a consequence he has to bear things that he likes that he's going to lose and things that will happen happen to him. That is a summary of the concept among the topic التربية للأولاد. I hope I gave it justice إن شاء الله سبحانك اللهم بحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله أستغفرك وأتوب إلي.