 So I've talked about being able to say things are not okay and that it's okay to Not be okay. It's okay to say things are not good enough and that this kind of a hard statement can help to shake us into action because of course simply Telling ourselves everything's okay over and over Unless we really feel that this is true that can sort of Calm us down in the moment to say okay. It's not so bad. It could be worse Calming us down from the feeling of dissatisfaction in the moment, but then ultimately not fueling change not leading us to Do anything to improve our situation So I think there's an important distinction to be made and this this is what something that helped me to Be able to use this tool Because when you say things are not okay Or they are okay. It's there's two different ways to look at it two different domains There is one domain in which we are always okay. I believe that we each have an inherent value as beings as creatures with consciousness humans living beings We are Wonderful things I mean the beyond our understanding the wonder of what it means to have a human life and We it's really like a magical thing. We are magical creatures of incredible power and We have this inherent value in us as people and I I believe I I can't find a way to Absolutely come to this through reason and and logic there may be a way to it But I really take it as something that I simply believe in I simply have faith And maybe it's connected to My belief that life is amazing just the chance to have this the chance to have something rather than nothing The chance to have consciousness and to have experience these things are amazing and I simply Feel that way Maybe I can't explain logically why it's amazing to be alive versus not But if there was nothing then there'd be no logic to talk about there'd be nothing to say So just the fact that having a chance to experience life and to have this consciousness and this existence That is amazing and we as creatures That can have this experience and have this consciousness I believe that that itself is something that is amazing in and of itself Simply by being here and by existing We are these incredible beings and we have value no matter what And in this domain in this sense, this is where I believe that we are all okay We are all good No matter what the situation In our life is no matter what else is going on No matter anything that you could say is wrong with somebody Even the worst people in the world Anybody you can imagine simply by being human by Having this life we have a value that cannot be taken away Sometimes using the word dignity is because there's a certain dignity that comes with Being this way, maybe it's like a spiritual value I'm sure there's a lot more to say about this I take it as simply something that I hold to be true. It seems to be true based on my experience But I wonder whether there are more things to say about it that can help to Make it more clear and maybe people that don't believe they have any value at all Maybe something that could help them to believe that No, I mean your life may be messed up. Maybe not. It may be some serious issues, but no matter how bad it is The fact if you're still alive to think about it then you Have this incredible value so when When somebody says, you know, you're not okay. You're bad You're there's something wrong with you It's important. I believe to not take it away to not take away from that Confidence that we have that inherent value No matter how bad your life is So that's where I think it's right to say no, it's okay And yes, you can change your perspective rather than change your your life in that sense You don't have to do anything in your life to prove that you have inherent value You have it by nature of being alive and You You don't need to do anything To defend that to To show it It's it's simply automatically there And so that's the case where yes, I believe You can absolutely say no matter what that you are okay and you are good. You are fundamentally good So that's that domain really like a spiritual domain a sense of your fundamental value as a being But then there's the other domain that's often confused with that is how are you living your life? How what are you doing? What are your actions? What are your daily actions? Your daily thoughts your daily words your daily deeds What are you doing with Your life your incredible life that you have Incredible in the sense of you have this incredible power to live The power to be alive. What are you doing with it? Now it's in this domain that I see there is No, there is not the same sense of automatically being good and automatically being right We have the ability to do all kinds of actions from The greatest actions to the absolute most horrible actions and anything in between and How we choose to live our lives is Is highly variable. It's highly variable in how we can judge it And it isn't automatically okay So this is why I think it's important to separate these two domains And in the spiritual domain As a being you are good Automatically no matter what and nobody can take it away So have that confidence, but then you can be able to say In the domain of how I'm living my life I am not happy with how I'm living my life I am not living my life in a good way Still a good being but not living it in a good way So that I can accept I can tell myself the hard truth if I need to tell myself The way you are living your life is not good you need to change I can tell myself that hard truth And it's not saying that I as a person am and broken and bad as a person It's the way of life that can sometimes in some cases be bad or broken But the bright side is that Because you cannot touch that core goodness that we have You You can change because the only thing that can be bad Are actions actions are what are good or bad? And it could you could extend the idea of actions words ideas thoughts All these things These things can be good or bad It can make you better make you worse make the world better make the world worse But it's not you it's your actions So if you see somebody that you say it's a bad person I would define a bad person is someone who Regularly repeatedly habitually performs bad actions It's not that in their essence their core. They're a bad person And if you happen to feel this way about yourself Then the same thing applies That I would say if you think you're bad or you're not good or there's something wrong with you Your mediocre or whatever it is It's really a matter of your chosen and repeated actions Now they could be conscious or unconscious actions It could be things you kind of automatically do. We don't have automatic perfect self-control But these are things that Can Change Everything that is bad about you is something that could In some way be changed So I like to keep these two domains separate remember You are absolutely okay In who you are But now you can separately ask yourself How am I living my life? Is my life living up to that goodness Or am I Dishonoring that goodness through my actions So we can be completely honest and say if you see an action that you're you're taking And you don't like it It's absolutely okay To say this is a bad action And it doesn't mean that you're bad But it might mean that it may be time to consider What you are doing with your life how you are choosing to act With this amazing life that you have a chance to experience