 What is up you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name's Lloyd and the question that I have today It's a pretty common one that I hear a lot of men saying it's something that I went through as well And he says he's basically fine talking to girls going up and you know creating attraction But he feels like the girls that he's getting girls. He's hooking up with dating whatever it is They're not at the level that he's looking for they're not he's not really that attracted to them And the girls that he does like aren't really attracted to him. So basically what this means is that? His mate value is not high enough now I know this is gonna be kind of a harsh thing to say, but I'm not in this to give you the answer you want I'm here this here to help you out and Basically what it means is if you can't attract the girls that you want to attract it means you're not attractive to them It's a little bit different than that. So with men and women basically men compete more for sex and women kind of compete more for commitment What what does that mean? That means that if a Man and a woman have the same mate value The woman is less likely to just want to sleep with the guy and have nothing else than the guys to just sleep with the girl and have Nothing else. Okay Our guys more likely to take that choice So what that means is that even if you're meeting women who are the same mate value as you? It doesn't automatically mean that they're gonna sleep with you So that means for a guy to sleep with like really really hot girls. He's got to be really on top of his shit Yes, his mate value has to be really high or at least at least it has to look like his mate value is really high So you have to basically step your game up make yourself a better dude Or at least make it look like you are a better dude because there's two parts to this You can improve the product, but you also have to improve marketing of the product there there are a lot of really great things out there that We never get to experience a lot of products that people released that are just is just really great But their marketing sucks and we never get to see you and that's why we're stuck with like two phones Like the iPhone and whatever Samsung's coming out with I'm not saying the iPhone is a bad product But I'm saying their marketing was on point and there's probably better phones out there than the iPhone that you know That are cheaper that are better for you But they didn't make it because their marketing wasn't good enough now your product has to be to a certain point because if girls hook Up with you and then they don't want to see you again like that kind of sucks too So you want to be able to get a girl and keep her But if your mate value is really good and your marketing sucks Girls are still not gonna want to hook up with you So I have a lot of students that they are really accomplishing software engineering or maybe they're like really responsible They're on top of their shit. They're they're really good with their life. They have their career and all that sorted out The problem comes when they start talking to a girl when they start talking to a girl They're not like they don't look like they're on top of their shit They look nervous shy uncomfortable In these social situations their mate value drops or their appearance of their mate value drops really low But if the girl had the opportunity to see themselves at their work If they were maybe it's they sat in on a meeting or they watched them give a presentation or something like that Where people are really listening and respecting what they have to say or they're ordering people around She would probably be a lot more attracted to him there But she never gets to see that she just sees like the scared geeky version of himself And that's why these guys have a lot of trouble where they get frustrated Because their perceived mate value is higher than what the girl's seeing So you how do you get your mate value up and how do you get your mate value to look like it's higher? Okay, well everything on this channel is designed for that sort of stuff It's designed to help you talk better. It's designed to help you converse better designed to help you be more socially savvy Smart you so you can get the stuff that you need you can improve your look if you watch this channel Your posture your vocal tonality The way you move all of those different elements This is all game This is all taking things in the direction that you you want it to go But a lot of people don't have this down their marketing sucks And so even if you're really accomplished in life and you don't have this you're gonna be lacking in certain areas So maybe the person who asked this question also has like his his product is no good too So if that's the case work on yourself and get better and don't be too hard on yourself guys The good thing about being a guy is a lot of this stuff can change And that's why older men tend to be more attractive than younger men because they haven't figured this stuff out They haven't accrued the skills. They don't know how to game girls very very well So they're stuck in these areas where um, they feel like oh, but I'm so responsible. I'm such a good guy I'm such like so ambitious. Why don't they see it? Well, they don't see it because you're not You're not projecting that you're not being your best self in front of them And I talk all about this channel on how to do that sort of thing I mean, I struggled with this for a little bit too, man I think it was this in probably like the second year of me going out consistently So I was going out like five six nights a week and you know trying to improve my social skills and get you know Make sure that I was good at talking to girls But the problem with this was that like what I began to realize was that For the way I look like and for who I am There was a certain level of girl that I could get and I was not satisfied with that level And I realized that that was there's a kind of the girls that I dated and I was hooking up with most of the time Before I got into this stuff. I was just getting them easier and more So in order for me to step my game up to the next level So I could really start getting the girls that I was attracted to that were high quality that were not just hot But like amazing people as well That takes a little bit of an extra effort Like you really have to step it up And it took me about an extra year for me to figure out and like I guess fine tune my skills and my ability to converse and talk with people and lead things in a direction that I Was looking for that took about an extra year for me staying into this game And all the videos that I talk about in this where I figure out how to like have how to lead to fun How to be You know talk with a commanding voice how to tell really good stories All that stuff came about later and you it's a little bit of understanding yourself too. What makes you look good What makes you thrive what you're really good at talking about what you're really good at expressing yourself about Those things will come with time And so your presentation America is just going to get better But if you want to get better faster step your game up, okay Anyway, that's what I have to say about this you guys you may as well consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week if you're interested in my mentorship weekly one-on-one coaching program Hit me up the single guy 2017 at gmail.com. Thanks a lot. Good luck out there you guys