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But it says live Starts working now It says eight people are watching now. Okay, so it must be oh she says it's working now. Okay. Thank you. Okay Yeah, thanks. So So, yeah, we're I'm here with Helena Hart and we're talking about the number one thing that men find Beautiful and women So I can hear you okay Guys hello. Yeah, if you're if you're just joining our our video, please say hello We love it. What everybody says hello. We like interacting with you guys So if you have questions or anything that you want to say any kind of comments go ahead and leave them in the chat and we will Continue to talk about this great topic that we have here. So the number one thing that Men find beautiful and women and so what why is this important? Why is beauty important, right? In our culture or specifically in American culture, I'm not that familiar with many of the other Kind of societies and cultures around the world, but I know in American culture we equate Beauty to Like a liveness, right and for a man You know because there's kind of these different Aspects right and so we're in this space where we're talking about Attracting a man and being attractive to a man and having a man fall in love with you and and You know having him kind of almost I was talking to Michael Fiori the other day. We're hanging out in New Zealand together and we're talking about this idea of Like men almost like worshiping women, right and like you know not in a bad sense at all and like a You know when you because when you say that a lot of times people are like well I don't want kind of this pedestal thing and it's and I'm we're not talking about it Necessarily in that sense at all, you know what we're talking about here is when a man Finds beauty right it inspires him and When a man becomes inspired by beauty specifically in a woman what ends up happening is he He starts to move right we're talking yesterday actually in our live stream about how Like the masculine is this movement energy, right? It's this thing that's going somewhere It's this thing that's trying to achieve something It's less focused on happiness and it's more focused on achievement and greatness and Building something creating something going somewhere fighting for something right that's masculine energy and So when a man sees beauty specifically in women, it's like this this like magnetic draw That he has to it and so when a woman is feminine or sorry when a woman is Beautiful like when he sees beauty in a woman and it's not just physical beauty There's other aspects and we're gonna talk specifically about the most important aspect here And you know fortunately it's something that you have a lot of control over when a man when a man gets inspired by beauty He will go to the ends of the earth for it, right? He will move mountains for it He will fight for it. He will conquer for it. He will do Anything for it, right? That that is like a lot of women come to us and they ask us about like You know like why isn't a man showing more effort? Why isn't a man? Or they want a man to start showing more effort. They want a man to start You know showing that he cares, you know doing things For her making her a priority all of those things All of those things happen when a man gets inspired by beauty and so if you want to be a Priority in a man's life if you want him to put in effort if you want him to Kind of make changes in himself To to be a better man for you Then what he needs is to be inspired by beauty, right? And so We're gonna talk a little bit about, you know, the Helena here is gonna tell us what the number one Thing is that Men find beautiful in women. So take it away, Helena. Thank you. Thanks for letting me talk about what I wanted to talk about today I love hearing everything used to I've never heard you say anything like that before so I was just totally Loving all of that. So yeah, the number one thing That men find beautiful in women is feminine magnetism and hopefully I'm going to give you seven aspects of feminine Magnetism hopefully most of these you've never heard of before and we talk a lot about this or I talk a lot about this in Feminine enchantment the program that we have if you guys haven't seen the video on that You can check it out feminine enchantment.com and Right. Do we have a link to that somewhere? Yeah, there's a link Below in the description if you if you want to uh, if you want to check that out Did you want to talk a little bit about feminine magnetism? Yeah, absolutely. So what that means before we get into that Definitely the idea behind it. Um, I think the analogy I give in the video is if you think of like two magnets Uh, and if they have the same charge Uh, let me know if I'm explaining this correctly the same charge facing each other They just push each other away And feminine magnetism is like flipping What you have control over like what matt was saying flipping that around completely changing everything around so They pull each other together. It's basically like pulling the whole World towards towards you using your feminine magnetism Especially that man is right in front of you or all men actually if you're single and looking to meet that right man for you So so it's really about um tapping into your feminine magnetism We're going to give you seven aspects of that or seven ways to do that So you can really apply it. We're going to hopefully it's going to be like really applicable So you can just start using these right away and I'd love to hear Your thoughts on some of these too. So do should we just jump into the first one or is there anything? Let me let me talk a little bit about um Feminine magnetism really cool. Just just to kind of create a little bit of clarity Um, I know that uh different people have kind of different learning styles and different ways of understanding things Um, oh, so we we got a whole bunch of hello Fiona says hello marna says hello Fiona the name of our facebook group is the goddess community for everybody go and just join join our facebook group Search it on facebook and join it. Uh debba says hello Um, yeah, we're live Says hello, um Ruby says hello. Hello. Hello everyone. Thanks so much for being here with us Okay, so feminine magnetism and and I just want to explain it really really quickly Um, kind of from my perspective and I don't want to bogart this uh conversation I don't want to bogart the conversation brow But uh because I I know yesterday I was talking a lot on the live stream. Um, so uh, uh, so this idea of feminine magnetism is like, um There there's kind of like these two different aspects, right? Um, there's like this side where Um men are right and and uh most women especially nowadays are kind of they they spend a lot of time In their masculine energy, right? They um they go they have to they have to for work and it's totally understandable And they they you know, they are become goal oriented. They um become task oriented They uh, you know are doing these things where they're going after things in life And there's a lot of really awesome things that are being achieved through that and there's nothing wrong with that at all. Um However, when you uh meet a masculine man and he Comes to you and he sees that you're in this masculine energy What Helena was saying is it's it's kind of like, you know, I mean, it's like two magnets of the same charge, right two masculine Magnets of the same charge that are like if you put uh two magnets that are the same charge next to each other They push each other away, right? And that's kind of what happens if one stays still and you put the other one there It pushes that one away and that's kind of what happens like when a man is uh Comes and sees a woman in her masculine energy, right? He might um, he might be physically attracted to We get a lot of women that join our community that are like in these like friend with benefits or casual sexual relationships with men and um, a lot