 Hello everybody, I'm here today with my dear friend Douglas green So hi Doug. How are you? Douglas green is a friend of mine. We kept we became friends a couple of years ago we were both doing a seminar together together and We connected we connected the reason why I thought you might be interested in in this interesting and kind-hearted and amazing human being is Because he's doing some very interesting things. He happens to be a Therapist like like myself and I think that's one of the reasons we also connect But interestingly he's doing some interest some some some stuff around Helping people at a level that I have not seen done before But we'll come to that first. I first want you to to get to meet Douglas and I'm gonna call you Dougie because I always call you Dougie and it feels weird to call you Douglas. Is that okay? That's another thing Douglas Dougie spent five years in Australia So he's a little bit of an Aussie person now back in in LA Douglas has written a book called the teachings of Cheryl Would you would you mind putting up the a beautiful picture a little bit that that was Cheryl Cheryl was tell us a little bit about how this book came about the teachings of Cheryl Cheryl is the dog, right? Well, it was my dog and She was You know at first not Exceptional except exceptionally destructive. She was a horrible puppy worst puppy I've ever known And Over the years, I began to realize that she was actually Teaching me a lot teaching me a lot about life stuff that I wasn't good at and After that after a while other people started to say wow. Yeah, there's something weird about this dog and eventually it became more than that it became Kind of grand and I'm having trouble putting it in the words in here that the book puts in the words But where it stopped being just about oh good way to live in the moment and became more about spirituality philosophy the really the view one has towards life and Towards the meaning of life and then even when she eventually passed on It was the greatest teacher I've ever known about certainly about the grieving process but about so many related things and how Our loved ones stay with us when they're gone. Yeah, so all this Was there? Then I had this weird quirk I've had since I was maybe ten years old That even though I don't read that many new books. I Will always look at a best-selling list if one's available. What's and just pay attention to it. What's selling? What's what's big and there was this day. This is about ten years ago. I Looked at a best-seller list and particularly the nonfiction bestsellers and thought you know, I've been looking at these for decades and and There are certain kinds of books that always show up a new biography of some famous person or Somebody really important politically just wrote a memoir. Okay. Those will always be there, but Then you get certain fads and there are certain types of books that are popular at certain times and I thought in the last decade or so the three things I've noticed are For lack of a better word what I would call guru books the secrets Eckhart Tolle's books Books that take ancient timeless wisdom and condense it into a very easily digestible format Then books about what one knows at the end of life. So Tuesdays with Maury I don't know if that was big in Australia, but the last one right that one is very good. Yeah, and Largely being 200 to 300 page essays on I wish I'd spent more time with my family Yeah, then Animal books and Marley and me being the giant by far But after that it seemed there was always a book about a cat or a dog on that list And I thought I wasn't that interesting at some point later that day. I thought you know The greatest teacher of timeless wisdom. I ever met Particularly about end-of-life issues was a dog. Isn't that interesting? First go by Brilliant, that's brilliant. I really believe that the teaching social L should be a best-seller book to be honest I think everybody should go out and get a copy buy it Because it's it's full of wisdom. I remember a particular story Dougie in in which which you talk about in in a therapy session where you had a dad, I can't remember if it was a son or a daughter and The dad was particularly resistant to something that was going on in the room and you're all had a reaction We I think that's a brilliant story. Would you mind telling us a story? Sure? Sure in the last year of her life I brought her into therapy dog. She was not registered or anything but she was an older dog and she would basically look people's hands and Then go sleep in the corner during the session and occasionally there'd be something else where her magic would show up where Somebody would be talking and get into a very stuck painful place and she would just Stretch get up from the corner of the room walk over and lay her head down in their lap and you know if I do that I lose my license So in this case a woman's father had left their family when when she was very young and It had been a very difficult road for their family after that with her with her single mom and Now that she was an adult and a success suddenly her father's there saying hey, I want to be your real dad and Of course half of her is saying. Oh my god. Thank God everything. I've wanted my whole life And I can have it again. My dad's back and another half saying don't trust him. He's gonna do it to you again, of course, so She's stuck. She's stuck. We're talking about it for weeks on end and finally she comes up with a solution and she says dad I want Need you to hear a number of things. I need to tell you about what life was like and You need to hear my feelings and I don't feel quite safe doing it with just you But if you would come with me to see Doug I Could do it there and he said okay She brings him in Cheryl Sniffs everybody licks their hands girls up in the corner. That's that We talk Very nice man Eventually it's time and she pulls out this letter and starts to read it and Of course starts we've been as she's reading it. It details all the Rough things that they went through and As she's doing this I can see him. I don't know how well it'll come across on this stiffen and His whole posture stiffens and his face stiffens and I think oh, oh, this isn't good And she finally finishes and she's just sitting there weeping and I turned to him and say is there anything you want to say to her and He says Well I'm not sure that I agree with every point you made but and he is completely cut off and She sees this and starts sobbing That's the worst fear like it was better if he turned around and screamed better or I won't say hit her but you know Yeah Resisting he was resisting. He was a guy thing. Yeah And he's not even seeing what she's doing. He's completely inside and The dog gets up from the corner stretches out while the man's talking walks up right in front of the guy and Goes back to the corner Flops down goes back to sleep. Of course. He's just like that just like that Full on the face and then go back to sleep. So it was scary and he says What was that? What was that about and I'm thinking I Think she must have heard something in the next room that we couldn't hear that she was barking at. Oh, okay, okay? Session ends it's mediocre whatever My client calls me later And I say how you're doing it. She says I'm okay I don't think there was anything in the other room You know validation is such a big part of our business and it's so hard to Make someone feel truly validated if they've had trouble with it before and Ironically, there's nothing I could have done nearly as good as what that talk did So she was Cheryl was not just a good guru, but she was also a very good therapist And a therapist assistant to Po therapists or I was her assistant That's brilliant. Um, thank you for that story. That's a great story