 Well, that's the man who's just choosing to see you as a friend with benefits. Well, this is for all of you that are typically in long distance relationships, or you're in a relationship with someone where all you do is communicate via text messaging or telephone call. And what happens in most of these cases, a man is using you for his therapist. I had a woman write me today saying, why would a man say I could easily fall in love with you by the second date? Back then it was just grunt bend over and I want to have sex with you. While there's some shred of truth to it, we men instinctually do want to financially take care of someone or protect them from the physical perspective, but that doesn't necessarily, but a true protector protects you from an emotional perspective.