of times those women are clearly In their masculine energy and you can kind of hear it through what they say, right? They'll say things like Yeah, I'm really sarcastic and I like, um, you know a man needs to do this and I tell him that and you know He needs to stop being such a wimp and you know, I mean like all those things are very Masculine things to say and when when I start hearing stuff like that. I'm like, oh, okay. Yeah, I get it You know, like I when I see that I can almost instantly Know what her problem is right her problem is that she meets a lot of guys And initially they're attracted to her because they're attracted to her her physically, right? And then um over a short period of time He you know, maybe they get into a casual relationship and next thing you know He's pulling away disappearing and leaving because he's being repelled Um, emotionally by that masculine energy, you know, he might like her as a drinking buddy He might like her as a friend. He might like her as like one of the guys. Um, but from my, uh Emotional connection from like being drawn towards her like falling in love and just like, you know Wanting to move mountains for and wanting to put in all that effort and wanting to do all those things um, he's not feeling that and so, um Uh, you know, like what Helena said Feminine magnetism is about flipping that around and pulling him in right like Uh creating the space where he's just driven to come in there Driven to pursue or chase however you like to say it. Um driven to like, uh to build A world with her in it, right? And that's what feminine magnetism is about and so, um Go ahead Helena now that I've That no thanks for explaining it like that that was great And my cat Leo is like jumping in and out of this you probably saw him So he's just going a little crazy right now. That's what if you see him jumping in that's what's happening so The first aspect of feminine magnetism I wanted to talk about is creating the space For a man to come towards you That's often like the first thing that women need to do in order to Either re-attract a man who's been pulling away or attract A really high quality masculine energy man if they're single and looking to meet the right guy So a lot of times when women come to us what they're doing is like Matt was saying they're in their masculine energy there Sometimes without even realizing it. They're leaning forward Even in very subtle ways just energetically leading forward like always being the one to initiate contact with a man Always like pushing things along or even on more subtle levels like trying to convince him of what a great Woman she is or what an amazing partner she would be And all of these things and they don't understand where that's when a man might be interested for a little while But eventually he'll back off or he just there's no space for him to come towards you so in order for a man to Really feel connected to you and fall in love and want to pursue you He has to feel this pull towards you or this tension I talk about this in the feminine enchantment program When there's 10 emotional triggers that really attract Attract the man that you want in that program and this one's I talked about in the gravity trigger It's super important So a lot of times all a woman needs to do at first is just stop doing all of those things That push a man away anything that looks like leaning forward Or even you know obsessing about him or thinking about him all the time That's all masculine energy stuff Analyzing trying to figure out where he's at or or what the next step is to Reattract him or to get him to step up in the relationship all of that masculine energy stuff that just keeps him at arm's length Or even pushes him away. So that's where it's really important to lean back Into your feminine energy I always know I always talk about leaning back when it comes to feminine But it's really important like this is really like 90 to 95 Of what's going wrong with this certain type of woman that we're talking about really type a Has a lot of masculine energy. You just have to lean back think of leaning back Physically like if when you're next time you're with a man physically lean back If he's a masculine energy man, he will start to lean towards you It's pretty amazing and he might not even be realized that that what's happening But when you lean back if he's into you and he's a masculine guy, he'll start to lean towards you Also, you know verbally leaning back and just even mentally leaning back like not always trying to Jump into the conversation and think about what the next thing to say the perfect next thing to say Just really pulling that energy off of him is what creates that space for him to come towards you It's really really attractive and then once a woman stops doing all of these things that are keeping him at a distance Then I like to give you things that you can say and that you can do that's going to really draw him in and inspire him to Want to just keep coming closer and closer to you and we're going to be talking about those in the next The next six aspects of feminine magnetism, but did you want to add anything there? Yeah, how about um So there's a couple two different things really that I want to talk about that a lot of people don't really mention And um if you kind of look at the difference in the way that helena and I kind of talk about things Helena talks a lot about like the energy and the feelings and kind of coming from it from a very Feminine kind of standpoint. Um, whereas a lot of times the way that I talk about things is a lot more uh tactical a lot more, um masculine really And so one of the things that a lot of people don't really talk about is an aspect of like lifestyle, right? Um, and so there's kind of this lifestyle component that's very important when it comes to um attracting and keeping a man, right and uh, usually the problem that most women have Is they'll end up like smothering a guy, right? They'll be all over them, right? And you know, I mean, it's like, you know, they're talking to them all the time Well, the there's kind of this opposite side that a lot of people don't talk about um that happens a lot as well and it's kind of this like Uh thing where um like what helena was talking about. She doesn't really have space for him at all like literally like doesn't have Anywhere for him to show up, right? Like uh, uh, I'll talk to women all the time and and they'll be like, um Oh, yeah, the the next time i'm gonna be free to have a date with this guy Is in three weeks, you know four weeks or whatever and you're like You're you're like, well, what about after that? Well, you know, then I have these other things going on for the next couple of weeks And it's like it's like I don't even think you really have Um, you know space for a guy to be in your life right now, you know, like if you're so busy You know, you have so many things going on and there's nothing wrong with that Um, it's just this aspect. It's like, okay. Well, are you in a space? Uh to have a man in your life, you know, and maybe you're not um, and you know If you're here, my guess is that you want to right and so uh creating that space um From a physical standpoint is also drive a mentor that I used to talk to and she has this program It's kind of like this law of attraction program where she One of the things that she does in the program is she like actually has women like Create a space for a man in their home right, so she'll like Like have them, you know Clean out the closet and you know make a space for a man to be in the clot You know to have his clothes there and you know in her dresser, you know She'll have she'll make them make space to have a guy like actually be able to put stuff in the dresser You know, so it's actually Physically making a space for a guy to be there and and I don't know, you know, I'm not mr. Mystical You know, I'm not mr. Magical. I'm not mr. Law of Attraction or anything Um, but I do think that there's a certain mindset that physically Opening a space for a man actually does for you in helping you attract and keep a guy in your life um I I think that's all I wanted to talk about so I love that. I I love these comments too. Um, yes. Marna. You must she says you must Show your genuine feminine self. Yeah, we're gonna be talking about that. Good point with the overthinking thing people are saying so true Matthew correct make time or they will run. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I love hearing it from that perspective too. Yeah, we have We sometimes come at things that completely opposite directions even though we're talking about the same thing So it's great to hear both sides. Um, yeah, this is really really great. Should I move on to the next one? Yep Okay, the number the next things is number two the second aspect of feminine magnetism is Being in the present moment So really experiencing the moment a lot of times this can be hard for a lot of us. We can just get up in our heads I know I can do this if i'm really busy or stressed out about something And we're just kind of like running around going through the motions like we're like on autopilot Or if we're with a man and we're really attracted to him or we have like really strong feelings for him It can be easy to like I don't know who who is this one that talked about the overthinking Yeah, ruby like ruby said overthinking Wondering like what's he thinking? Where do I stand with him? Where's this relationship going? Does he like me all of that stuff? It keeps us up in our head and out of the present moment And so when you're coming from this mental kind of masculine energy place a man cannot Connect with you or fall in love But when you're in your body in your feminine magnetism and just right, you know drilling down right into the present moment He can he can connect with you when you're coming from that place and it's not anything you really have to say to him or do It's just you can really catch yourself when you're up in your head When your thoughts are kind of spinning around when you're overthinking things versus when you're totally in your body leaning back In your coming from that feminine energy Process oriented place rather than this results oriented. What do I do next? Where's this going place? So it's really about getting into the present moment Not worrying about something that happened in the past or fast forward into the future But really just getting right down into them. It's almost like getting inside of every moment. So you can actually Experience it while it's happening Cool. Yeah, I don't have anything to contribute to that Yeah, and then these kind of go um, it's like an order to them. So the next step the next aspect would be Getting in touch with your feelings and then a more advanced step You know if you want to take it a little more advanced to be expressing those feelings So kind of similar to the last one. It's like it can be easy to just totally be cut off from our feelings And so many women I talked to and I was definitely this way myself is like We don't even know what we're feeling because we can be so cut off from You know the present moment can be so bound up in all of like Our frustrations are coming from past experiences or expectations That that the idea of getting in touch with how you're feeling is like a really foreign concept to a lot of us women So, um, but it's really um attractive to a man Even just a woman like sitting there searching for a feeling can be like the the most attractive thing in the world To a man because a lot of times men Can't get to certain parts of themselves that we can we can be a lot deeper than most You know generally speaking we can be to get to these deeper parts of ourselves sometimes that men can only get connected to Through us women. So that's where he just feels drawn into you And then the next step after that would be expressing those feelings We can talk about that but Matt, do you have anything to say about that like a woman who's in touch with her feelings? Well, I mean I can talk about like what that feels like for a man Because it's you know, it's really powerful when a man experiences a woman in her Like coming from her feelings, right? Because it's it's a world that Most men don't live in right and they don't experience that often and It can kind of throw them through a loop if it's too strong And too kind of like we were talking about this yesterday like going from one extreme to the other really quickly That can like really derail a man but like Like just being in your emotions, you know, like it it like It creates kind of this softness And this vulnerability Right that a man like when he sees it and he experiences it and he sees a woman That's in it. It's like he wants to like um You know, physically like the the The reaction that a man has is he wants to grab a woman and like hold her right and like, you know, like Bring her in close and make sure that she's okay And that she's safe and that she feels good, right and um, you know, that can be um You know, everybody's got issues, right? Um, so uh, like I I always like one of my One of my one of my biggest challenges is challenges in life is that I I always do the devil's advocate thing Um, so I'm just going to avoid the devil's advocate thing for right now because I don't think we need to go there Um, but a woman in her emotions is really powerful for a man. It's really attractive. It's really mysterious. It's really exciting. It's really, um It's really, uh magnetic, you know, it's really uh irresistible. It's really like, um It it allows a man to kind of connect to his heart in a way that he doesn't get to Otherwise, which is the first steps for him to Kind of fall in love like get that real deep emotional connection That he needs in order to really love a woman I love that I love how you said that that's great. And then of course the next step same aspect But the more advanced step would be expressing your feelings. I talk about that a lot in feminine enchantment Um, just simply saying I feel blank or I'm feeling blank and keeping it all about yourself. I'm feeling happy I'm feeling excited. Um, it's okay to share other feelings. Uh, leo's jumping up here. I don't know if you can see um But when you're working to like draw a man in and when you're just getting started with some of these tools I would suggest uh, sharing a positive emotion. You know, I'm feeling I'm feeling so exhilarated after my workout. I'm feeling so relaxed. I'm feeling happy those kinds of things Without having some sort of expectation So we you can express your feelings without referring to a man's behavior Unless of course you're telling him that he made you feel good or that he made you feel happy, but um Just keep it all about yourself and really try that it might not seem like a big change using that word feel or talking about your feelings, but um What that does is it kind of signals to a man that you're a feminine Woman, you know, it kind of helps you like radiate this feminine magnetism It's you know on even on like a subconscious level It signals to him that you are in touch with your feelings And if he's a masculine energy man who's interested in in how you feel and wants to take your feelings into account That's going to really attract him and draw him towards you and then you want to see what he does from there So expressing your feelings is not the point of it is not to make a man Like behave the way you want him to right? It's just just to express yourself because this is who you are. You're a warm Open, you know inviting a feminine woman, right? And then you want to see what he does does he? Does he dismiss your feelings? You know that would be kind of a red flag or does he care? Does he take them into account? Does he like assimilate that information and use it when he's doing that masculine energy stuff like planning things and making decisions? So that's um, that's really important anything else you wanted to add there. Yeah, I just want to talk about the um, like What makes like the difference between what makes it attractive and what makes it unattractive because a lot of women Are like really scared to tell a man about her feelings Right and I what I think the problem there is kind of what helena touched on a little bit was This whole idea of trying to get a guy to do something Right, but when you express your feelings, right? And it's kind of this Expectation thing right expectations. Um ruin relationships period right the more expectations you have Around your relationship the more likely you are to completely destroy any relationship that you have with anybody Right and the more that you kind of remove those expectations And just coming from a place of self-expression Um, the the more it becomes this powerful adorable beautiful um You know attractive thing for a guy and the more you Put expectations on it where you're trying to get a guy to do something or act a certain way or whatever um, you know and many times when you do Self-express um a guy will behave in the way that you want him to right but um when you throw that expectation on there like I need this guy to start behaving the way that I want him to um, it suddenly becomes Really unattractive right because the guy um Most guys, uh unless they're just completely unaware immediately pick up on this thing where He feels like you're trying to manipulate and control him right and it's really unattractive And he wants to like run away as fast as he can and um, you know and and like There'll be like these pauses in the conversation where he'll be like Oh, she really wants me to do this thing. You know, um, and I know she wants me to do this thing And if I don't do this thing, you know, then she's going to start getting angry at me And it just turns into the spiral downward into this painful experience for both of you Um instead of being this great, uh chance to really connect not only with yourself and not only express yourself But to connect with him, you know, um from a man standpoint a lot of times guys have no idea what they're supposed to do Right, they have no clue, right? And so, um, if you start expressing yourself in your emotions and he's just like You know, I mean he might he might be connecting with you and he just doesn't know what to do And he's just experiencing you right and and that's not a bad place to be like for a guy or for you Like that's that's a that can be a very very powerful place to be because he's really getting to Uh to learn about you and getting to experience you and getting to connect to you Um and as soon as you put that expectation on it, it changes the dynamic immediately because it stops being about you and your experience and your self-expression and it starts becoming about control and manipulation and um and power and that is when The dynamic shifts to go from this place where you're both They're experiencing this great moment together to this place where you're like fighting each other um for some kind of sense of control or power and uh you want to stay in that space where you're connected together because that's That's where uh, you know, the deep love can can kind of be created That's where the attraction can can come up. That's where the desire for the man will start happening That's when where the beauty the thing we were talking about before where the man is like, um You know, he starts feeling like he wants to move mountains for you Like that's where that starts to come up, right? And if if uh, you want to give a man hints on what you know He can do for you That place in the moment isn't the place to do it. It's there's a there's another time for that right and and um I talk about some of that stuff in some of my programs, but um You know in that moment when you're expressing yourself Is the moment to just express yourself and just connect with him Um with no expectation of of what needs to happen next Uh, so yeah, absolutely totally agree that one thing I have People do is if you're wondering a lot of I get questions. Um in the goddess club Which is it's part of feminine enchantment every week and it's always like what do I say? Should I express this or should I not express it and one thing that's really helpful is If you ask yourself something like what am I hoping will happen to check to see if you have this agenda Or expectation if you can answer that like well, I'm hoping that he'll be more affectionate towards me I'm hoping he'll commit to me or or ask me out for the weekend or something like that That's a big clue that you have that expectation or agenda And then I would normally recommend hold off and and don't wait till you're coming from not such an agenda driven place So but if if you're asking yourself, what am I hoping will happen and the answer is nothing I just want to express myself because I'm just having a nice time or something like that then go for it Go for it try expressing those feelings keeping it all about yourself and see what happened So you'll typically he will feel much more attracted to you and like drawn into you when you do that. So Can we move on to the next one or do you want to is there anything else? Yeah, so um, so we we're getting a lot of comments here. Um Uh, I statements. Yeah, those are good. Um, Arna says, um Sat satchel satchel satchel. Yeah, satchel satchel. I don't know how to Yeah, I saw your question. We'll get to your question. Yeah, absolutely. We'll answer that Yeah, well, we'll get to it at the end. Uh, ruby says the five love language are are important Actually, the five love languages are really really important and uh, helena actually just Recently recorded a video about this and we're gonna be posting it here in the next Week or two. I can't remember exactly. Uh, oh, I haven't I haven't scheduled it yet But it it'll be up in in sometime soon. So, um, yeah Absolutely. Yeah, marna says expectations ruin any relationship including family or friendships Connection. Yeah, absolutely. I totally agree. Totally true. Totally true. Um It's painful. It's painful. There's you know, uh Man, we I could go on a tangent. I know we always say we could we always say we could do a whole video Just on expectations. We say that every time Okay, the next aspect of feminine magnetism is receiving um Receiving sorry, I'm feeling super nauseous and dizzy. I have this like stomach thing I just have to like say, um, can you hear me? Okay and everything? Yeah, everything's good Oh, yeah, I'm feeling totally nervous that I'm gonna like get sick or but I'm okay for now Same thing happened yesterday, but I was totally fine. So I'm just gonna power through it And just so anybody's wondering she's not pregnant We don't know that for a fact, but Yeah, we don't Anyway The next one is receiving receiving is I I love talking about this because um This can be really difficult for so many of us, you know, um receiving is is more feminine energy Giving and doing things and taking action is more masculine energy. So um receiving Can be hard for a lot of us women. We've kind of been brought up so many of us have been brought up kind of um placing our value and worth on what we can Do and accomplish and give to other people So the thought of like leaning back and receiving from a man like receiving his um Love and affection and time and things like that can be really a foreign concept to so many of us I have problems with this right. Didn't you tell me? You do have problems with this I do I'm a lot better than it used to be but yeah I have a big problem with this. That's why it's one of my favorite things to talk about It's like what did you tell me you said I have like I have a block to receiving Yeah, sometimes you you do have a block to receiving like um like compliments to uh, you know, uh Things where people are telling you that you're amazing and awesome You know and I think a lot of us have that you know, a lot of us