 Ladies and gentlemen Tony gaskins here. Sorry about being a few seconds late. I was Finishing up a little something on the computer there Make sure I got everything going now listen to me Whoo, all right I'm in the south and I having some published chicken tonight and I got these icy hot patches on my back and And I don't know if it's the chicken or if it's the icy hot packages on my back but my stomach Feel like the Lord called me to a one hour tonight. I know I know I'm gonna do an hour and a half But I'm gonna see how I'm feeling at 59 minutes 59 seconds tonight cuz My stomach feeling a little Under the weather Alright now remember Put hashtag queue in front of your question put hashtag queue let me make sure I got my system set up over here In front of your question and in in the beginning of the session once y'all get in here try to keep The chat just for questions so I can see them y'all know I try to get to them as soon as possible and I'm wondering how do you feel about adjusting to change? If you can't adjust to change then Your life never changes for the better So you're gonna have to embrace the change because that's what's gonna make you How can I finally move on from a guy that I keep going back to and every time I go back I literally feel depressed. I've been in bed all day Now when it comes to depression, that's when you really gonna have to tap into counseling and therapy as well as coaching in addition to coaching But the issue is you got to get to the place where you ask yourself What do you want? Why do you want it so then you can understand? Why you keep going back because you can't complain about the situation if you keep choosing the situation So ain't nobody putting the gun to your head anybody forcing you to go back. So you choosing the pain and That's something that only you can change. Nobody can't help you with that You know that that's something you got to help yourself when we get the queen again. You know, I thought about that today having her come on here But typically when I go on here my sons they still up doing a thing So she still be you know with them, but to be honest with you. I'm not sure when she'll make it back I really got to kind of lean on her and I'm not sure if that's something she'll ever say Hey, I want to go back on live because again, you know, I try to tell y'all This ain't her calling. It's not she don't want to do this. This is what I'm called to So when she come to do Q&A a lot of times I have that I had to drag her What does playing hard to get look like to a man? Um When he could tell that you like them, but you faking like he called you on Monday You don't answer the phone. Did he call you on Tuesday and you answer That's what it looks like But you shouldn't play hard to get you got to be real you got to be authentic Let him pursue you but you've got to be really authentic when you play mind games Remember I talked about that in a woman's influence when we play mind games. Everybody loses So never play hard to get if you feeling the guy now when I say don't play hard to get I don't mean Get on your back. I don't mean get on your back. I mean be genuine You he called you you free answer the phone. He texted you holding your phone text them back So a lot of a lot of time we try to play games like oh, they text me. I'm making wait for hour That's how you end up playing yourself New day to see God bless you. It's nine months too early to get engaged ah Not really you you in the last quarter At the nine-month mark 12 months is ideal So when it comes to nine months, you got to look at it like this Do you need him for anything other than love and does he need you for anything other than love? If he needs you for citizenship if he needs you for a place to stay if he needs you for a ride to work If he needs you for a rebound to make his ex mad Then nine months is too early to get engaged if y'all don't need each other for nothing but love then y'all could be meant to be Tiffany Lane God bless you now. Mr. Gaston is about to end relationship boyfriend Potential husband who may have to roommate with male friend and Plus a female for finances good man boundaries being crossed in my opinion. I'm not comfortable thoughts Potential husband, I'll tell you this now I don't agree with that either a man should be able to live on his own before he looking for a girlfriend He shouldn't have to Live with a with a man and a woman. It's like where y'all live at Where do y'all live, California? You know, where do they work in and out burger? You know, I mean cuz it's like three of y'all got the split rent. Do you live in New York now? If y'all in New York or California, okay. All right, but He at least need to be trying to work to just him and the guy You know, but him a guy and a woman in there. Yeah, I feel your boundaries being crossed He need to be working on his money instead of working on, you know dating TT God bless you. It would be great to hear a parenting video from you and your wife. Hey, I Talked to about that now. I'll talk on up y'all ready for that now. Could we be doing some parenting? You hear me? Lot of y'all today didn't let y'all kid be yelling at y'all y'all kid be by cussing at y'all under they braille Hey, we be over here parenting. You hear me? He says he's a Christian we've been talking for a week and he hasn't talked much about God. Is that a red flag? No, not really, you know You can't be so heavenly minded that you know earthly good and I think sometimes with women y'all Very spiritual and your spiritual maturity may be higher than the man And so a lot of women y'all get with a guy and you want him to you know, walk up and hey How you doing? Shando like bless you bless you. You said I mean and he just coming to have a normal conversation But y'all be wanting to see the man speak in tongues and you know Pray extra long before the meal and he just want to be with you You know, so I talk about God, you know, I'm a Christian. I talk about God, but I Don't try to You know hit you across the head With the Bible, so it's just like is he doing anything in opposition to the word of God? That's where the red flag is If his lifestyle represent the word then that's fine Do men like to be chased at any point in time grown boys grown boys Grown men don't like to be chased a grown man want to do Decorating he wants to pursue and he just wants that woman to reciprocate with respect like a grown man Don't want to be chased. I see women shoot they shot and Chase a man and it's kind of like It's kind of like, you know, can you can you let the man come to you because The man is the one who has to get on one knee and say will you marry me? So a real man don't want no woman chasing him through tomorrow You know what the Lord told me you are my husband and I saw you in my dream No man really wants that a man want to see you Pursue you shoot his shot court you and what he wants is reciprocation He don't want to be chased not a grown man Yeah, God bless you now Year dating long distance. He is at the