 This happens to the narcissist once you've moved on, once you've finally moved on with your life. This is what happens to the narcissist. The narcissist would love for you to think that there's so much happier without you. They would love for you to think that there's so much better without you. It's the same story every time. The narcissist wants everyone to think that you are this horrible person and that you made them the way that they are and yet somehow they manage to move on and be happy without you. It's a good story which has been told millions of times by narcissists all over the world and for someone who has been abused and is suffering from CPDSD, it can be quite believable. You have been taught to ignore your own intuition. You have been taught to seek validation from your abusers. So whatever they tell you, whatever they display to you, you just accept it. It can be painful to accept that the narcissist has abused you and completely ruined your life only to move on and be happy with someone else. And that's often the reason why they want you to think that it's further abuse. They want to abuse you even while they're not a part of your life because they don't want you to move on. They don't want you to be happy without them. The truth is that there is no such thing as an abusive or manipulative person that has moved on or feels good about themselves. That is a contradiction in itself because if a person was happy without you they would feel no need to abuse or manipulate you. They would feel no need to hurt you. The narcissist will post pictures on social media with a sore intention of hurting you or they will use their flying monkeys to tell you that they've moved on and they're happy without you. Just to make you feel bad, this is all designed to make you feel like you ain't shit as though you're worthless and insignificant, as though you never matter to them when really that is not the case. If you were their primary source of supply, they didn't just move on without you. They are not happy with someone else. They are still thinking about what they had with you but they know they can't come back because of how things ended. They smeared your name and made you look like a bad person because it was the only way that they could protect their image but now it has made it impossible for them to come back because no narcissist is going to choose their source over their false self. Once you've moved on, the narcissist doesn't just forget about you. Narcissists are so bitter and resentful they can hold grudges for the rest of their lives. You didn't let them mold you into what they wanted you to be. You didn't let them control you and that is something that they will never forget because they didn't get what they wanted from you. That is something no narcissist will ever forget because normally they're so used to people being susceptible to their manipulation and get what they want but that didn't work with you. You didn't just hand over your loyalty and commitment to them. You chose to move on because you realized that their false self wasn't real. You realized that it was just bits and pieces that they took from other people movies or magazines. It wasn't authentic. They were just whatever they thought people wanted them to be and once they realized that you've figured them out you lose value to them. They no longer have any use for you because the whole point of them having people around them is that they're supposed to prop up their false image. The false image was designed to get them what they want but it didn't work on you and that is why they're so mad. That is why they will hold this grudge against you for the rest of their lives. They will never forget you. They will never stop thinking about you. They will try to move on with someone else but it's never going to be the same because deep down they know that whoever they're with is never going to value who they really are. They're only with them because of the false self. This character that they've created from watching other people or movies it has nothing to do with them. It's a fabrication and deep down they know it but no matter what they have to keep up the act. They have to make you and everyone else think that everything is better now even when it's not because the only thing that's more important to an narcissist than their happiness and satisfaction is their image and reputation and they will sacrifice their happiness. If it means that they can look good to other people so they will continue with their facade. They will continue with their deceptive outward appearance acting like everything is okay but just remember when you first met them how they acted like their lives are perfect and everything was going great for them but over time cracks began to show. You began to realize that their lives weren't so great after all. They had all of these problems and because they're so focused on their image and reputation they don't look within or self reflect they never take the opportunity to work on themselves they just continue living a lie acting as though everything's great just as they did when they first met you but nothing's changed since then it's still the same narcissist they're still chasing after something outside of themselves still depending on someone or something for their happiness or sense of well-being when no one can make us happy it didn't work with you and it's not going to work with anyone else because happiness is meant to come from within but the narcissist abandoned everything that they had within a long time ago which is why they have to use people to make them feel better about themselves which is why they have to post pictures on social media or use their flying monkeys to get reactions out of you because that's the only way that they can feel better about themselves but as I said before people who are abusive or innovative do not feel good about themselves that's why they do what they do when you've moved on the narcissist is still keeping tabs on you they're still making sure that they always know where you are and what you're doing they have to feel like they're in control of you because in their minds you still belong to them in their minds you're still their property even if they know that they can't come back they will still be lurking in the shadows watching everything that you do but because they don't reflect and realize that they've become the psychotic, crazed, obsessed stalkers they begin to think that maybe you haven't moved on now everything that you say or do everything that you're involved in makes some question whether they're still on your mind if maybe you haven't moved on even if they don't even cross your mind anymore narcissists are paranoid and hyper-vigilant and this is how they think they think that you're thinking about them even when you've moved on without them but as you may remember from when you were with them they are obsessive they can't let things go they are still obsessing over you and if you've moved on and you've become happier and more successful without them of course they wish they could come back they're always looking for a more fearable situation but if they know that you see through them they're not going to come back it would be humiliating for them to be around you when you've accomplished so much without them it reveals who the problem was in that relationship it reveals that they were holding you back from being your best self but they will never be happy they will never move on they will always be keeping tabs on you they will always be bitter and resentful and it just gets to a point where they begin to lose the only thing they ever really cared about their physical appearance their image and reputation and then even the superficial people who stayed around just for that will begin to fade away the majority of narcissists do not become successful and once they get to a certain age their behaviour is no longer accepted by the people around them they end up alone and miserable unless they can find a dormant to walk on but even that type of person wouldn't have any respect for them they can only exist around other fake people other people who ignore what's beneath the surface they have to avoid reality and peering in on what you're doing is the only opportunity they get to see what real life is really like but they never move on they're always watching you comparing their situation to yours they were never grateful or appreciative of you and they don't appreciate what they've got now they're always looking for something more and that is why they haven't moved on that is why they're still keeping tabs on you they're still trying to hold you back because the last thing they want to see is you moving on when they can't move on when someone has really moved on they will want you to move on but the narcissist is still holding a grudge they're still attached to you and they hate being attached to you especially when the thought of them doesn't even cross your mind anymore which is why they will continue watching you they will continue popping up in your life the thought of you will continue to preoccupy their minds continually until you travel an extent this is just what happens to the narcissist once you've moved on thank you for watching I hope this video wears it with you please like, comment, share and subscribe click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos check out the new Narx Fibre website at www.narxfibre.co.uk where you can read my blog posts, bug coaching sessions and join a support forum if you're allowed to donate my PayPal link is in the video description coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching at narxfibre.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon