 I'm not out here trying to ruin careers. You know what I'm saying for fun? These dudes got daughters. They got to provide I get that I respect that I just appreciate truth and I don't like getting jerked around Leon Lush is going to go down in history as one of the best interrogators of all time But in this video, we're gonna talk about not how to catch a predator, but how to catch a bs-er Is everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health And what I like to do is pull different topics that's going on in the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional Well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and Yeah, the mental health topic today is like how do you deal with someone who's constantly lying to you or bs-ing you? right like I actually live streamed Leon's interview with This is a Parker Parker. I think Leon actually called him Carter at some point But Parker from luxury pranks, which is this like to catch a predator style channel, right? And and yeah, like Leon interviewed him. I'm like, oh my god, like this is just brutal Like Leon has the patience of a saint like I was streaming it and I was asking my My audience like whoever was watching I'm like, do you have anybody in your life who just? Constantly lies to you and they constantly bs you they constantly think they're getting away with it and a lot of people in the chat said yes I'm like, okay. Well, that's a good topic like that affects our mental health If you have somebody in your life who was constantly lying to you like we need to talk about it Like that's something that we need to talk about so in Leon's video Talking to Parker like that that was a weird interview man That was really weird like I'm gonna link it down in the description. It's like an hour long He also talked to someone named Charlotte who made another video about luxury pranks But anyways, like it was mostly him talking to this guy Parker and it was just weird Like it was hard to tell if somebody was in Parker's ear to giving him answers to give There's a part where like Leon caught it like in the edit. What was that? It's like someone's in his ear telling him what to say and it came through on the call Accidentally or something now. I know like with electronics and iPhones like it could have been an echo But like the inflection was even different So it didn't sound like an echo at all. Listen to it one more time. That seems like a weird And like the whole time Like you could just see how the guy was contradicting himself over and over and over again I think Leon did a very good job showing the contradictions like between their DMs and and talking now This is important so I'm gonna share some of my experience as you know recovering habitual Compulsive liar, but also as somebody who works in the addiction treatment field So some of you have seen the video I made likes quit enabling Bobby Burns and all that But I work in addiction treatment like my job is to sniff out BS My job is to know when people are lying to me My job is to figure that out because I can't help somebody if they're lying to me, right? Like something I teach my clients at the rehab is like listen like if you lie to me about this like Like I'm not affected by this like I go to sleep at night fine And that's kind of like, you know Leon came from a good place when he made this but in my opinion like I don't know If it was me, I don't think I would have talked to that guy Parker that long There's no way I would have talked to that the guy Parker that long So my first suggestion to all of you is if any of you have somebody in your life who BS is you and stuff like I do want to just just say again like this is not a knock at Leon because he was doing it for the purpose of this video But if this was a real-life scenario and you're dealing with somebody like this Do not let it go on that long do not let it last anywhere near that long Like if it's like a friend or an acquaintance or even a co-worker like if you catch that person Contradicting themselves running you around in circles playing dumb like in the conversation like ended just say okay Okay, thanks, you know and then move on I gave props to Shane for that because he just let people BS him in the series And then in the finale he kind of came out and said that so like I have people who sit in my office And he'll just be asked me right they're just giving me life to laugh a lie and like I think one of the issues is I think Something a lot of people struggle it with is that you want him to tell the truth, right? And you just keep trying to catch them and get them in their contradictions and get them to invent to admit it Almost like you're in and you're trying to get a confession out of them You know what I mean, but most of time this isn't gonna happen They're gonna continue lying and then they're gonna leave and think about how they pulled a fast one over on you I know this because this is what I used to do So not only do I work in drug and alcohol treatment, but I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic from a very young age I was just always lying. Okay, so something I need to make more videos on and I don't I know a lot of you out there Have the same had the same kind of childhood. I did so there's an amazing book I'll also link it down in the description below. It's called adult children of alcoholics So one of the traits of adult children of alcoholics like myself I didn't realize it until I read this book is that we would we lie when it would even be easier to tell the truth Right, and that's crazy when you think about it like that's nuts, you know So like for example, rather than telling somebody I'm late I'm telling them like I'm right around the corner even though I haven't gotten ready at my house yet Like it would have been easier for me to just tell them that I was running late, right? Like this is something that I've dealt with a lot and like I know all of my reasons and everything like that Why I would lie a lot of it had to do with people pleasing But aside from the people pleasing a lot of it was to cover my tracks like as a drug addict now the whole Like you got a lot a lot. Where'd the money go? I don't know. Where did my pills go? I don't know. You know what? I mean like I had a lot of people about all these different things so When I'm dealing with somebody who is lying to me like that like first off I empathize with them Right now when it comes to Parker from luxury pranks. He had a lot more on the line. Like this is his job This is his livelihood. Okay, but when it's somebody else in your life, you know who is is doing this Like