end of a divorce. We've seen one another three times He is a preacher but at the moment not preaching we ended up in bed and now I just feel awful He won't talk to me. Should I call him all the blame is on me. Yeah God bless God bless us Yeah, God bless God bless What girl you don't fail for the okie-dote girl. You don't fail for the okie-dote I'm tell you that man ain't no preaching That man not he's that man is not a preacher Okay He appreciate but he ain't preaching right now, but he got you in the bed on your bike He put you on your bike Then he blame you for his fornication It's all your fault. No, listen girl. You don't need to call him You need to run you need to lead his number and get down because you know why when the Lord come to deal with him You don't want to be sitting next to him When the Lord come to deal with him, you don't want to be sitting next to him because he's playing with the Lord You plan with the Lord going by your business girl Going by the business Why men rather have a woman that treats them badly than a woman that would treat them right? I don't know what kind of man you talking about miss J. God bless you now I don't know what kind of man you talking about What kind of man you talking about talking about a grown boy tonight Y'all got to understand the difference between a grown boy and a grown man. All right. All right now Thoughts on child's father Miss. Angel bless you now thoughts on child's father texting kids Rarely FaceTime them or call them all text isn't that odd hiding his life, huh? Thanks for your input It ain't that he's hiding his life. It's more so he just kind of detached some men were raised so cold They don't know how to be warm. So when he talked to his kids if he FaceTime his kids He have to confront his failure. He got to look his failure in the eyes because he's saying I'm not in your life I'm not in the home with you. I wasn't man enough to make that relationship work I laid down with your mama but I couldn't be mad enough to make that relationship work and and he got a Face that and them looking at them like man, why are you a weekend daddy? So that could be bothering him and some men can't face that so they'll rather just text and so But it ain't necessarily hiding his life unicorn car bless you now, Tony I feel like this is a silly question, but I'm going on a first date with a guy I really like Should I go with the flow and follow his lead or give myself a time frame? Thanks It's not a silly question. You should give yourself a time frame, but don't let him know the time frame So in your mind you go on a date and then you say look, I'm gonna get this guy 30 days to see and I'm evaluated at 30 days. You do the same at 60. You do the same at 90 at a 90 day It's time to let go if he have not said hey, I really like you I want us to be exclusive and I would would you be my girlfriend if you talking to a man every day now if y'all talking once a week Okay, it's gonna take you forever And that's a waste of time anyway because the man who wants you he trying to reach you with it But he trying to reach you every day if he really want you and by that 90-day mark He know at least if he want to be your boyfriend, so understand that right there now and So give yourself a timeline always give yourself a timeline don't go with no flow because you go with the flow You'll be in a rip current Like this you'll be in a rip current So don't go with no flow you you have to have a timeline and you got to know where you're going Hold on now. I missed somebody question up here now. Hold on. Hold on. Let me see. Okay, Tuki. All right, Tuki I'm trying online dating. He wants to meet up when we've only been talking for a day I'm not ready yet. Am I wrong? No, no, you're not wrong, Tuki You ain't wrong y'all been talking today You ain't wrong you need to talk at least 10 hours But I mean by that that's 10 one-hour conversations Or if it's two hours three hours, you need to get at least 10 hours Where you really could feel this man's spirit because he right now a man who've been talking to you one day He want to meet up with you That's Ted Bundy nephew That on that right now. That's Ted Bundy nephew brother ain't got ain't got time brother. Ain't gonna do it Ain't gonna be to do it brother a man. I've been seeing two years now is Talking to someone else when I confronted him. He said he's not ready to commit and he doesn't know what he wants He says he doesn't deserve a relationship a Brandy listen to him listen to him. Let him go you gave him two years of your life That's too much. There's two years that you will never get back. Okay? That's two years You could have been white water rafting. You could have been skydiving. You could have been an outfly You could have been that top golf that's two years You didn't gave him of your life that you will never get back. Listen. He told you he's not ready to commit alright All right, well, it was great talking to you and It saddens me to hear what you are saying, but you know, it is what it is. So Have a nice life Hang up and then pick the phone back up and block his number block in them and go on by to like I see a man like that What do you want to do is keep you as friend with benefits? He'll be flipping and tossing you give me he'll be flipping and tossing in the thing about it. Yeah The little dirty the little dirty he bringing you he bringing you dirty From the other woman that he friends with benefits and and then when you crying and you hurting He will say I told you he'll say I told you ain't want to commit and then you'll say you you know what? Then you'll end up blaming yourself Miss William God bless you not a question I'm just about finished reading make it work and have learned so much about myself and what to look forward to in my next Relationship. Thank you, Tony. Hey, God bless you. No God bless you kitty. I want to break up now. Bless you. I want to break up with cheating boyfriend How do I tell him without sounding that his infidelity is Affecting me. What can I do to help me heal my heart? It's Alright, it's alright to sound like his infidelity is affecting you He need to know his infidelity is affecting you he need to come to terms with the damage that he's done in your life So it's okay to tell him it's okay to let him know that you hurt It's okay to feel because in order to heal you got a feel so What you're trying to do is counterintuitive because you're saying how can I heal my heart? But at the same time you say how can I do this without showing feelings? So in order to heal you have to admit that you feel so if you are afraid to cry if you're afraid to express that hurt Then you won't be able to heal so you got to do that now gather yourself You don't necessarily need to be enough, you know snot not the nose and you Know You know you want to be able to go in there and you may have a tear streaming to where he could see a tear and You say, you know, this really hurts me. It really hurts me and I just I've never saw this coming But I'm