 Alright guys, we're live. This is it the end of the 21 convention 2010 in brlanda, florida slash north america slash second one of 2010 because we did one in Stockholm, sweden and europe and It goes on and on this is it this is the end we got a whole bunch of questions from you guys We're gonna answer them within a 15 minute time span Anyone that wants to anyone up here that wants to answer it. There's one more. Can you get that one John? Van Hor, excuse me part in the French. It's called you by a different name We're an answer. If you guys want to answer them Just let me know ahead of the mic and you're good to go if you ask the question We can get a little bit more feedback from you, but we can't talk about it for like 20 minutes That's only off camera when you attend live and spend bajillion dollars coming here not really but Airfare is cheap use my BC mil all right the question someone wrote was something along the lines of Speak to the way that the community has changed slash improved All right, keep keep it short especially you If nothing else is like what my favorite question how the community has improved or changed over the last years Massively like it's almost like a new wave has come when I first got into this community It was all about strictly routine based very weird very Underground there was no show as a book was out, but it was like people just meeting up and you know I mean Like now a lair meeting is like going to the beach showing their boys having a beer, you know With these guys before a lair meeting was we all get into like a room And we make it like a little huddle circle and we're like I can only I was only a dungeon feeling we're like so What kind of nags and DHV stories can we come up with guys like what's your game level at? You know like it was just really weird, but at the point I thought it was cool because that's all we knew right so Back then it was super just I mean everybody had sparkling necklaces and hats and Just feather bow. Oh feather bows with the rage back then stuffed animal everything, but um Now though a new wave has come finally and you could see it with just the speakers, you know here like normal cool guys You can see it by the the attendees just normal cool guys, which is ridiculous like now It's just it's just like the average guy now as opposed to like these really weird creepy dudes And I was one of them when I first got into it. I was this really just weird dorky guy, right? We're right now But um, yeah, so basically now the biggest implement is there's a more emphasis and getting away from just there's a girl Let's see how we can pick her up to hey, let's be social. Let's just be You know normal fun guys now who talked to a lot of women have a lot of fun That they have you have social game they're creating a life. Yeah, just lifestyle involved now, you know, so it's I'm so So thankful that the community is finally moving in this direction because I think we finally got it right And me and my friend Chris Hart we usually have a little joke between us Which is recently within the last year or two years or so the whole community just hit reboot They're just like this is not working like what we're doing is just weird and creepy. Let's just not working Reboot let's go back to the basics and we finally got it right Thanks, sir All right next question wrap a fire from everybody will pass it around real quick most influential book Body by science and all seriousness I almost forgot and I would say Meditations the man. I love books. I've read a lot of books Read read read I'm going to go even though I'm an English major and the books are kind of my thing I'm going to go with not a book Because the most influential thing was me Was the guys that helped me at the beginning because I went out and I really pursued finding two guys that were near me They'd like help me out and really without you know, Nash and Johnny I Really would just not have game So it's really to me if you want to get your game better do that Help me See this is a bit of a difficult answer for me because I recently read a book that kind of opened up my eyes to the things I've been doing naturally and the things that I had Processed as I was learning how to get better with game and this book kind of opened my eyes to it on On a logical level and so I'm going to go with psycho cybernetics Well as far as a book is concerned that I carry with me That is like the fourth or fifth time that I bought it and it's completely dogged It's so like my people ask me what's the biggest most powerful magic book You've ever held in your hands and I have to say it's the writings of Florence scoville shin If you ever get a hold of that, it's not The thing you'd expect but if you ever get a hold of that book that'll probably be a real breakthrough and as far as Mentorship, I'd say the most powerful mentor I've ever had and I've had some really famous Kick-ass mentors, but the most powerful I've ever had was Steve pickers Steve P. If you ever get a chance to meet that guy Unbelievable all right The book is about She coined the term the law of attraction in the 1920s way before even Napoleon Hill wrote his book and if you want to know like Okay, this is there's This has been around for thousands of years probably as long as old as the universe is Love attraction, but she's the one that actually if you want to know before like nightingale Conan before any of these other guys jumped on The band like decades before she was a famous painter. It's Florence as a city in Rome Scoville that's scoville shin sh in and and if you ever get any of her books the game of life and how to play it or The secret door to success my word is my wand and so forth the best book out there is called the writings of floris Govill shin, it's a white book. You can find