have this thing where And I think there's a societal and cultural aspect to it as well You know, there's we've been taught at least I know I was taught you know growing up You know, it's better to give than to receive right? And so I have a whole lot of people out there trying to give give give give You know and a whole lot of people that feel very very awkward about receiving and sometimes people are looked down upon For receiving right, which is just absolutely ridiculous. Um, and from a you know relationship standpoint Um, uh, men are trying to give you. I mean, that's what men do is that you know, the masculine We're we're out there giving you know, you'll find guys that'll you know start giving you gifts and start giving you things You know and and if you want if you like the guy just let him give you you know Like I know it can be hard, but just allow yourself to receive it, you know It's it's the feminine to receive and uh, you know, it's very um, it's very attractive For you to receive if a man tries to give you something right he tries to give you a compliment He tries to give you effort. He tries to give you time He tries to give you some kind of physical gift. He tries to give you something and you don't let him It kind of goes back to that whole thing we were talking about before where uh, he feels like there's not space there for him Right, he feels like you don't have space in your life for him to be there Right and be the man that he wants to be and so um, if you're like deflecting his uh, his gifts To you um, that can be incredibly unattractive to him and and it can change the category That he puts you in as a woman, right? So, uh, I talk a lot about these different categories that men have For women, you know, there's like this, you know, a casual relationship category. There's a um, you know, uh There's a relationship category. There's a marriage category There's you know, all these different categories that a guy can put you in You know is is how he looks at you and whether you're what kind of uh material you are for him You know is are you somebody that he thinks would uh, he he could have children with are you somebody that he thinks He could be married to are you somebody that he thinks You know all these different things and when you kind of block him off from, you know His masculine energy and tell him that he can't give to you um, it kind of throws uh, a wrench into his Kind of mindset about who you you can be for him You know in his in whatever kind of relationship that he wants to wants to have right most men that I meet um, I used to be a men's dating coach and and I've done surveys on this, um Where I found that, uh, uh, that there was actually a big poll that was done, uh nationally On this topic and they found that um, it was something like 87 percent of men actually want to find a woman to settle down with, you know Get married and have kids with right and uh my experience is something similar When I was in the men's dating space, uh, I did some surveys and we found that actually, um You know, it was closer to like 90 of the guys that we worked with They weren't trying to be players. They weren't trying to you know, go out and just pick up a bunch of women What they really wanted was to find this woman that they felt Was the one you know this woman that they wanted to get married to that they wanted to have a real relationship with That they wanted to settle down for that they wanted to you know, uh be a man for and um, I I think one of the challenges One of the biggest complaints that men gave to me, um when I was in the men's dating space is they didn't feel like There were any women out there that they met that they wanted to have this type of relationship with And and I get the same complaint from women, you know, women are like, yeah men aren't Um, you know, men aren't relationship material anymore, right? And um, we're we're kind of in this Uh thing culturally where every we're in this hookup culture. I talk a lot about that in some of my videos You know, we're in this hookup culture Place right now where both men and women are not kind of really wanting relationship and men are becoming really Feminine and women are becoming really masculine and we're looking at each other and we're going What are we what's even going on here anymore? You know, I mean like are we Are are these people that we want to be with do I feel like I'm settling with being with Any of the women that I mean or any of the men that I mean and it's like, um, it's really a challenging time right now and um, if you want to kind of stand out from the pack if you want Men to look at you as a really special and amazing and a different unique woman. Um, you know be willing to receive Yeah, oh my gosh. Yeah, I would say if you want to, um attract a masculine man You have to demonstrate that you can receive from him and men fall in love when they're giving to us I say that all the time men fall in love when they're giving to us these comments are great You guys you said we as women need to learn to accept compliments and say, thank you. It's hard in this era Yeah, absolutely, right every time there's like a positive comment on one of my videos and like matt tells me about it I'm like, what that can't be right. Wait read it again. Like I can't like get it through my head sometimes I don't know what it is. Um, but I know it's a really common thing. Yeah, somebody's saying that they can relate to that too um Someone says isn't giving working both ways I think the inability to take and appreciate what was given might be due to the fear Of the relationship getting too strong one. Okay. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I mean giving back to a man is amazing I think that's great when you're when you're just full of like Appreciation and love and feeling good giving back is fantastic. The problem happens when um We are feeling there's different reasons we can over give and give when we're coming from a place of like lack Or trying to make something happen in the relationship and that's what pushes men away because Like matt was saying they can feel like oh, she wants something from me that i'm not Willing or able to give right now. So a lot of times it's a great point We get into over giving and I call it over functioning in relationships And there's lots of reasons we do that it could be just that you're a naturally giving person And I can relate to that a lot and a lot of women can and so You know then if you're just constantly giving and doing things for a man You're going to either attract A feminine energy man who needs that who needs a woman to like constantly do things in the relationship Or you might get into this dynamic where a man is happy to take everything you're giving to him But that's not what inspires him to really step up and pursue you and see you as this one woman He can never live without it's a different process going on so When we get into like giving to get giving something because we're hoping to get something in return Like get more of something from a man more affection more love More time or even more commitment. That's when we can kind of get into trouble and that will push a man away. Also, um Giving to avoid feelings is a really common thing. I talk about this in the goddess club too. You know feeling anxious or insecure or Uh, you know nervous about where the relationship is going So almost like compulsively leaning forward and giving and over functioning because we're we're covering up We're wanting to cover up some kind of deeper feeling So next time you feel this urge to do that see if you there's like some level of anxiety there or some Urge to like cover up what you're really actually feeling and you know Try just feeling those things first rather than acting out of those feelings if that makes sense I'm hoping explaining that right. Does that make sense how I explain that? Um, anyway, hopefully Okay, so that was I can't speak for them. But