gonna have to let you go You know, you could do it like that and you may have a cup of tear streaming But you want to gather yourself so that you not you know snot not the nose and things of that nature And you also could write a letter you also could send a long text message You also could do a voice memo something that he get to see over and over and over and really get that and understand that But and then after you do that, it just come down to one foot in front of the other one foot in front of the other Go to Tony gasses Academy comm. I got a course on when to let go I got a course on breaking soul ties got a course on healing your heart So we got hold all the courses you need that you self-directed go with your own pace Tony gasses Academy comm and just do the work Tashi God bless you. Can you break a soul tie while being committed to someone else? First you got to understand soul ties not really broken. They're weakened, you know, they're weakened but It's a little it's a little tough because if you thinking about a soul tie and you realize you have a soul tie and you Understand soul ties, but you with somebody else. It means that you didn't heal before you deal So it's gonna be a look the water gonna be a little muddy and you may struggle a little bit there So but yes, it is possible But you need to be doing the work reading the books taking the course is getting the coaching Let me raise my chair Raise my chair. I got my new chair now the chair look now I'll see the little chair got my new chair supposed to be good for your bike but uh So y'all can see what y'all need to go to get coaching Uh, jane and I'm up here I should kill on the other chair Uh, jane god bless you god bless you Tony the lord revealed to me today What you mean when you say to become love? I've been blessed through you I'm excited for what god has for you. Hey god bless you. Not your name Oh lord Rain down on me already god bless you. Hi Tony been in a relationship for over a year now We have both been married before have not talked about our past marriages need to discuss Is this a red flag? Thanks for your wisdom Yeah, that's sort of a red flag I mean because when when you get to know somebody you've been in relationship for over a year And y'all ain't talking about y'all ex That's that's a little bit of red flag now that's but The reason being is because that's your relationship resume now You ain't got to get deep down In the weeds of it, but you know just at least understanding like so What was the breakdown of the of your past relationship? You know, what have you learned from it? I'm over here in the 64 and Paula now y'all got to forgive me now All right. I'm in the 64. Hold on. I'm gonna get the chair right Okay So you got to be able to talk and really understand what did y'all learn from that, you know, what did And and you could hear if he lying. Oh, it was all her. She just would come home and You know, I would be sitting on the couch and she just blow boogers on me And it's like every single day and I just got fed up You'll be able to tell if he's lying on her if he just throwing everything on her or if he says I asked somebody the other day in a coaching session Well, why did he get a divorce and her answer that he gave her was very realistic You know that the gentleman admitted to his fault and the things he's done wrong And that's kind of what you want to be able to hear because it lets you know that he's honest and he's genuine So you kind of need that Breathe Phillips. God bless you my twin brother got angry Through his wedding ring and never replaced it. What do you think he's going through? A little bit of everything he going through a little bit of everything he he he needed life coach To be honest with you. So that's your twin brother If you can afford it, I would ask him say hey, you know, bro I want to help you out man. We all need somebody to talk to I got a life coach We all need somebody to talk to I'll sponsor your first session two sessions four sessions Whatever you can afford you go to my mentor dot life find a coach that's around 25 to 45 hours an hour And and bless him, you know sign him up put his email in there So the confirmation goes to his email and help him because he may not want to tell you everything he's going through Rob John. God bless you now. I just want to say keep Pursuing your vision and may your empire expand even more. God bless you. Tony Gaskins for president. Hey, God bless you Rob John music. Hey, I might have to run one day now I have to run If the president made it who in now all of us can make it Sarah God bless you my boyfriend 56 of eight months broke up with me 38 over argument his lady friend showing up unannounced I sent a long heartfelt email. I regret I regret sounding desperate No word from him in three weeks over What's he? That's the thing. That's a that's the answer. That's the question you got to answer Is it over? now I'm gonna tell you It need to be over Because for one like I'm told y'all before you gotta stop dating your daddy classmate That's your daddy classmate. Okay, if I'm reading right he 56 you 38 That's your daddy classmate You like you y'all you can't go to the family barbecue Because your daddy's gonna be on come black classmate. What's going on man? What you what you doing? My daughter you see what I'm saying So when a man that old and I'm gonna tell you like this right here when a man is that age You can't play no games. Like if he doing foolish stuff at 56, it's like You're not bro. You're not 26, bro. You're not 36 Where you is 56 that's supposed to be a smooth sell You mean that's supposed to be a nice cruise control relationship at 56 And so listen what you have to be appreciative of is that he then showed you true colors Within eight months anytime you could escape within a year. That's you're doing good. You got to take them. You got to go You got to take that and you got to go Hey, now the the moderators trying to keep only questions They trying to keep only questions in the chat. So when I get back to the chat, I could just see questions So when y'all see stuff get deleted okay Then you know, that's why they're just trying to keep it clear um Natural cj. God bless you. They ain't they ain't trying to be mean. They're just trying to keep it clear for me Natural cj. Hey, Tony. I'm in my early 20s. I just wanted to send a small blessing for putting some of us young women on gang early on I really appreciate the wisdom. Hey, God bless you. Not naturally cj. God Let Queen heart that's not it's caused from different numbers because he's blocked Always look for me and talk a good game, but don't go the extra mile as an emotionally Intelligent man with action. No real men in his life. How can I break the cycle? Well, the beyond switcher when it comes down to a situation like that you got to ask yourself Do you really want to break the cycle? Because it's a way that you could word it that He'll let you know It's a way you could word it That he'll I mean he'll let you go. It's