it sometimes online get that version It's it's unbelievable magic if you really work through that book your life will change like even beyond like All that new stuff that's out there the secret. That's Mambi Pambi bullshit. This is like the real deal Okay, that's who invented the stuff if you will all right. I only read the Bible Oh That's why I read it The most influential book My cop-out answer for this one is the game Because without that I wouldn't be into in this it was my motivation It was my everything not because there's greatest content or anything in it, but that was what opened my eyes to it I mean it's the most important book I've ever read to be honest As far as most influential and like what guys can read to help them with their game and whatnot Everything I like to teach needs should be backed on some kind of like proven psychology background And that is a lot of psychological journals. I've read that are just insanely good But when you could buy it like a bonjour nobos would be the Power persuasion by Robert Silladini What? Sheldi, I don't pronounce it Sheldini Robert Sheldini Power persuasion we talked about all the different types of persuasion techniques backs who are real studies shows I was implemented things like social proof for in there things like authority Like ability all these kind of things and it shows you how you way to persuade people And if you really look at it a lot of game is basically how we can persuade these women, you know And it's ethical yet is a major difference between persuasion and manipulation It's not a manipulative book. It's actually just a way of persuading a girl It's a way of helping her see things from your perspective. So she goes, you know, I do like that I want to do this as opposed to any kind of trickery Most influential books got to be 10 first for a work week get them read it read it change my life That's a good influence to have I I have a 15 week course that I teach and I recommend I've read thousands and thousands of books There are three that I recommend for this course and the guys who re actually do read the three books Their results are accelerated just hugely because these are very very powerful books The first one is called a course in miracles It kind of has religious content But I view it as metaphorical and even if you were an atheist as long as you just read it as a metaphor It would apply to you. It's um, it will dissolve your ego faster than anything I think on the planet pretty much It's the most very powerful language that penetrates through the subconscious mind And you'll really tap into your own power by reading it The second book is called nonviolent communication by Marshall Rosenberg and I talked yesterday about how vitally important empathy is for you to connect in with a woman to be on her emotional plane and That book will teach you at least the beginnings of that and the third book is called the dark side of the light chasers by Debbie Ford and it's all about the shadow self which a Lot of people who are having struggles in their life really really need to Read that book because it helps you integrate that dark side Into your light side and really be a much more integrated balanced person Actually go want to go two things here for me. This was pre-community How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie Tremendous book if you haven't read it fucking read it Influential influential for me being in the community was the fact that I came in and Start getting good and then I realized that others needed my help and it was in the lair And that actually boosted me to have to become a better seducer a better person so that I could help the other people I'd say the fountain head my Anne Rand Howard Rourke is somebody that Yeah, it's fantastic. Yeah. Yeah starts out good and never stops For the fountain head by Anne Rand and Anne is spelled a y n or something strange like that and Rand. Yeah the way the superior man by David data is fantastic and then the third one is Practicing the power of now Eckhart Tolle's so there's the new earth. There's a power of now Those are okay. The one I just listen to on audio almost daily sometimes is called practicing the power of now Get your hands on that one that the headspace that one puts you in kind of in touch with yourself and outside is second to none Say what? Is a way of the superior man? Yeah, I mean, it's like the textbook for guys basically You can't hear me. Can't you? Yeah, that book's been hawked like let's say this convention for since 2007 for a good reason because it's freakin awesome Do you want to get that question to you that got addressed to you? Identify with a lot of things you said it seems that your techniques take a lot of inner confidence How do you develop that confidence and what are some ways you recommend for other guys to get it? Pretty tough question. I've got you know a big background in all kinds of different You know self-development stuff for you guys get into it getting into it. I suggest Physical development mental development and emotional. Okay, so, you know physical is kind of your roots If you guys aren't lifting weights or exercising, you know several times a week. I'd say you're wrong Okay, the human body is designed for physical exertion That gives you confidence in your rooted in your body, which is a big deal. I Emotional confidence look up super way the superior man that teaches a guy What his founding is in this world what he needs to be concerned with what he doesn't need to be concerned with What if you find himself stressing over something? He needs to realize I have to let this go Emotional physical and intellectual I've also done a lot of leadership development. I'm an ex officer I suggest all of you guys get in some kind of leadership development course