 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd today We're going to be talking about how to make a girl feel more comfortable with you in my experience from doing this for a while I find that comfort is hugely important In fact, I would say that comfort can sometimes be more important than attraction Meaning even when I'm out sometimes like not just for relationships But even when I'm out I will see if a girl is attracted to two guys and I'm one of them Even if she's attracted to me more she will go with the guy that she feels more comfortable with a lot of times And so this is incredibly important I get a lot of emails from students from clients from viewers of my channel that talk about this And they want to help themselves be more comfortable with women so in this video I'm going to talk about all the things that I think are make a guy more comfortable Sorry make a woman more comfortable with a guy the things that you can start doing right now These are all practical tips But I'm gonna be going over in this video. Okay, so before I get into that if you guys are in San Francisco I am going to be there this Thursday. Well, I'm actually right here now I'm gonna be doing a talk this Thursday at 7 p.m. At the Hilton in Union Square The event page is down below if you click on my description and follow the link there that will take you to the event page I'm also gonna put it as a comment to would love to meet you guys Okay, so let's talk about the first tip to get women to feel more comfortable with you The first one is you feel more comfortable yourself There's a huge rule when it comes to dating relationships and getting girls in general or people person-to-person interactions Okay, whatever you feel she feels Like you feel nervous and insecure and uncomfortable. She's gonna feel that way too now I know what you're thinking you're thinking Lloyd I didn't click on this video because I already felt comfortable talking to women I click because I don't feel comfortable talking to women and I want to help them feel comfortable. I understand that so I'm gonna tell you give you a couple quick tips on how to look like you're more comfortable and a lot of it comes down to Body language, so if you walk up to the girl and you have poor posture, you're closed in That does not make you look confident or comfortable. Okay, makes you look uncomfortable like you're up to something So stand up straight good posture. Don't fidget around a lot of sometimes guys are doing crazy stuff All over the place move less. Okay, stay centered move less You can use gestures like I do but just stay centered. I would actually recommend that you lean back a little bit Okay, lean back when you're talking to the girl the reason well, not maybe not that much maybe like probably on there The reason why you want to do this is because if you're hovering over her Like if she's over here if you're getting like really close into it, that's gonna freak her out So it's much more relaxed if you just kind of have that body language where you're kind of like lean slightly lean back a little bit Standing up straight. That's gonna make you feel more comfortable and it just generally makes you look more badass, too So that is gonna help you out a lot now thing to is Listen when she's talking listen to her if you're just talking the whole time and you're not worrying about her thoughts feelings and emotions She's probably not gonna think you're a very trustworthy guy. She's not gonna feel comfortable with you. Okay, make it No, don't make it seem listen to her and you know show her that her thoughts and feelings do matter Okay, number three is lead Women do not want to be around a guy that is looking to them for what to do You got to be in charge of that Guys who are looking to them for what to do next Or what the next response is or looking to them to reinitiate the conversation like that Women don't like that that generally freaks them out Okay, it means that you don't have a plan and you don't know what you're doing and women Don't want to be around that kind of guy. They want to be around a capable guy who can lead who can Do that sort of stuff so leading the conversation leading them to different areas all of that stuff is pretty important I talk a lot about this on the channel now leading the conversation doesn't mean dominating the conversation But it does mean being curious about her being interested like I said listening as well, too That can be part of it as well Asking her questions those types of things. Okay, remember lead don't look to her. Okay, cuz She's gonna look back at you and be like what dude you're the one who's supposed you're the guy All right, so lead number four is Mirror her okay when I mean mirroring her I mean that Certain people like if she doesn't swear a whole lot and you come in cussing up a storm Probably gonna make her feel a little bit uncomfortable if she's kind of a quiet shy person and you come in yelling and screaming Probably gonna make her feel a little bit uncomfortable But also too if she's a very gregarious and outgoing and expressive person and you're not expressive at all You're very closed off. That's probably gonna make her feel uncomfortable, too So you want to kind of mirror her a little bit at the beginning, you know You don't have to completely sacrifice your personality But I would kind of try to meet her in the little meter in the middle a little bit So for example, if you walk up to a girl and her energy level is here I would try coming in with your energy level. Maybe just slightly higher Okay, I always like to bring people's energy up when I'm talking to them be more