a way you could word that he'll go on about his business Now the way you word it is a way that says I'm faking like I'm done with you But I really want you to keep calling me from these different numbers because it makes me feel special Make me feel like I'm The jump and you chasing me so it actually kind of feel a little good So that's what the signal you send on what you got to realize is men read The unsaid men hear what you're not saying So a man could feel your energy when you say it The way you know how to say it that let him know you're all the way done He's gonna leave you alone And if he won't leave you alone, then you got to call them boys in blue You got to call them boys in blue because with the world we living in Nobody won't deal with them boys in blue now because They ain't what you want because them guys are a lot of them. They ain't stable So when you let them know listen you keep calling me I'm gonna have restraining order on you Then he started to get the picture and because sometimes a man not gonna stop Until he knows it's real grade consequences What does a man mean when he says a woman is complicated and hard to please and he never spent any money on the woman It it depends up to the man, you know, it basically basically what it means in manglish is You ain't worth all you think you're worth So i'm about to let your butt go And you're gonna have to deal with it. So take what I give you get what you get don't picture fit You want more than what i'm giving you you ain't worth all that That's essentially what he telling you in manglish. So if a man say that go about your business. That's not your husband Miss angel god bless you now God bless i'm glad you got that one Marie Renee bless you now if a man is wrong and knows he's wrong but refuses to apologize Does he at least feel bad about what he did wrong? Uh, well, not really not really he don't feel bad enough He don't feel bad enough. So you got to understand that right there Um, I think I've got a video that called five signs He loves you a five signs that know a man is in love and I think one of them is he apologizes If a man can't apologize if he can't swallow his pride and come and apologize He's not in love He's not in love because but when a man falls in love, that's when he gets over his ego Wendy god bless you now. Tony. I started dating a childhood friend Known since kindergarten who recently lost his parents and siblings suddenly He's pulling away. Should I stay? Well, that's a tough one What I would say is, you know, you know him You know him, but you know, I don't know him. You know him So that's a lot. That's a whole lot to go through. He lost his parents and siblings. That's a whole lot You know and these real people these people you love these the closest people to you so In that I would give it a timeline Now here's the thing Don't get trashed out that don't mean be as punching bag verbally physically emotionally That don't mean be as punching bag Be there for him. Support him. Give him space if he asks for space. Don't don't hoard over him Don't bombard him with questions. Don't try to force yourself on him But don't allow that to be an excuse to drag you through the mud Because when a man is hurting He wants to actually draw closer He may take a little break But typically it won't be more than a week, you know week Two weeks max and that's just if he just a different type of dude Typically he just want to sit there and look sad and cry and you know go through the Things and but he won't that love he wants that sympathy. He wants to have his back rub, you know, he want to Get a little comfort food, you know He wants some attention Because nobody just want to sit in the corner and sulk and and be sorrowful by themselves So may want a little break, but understand don't allow A man will take a situation like that and if you let it he'll use it to his advantage and he'll milk it But because that's a very serious one You got to give him some time because he's gonna feel that he's gonna feel that but you'll you'll be able to tell If it cross over into okay Now he's trying to tell me something else Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom. Keep it coming. Oh, yeah. God bless you now Do I need to create a new social media page for my life coaching following or use my private page? Um, it shouldn't be a private page if you're a life coach as life coach, you're gonna have to have a public page um You don't have to be a new one, but you need to make it public Your definition of a do-girl A do-girl is a woman who she She She doesn't have standards for herself. She doesn't have stipulations. She don't hold a man accountable She just she on her back She on her back. She she let the man use her. She he could live off her. He could use her car He could live with her not pay bills You know, he could use her credit. She invested in his little hair brain skin helping him build his studio in the closet You know, so he could work on his rap career at 49 and a half That's a do-girl. You know a woman who is not a do-girl. She's gonna have standards. She gonna have some Stipulations for this man. He gonna have to bring something to the table other than his mouth and a fork and an appetite so The do-girl just kind of Do whatever just to have a warm body What does a guy mean when he says that we're stuck with each other In manglish what that means is that You looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him You you look like boo boo the fool Broke busted and disgusted towed up from the floor That he knows no matter what he does you're not going anywhere because you don't love yourself enough to leave That's what that mean in in manglish Uh, baby black queen we broke up shy of a year ago And he was already back with his baby mama a couple months after we broke up Together for two plus years. Why didn't he leave sooner if that's what he wanted instead of leading me on Um together two plus. Well, it's not necessarily. That's what he wanted That could be what's comfortable And because he has a soul tie with her he has a child with her She could be his rebound. She could be his hold me down So that might not be what he wants that could be the comfortable place That's like the pit stop like you you running your you you and your NASCAR racing in when you need your ties fix You go to the pit stop. She could be his pit stop. She could be his convenience store She could be his halfway house. She could be his shelter. So it ain't necessarily that that's what he want But um, you know, you can't try to wrap your mind around grown boy moves You never understand the way a grown boy moved completely Hey, Tony just started chatting with a guy. He's consistent with his communication and initiates phone calls and texts But he's already calling me babe and baby should I address this to him? Well, you know You got to feel the room. You know what I mean? You got to take the temperature in the room and You got to know how you really feel about that. Now me that is a red