 personality tests. Now you may be thinking, why should I take a personality test? What's that going to do for my relationship? There are a few tests out there that I would highly recommend anybody taking, specifically the Big Five, also the 16 personality tests, and also tests around your sexual and intimate relationships. The one that I'd really, really, really highlight in this instance would be taking a love attachment style test. This basically puts you into one of four categories. You've got secure, you've got dismissive avoidant, you've got fearful avoidant, you've got anxiously attached. And depending on your personality, your attachment style is going to have different dynamics in your relationships. If you're with someone who's secure and you're fearful anxious, anxiously attached, it's going to be quite overwhelming for that secure person.