positive But you don't want to go all coming up here or way down here and come in close to her a bit a little higher Okay, so that's mirroring. The next thing is don't judge her If she feels like you're judging her while you're talking to her, she's not gonna feel comfortable with you Why would anybody feel comfortable with someone who feels like they're being judged constantly, you know I mean, maybe if she thought that you were giving non-stop positive judgments that would be good But generally that's not what people are thinking people are thinking that this guy's judging me You're probably thinking negative things. So don't judge her. Don't make her feel like she's being criticized or judged Any of those types of things is really gonna prevent a woman from feeling comfortable with you Okay. All right. The next thing is ask her questions This is a big one you guys for a lot of you who are just talking all the time yourself If you aren't curious about the girl, you don't want to know more about her She's probably not gonna feel very comfortable with you Okay. So again, this comes down to leading the conversation and all of those things that I've talked about previously But asking your questions really helps, you know, being curious knowing more about your the more that you know Excuse me. The more that you know about her the more likely it is. She's gonna feel comfortable with you All right. Also Don't take advantage of her Okay, I'm all for physical contact. I'm all for, you know, pursuing a girl I am not for pursuing a girl when you're taking advantage of them So what do I mean by this? I mean when a guy is talking to a girl and he sees like a little sliver of like she's kind of interested me And he just goes full all in like, you know, maybe she only wanted a quick kiss and he's just like Groping her making out with her for like 10-15 minutes. Okay. A lot of times that girl's gonna run away back to her friends You're gonna freak her out So what I would recommend doing in that period of time is instead of just like sticking your tongue down her Throat and getting the biggest make out you possibly can give her a little bit of a kiss and then back off and let her come to you You know, that's gonna make her feel more comfortable and make her feel more likely to Initiate things with you. This doesn't mean don't pursue her But this does mean hang back a little bit and letting her come to you and don't being too overly aggressive Okay, and I'm all for physical contact, but I'm not for taking advantage of a woman and Even if you're doing this from a purely selfish standpoint like you don't care about her thoughts and feelings It's still the best thing for you to be successful okay, so The the second to last one actually a third to last one is being playful Playfully positive. Okay, you want to be playful and positive when the with the girl that you're talking to there You don't want to be too serious a lot of times guys will come in and want to have like serious conversations about stuff And that's cool man serious conversations are great, but generally they will make the girl feel a little bit more It feels a little bit more judgy And she just wants to have fun and smile and the more playful you are the more comfortable She's gonna feel with you Okay, she doesn't want to be serious all the time and feel like she's in class or at work or something like that So yeah be playful man That's what I would say and also be positive too because if you introduce negativity, it's gonna be pretty tough to come back from that All right, and the second to last thing is time a Lot of times women are just not gonna feel comfortable with you when you first walk up to them. That's okay You're a guy you're bigger than her. She's naturally gonna feel a little bit Scared because you can overpower her physically if you want to But the more time she spends with you The easier it's gonna be for now different people take different amounts of time to get comfortable with somebody and that's okay Sometimes it takes them, you know a few minutes other people it takes them freaking months, dude You know those girls take forever and it's your decision whether you want to take that long of a time to have her be Comfortable with you But again time is really the factor here, you know, whether it's that long period or a super long time Time will help you know the longer a girl spends with you the more comfortable She's gonna feel with you and different people take different amounts of time to feel comfortable with somebody like it I would generally think if you have a lot of differences like differences in personality or cultures or whatever You might take a little bit longer to feel comfortable Sorry, she might feel a little bit. She might take a little bit longer to feel comfortable with you But but generally you know eventually she will All right, and the last thing I would recommend is to not speak too quickly. I talk really fast That's one thing that I have to work on but For you guys out there generally if you start speaking very quickly, it's gonna free people out I would say however fast you think you should talk to somebody generally with my students I try and Recommend shoot for about a third of that speed and you'll come out to be around right All right, cool with those the tips that I have man If you guys have any more tips put them in the comment section below again you guys if you're in San Francisco I'm gonna be there 7 to 10 p.m. At the Hilton Union Square on Thursday. Let's go. It's almost Valentine's Day You guys let's make this a fun weekend. All right. Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there