 How many times do I have to say that I am not a drama channel? What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about trying to help you improve your mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So welcome back to another amazing Patreon Q&A where I let all of you ask me questions who are supporting the channel over on Patreon. So I started doing this and I did a video the other day just focused on one of the questions but I want to do five more today but anyways I get flooded flooded with DMs and emails and messages and tweets and all sorts of stuff and comments in the in the YouTube videos asking me like oh hey can you do a video on this can you do a video on that so if you would like me to answer some of your questions more specifically go sign up on Patreon you can do it for as little as a dollar some of the people's questions I'm reading today are paying one dollar a month not a bad deal anyways a little bit of house cleaning first is I want to talk to you about boundaries real quick some boundaries that I've set up so back when my mental health was really really bad I was a people pleaser I was a huge people pleaser I was always trying to make everybody happy and it drove me insane you might be able to relate to that so a lot of you send me these messages or comments and telling me to make videos so I don't want to sound harsh I don't want to sound mean I don't want to get too sassy when I say this but I hope you understand what I say like I am not your waiter I'm not here to just take orders so like if you would like me to answer your questions go support the channel over on Patreon it's that easy you know what I mean but like I hope you learn something from that if you're somebody who is a people pleaser set up these boundaries one of the best pieces of advice I can give you is if you're taking care of your mental health right people are gonna think you're a douche but this is one of the best pieces of advice that I can give you if you're taking care of your mental health right you're going to upset some people because you've got to set boundaries so like I said don't mean to be mean but I'm just letting you know all right so let's get started with the first question so first question is hey Chris I hope your day is going well I've noticed that your latest video have talked a lot about celebrities YouTube and otherwise I was wondering if this is kind of the new format or if you were going to share some more videos about teaching about mental health from your own experiences and from what you've studied just curious so like I often debate on answering this question I answer it a lot and I'm like should I just quit answering this question um but since uh supporting the channel from Patreon I'm gonna do I'm gonna say this I'm gonna make a more in-depth video about more of like why my brain works the way it works but um something I say when I reply to people is like I don't make videos about YouTubers I don't know what you're talking about I make videos about all of you so what I'm gonna do right now I'm going to read some of my most recent videos about YouTubers and tell you the topics that they're actually about so the new city exposed the lies of Jake Paul that's about why you don't lie I talk about my experience of how I lied and it caused my own anxiety um Jeffrey Starr calls out slack to this I talk about how I used to complain about a bunch of stuff but I never get anything about it the Elvis the alien one about Paul Joseph Watson um that is because I'm a mental health advocate so I brought up a topic in pop culture about how people don't know or understand depression and it's actually causing the stigma this one about Bobby Burns people are enabling him a lot of you watching these videos are enablers you don't realize it Leafy is here that's a good one too I used to be one of the most selfish self-centered people that you'll ever meet and now I try not to do that Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash that one is all about borderline personality disorder relationships that can help a lot of people that can help people with boundary setting with I talked a little bit about cognitive behavioral therapy in there I also talked a lot about how to um work with somebody uh you know um who needs to start developing um some better habits the chilled chaos video that one is about depression as a whole and there's a few different topics that I touch on in that video that might help anybody in there out there who has depression this one about Garrett stop running away from your problems how many of you watching this video right now run away from your problems a lot of stuff in there about that this one this one is really good the mark zeal one about an existential crisis that one talks a lot about depression how do you deal with an existential crisis as well as living in someone's shadow or doing things for other people and not what your true passion is so anyways I can do this all day I can do this all day so there are many people who understand what I'm doing a lot of people but I can sum it up with this amazing amazing comment from think pink which I just posted over on my instagram and it says this I've been watching quite a few of your videos and I've seen a rare comment here or there asking you why you discuss youtubers so much and wanted to add something to those that make think that I like the correlation you make with mental health issues that parallel with issues everybody can relate to in my humble opinion I don't watch mental health videos truthfully I find them boring or I don't relate to them not trying to be rude but we all like different things this is honestly the most unique way to get your topics out there well while using examples from social media I love your content it's refreshing and different I never write comments but on the rare occasion thank you for the great videos so I make videos for people like think pink I make videos for people who are bored like you don't want to go like I am somebody who loves watching our long lectures about neuroscience but if I wrote in a title our long lecture about neuroscience this is all about how the brain works how many people would watch it but if I could take something that you're already watching or something that's in pop culture boom I just tricked you into learning about your mental health you're welcome second question um I really enjoy your videos I've learned a lot from them one topic that comes to mind is should I try to help out a co-worker who is abusing drugs or alcohol my husband and I work in television and unfortunately substance abuse is a big problem in this field my husband had to fire an employee recently due to erratic behavior from drug use since my husband is a manager he can't really go around accusing people of doing drugs even when it's obvious so do you have any advice for what we should do if anything great question great great great question and there's a lot of industries there's a lot of industries where substance abuse is really high bars restaurants you know a whole bunch of industries where people like to party so anyways one of the first things that I would do is talk to HR like you got to talk to HR and I would educate myself if any of you are an employer or a manager educate yourself about like does your insurance cover you know um treatment you know what options does it have is a good coverage whatever it is so you can provide somebody with options but the other thing is is you got to give the person an ultimatum so my mom my mom for example she didn't even get sober until her job was threatened okay but there was an ultimatum