of any kind Okay, I got out of the military and started doing this stuff right here actually was doing it while I was in the military and It it it's the same deal. Okay You lead others you lead yourself It's it's how you it's how you interact with women. It's how you interact with the guys It's how you interact with the social environment. So leadership development of any kind I also suggest you guys become independent in every way You know mental emotional financial the kind of the kind of support you give yourself from a lifestyle That's rooted in you pursuing excellence in all areas is going to give you the kind of confidence that isn't shaken by anything Another thing I'd say is that I don't feel a Pull to be anything. I'm not okay, and I and I want to talk about this during my speech. I didn't get a chance to Back when I was younger You know, I still thought I was a pimp like you guys understand confidence is rooted in your trust in yourself If you feel like you got it like you saw me up here, and I'm talking about this or this or that and you feel like shit I'm not getting those kinds of results. I'm not where I'm supposed to be at. That's crap You guys are on your own source. You guys are your own form of validation. You've got to get that straight Okay, I talked to five girls tonight one of them like to me. I'm a pimp Okay, you got to get that down. That is you guys you guys are your own source. All right I don't follow the standards of like the I want to have sex with a hundred girls in a year Me per yeah, this guy does yeah me personally I have sex with like maybe five girls like rapid fire and I'm like I never want to have sex again Like I don't have this like crazy ass sex drive. Sometimes it goes down like that But if you guys aren't like naturally just trying to like if your sex drive is like oh, and you're always wanting it Don't worry about it. Okay, hit your own standards be your own source of a validation and therefore confidence. I guess that's it Damn, I was badass All right last question for wrap up the whole event It was worded how to get rid of apologizing for escalation Assuming me physical escalation or sexual escalation sexual escalation and whoever wants to answer it We can just kind of keep it quick How to get rid of apologizing for escalation I'll start yeah 30 seconds. Oh in the speed version first off shut up a lot of times When guys escalate they verbalize the fact that they're escalating with an apology or some sort of statement or not I don't do 95 percent of the times that you're saying something when you're about to escalate you're making an excuse for yourself So just don't say anything at first Don't say anything at all Yeah, that's basically that's that's man step one it don't say anything you want to apologize After that I'd like to you know tell girls what I'm about to do as I'm doing it You know because I it's a good way like if you can verbalize it and say it like You know, okay for instance if I've got some girl over my house and she sits over, you know far away from me I'm like, oh, no you have to come over here and cuddle with me. That's not an apology. It's a statement That's what I'm doing. It's what is happening It's not I'm not asking for it. I'm not asking for it. It's not a question It's you know, this is what I'm going to do and yeah, sure sometimes, you know, they you know, like no I don't want to do that yet or whatever But you know, I'm not apologizing for it and that's that's how you do it So for one be quiet if you really have to say something say what you're doing don't Just yeah, just be clear Just just say like this is what I'm going to do and saying what you're doing sometimes can can help because it you know They don't know necessarily why you're grabbing them anyway. You can't hear this, you know, you gotta be here, you know, sorry All right, let's start talking the bike start talking like okay So you just feel guilty about doing it afterward. Do you feel like oh, I should have done that maybe okay Clear that up because I think there's some confusion on if you're feeling like I do have to say sorry for doing that Or we feel guilty about it. And I think my quick end for give it over to a tease real thing is It's just realizing women like it They want sex as much as you do, you know, I mean sometimes a lot more you was man It's a disgusting things. I've seen girls do with the crazy. I've got a go try to rape me like literally rape me like like Well, basically what happened was we had sex and then she wanted to go for round two. I'm done as a man who was saying I'm a sex drive. I'm content. This is where the bear sleeps now But she was not having it so she tried jumping on top of me She traveled me down to try to force it. It's not going anywhere You know, like I don't know how she thought the anatomy would work for that But um, I was just not having it so eventually I kind of threw up on my getting to calm down And then she just started like trying to tackle me again So I push her off and now I see her on the floor crawling out to me. That's crazy looking right I ran to the bathroom scared out of my mind and locked the door So there is a dark side to game gentlemen like there's a problem can sometimes happen Here's the thing my man when it comes down to a man and a woman Um They have sex dude. That's that's how it comes down. You're saying that you feel guilty about this You shouldn't okay, physically escalating. That's leading. That's leading the interaction To a sexual place and that's something that she wants. It's something that you want Why should you feel guilty about something that you want? and women want You got to get rid of that belief my man. You got to get rid of that A big mindset man is that escalation is giving not taking Okay, it's something that you give