you got a wonder you got a wonder like what is their motive behind this? What, you know, why why are they doing this? And then at the end of the day like you have to ask yourself like is this really any of my business? Like why does it matter like so let's talk about people who are a little bit closer to you? Okay, like your children right so as I was saying this I was like, what if my son lied to me? You know what I mean? But that's when you know the interrogation comes and we have to catch him in that and all that stuff But if it's just some random person or even a friend or an acquaintance like this is where it comes like drawing boundaries and cutting people out Of your life if you have somebody in your life who's doing this like quit hanging out with them quit hanging around them Right like what value are they providing you if you're always having to play this game of like Investigator and catching him in a lie like what why do you have them in your life still now now? I'm gonna talk about some techniques some lying techniques that Parker used against Leon Lush And the first one is the first one is getting really offended But the title if it's not true and if it's an opinion, you're not presented as an opinion. It's slanderous, dude I mean, that's like that's like I don't think that's like, you know, okay thing to say dude I think we did a lot of work I think we've done a lot of work with charities that you can content can ask them about I just think it's not right to use the word monkey in that sense Okay, and I and I understand that and that's why I changed the title after talking to you and thinking about it Okay, getting really offended. I think I talked about this in a video not that long ago But you can tell you can tell how offended right so Parker gets so offended like I can't believe I can't believe that you Would say this like this is something that we deal with in drug and alcohol treatment I'm letting you know so for example Somebody gets clean and you know or clean and we drug test people right and then all their drug tests It shows dirty it shows dirty and you bring them in the office and you'd say hey, you show dirty, you know We need to you know talk about this. This is a warning or you might be getting kicked out or whatever it is, right? And and they get really defensive. I can't believe this. I've been working so hard to gain your trust Or if any of you have an addict in your life who just got clean or just got sober Or or they they're a chronic relapser. They do this all the time. I would do this all the time when I was relapsing I would get so offended. How dare you right like that is one of the tells of somebody who's lying is how Offended right so they're not giving you straight answers, but they're using this technique They're trying to get emotionally outraged to and what that is is a manipulation to try to get you to feel bad Like oh my god I can't believe I'm questioning this right and that way you back off Okay, then the last thing the last thing you got to look out for is what Parker kept doing what Parker kept doing to Leon Lush, which was absolutely ridiculous. It's like so we're buddies. I thought we're buddies and again, this is my opinion The promise of this phone call ever gonna talk and we're just gonna talk a little bit like buddies and stuff And you're like coming at me trying to like accuse me of all these things man, and then okay You Like man Leon Lush did such a great job I was saying like I don't know if that show the first 48 is still on I used to love that show But Leon could easily be like a homicide detective on there right like this guy like Parker was saying like I thought we were buddies I thought we were friends. That's another manipulation technique that we'll use right? It's kind of like It's kind of the same as like getting emotionally outraged, but then you said like I thought we were close But we're like brothers. Why would you do that to me? You know what I mean? And trust me like I've had to call my friends out who have relapsed or Are abusing drugs or whatever it is and they've tried to use these techniques on me I used to use these techniques when I was in my addiction I would use it on my my son's mom when I was with her and be like how dare you I can't believe you would think That I would do something like that, you know, I'm the father of your son How dare you accuse me of this? You know what I mean? So like look out for that kind of stuff like especially like I don't know if you want to know If you want to know how to not fall for anybody's BS like just save Leon much It's like video to your favorites and just watch it like you'll see how he just keeps redirecting now This is difficult for a lot of people to do like Leon did a great job Like not even a pen and paper or anything like Leon's got a great memory. This is something that you know I'm able to do sometimes, you know, where I catch people like I keep like an order of the things that they've said and Leon Just had that all stored off the top of his head. So he's able to catch them and all those contradictions, but What happens is is that you know, this was almost like gaslighting. This was almost this is kind of Parker Was trying to gaslight Leon and Leon stayed in it. That's what it was I just realized that as I'm ending this video Parker was trying to gaslight Leon Parker was trying to make Leon feel like he was crazy, right? Wanted Leon to feel like like Leon wasn't you know was being the shady one and doing all these things But Leon stood his ground. Man, I could do a whole nother video about how not to get gas lit Featuring Leon much Leon mush Leon if you see this video, let's do a collab together about how to not get gas lit Okay, but anyways watch this video check it out. Just see how he keeps redirecting calling out the contradictions Superb or Leon you always got a job waiting for you in the addiction treatment field Okay, but anyways, let me know down in the comments below Let me know do you have somebody in your life who's constantly lying and you know or BSing you and trying to get away with it or whatever it is and like let me know like who is this person in your life? Why do you keep them around? Is it a family member? Is it a close friend? Is it a acquaintance? Is it a coworker? Let's have a conversation down below and or if you're somebody who had to cut somebody out of your life for this Like let's have a conversation. Okay. Anyways, that's all I got for this video If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a Ton of videos and a huge huge huge. 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