there either get your act together or lose your job so like we don't want to just kick people out and say that these people who are abusing substances are lost causes because nobody is but you have to set up balances with them and sometimes you have to give them an ultimatum in order for them to get help so basically it's like yo you can keep your job if you go get help that's what happened to my best friend he's been clean over three years now you know what I mean so no you don't gotta accuse everybody the last thing I would say is do kind of like what the tsa does like just randomly drug test everybody so you're not specifically holding in on somebody this is something you should talk to HR about and then like drug test 50 people and you'll catch the people who are using so this next question she says how to find the right therapist when to uh not if a therapist uh know if the therapist is bad um also couldn't find your email and I'll ask you something uh privately well okay thanks um anyways so yeah like how to find the uh the right therapist so a few things one of them is I was just talking to a friend and this might help some of you like when shopping around for a therapist and trying to find the right one like ask your friends ask your friends who are in therapy and ask them like what their therapist will look like you know does a therapist you know um kind of like do the things like so I have a friend and he was looking for a therapist who is like well educated maybe kind of nerdy um you know uses certain techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy and all that so like get recommendations from other people so same thing you would do for a restaurant like if I like Chinese food I want to find a good Chinese food restaurant maybe I'll ask some friends like hey where's a good Chinese food restaurant you know what I like you know what I need so that's something I would suggest is like ask around ask some of your friends you can also read reviews online I'm just always iffy about reviews online because especially in mental health I've seen people who wrote the right the most ridiculous reviews just because we deal in mental health I'll put it that way but the other thing I'll say is like don't stress don't stress about it like shop around a different therapist go do one therapy session feel the person out like you should you should do like three sessions before you find a new one but shop around like I think one of the biggest fears people have is like cutting ties with a therapist listen I'll tell you this because I tell people in recovery all the time who have sponsors like listen if you in the relationship with them and they get upset that's on them it's not on you right like as mental health professionals we sign up for that I know I know that not everybody is going to want to work with me I have a certain style I'm tough love I'm wacky and I'm all active and stuff maybe some people don't like that that's cool no offense taken you know what I mean so I think it'll be easier for you to find a therapist if you don't worry so much about this huge burden that our brain tells us it is to find a new therapist okay this next one is from do you think you're going to progress your knowledge in mental health any further like going back to school or getting licensed in an area of mental health counseling and if so what did you want to study or get licensed to great question so for those of you don't know I am currently in school right now to get my CADC that is a certified alcohol and drug counselor I should hopefully have it by early next year like people are always asking me my credentials I don't have any a lot of it is self-education so like and I'll be honest with you I might make a whole video about just my thoughts on college in general but um yeah I'm just trying to get some letters behind my name I am skating through this class and this isn't the sound cocky or anything but I've done all this research on my own so everything I've done so far I'm in my third class for the CADC and I already knew everything like so it's just been whoop skating right through there's some cool stuff about ethics I picked up and things like that but yeah I would say my ultimate goal my ultimate goal is to get a PhD to get a PhD in some kind of psychology like that's what I would love to do like I am competitive I always try to achieve the best I try to you know bring myself to my best potential and I would love to get a PhD I just don't like the idea of student debt but other than that like my table you guys can't see it it is cluttered with books about mental health like here's another one I'm gonna do a review on this soon um I just love educating myself so I'm constantly growing constantly learning especially just because mental health is so scientific that's why I try to talk to you guys about neuroscience there's new findings all the time all the time so I am never going to stop learning I never want to stop learning about mental health because the more we learn the more we can help other people last question if you've been diagnosed with a with a disorder and uh yet every med you try to turn you into a zombie what do you do so another great question so my experience with this is a couple things the only medication that really made me zombie-ish was trisodone um which for those of you who don't know is a non-narcotics sleeping medication that may but it's supposed to knock you out the problem was that it would stay in my system the next day so the next day I'd be very groggy and zombie-ish and uh okay when it comes to medications as a whole all right so a few things one of them is just recognize it's gonna take it could take anywhere from two to three weeks for some medications to actually you know uh have the right effects and have your body balance out right so like keep that in mind but this is why you always need to follow up with your doctor or psychiatrist or whoever it is and let them know say hey this is making me really groggy it's making me really drowsy I've gotten off actually I've got off a different medication a different I think it was a blood pressure medication it just made me feel like I was in a fog all day long and I just stopped taking it so this is why you gotta follow up with your doctor and tell them about what symptoms you're having and all that because they might adjust the dosage or switch your medications one of the biggest mistakes I see people make is that one medication they have a weird reaction to like like drowsiness or whatever and they just think that every single medication isn't gonna work that is not true okay so the other option you have if your insurance covers it or if you want to pay out a pocket for you there is genetic testing okay like the company I was working for we had a genetics lab and they gave me a free genetic test all I did was swabbed my cheek they sent it out to the lab two weeks later they gave me an entire list of different medications and whether or not um I would have a reaction to them so just think about that for a little bit but my suggestion is keep following up with the doctor switch adjust medications like we have to be open and honest with doctors and find the right combination of medications for example and I need to make another video about this I switched from lexapro to prozac recently and I've had a lot uh a lot less symptoms um or side effects with prozac than I did with lexapro so don't be afraid to change or adjust your meds all right but anyways that's all I got if you would like to help support the channel over on patreon and 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