to her not something that you're taking away from her And when you start to realize that escalating right or going for it or or leading or being the man Right that that stuff is giving value and it's not anything about you taking anything from her Then you'll realize, you know, what this is what I have to do Right a woman will will never forgive you for being a pussy blatantly Okay, but she will forgive you for being a little bit miscalibrated You go for it and it's kind of the wrong time and it's it's not she's not ready yet Or you don't do it all that effectively. She will forgive you for that. She will not forgive you for not being a man Okay with uh with uh The foods you just said there with a given Check this one out There was a study that was put out there that women That had sex and were ejaculated in ended up having a euphoric high from it So you are making them feel good with your calm Yeah, I think we need a girl perspective I'm actually gonna give you both perspectives my female perspective and my coach perspective, okay Female perspective as I just described this Beautiful perfect seduction yesterday as the woman the experience I want from you Is seamlessness I want to just melt into this actual experience. I do not want to think about it I do not want to feel guilty about it. I do not want to feel self-conscious about it I want to have the experience and for you to be with me fully when you're apologizing You have lost presence. You are not there with me And so you're you're interrupting that experience that I described yesterday. So you're actually taking by apologizing. You see what I mean From a coach perspective guilt always shows up when you think you're taking so it matches exactly with what I just said All right The way that you get rid of guilt is well first of all, you just gotta get present with it and get clarity about it But the way that ultimately you get rid of it is you reframe everything as a win-win So whenever it's win-win you will not feel any guilt But you have to believe that in your heart and soul that it is win-win And it is as all these guys are saying a gift to her Then you won't lose presence because guilt is the great saboteur. It fucks up everything Summon all up. You're like penis I feel like I misunderstood the question to begin with so I want to add one more thing When you when you apologize and you feel guilty You make her feel guilty because you feel guilty if you're guilty about your sexuality You're going to make her feel like oh this guy, you know, isn't comfortable You know leading and being sexual and stuff. So when you do that you make her feel like oh when I'm around him I can't be sexual because he's afraid to be sexual. So All right I gotta say something about that too because one of the things I think if there's one thing You guys can learn say from jason savage for instance with his savage triangle there The whole dichotomy between real good seduction or eduction if you will and the whole pickup mentality Which comes from lack trying to get something. Why does this so many it guys so many hackers? in pickup because The one thing you guys got to really learn everybody even watching at home If you can learn one friggin thing from this whole thing get out of the mentality of lack and trying to get something from a woman Assuming that you wouldn't you know want to give it to you anyway Rather switch over in that You know abundance mentality where you're saying look I have something to give we're just sharing something together I'm a man. I have power you have power. I'm sharing this with you And then it's a natural seduction or eduction. You're naturally bringing out what's already in the woman provided that You know you know how to handle all that and that you're really present with her and that you really actually Think that you have something to give and actually have something to give Instead of demonstrating higher value why not have real value work on that if anything All right guys that was it for the questions we're going to answer today because this would go on forever and ever Which is happening stock on it was like It was like all it was like all day. It was all day long I hope I hope dude. I hope I think from that he can formulate something so complex He can write he can write he can write an e-book and sell it for a billion dollars and make even 100 billion dollars More or less. Yes We get in the event guys. I guess where I stand up No more one thing We're ending this ending this because this is what we do throughout the four days of the event And for the whole time because you guys are here to help people and do an awesome job at it No joke every single one of you guys You guys have that opportunity to do this for days and days and days And I'm glad we could do it and you guys can keep asking questions But it's got to be off camera because we got in the event wrap up pack the equipment So this is where I say some one line or the wraps up the whole event You know, it's like really special and I had it written out and it's super awesome And you know what? I don't have that. I'm not a catchphrase kind of guy I'm just this guy. I love doing this event. We just did it twice for the first time ever back to back in europe and north america It was an awesome time and I can't thank you guys enough for coming And I hope to see you guys next year And if you guys really really want to help this convention a lot of you guys have expressed that to me throughout the event Repeatedly again and again and again and again and again Come this event as many times as you can in london next june or lando next july And push your friends to come even if you can't make it because of school Work or whatever push your friends to come tell your friends about it And I'll see you guys next year