flag. That's a red flag It's kind of it. Honestly. It's it's harmless I honestly is harmless It's really what a lame guy does when I say lame guy not no disrespect But what I say, that's kind of what guys who never really had women do Or or they got women for other reasons like they money or they funny or you know something like that, but A ladies man or man who Had could get the woman that he wants Don't go around throwing, you know, baby terms of endearment that early because He want to make you work for that term He don't want to put you on the pedestal so you could be looking down at him He want to kind of come in even playing field and build with you. So really it's kind of harmless it's more so kind of you know Certain kind of guy do that but So if you address it, it's kind of he's the type of guy that probably get offended and never talk to you again Because you really hurt his feelings. So you kind of got to look at it. Is this like a perverty thing or is this kind of like He just don't really know his way around women that much, you know, because You know If he a little looks challenged or if he not a little ugly But which he probably not look ugly because you probably would have said that but you know So Really decide how much it means to you Kiki god bless you god bless you and your ministry, tony I applaud you for being a shepherd to us women and guiding us out of the fog of confusion. You are appreciated Ty god bless you now god Lord bless you. Hi tony How can women tell the difference between a man playing games and a man who is just inadequate? um That's that's one in the same You know, that's one in the same because a man who Well, it's not really one in the same but a man who is inadequate He already knows that he's inadequate So instead of playing games he more so is going to try to Introduce you to his representative He's going to try to be something that he's not he's going to try to live up to your standard So it's not one the same but a man playing games. You're going to recognize the game when you see it So you don't have to really think about that one. You don't have to really be Wrecking your brain on is he playing games? You know, you you could really if it looked like a game sound like a game feel like a game. It's a game And then that also means he is inadequate, but it's caveats and nuances to inadequate So one type of inadequate is he's a dog. He's a player. He's a womanizer. The other type of inadequate is He don't have a job yet. He don't have his car yet. You know, he's not where he wants to be But he talking to you and you got all your stuff together. So You got to decide which one it is is it A a y'all now I might only do an hour tonight now. Okay, so that's 25 minutes from now I got to check because I'm gonna have their public fried chicken tonight I don't know if it that chicken. I don't know Is it a good idea to let my best friend and her husband set me up with one of his friends? They've been married 15 years. We've all been friends since high school. He's in the military good friend of his well, um It's a warm leap So that means that he may try to treat you a little better because Of how he was connected to you But that is not a foolproof move So you got to realize that if it doesn't work out things could be very awkward when he gets out of the military And they want to have a house party get together with y'all mask and hand sanitizer And he's he over there, but y'all don't broke up. So now it's like do you not go? Does he not go? So it's it's really a type of thing and where you kind of want to vet him From a distance you want to try to see if you could pull his relationship resume check his relationship credit You know, see how many baby mamas he got how many relationships he done been in Look at his aesthetics high weight Completion all your little preferences that you have see how close he come to what you envision him looking like Kind of do some deductive reasoning, you know And and really see if this when you assess the risk Does it make sense to take that chance because if it don't work out Then that'll take in, you know Go crazy Tim can you watch Ralph? What do you think of his advice? No, I can't watch nobody. I ain't got time to be watching nobody else Give advice and then critiquing They advice they advice Tim. So Tim you might be Ralph And he'll try to get your name trying to get your name in On my channel, we won't promote Nobody that ain't met personally because there's so many wolves in sheep clothing That and I've been out here so long And and been around here you hit me I don't I don't promote people unless I don't sat with them. I don't talk to them I don't felt their spirit Because I'm a shepherd and I take what I do serious a lot of people they do Collaborations and they do all that they link up for money because they say hey, we link up We can make more money man. We could go on tours man We can make so much money But they don't know what the person sitting next to them do Behind closed doors. So I got to meet somebody talk to them shake their hand look them in the eyes Watch their lifestyle before you hit me Say their name You hit me so hey if you won't hit nine Don't ask me about what nobody else doing because all I know about what Tony gassing called to do Nail god bless you went on the went on a date Guy and I Went on a date with a guy. Okay, you look left of the world out there And it went amazing He seemed very into me He texted me the day after and said I caught him off guard And didn't feel he was ready to date and felt confused. What should I think? Nail just believe him and just gone about your business. Okay, just believe him and gone about your business They say hey, okay. Thank you so much for being honest with me It was a great time and I wish you the best just gone by your business. Okay, because What that really means you really don't want to know and you really don't need to know and it really don't matter And it's not going to make your life any better Miss love god bless you left my child's father 36 Let my child far. Okay. Okay. My bad. I added an F in there on you I'm so used to y'all leaving y'all child father So I added an F on there Let my child father 36 stay with me in february due to him getting on dialysis And sleeping in his new car He has a job pays child support not romantic doesn't give anything For him staying when asked when he was leaving he got mad um Yeah, that's a tough one right there now What I would do on the good side of things is he paid child support Okay, he paid child support. He may think that's him paying his part paying his rent Now now also he on dialysis And he was sleeping in the car. So one thing you can ask yourself is how long Does he have to live? Now if you could live forever with dialysis then You need to sit down one day on a quiet cool calm day and remember the time of peace you prepare for war So you sit down and you talk to him and say hey, we're gonna have to do something with this living arrangement I don't want