 I speak from horrible experience. This always happens to me no matter how much he likes me. If I get impatient and reach out like he might say yes, he will get lazy very soon and dump me. And so she says, so could please elaborate on how that could work? Thank you. And so what she's talking about is showing interest, right? So showing interest in a guy and how that can work without turning him off and pushing him away. And there's a lot that can be said about that. I've talked about this and there's a specific video that I don't remember the name of it at the moment, but it was about attainability. And basically a lot of women have become, it's one of those things where you don't wanna go to extremes, right? You don't wanna be on the extreme side of like so available and open and you're always there and you're waiting for his call and you're like, well, you know, on top of it. But you also don't wanna be so unavailable that he's like, you know, she's not really interested in me. Yeah, absolutely. You know, one of the things I think can be good is, you know, making yourself available, but maybe, you know, making him like you had said before, Matt, when you make the man invest a little bit that gets, that kind of gets him investing in her and really seeing the value in her, you know? And so in a particular situation, if he's showing interest in you, you can show interest back to him. But maybe what you do is you do it in a way where you're having him invest a little bit, right? If he's gonna meet you somewhere for a date, maybe you meet a little bit closer to where you live. Or maybe if he's going to meet you on a particular day, you know, maybe you make yourself available on a day that's convenient for you, right? It's not necessarily that you're making it hard on him. You know, you're not saying, well, you know, the only time I'm available is on Saturday at 8 a.m. You know, or Wednesday at noon when you're at work. You know, you don't wanna make it too difficult, but what you can do is you can say, hey, you know what, I can do it at these times, I can meet you at these times where you're not necessarily throwing your schedule out wide open saying, hey, I'll meet you whenever you want. Because then you're just showing, hey, you have a life and you have value. You're demonstrating it, you're just playing it. You obviously have value, but it's just that you're displaying it in subtle ways and also giving him an opportunity to be with you. Yep, absolutely, absolutely. You're not cutting him off. You're not, you know, making it absolutely difficult for him to attain you or get with you or meet with you or whatever. And you're also not, you know, just doing everything for him. There's this one thing where I talk about where you, like you can learn a lot about how a man feels about you if you do nothing, right? And you'll learn how interested he is in you and what's going on. Cause what we get a lot of times with women in our community is they'll like start reaching out all the time and they're just constantly trying to stay in contact. And then a guy doesn't message them for, you know, two hours and they start losing their minds and stuff. We had a woman on one of our live streams who was talking about this guy who was like hot and cold all the time, right? And she was like, she's like, he's hot and cold every day. And I'm like, what does that mean? You know, like what do you mean by that? And she was like, well, he disappears and then he won't talk to me again until the next day. And I'm like, you know that's like normal human communication, like people have to eat and go to bed and they have other things going on in their lives, you know? And it's one of those things, sometimes people, you know we all get kind of wrapped up and caught up in things because our emotions get involved. And next thing you know, we're like attached to somebody. And so we're like grasping on. We're like, we want more, we want more cause we're getting those like dopamine hits from them contacting us. And we're like, you know, I'm so excited about it. And then the person doesn't contact us and we're just like, oh, what are we gonna do? What am I gonna do, right? And then you start losing your minds or you're like texting them and stuff. He's like, whoa, what's going on here? You know, and so you, it's good to just back off and give it, you know for most of the women that are in those kinds of situations it's, they're usually overdoing it, like way overdoing it. And so you just gotta like relax and calm down and just chill out for a little bit start focusing on other things, have other things going on in your life, right? That is key. That is key Matt. It's like, if you have other things going on in your life then you aren't gonna be solely focused on this one individual, right? It's like, and I'll even add something to that is further on, even when you get into a long-term relationship you know, you should still be developing friendships with other people, you know like I have siblings that are married and just because they're married doesn't mean that they don't have friends now. You know, it's like they still need to have friends and lives because if you end up that other person that relationship is the only person in your life you're gonna like smother them and that's not really fun to be in a relationship like that. Right. Yeah, and the only time where you can really kind of do that and not worry about it is if the person's totally on with you, right? There's this thing that I call mirroring where if the guy is all in on you you can be all in on him as well and it doesn't hurt, right? If he's pulling back and you're still, you know all in on him, what's gonna end up happening is you're gonna start chasing him you're gonna start smothering him he's gonna start feeling like he needs to back away and you're just gonna put yourself into a situation that you don't really wanna be in.