yeah, I Yeah, I see it a lot Yeah, okay. Well, so what what are we on and how many do we have to go? We are on number five Which is responding. So we have three left. How are we doing on town? Should we go fast? Well, yeah, I mean Okay, I'll speed it up I'm like, I'm the man. I'm like, I'm like, all right, let's get this let's get this done right now. We got to get things done Someone's getting things done I know number five is responding. So responding is a very feminine energy quality initiating Trying to get through things and get things done is more masculine, right? So if you're responding to a man, that's great, you know, a man shows up He texts you you respond. He calls you if he asks you out. You respond to him Responding is fantastic. Respond even responding like in other areas of your life responding to your intuition Can really do all kinds of great things in all areas of your life. Um, not just your love life But yes responding is the next aspect of feminine magnetism. Do you have anything you want to say about that? Yes, respond respond Actually respond to this if you're new to our channel, make sure you subscribe respond Respond to that. No, but seriously, um, if if uh, you're new to our channel And um, I know there's a lot of new people that come here If if you're new to our channel, make sure you uh, hit the subscribe button to get more videos on On how to have the relationship that you really want and yeah with what Helena was saying responding. Um You know, it's it's really really, uh You know, it's weird for a guy like for a guy like this is a weird topic for me And and i'm really grateful that uh, Helena is kind of taking over with it because you know talking about feminine stuff is so weird for me Um as a guy in many ways, you know, like because I can kind of talk about like what my experience is with feminine women And um, you know, there's we all have feminine and masculine in us, right? And uh, Someone was talking about uh in our chat about how, um You know, there's like a give and take right and that's true You know, we all have give and take we all have it's not like one extreme or another like I um When when I was a men's dating coach I used to talk about this with guys because guys would show up and they're usually You know the nice guy, right? Like they're like this guy that was like like, oh, I'm so good to women And like these women they don't appreciate me for being like such a gentleman and such a nice guy for them And really what they they're they're usually uh, the nice guy what he's really doing is trying to be manipulative, right? And that's a big subject, but um What we talk about like this kind of dynamic, right that Um, I'm trying to be in the picture here this dynamic where um a guy Uh goes through these different places, right? Like one side is the uh nice guy and the other side is like this bad boy A hole, right? And so usually what a guy does is he'll start over here and he'll move over to this, right? And then he'll move back and then it'll be a little bits of movement back and forth until he finally finds this middle ground Where he's this really awesome guy um Around a woman, right? And so he's not being the super nice guy that's uh, you know, really trying to be manipulative and Victim or whatever and he's not being this total a-hole. That's like, you know, just attacking somebody You know, there's kind of a skill involved in all of this if it's not natural for you, right? And it takes a little bit of time to learn and it takes messing things up, right? It's like it's like doing anything, right? Like when you first drive a car Um, you know, you might move the steering wheel too far to one direction or the other You might hit the gas pedal too quickly. You might hit the brake too quickly, right? But after a while you start to develop this sweet spot, right? And and that's where um, and I'd say that sweet spot isn't just in um a You know in general with guys But also like when you're with the man in a relationship, there's a sweet spot for both of you, right? There's a sweet spot for learning about each other and connecting with each other and and uh, working with each other's Uh, whatever is going on with you because there's always something going on with both people, right? We all have issues and so, um, you know learning about each other and learning where those boundaries are and having boundaries for the other person to understand like those are all Powerful ways of getting to this space of being incredibly attractive, right? And and like it like you'll you'll see it start to happen Like it's this thing that I call being in sync, right? And once you're in sync and a lot of times this just happens naturally It's not like this logical. I have to think about it and I'm trying to move in these different directions A lot of times it just happens naturally and if it doesn't, you know, maybe you do have to kind of test things out or whatever But usually it does happen naturally and get into this place where you're just, you know Like in this connection with this other person and it's like you know, what each other's thinking You know what each other's going to say you you know, like Get to this space where um, you know how to respond and be with that other person in a way that the person's just like I just love you so much, you know and and um Uh, uh, I think that kind of related to responding Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, definitely. I'm just like look at these comments too. Yeah, absolutely Marna says just go over in time. I'm glad you guys are liking this and everyone's still watching. This is this is really amazing I'm loving all these comments. Um Uh, also divorce women who are single parents have to take on both roles It's hard to get out of that frame of mind. Yeah, absolutely and really I do want to mention that this is not about um squashing your masculine energy down or like uh Making that part of yourself smaller. It's really about ramping up both That's how I like to think of things and work with women. Um, increasing your masculine energy and increasing Your feminine the feminine side as well It's just about using these different parts of yourself in ways that really work for you rather than against you so your masculine energy is fantastic anytime you need to Uh figure something out or get something done when you're working if you're raising kids a lot of times You're in your masculine energy because you're you're doing things and taking action and giving to them So you don't want to just uh, you know try and make certain parts of yourself smaller You want to think of yourself as like expanding and and increasing these energies just using them in the right way So the problem happens is when we take all of that Amazing, uh masculine energy that we have and we turn it on to a man Like if we're trying to make something happen on a date or in a relationship Or a lot of times if our masculine energy is not being Employed or utilized correctly in our own lives in other areas of our lives as women we can um It can start to go urgent. It can start to you can start to feel urgent. That's this need to Make something happen in your love life or or need needing to know a decision or get things all figured out right now So you don't want your masculine energy to go urgent and the solution to that is to get it doing something meaningful Rather than letting it run you by fear doing Employing it elsewhere in your life working on something else and the passion of yours or a hobby or business or Something like that if that makes sense. I that's a big big big concept, but this is all kind of really advanced stuff So I hope that was helpful. Did I explain that right? I don't know if it even makes sense to you But I think I don't know a lot of women at that place this urgent feeling in their love lives So you just want to take that masculine energy and use it for yourself and your own life Not in your love life Yeah, uh, if you're in a chat and you're following us, um, you know, just say that you you're following You get what we're talking about here I tend to go up into the big Concepts and then that has to like ring me in and bring me back. I go into I go into rants. So yeah I go off into these giant nebulous concepts that I'm like, does that even make sense? So hopefully like here's what you need to do. You need to like Say this to us and do that. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Okay. Good. I'm glad you guys are liking this Okay, the next the next aspect of feminine magnetism is trusting Trusting that things are always working out for you trusting yourself more than anyone else I mean, of course, it's important to trust the man that you're with but you have to start with trusting yourself trusting your feelings Trusting your boundaries and and having those boundaries really strong So you feel really secure and you trust yourself so much on the inside Rather than having these boundaries On the outside like these walls that we build up around ourselves to where no one could even get close to us So it's about feeling really strong and secure trusting yourself on the inside That's what allows you to be really um soft and vulnerable and surrendered And feminine on the outside so that a man can actually get close to you That's kind of the overview of it. Um, otherwise if a man comes close and he just like smacks right up against your walls there's nothing to um Compell him to want to get in to want to keep coming towards you So it's really important Well, a lot of times when women have these walls built up around them and I was certainly this way myself It's because on the inside we feel all like mushy like we could just fall apart at any second And we don't trust ourselves So we feel like we have to build these walls around ourselves on the outside And like I mentioned then it's like no one can really get close to us They can't see who we really are and who you really are, you know is what makes a man See you and go. That's the woman for me. I'm coming after her, right? So that's trusting yourself first more than anyone else is super super important because then your intuition kicks in And um, you can really feel like is this is the right man for me? Does this situation feel good? Or does this not feel good? Do I need to take a step back because when you're connected to your feminine magnetism, it's like You're this amazing gift of intuition that we have is women like kicks in But we when we're not connected to it We're cutting ourselves off from that intuition and it can be hard to know what to do And then that's when we tend to want to like shut ourselves down emotionally And we're like constantly opening and closing like okay. I'm going to open it up in front of this person I'm going to close myself down in front of this person And what I like to encourage women to do is is work towards being open 100 of the time because then your intuition is kicked in it's working And you can really trust yourself to where if a situation doesn't feel good You can get out of there and trust yourself not to put yourself in compromising situations with men That's kind of a big overview with trusting but it's really important. Well, and when you trust yourself and a man Comes into uh your environment, right? He actually trusts you more, right? He um He feels like you're put together. He feels like you've got uh like things figured out and he will Uh, he will respect you a lot more and he will respond to you um in a much much different way because men a lot of times tend to like Try to push boundaries, right? They try to push boundaries of what they can kind of get away with and what they can do and um If you trust yourself and you know, uh what feels good and and you listen to yourself you listen to your intuition you listen to um What's okay and not okay with you? Um a man and and you you know, uh respond accordingly a man will feel like Uh Like like he want like he actually values you a lot more. He feels like he um wants to listen to you a lot more He wants to uh feel like you're uh or he feels like you um um Are somebody who uh has a uh valuable opinion and um Yeah, I mean, I don't I don't know if there's anything else I have to say about that but yeah, yeah Yeah, and actually the the question that we said we were gonna get to kind of goes into this trusting aspect She says my boyfriend's going through some rough times. He's been really distant He says he doesn't want to lose me but the door is open for me to find what I need. What should I do? Yeah, so trusting yourself and then um Trusting a man is the second part trusting that a man knows what's best for him that he's Doing things um in the way that feels good to him on his own timeline And you know, you get to make that decision of whether you want to um hang in there or whether it would feel better to Open yourself up to the rest of the world. It just it really depends on the situation You should not know how long you've been together or what or if he's asking you to wait Or what what the situation is if you want to type in more details that might be helpful Yeah, and a lot of times when women are in situations where guys um kind of pull back a little bit or uh are Going through some kind of rough time or something they end up making it personal about them, right? They're like, oh, well, you know, he must not love me enough. He must not Uh care about me. He must not you know all these different things and in a man's world it's like if uh And this happens a lot of times especially from a financial standpoint because a man To feel like a man needs to feel like he's a provider and a protector, right? And if he doesn't feel like he's got it together in that those areas Um, it's like his world is crashing down, right? And he loses his mind. He will freak out. He will like Um, you know, like it'll go into this emergency mode where he's like focused on this one thing and and I get women sometimes who Come to me and they're like, oh, yeah, this guy says he's not ready, right? And a lot of times, um You know, they'll be like, they'll be like, oh my god, he said he's not ready and it's like, okay Well, you know, what would make him ready? You know, have you talked to him about this at all? You know, are you just trying to take what he said and Turn it into this thing about you, you know and your relationship, you know If you actually talk to a man about these things you'll be surprised at how open a lot of times they are about them, you know, like I've um, sometimes talk to a Like like if you talk to a guy and you're like, okay, well, what what would make you ready, you know A lot of times you'll tell you exactly what would make him ready And if and if you ask him even more questions, like, you know, what does it take to? Um, to be ready, you know for you to be ready, you know, like how long do you think this is going to take like what? You know, he'll he'll give you a bunch of information about what he thinks About how long this is going to take because we were talking yesterday about this whole thing where some men, um Uh, like they they want to have a woman on their journey with them if they're kind of building their world And some men it's like they feel like it's too much of a distraction to have a woman there because you know They're so focused on this one thing And they feel like it's such an emergency and so important to them to do that having that woman there Um, if he feels like she's too much of a distraction for him, um Can be like totally debilitating for him and he'd rather just focus on this thing until he figures it out, um So it kind of depends on the man. It depends on what's going on with the man It depends on how he views you, right? There's a whole bunch of little determining factors there that determine, um, you know, how Uh to connect with the man in that situation and you know, whether you should wait for a man, um But a lot of it boils down to communicating with him, you know and asking him questions being curious Instead of creating assumptions about what it means and what's going on with him. So I don't even know if, um So yeah, I think yeah, absolutely. Um, a lot of times Oh, she says been together eight months. He's going through financial issues. Yeah, he's just shut down and distant told him I'm here for him if he needs me. I'm here. I try to talk to him, but he's just silent Yeah, a lot of times it like Exactly it has nothing to do with us as women and but we think that it does We take it we tend to take things personally sometimes, especially when it's a man that we're like in love with, right? So, um We think that if we caused it if we think it does have something to do with us Then we can somehow fix it when a man pulls away And then that's when we do all those things that don't work that just push him further and further away So, you know, it's what you do when a man withdraws or feels the need to, you know Put his focus or attention elsewhere that either brings him back sometimes stronger than ever or causes him to um Stay stay further away. Stay at arm's length and not want to come back towards you Well, and for a lot of men you you have to realize that this is like an embarrassing thing Yeah, especially a financial problem, you know, like I grew up in a family where we don't talk about Financial things at all, right? So if if um, you know, we my family was having hard financial times They don't tell me about it. I just feel the impact of the stress and the um, You know the the symptoms of the financial problem I never like nobody would talk to me about it at all, you know, and and um I'm a lot more open about like what's going on with me with my friends and people that I'm close with Because I think it's really really valuable to talk about those things. Um, but You know for a lot of guys It's really embarrassing because as a man like that's part of your job, right? Your job is to Have it together financially, right to be the provider And when you can't do that, um As a man a lot of men feel like they aren't men, right? Like they can't they can't live up to Being their own expectation of who they need to be for you And so if a guy is in that space, it can be um, it can be really damaging to his ego It can be really damaging to uh, his Relationship to himself. Um, you know, a lot of guys end up going into like depression When they have issues like that, um, especially if they've Really tied their identity to um, how successful they are financially, which is what a lot of guys do Uh, you know, it can be a really really big problem. Yeah, even if even if we don't you know Even if we don't care, we don't you know, most of us women or most of women I um work with or pretty successful Kind of like high powered women could care less about a guy's financial situation As long as he's doing something that makes him happy and he's kind of fulfilled in life A lot of times we don't we could care less but but again has nothing to do with us If I'm it's a big deal for a man A lot of times men are they just can feel really inadequate or ineffectual Especially like with the economy the way it is right now They feel like they can't act like men or or feel like men unless that's in place And then a lot of times when that's running smoothly They can men are kind of single focused a lot of times they can switch their focus and crave that Connection or crave that intimacy So it's all about what you know, how long you're willing to wait for that We need to move on here. I know I know I can tell I've a limited timeline for the last one is allowing allowing is the last one allowing things to unfold Now allowing things to unfold organically is of feminine quality. The opposite of that would be trying to make something happen Um push and shove your way into getting what you want Try you know, that's all the mass masculine energy behavior. Whereas allowing things to unfold Really trusting that things are unfolding exactly how they're supposed to and allowing The relationship or the experience you're having to unfold naturally rather than Jumping in and trying and getting in the way of that. That's the last one. I have anything you want to say about that Well, you know, I think along the lines of that is really this thing Called uh resistance, right and there's kind of this resistance to things because You know going back to this idea of expectations and idealism You know, a lot of times we have these fairy tale ideas about what things are supposed to look like Yeah, and so if things look anything different than what we think it's supposed to look like a lot of times we will fight it Right, like there's this um famous like uh fictional story about this Obviously a fictional story about this guy that is like, um Uh like he's in the ocean or something and like his boat cap sizes and he's like, um, you know, like swimming around in the ocean and like, um Something happens where like a helicopter comes by and they're like, hey, we're here to save you and he's like, oh no God will save me, you know, and and then like the helicopter leaves and and uh Um, you know, he ends up drowning and he like goes up to heaven. He's talking to god and he's like, hey, you know You know, I was a believer, you know, why didn't you come and save me and it and he was like well I sent you a helicopter, you know and like these life boats and stuff like why don't you get on any of them? you know, I mean And like we have these thoughts in our mind about like how things are supposed to go You know what it's supposed to look like and instead of kind of allowing Uh reality to come to us and and bring us the gifts that reality is trying to bring us We fight it, you know, because we think that it should look a certain way, you know, we think he should look a certain way We think that um our relationship should look a certain way And if it doesn't it, you know, a lot of times we end up in these, you know, internal struggles that are Really damaging to us, so Yeah, yeah, I think that's great. Yeah, we we look sometimes we just look for these ending points We want to jump to the finish line I want to meet a guy and settle down and get married and we missed the whole Middle we have missed the whole allowing of how Allowing things to unfold the way they're kind of supposed to when we're looking um for things to like it has to be a Certain way on a certain timeline. That's what um keeps us apart from what we want It keeps that right man from showing up or it keeps things from Progressing in a in a kind of organic way. So that's the last one allowing those are the seven aspects I I know we're short on time. So yeah, there was um, you know, I hope you guys got a lot out of this again I just want to thank everybody for being here. Um, I want to thank the beautiful and amazing helena heart for Leading us through this discussion today um Because she's you know kind of the expert in this one If you're interested in learning more about feminine magnetism Make sure to go to feminine enchantment.com And watch our video there and join our goddess club and if you want to be a You know get your questions answered and stuff by helena So thank you so much for being here. Is there anything else you wanted to say helena? No, just thanks everyone. My gosh, these comments are amazing. I'm so glad you enjoyed this and um I love says like one of my favorite things to talk about so thanks for for everyone that stayed to the end and Yeah, that's it. Have a great rest of the weekend. Yeah, thanks everybody. Um, we love you guys You're the best part of our community. Um, you know, we're here for you We're here because of you and uh, I just want to thank you for being a part of it. Thank you for being subscribers Thank you for coming on to these live chats. Thank you for commenting. Thank you for being a part of this and just thank you So, um, we'll we'll talk to you guys again soon