to upset you or anything like that because But you know, we're not together and this is just not a good look because I'm trying to live my life and move on with my life and I'm sure you want to do the same So have a conversation with him and give him a timeline if he get mad And grab his machine grab a dialysis machine and leave. All right. Okay. Bye And look, this is he's a grown man. You know, he's a grown man to take care of himself So if he could work a job and he made good money, like you say you work a good job Then he could go find somewhere to stay If he got to go to the motel six and just pay nightly 40 dollars a night He could do what he got to do he a grown man So unless he's completely like disabled can't do nothing, but you say you work a good job So and then he living in your house and then got the nerve to get an attitude when you when you ask him Hey, how long are you gonna be here? He got the nerve to get an attitude. Oh Oh, you got to take your machine and go buddy. If you got to get out if you're gonna get an attitude in my house You get an attitude with your machine So, you know, you got to have a real conversation. Well, hi Tony and family just another blessing. Thanks for all you do. Hey bless you Now bless. I miss somebody Unless it's Todd bless you. Can you expect a good man to fall in your lap? Um, if you lap ready if you you know if you sitting pretty Meaning you've been working on the three bees brain brain body You've been working on the three bees. You're doing what you need to do Because when you're doing what you need to do working on three bees, that means you're sitting pretty And when I mean sitting pretty, I don't talk about looks or aesthetics. I mean you ready Your wife ready and yeah, that's when you're gonna bump into a good man Miss china dog. God bless you new guy never talks about his job How do I ask him his job status? How important is it for him to be employed? It's very important for him to be employed And if he's not employed, he need to be doing 10 applications a day He need the Indeed.com need to be his middle name. What's your name? John indeed.com Johnson That need to be his middle name. He need to be on Every time you call him. Hold on. He take a I'm on zoom during the interview During the zoom interview. He need to have his mash ready So now if he don't talk about a job, it could be drug dealing or scamming So you want to look a little close and just see if he got money Because if he got any money, but he ain't talking about no job. All right All right, then you got a issue Got a issue Ava stone. God bless you doing no contact after breaking up with x He has been calling and randomly sending me money on cash out. He never did this before. Do I respond? Um, no, you're doing no contact So what you got to do is have a time period now the longest you should do no contact If you plan on getting back together is two weeks 14 days. That's the longest you should do no contact There are no breaks in relationships So 14 days, that's the longest you could have if you go more than 14 days, y'all broke up You see what I'm saying? Y'all broke up. So understand that right there Understand that right there Kiki god bless you now I saw a share Uh deleted Tim And if you got to get deleted twice, you're about to get blocked All right, y'all know play with that block button now Say and get the behind me Better go on somewhere All right block Chain money ain't got time I seen share had the block had the hot block got to go Chain mine ain't got time I'm gonna put you in time. I block Is it weird that my friend who I've been talking to for the last year will virtually meet my parents? 31 Divorced mom of two year old Long distance one year never met moving close to him for a job um No, that ain't weird if a man willing to your friend Willing to meet your parents virtually That mean he willing to take on some risk because Nobody really want to have a witness of breaking somebody's heart so it's kind of It's a good thing, but at the same time now You've been talking to him. So you know him do you if you sense any sabbage in him? Then you getting ready to get Dead nasty, but if he seemed like an overall good guy from everything, you know, then That could be a good thing because me and typically don't want to meet parents if they don't plan on at least trying to do the right thing Andrea god bless you. I just wanted to drop a small blessing. You're helping me through my singleness You're making it cool to be a good man. I hope guys are ghost watching. God bless you and your family. Hey, thank you Now god bless you now God bless you. Hey, um Moderators y'all could take a break y'all could take a break moderators y'all could rest the night Unless somebody coming here crazy now saying some crazy like how share had to get butt up out of here which probably Could have been buddy himself that he was asking about or it could have been a woman using a man name But um y'all could take a break moderate because i'm only gonna be on here 14 more minutes now I got to go out. I'm only on here an hour tonight now. All right Because hey, the chicken ain't sitting right on me. Let's learn. God bless you, Tony Have you heard of a twin flame? A man told me I was He said it's stronger than a soul mate Um, I've heard of it, but I've never looked it up to see what that is. Um I've never looked it up. I really ain't got I don't want to have to open my computer right now To look that up, but I I hear people keep asking me about that But I look it up. But like I tell y'all it's so many terms out there people making up Oh Tony have you um, you know what now they have a Sanitizer love And what this means is it's a love that purifies you from inside out and it protect you from COVID-19 and so it's just so many terms get made up and it's really just somebody who you know they were looking to Give a term to their situation ship So he's just throwing stuff out there. It's like, okay twin flame. All right. Let me show you. Let let me see how hot you are Okay, let let me see How hot your ambition is. Let me see some flaming Courting let me see some flaming chivalry twin flame. Let me see some flaming truth and honesty. You see what I mean That's that's all that that let me see that Versus this terminology that somebody's gonna put on google Candice god bless you. Why would a man who doesn't have any kids leave a woman with no kids? For a woman with two kids. He has his own house car and job um, well Because see them to the man it don't matter about the kids it matter about the woman So a woman could have a football team of kids. You see what I mean? A woman can have a football team of kids if that man want that woman You hit me if that man want that woman He's finna be uh, what's that man name that coach the Patriots? I don't forgot the man name Bill Pellecek. Bill Pellecek. You hit me She could have a football team. All right 42 on hut Everybody line up. Come on. Hey catch your chicken. Hey Catch your chicken. Hey get your biscuit. Get your bitch. You see what I'm saying? He finna Hey, baby, you know how I was thinking. I'm finna turn them off a Sadie Benz and get us a Mercedes Sprinter A 12 seater for you and the kids it really come down to the one He don't care how many kids she got if he won't hook because all he think about All right Then what do you think about? If she look good And she could do this That's exactly the way he wanted to be IRS es god bless you now. Thanks tone. Just trying to bless you in fan All right Y'all be giving me uh donations that I seen it's a irs I had her up and see that es on there. I'm like, I'm the YouTube I told irs on here. Somebody didn't give me donation So irs es iris. Hey god bless you now Coach broon bless you should a woman date a guy who uses derogatory language on social media um I wouldn't recommend it because A man social media show you who? Show you a lot about him. Makayla, right? God. Let's let's show you a lot about him So he natched on that social media, you know, he using potty mouth It's like it's it's one thing to be nasty mouth in your house But when you nasty mouth on the on the line online Now you now you now you got a lot going on Gina i'm big on giving people sincere compliments. Is it possible to over compliment a man? Even though it's always genuine um If it's genuine Then it's not possible to over compliment him if it's genuine Because see words of affirmation is one of dr. Gary Chapman love languages And words of affirmation is a love language. So actually the more you compliment a person the more they like you Now what you have to be careful of is that you don't compliment a person then let them get over on you and you sit there Looking like a duck stuck in a truck So you could give a compliment, but then when he try you Got to go you see what i'm saying? So what happens is when you compliment this man, you actually You're endearing yourself to him and so That um winters lily god bless you. All right now. I got nine more minutes y'all got nine more minutes now nine more minutes I got to go cuz I feel like the chicken might have about digest, but i'm gonna keep my word now So i'm gonna be on here an hour. I got to go gotta go Watch and i'll feel like look at my wife and her face tonight Watch and my god bless you now now amber if you see her picture and you see her haircut When you go on my mentor dot life and you click browse coaches or hire a coach You'll see amber on there amber is a coach on my mentor dot life So y'all make sure you go book a session with her now go book a session with her Your videos have changed my life. Thank you For your obedience to your calling. I'm a life coach on my mentor and specifically dealing with herpes and Healing is taking place. You've also motivated me to start my youtube. God bless you now start your youtube Start your youtube now. Amber is is a herpes coach and she's helping people who have Who've contracted herpes? I have a lot of clients who have the virus or the std and it's It's very common, you know in our world today and People Get it and don't know what to do with it. So at we got all kind of coaches on my mentor dot life. Okay We've got divorcee coaches We've got coaches who help parents raising children with autism We've got coaches who help people who deal them with, you know STDs Got all kind of coaches on there. And so y'all y'all make sure That you work with Amber and she coached on a couple other categories too that are blessing the weaver god bless you but uh Alexa talk god bless i'm sitting pretty but i'm in my late 30s. I desire to be married but In a previous message you mentioned something to the effect of not dating if you have a child Less than five years old. Why son is two separated from x one year ago No, unless it's you not sitting pretty because you got a child on the fire And you just separated from your ex one year ago. They ain't sitting pretty. Okay so Because see what you got to realize when you're when when your child under five They can't fully articulate. So imagine. Yes, your boyfriend come over there your child two years old Your child go to sleep that man thumping your child in the air thumping them all in the back of the head Your baby wake up And he don't know That his stepdaddy don't care. None form shop better tell your mama and That's too young. You see what i'm saying and men You can't trust men. You can't trust women Around your child your baby be trying to eat his chicken that man thrown in the middle back of the head He walking through the litter one and man sticking his foot out that baby tripping You see what I mean? So I know this because i'm a life coach. I'm dealt with this and so Do not date till your child five years old and it's audible If your child is not audible if you have special needs child and your child is not audible then You need to have to wait even longer before you date and when you do date You got to put nanny cams up in every corner of your house. You got to have nanny cams if your child is not audible Trust me when I tell you because people out here is crazy and don't nobody care about your child The government don't even care about your child. You hear me your child Of the other parent be barely caring by the child. You see what i'm saying? So a stranger ain't gonna care about your child So listen to what i'm telling y'all now That's what i'm telling you now. I'll be coaching on this stuff Tony god bless you. Oh my home. Okay five minutes. I got five minutes now. I got to go y'all lord only call me to an hour tonight Tony thanks for guiding us Tony my early 20 still feel like a baby. It's a lot to take in a god bless you get your Notepad when you come on here get your notepad now Because we taking we teaching real lessons on here get your notepad Sherry god bless your husband Locked up again due to wrong choices from under the influence. He said he's tired wants me to bail him out I won't but How to know he's serious and wants to change what sign should I look for? um Well, I'll tell you what look for the sign When they let them out of there Okay, what I mean by that is let them sit in there The best thing you could do for him and let them sit in there Let them sit in there and make sure he ain't crazy because if he come out and he's crazy now I get you restraining or because if you want to come out and put hand because you even want to bail or my Make sure you have your paper ready. But listen to me. Don't bail no grown man. I Let him bail it self out with good behavior Serving the time go to go talk to the judge. Don't bail them out now. Do not bail them out Let me see what you said Or this your husband. Wow So you done married wrong Lord bless you Let them sit in there because see when he's sitting down in the walls In that cell behind them bar. That's where the lord could talk to a man That well possible was in jail So possible wrote 13 books of the bible in jail, so Let your husband sit in there. He might become modern day puzzle Paul Let him sit right on in there Sicily Taylor god bless you my guy will not address anything that concerns me about our relationship I don't feel we spend enough time together on off days and I'm ready to leave unrestless Go ahead and leave Go ahead and leave. I understand this right here It's not your job to hold on to a boyfriend If a boyfriend ain't ain't showing up and showing up he ain't doing what he's supposed to let him go That's what dating is about. That's what dating is about. That's a that's a quick turnaround when you date You you you need to death do us a part when you date Though sorry man. Don't want to put no time. All right Got to go got to go I'll see you later. You see what I'm saying. You got to go I'm out here block I got to go Nikki god bless you are blessed and have two kids with x He put the bar before us and was not consistent Proposed to get me back now says he may have jumped the gun and we are not ready but still calls In situations like that, I go and cut them on off I go and cut them on off put them on the child support That way he had less money for that bill And more money for that child support and I wouldn't let a man keep coming running in and out your life telling you lies Getting you to get back in there and then you know pulling back All right, so I'm getting ready to go now. It's awesome to hear all these different questions and better with answers. God bless you Now I'm glad you're on here listening All right. Let me see I'm gonna wrap on up now. Let me cut this here off Cut this here off Alexandria, thank you for that blessing now Now y'all listen now. I kept you know what I'm hearing tonight y'all really got to have You got to put a door in your life, okay And with this hit door it got to have a lock on it And you got to be willing to close the door and lock it see You can't have no revolving door The where you keep letting your ex come in and out your life in and out your life while you standing still Look like who shot John and forgot to kill So you have to come to a point to where you have to realize the human brain is set up To grow and to adapt. That's how we learn how you think babies learn how to talk learn how to walk That's how the brain is developed. That's how we learn how to use this here Phone to be on this here chat the type the spell That's the human brain learns And it grows and it adapts So when you're dealing with a human Who is not using their brain for you? To grow to learn and to adapt you got to let go You've got to let go do not hold on to somebody That's not trying to hold on to you and see what you got to do is you got to picture this Imagine somebody walking right and they going this way Okay, and you got a soul tie. It's the soul tie And you hanging on but they're not hanging on to you So they ain't pulling you up. You just hanging on. So what's going to happen? You hanging on You just getting drug all across the microphone You getting drug all through the mud all through the dirt through the asphalt and they just gone by their business You said, I mean, that's what you got the picture when you hold it on to somebody giving them a chance But they're not trying to do better. They're not trying to grow. They're not trying to get better They just dragging you along through the mud if a person ain't holding on to you Let them go Let them go so you can grow. Let them go so they can grow And that's how your life changed for the better because it is not rocket science. It don't take A person years and years and years To figure you out to learn you and to learn how to love you and treat you with respect and honesty and loyalty and trust That don't take years One year two years max And they already know Hey, so get that lesson in your spirit and you know, stop playing booboo the fool and love yourself Love yourself on another level Hey God bless y'all. I really appreciate you shout out to my um Moderators to the moderators on here I see coach share and um Mama tish now some of the moderators. I think uh, maybe mama tish Um, some of the moderators are coaches on my mentor. That life. I don't know if share on there I think caramel kisses on there. I don't think I seen caramel kisses on here tonight yet I ain't really get the glen rocks. I don't know if glen rocks make up a coach on there But y'all find some of the coaches on my mentor. That life I mean some of the moderators in book a session with them now and um Now all the coach on my mentor. That life. I found at the site a lot of them took my coaching certification A lot of them did not take my certification. They took another certification. So I don't I'm not stamping any of the coaches Okay, they own them If they turn out to be crazy All right between you and them. All right, so But uh, come to me because they don't work for me All and when you book a coach the money go directly to them. It's just a facilitating site. It ain't it ain't a Agency it ain't the tony gas and agency is just Just like y'all be on match calm and booty calm and All the tender and all that My mentor is matchmaking for coaches to clients mentors to clients. Okay So understand that now god bless and if you're ready to become a coach Make sure that you go to tony guysonacademy.com You ready to become a mentor or a coach take the certification While it's 20 off it's 20 off right now. You'll need a coupon code. It's just set at that time uh All right, annie k done jumping in here. All right, annie. Yes. It's too late. We passed an hour Let me answer any question and we got to get going now, annie You need to be on your own time, annie Just got on hope it's not too late. How to get a man to forgive you after saying sorry Listen to me annie if he don't forgive you go about your business Because one thing you don't want to do Is be with a man that won't forgive you because that man that won't forgive you He's gonna make you pay the price over and over and over One of the boys made an album that say god forgives. I don't typically men don't forgive Typically men don't forgive in order for a man to forgive you. He got to have that bible He got to have that bible if he don't know nothing about that holy bible go on about your business Go on about your business because you finna be He finna be when you are just living and talking Yes, every week just dog. We got look just like uh the entanglements When the man told The entangle I'ma get your bike I'ma get your bike. That's how men are. They be serious. They're gonna get your bike now So be careful. Hey god bless you. We'll talk soon Lord, wouldn't I get to do a video tomorrow? But hey the bar I'm going somewhere to bless myself tomorrow. I don't show y'all when I try to treat myself to a little something I don't show y'all because it's always spirits in them Oh So that's what you're doing with the blessed tribe donations That 499 I gave you was my last 499 And you went and treated yourself. So that's gonna be showing y'all I be wanting to do me a little vlog on my little old school calls And I'm like, man, nobody's gonna be happy for you. Hey god bless y'all. We'll talk soon